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How You Can Stop Limiting Beliefs and Take Back Your Life

How You Can Stop Limiting Beliefs and Take Back Your Life

In this life, you are the only person who holds the keys to your life. This means that you have the power to either make or break it. You’ve heard countless times that you only have one life and that life is short thus, you need to live it to the fullest. Most of the time, the situations you have to face are a result of false beliefs that you desperately try to cling to. These beliefs may be self-imposed or you might have gotten them from peers, friends, relatives, or people you look up to.

Regardless of where these beliefs come from, it is important to find the right solutions to help you stop limiting beliefs and regain your life. Below you will find some suggestions that can help you get back on track.

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Question the limiting beliefs

There are very many times when we accept limiting beliefs or thoughts automatically. Why you ask? Probably because somewhere along your life, you have learned to do this. If you want to regain your life however, it’s about time to start questioning and challenging those limitations. This can be as simple as asking you “How do I know I can’t?” Keep probing even when your subconscious mind has already given you the automatic NO. This conversation should be kept alive until you realize that the limitation holding you back was just an illusion.

Take time off

One of the reasons why you could be choosing to follow beliefs that limit you in one way or another is because your judgment may be clouded. Take a little time off so that you can approach the situation with a clear mind for better results. This allows you to evaluate the areas in life where you might feel stuck, trapped or stressed. It is important to note that you only feel this way because you want to. You can choose to release these negative or frustrating emotions and start looking at the glass as half-full rather than half empty.

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Get out of your comfort zone

You might be affected by limiting thoughts simply because you feel safe or are “used” to being in a certain situation. Try and take a few steps and wade into unfamiliar territories. This will take you outside the borders of your limited behavior and thinking capabilities. At this point, you get to ask yourself a very important question “How can this be done?” Take small yet powerful steps towards finding innovative or successful solutions. Someone once said “A journey of a thousand mile starts with one step.” This means that you have to look for a starting point. Taking this step, helps individuals to redefine what they think they can achieve. It is always important to remember that you can achieve more or do more than you think you can. Switch the gears of your life and adopt a “can do” attitude and you will be surprised as to how far you can go in life.

Learn from your past

Drowning yourself in the sorrows of yesterday will do nothing for your future. This will only leave you locked into a cocoon of self-pity, which is a very dangerous spot. It is important to learn to pick yourself up, dust off, and move on with your head held high. It took Thomas Edison about 10, 000 tries to make the light bulb. When he was interviewed by a reporter who asked him whether he felt like a failure, he simply answered, “Young man, why would I feel like a failure? And why would I ever give up? I now know definitively over 9,000 ways that an electric light bulb will not work. Success is almost in my grasp.” If he was discouraged by his first attempt and wallowed in failure, he would probably not have made history. Take life lessons from this master who invented the light bulb and regain your life in an instant.

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Don’t label yourself

To be successful in life, you have to watch your language. Don’t paste labels on your life that could end up pulling you down. Someone once said, “What you say, you become.” If you label and think of yourself as a failure, you will most probably end up as one. The fact that you are a human being means that you are more flexible than you could ever imagine; just look at all the great things around you. They were once an idea from someone who worked hard to make sure his or her dream was achieved. You are not controlling or submissive, close-minded or inquisitive, sensitive or strong, you are a combination of all of the above. Just like a carpenter who used a wide array of tools for his work, you should also maximize your full personality spectrum to accomplish more, have better relationships and generally be happy.

Look for direction

Just because you think you can’t see the way, does not mean that the way is not there. There are very many times when you allow limiting beliefs to take a central role in your life and end up quitting on things that were close to fruition. Move in a direction that you feel is ideal. If for any reason it is not, turn back and take the next turn. Never ever, think that it is a little too late to change your life. That’s just wrong. First, you need to understand that people live longer nowadays, and most of the age stereotypes are slowly becoming outdated. Secondly, it is better to have lived everyday of your life as a growing individual rather than a shrinking one. It is also important to note that chances of getting instant success are almost zero to nil. You have to dream and be well prepared to be a successful person.

