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To Live a Much More Fulfilling Life, Aim at Self Actualization

To Live a Much More Fulfilling Life, Aim at Self Actualization

What makes it so difficult for people to accept who they really are? In a simple word, let me say pressure. There is so much pressure in this 21st Century of ours especially in today’s hyper-competitive and hyper-informed society for people to call themselves something they’re not.

As Abraham Maslow highlighted, we all follow our own paths, it matters only how completely we dedicate ourselves to reaching the personal and psychological greatness that is placed at the top. For the top of the self-acceptance pyramid lies the concept of self-actualization.

With self-actualization, you achieve expert control of your imagination, spontaneity, and problem-solving skills. You have assumed a comfortable and sensible values. You operate with the ability to separate truth from fiction, while reducing prejudice. It is, in its own way, the clearest definition of what it takes to be enlightened as a person and as a business owner.

The first part of self-actualization is accepting your true self, but the second part is understanding that the journey has no end point. To self-actualize, you should always make an effort to expand your dream as a human being. To achieve success, you must always seek it. The dream to self-actualize is something that lies within all of us[1]. You must only make her willing to progress and then take the steps necessary to unlock that self-actualization. Having explained this, here are four important steps to consider on your path to self-actualization:

Avoid measuring yourself with others.

Many people have the tendency to measure our self-worth by comparing our accomplishments and skills to those of the people around all of us. If you want to observe how you’re doing, the easiest way is to see how you measure with your alternatives. It is the definite way to demonstrate how long along are you in relation to reaching success.

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Also, self-actualization doesn’t have everything to do with the people who are around you. Notice the word “self” part of the term. The only thing that matters is your progress, not the improvement of others. If you hope to self-actualize or at least get on the way to self-actualization you must stop gauging yourselves against other people’s accomplishments.

Figure out how to agree to yourself holistically.

It’s so easy to become disappointed with who you are and what you have accomplished. Oftentimes, when you look in the reflection, it actually serves to raise the negativity with which you think about yourself. You can not fall into that trap. To access self-actualization, you must accept your personality, your strengths and weaknesses, then you must embrace them all. You cannot downplay your weaknesses or exaggerate your strengths if you wish to get anywhere in life.

Don’t stop, just keep growing.

Those who self-actualize realize that the journey is never over. To self-actualize requires self-awareness and self-awareness requires a comprehension that there is no such thing as a finished product. Generally, there is no such thing as perfection with no such thing as an endgame. To be self-actualized methods to understand that you must never stop growing as a person and learning as a professional.

To obtain self-actualization, when you get over one thing, you must begin the next. Self-actualization does not require any tricks or tools. To reach this level, you will need only to accept who you are and then take those steps necessary to becoming the best version of you that you can be.

If perhaps you would like to do this highest level of personal development, Maslow has trained us that you have some effective methods that will permit you to reach self-actualization:

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Experience life vividly to the maximum

Maslow taught us that the process of self-actualization commences when we learn to become completely immersed in our experience – living totally, vividly and selflessly.

Make your life choices with honesty

Think of life as a series of choices, one after another. If you are being truthful with yourself as you make the options, then you are on the right way to being self-actualized.

Know who you are without others shaping your own self

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As you realize that you are unique and get started to learn how to express yourself along with your feelings truthfully, alternatively than reflect what you believe others want you to do or say, then you are recorded the right path.

Be accountable with your own actions

If you have a choice, take action in a way that is honest and true to your nature. As you may take responsibility for your own actions you will be working on the way to self-actualization.

Have the courage to speak up in all situations

Figure out how to have the courage to exhibit your likes and disfavors and speak up if someone’s actions are certainly not desirable to you.

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Understand that it is a journey to reach your goals.

Becoming self-actualized is rather than an end-state, rather it is a process. Maslow spoken about it being the process by which you ‘are working to do well the thing that one wants to do’.

Engage in activities that make you feel completely peaceful and satisfied

Maslow talked a lot about ‘peak experiences’, describing them as ‘transient occasions of self-actualization’. These activities are times that you feel truly at peace and in harmony with your environment and the universe and are marked with a feeling of euphoria and deep joy.

Get rid of those ego defense mechanisms

Learning to let go of troublesome defense mechanisms that you may use to protect yourself is a necessary part of the process. For example, if you have a tendency to blame your partner for your frustrations or to become angry when things do not go your way, then learning to react in another type of manner is part to become self-actualized.

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Last Updated on April 1, 2019

How to Be Happy: Why Pursuing Happiness Will Make You Unhappy

How to Be Happy: Why Pursuing Happiness Will Make You Unhappy

When we talk about happiness, we often think about staying happy all the time – every single day, every single minute with zero negativity. Many try to pursue this constant state of “happiness” as their ultimate goal, and avoid anything that may take it away from them.

But, what is the meaning of this type of “happiness”?

It’s a lot like your favorite food. The more often you have it isn’t always better. On the contrary, when you only have a chance to eat it sparingly, that’s when you really savor every bite. So is it the food itself that makes you happy, or is it how valuable it is to you when you are eating it?

Always remember that only by experiencing sadness do we understand what it is to be happy.

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Don’t Assume Others Are Always Happy

Most people see those who have seemingly perfect lives and assume they are happy all the time. Since childhood, we are conditioned to chase the idea of “happily-ever-after” that we see in fairytales. On social media, everyone tends to share only the best looking aspects of their lives. So, it’s very easy to have a distorted view of what “happiness” is around us.

In reality, there is always something missing, something lacking, or something unpleasant.

No one has a perfect life. Even the most glamorous celebrities or the richest billionaires have their own set of challenges and problems.

When we feel negative, we’re only focusing on a small fluctuating curve. As CEO of Lifehack, I’ve had to deal with countless problems, and some of them felt like real setbacks at the time. During those moments, it really seemed like these problems would be the life or death of my company and my life goals. But, I got through them; and, weeks, months and eventually years passed with many more ups and downs.

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You need to keep your sights on the extended curve.  Looking back now, a lot of those “really big” problems at the time now seem like only small blips in a long line of experiences. Recalling them in my mind now makes me smile!

Stop Trying to Be Happy–Just Be

It’s natural to want to be happy as often as possible.

So what can we do?

First, throw away the belief that a perfect life means happiness. Personally, I would be miserable if everything was perfect. It’s through experiencing the pains of lifelong challenges that drives us to care for others when they are experiencing similar trials. If life was perfect, you wouldn’t be able to empathize. If life was perfect, you wouldn’t grow.

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To be truly happy, stop chasing permanent happiness.

It sounds like a paradox. But, what I mean is to accept that there will be ups and downs throughout life. Gracefully understand that happiness is a fluctuation of positive and negative events.

Understand the importance of gratitude. Instead of focusing on the unpleasant moment, flash back your memory to when you didn’t have something. I like to think about my career, for example. When I didn’t have a career I was passionate about, I felt lost and demotivated. I felt like everyone was figuring out their lives but me. But, when I found my purpose and started Lifehack, I was deeply happy, even before I realized I would be successful! This memory keeps me going when I hit tough spots. It takes the darkness to make us grateful for the light.

Happiness and Sadness Exist Together

What it all comes down to is this: your life will be filled with beautiful, happy and incredible moments–happy tears and joyous shouts and funny stories. But, your life will also be filled with rain and storms that never seem like they will pass while you’re going through them.

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But, whether your face is warmed by the sunshine, or your heart is dampened by the rain, know that it’s all part of the ebb and flow of life.

Treasure the happy moments and power through the sad ones. Don’t try to avoid “sad” or “negative” experiences, and blindly chase being “happy”. In the end you will achieve a true level of contentment in your life, based on meaningful experiences and achievements. Being able to create growth and meaning out of both positive and negative events — that is the true meaning of “happiness”.

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