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Getting motivated to get started can be hard for some. Here is a great article called Hack Your Mind to Get Motivated.

Learn how to deal effectively with outer limitations. You would probably astonish yourself if you broke the bounds of limiting beliefs and searched for more options, made more phone calls, knocked more doors and explored extra resources.

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How to Eliminate Work Stress When You’re Stressed to the Max

How to Eliminate Work Stress When You’re Stressed to the Max

Workplace stress is a modern epidemic. More than one-third of American workers experience chronic work stress. This is estimated to cost American businesses up to $300 billion a year in lost work hours and medical bills.[1]

Clearly, if you’re suffering from work stress – you’re far from alone. But, work stress isn’t inevitable.

In this article, I’m going to help you identify the root cause of your stress and suggest the most suitable ways to cope with job stress so you can become a happy and productive worker again.

Where Work Stress Comes From

Certain factors tend to go hand-in-hand with work-related stress. The causes of stress include:

  • Too much work – you feel overwhelmed by your work and find yourself saying: “There are not enough hours in the day!”
  • The job is too easy, not challenging or inspiring – this is where boredom (which is stressful) sets in.
  • Pressure from co-workers or lack of social support – colleagues are not helpful or only care about their own tasks.
  • Little praise and lots of criticism – this is where a lousy manager uses constant criticism to ‘try’ to motivate you.
  • Very demanding or competitive working culture – sales departments often fit this category.
  • Not having enough control over job-related decisions – this is when people try to micro-manage you.
  • High expectations on yourself or seeking perfection – while it’s good to do your best, being a perfectionist can be a powerful stress generator.
  • Low salary – if you work hard but receive slim financial rewards, you may start to feel downhearted, frustrated and stressed.

The Negative Effects of Stress on Your Mind and Body

Chronic stress is bad news for your mental health and physical health. These are some health symptoms of stress:[2]

    If stress hormones are triggered in your body for extended periods, they can lead to increased physical aging. This is because stress makes your cells look and act older – and this is reflected in your physical appearance.[3]

    In addition to the negative effects on your body, stress also has a significant influence on your brain – negatively impacting your daily performance.

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    I recommend you watch the 4-minute video below to see just how stress can wreak havoc on your brain and your performance:

    How to Cope with Work Stress (A Step-By-Step Guide)

    You don’t need to be a victim of work stress. Here’s how to manage stress in the workplace:

    1. Set aside some time for planning

    If work has become too much for you, and you’re constantly falling behind… stop! Instead of trying and failing to catch up, you’d be much better off spending some time thinking about your goals and how your prioritize your tasks.

    Learn how to set clear goals with this step-by-step guide.

    For instance, if your initial goal is just to get on top of your work (probably for the first time in months), then take 10 minutes to think clearly and deeply about how you can achieve this. Most likely, you’ll be able to come up with tasks that you need to complete to reach your goal. And once your goal and tasks are clear in your mind, you’ll be ready for the second step.

    2. Align your tasks with your goal

    Just knowing your goal and associated tasks is not enough. Many people reach this stage but still fall behind with their work and fail to achieve their goals.

    The secret is to understand which of your tasks should be high priority and which ones can be done when you have spare time.

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    For example, checking your inbox every 20 minutes may seem to be a productive task for you, but in reality it acts as a constant distraction and productivity killer. Instead, you’d be better off setting aside 30 minutes in the morning to check your emails and 30 minutes in the afternoon to do the same.

    By doing this, you’ll free up the bulk of your day for tasks that can help you reach your goal. These tasks are likely to be things like: writing a business proposal, creating a PowerPoint presentation, and finishing an important project.

    These tips on how to prioritize will help you align your tasks with your goals and work 10X more efficiently.

    3. Remove, change or accept the stressors

    How to tackle specific work stressors? I recommend the following method that WellCast introduced:[4]

    Take a piece of paper and divide it into three columns. At the top, write remove in the first column, change in the second and accept in the third.

      Next, think of the stressors that are getting to you the most. Perhaps it’s your paycheck; it might be way smaller than you’d like or feel that you deserve. Don’t worry, this is your chance to break free from the stress surrounding your low pay.

      Think for a few moments, which would you prefer:

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      • To remove yourself from the company
      • To try to change your salary by asking for a pay rise
      • To accept that your salary is okay for you

      You may be surprised at what thoughts come into your mind. Don’t reject them, but allow yourself time to be clear on how you’d like to proceed.

      If the status quo feels good to you, then write “paycheck” in the accept column. If you decide you want to increase your salary but stay in the same company, write “paycheck” in the change column. And finally, if you decide the time is right to seek a new opportunity at a different organization, then write “paycheck” in the remove column.

      By being decisive in this way, you’ll immediately feel freer and in control of your destiny. And your stress levels will begin to trend downwards. All that remains is to set yourself a clear goal of what you want to achieve and how you’re going to do this.(Luckily, steps #1 and #2 above will help you out!)

      Of course, if you have multiple work stressors, then use your remove, change or accept sheet to work through all of them. It will be time VERY well spent.

      4. Create positive relationships at work

      One key to improving your ability to manage stress is being able to accept help from others. Not only does it alleviate negative circumstances by simply distracting you and creating a buffer between daily tasks and their negative connection, it will provide a sense of support and relief.

      Make an effort to create friendships with your colleagues. Go to the after-work happy hour or just ask a colleague out for coffee at lunchtime. Not only will you have someone to confide in, but you will start to associate positive feelings to work.

      Forming a healthy relationship with your manager or supervisor is also a good way to alleviate stress. Positive, two-way conversations about where you stand in your job, being honest about how you feel, and working together to make a plan of action in terms of improved work conditions and expectations are paramount. This will lead to opening up and receiving the necessary resources you need to support or help you.

      5. Take time out for yourself

      Anyone can get overwhelmed when stress occurs at work, and this can spill into other areas of your life. This is why it’s important to clock out mentally from your job from time to time.

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      Take time off to relax and unwind in order to regain your energy and come back to work invigorated. Make sure you actually do something you enjoy like spending time with your kids or partner, or visit that country you’ve always wanted to explore.

      If taking time off work isn’t possible in the midst of your stress, take scheduled breaks throughout your day. Sit quietly somewhere or do some stretches to get your blood flowing like in the example below:

      6. Take mindful action towards your health

      The irony of stress is that your healthy habits can take a backseat. Maintaining and even improving your health will keep your stress under control. Here are some ways to keep you physically fit:

      • Eat healthy foods. Make sure your diet is full of foods that provide your body with sufficient nutrients. Eat more fruits and green vegetables, whole foods, omega-3 rich fish, and seeds such as flax, chia and hemp. These types of food ensure your body is working optimally to cope with its stress mechanisms.
      • Avoid unhealthy foods. This is obvious, but it’s these kinds of food you reach for in times of stress and negativity. High fat foods such as cheese and red meat cause sluggishness and tiredness. Foods high in refined sugars like biscuits, chocolate bars, and bread can be convenient snacks, but they cause you to crash and burn. Same with caffeinated drinks such as coffee and sodas – these are just ‘band aid’ habits that interfere with your ability to sleep.
      • Exercise regularly. Endorphins are the best for counteracting stress, and what better way to release them than doing physical exercise. Exercise creates a distraction and helps you get your thoughts back together in an orderly way. Start a new exercise regime – whether it’s running, swimming, cycling or walking to work. Getting your blood and endorphins flowing will make you feel happier.
      • Get enough sleep. Make getting 8 hours sleep a priority. When we’re stressed it can sometimes feel hard to get to sleep but sleep deprivation only exaggerates our current stress. A well-rested mind is able to find solutions to problems more easily and reacts better to daily stressors.

      Final Thoughts

      Everyone encounters stress at work. It’s a natural and normal human reaction. The difference between letting the stress overcome you and coping with it is getting a head start by creating a positive environment and lifestyle.

      Counteracting stress is both an inside and outside job. Focusing on improving your health will create a positive mind able to react better. Forming positive relationships with certain people around you will give you emotional support.

      Beat stress with the right mindset!

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