Let’s imagine the situation when you struggle with ignoring and escaping the feeling of extreme purposelessness and emptiness. Although you know a little about what you enjoy, want from life and what you want to achieve in future, you are still tortured by the episodes of loneliness. When you say, I feel empty, what does this mean exactly?
Inner emptiness is caused by a lack of love.
According to Dr. Margaret Paul, the inner emptiness is a state of mind that is caused by lack of love. When you don’t love yourself, ignore your feelings and always try to get attention and approval from others you can experience the inner emptiness.
All people are creative and full of potential, but not all of them use this potential and thus waste their time and energy. Then we try to fill the void with food, relationships, work, and things that are supposed to distract our attention.
Understanding emptiness calls us to learn more about our inner feelings.
In order to find the solution to the problem, we should learn how to tell whether we’re feeling empty inside. Let’s have a look at the most common symptoms of emptiness and void:
- You don’t understand who you are and your purpose in life;
- You are full of negative thoughts;
- You always seek for approval from family and friends;
- You don’t know how to explain your feelings.
Sometimes emptiness feels like an inner void, vacuum or a black hole.
The most important thing to realize is that emptiness is a state of lack. I will tip you off to the fact that majority of people who struggle with a chronic sense of emptiness had parents who were incapable of intimate relationships with them. When you do not get enough love and attention in the childhood you start to believe that you are not good enough. That means that the real cause of inner emptiness is a lack of emotional connection and demonstration of love.[1]
As a result, this feeling can travel through our lives like baggage. The lack of belonging becomes a traumatic imprint that becomes so acutely uncomfortable that we are willing to do anything we can to get away from that particular feeling.
The feeling of emptiness can lead to depression.
Although this feeling is not uncommon for many people, if left unattended, it can result in a chronic disorder such as depression. Furthermore, people tend to get out of this feeling with alcohol and drugs, which increases the chance of drug or alcohol addiction. That’s why having a clue about what is really important to you will help to know what causes you to feel empty inside.
The key is fighting emptiness is to find out what you are missing.
Is it a sense of belonging, meaning or interpersonal connection? Here are several suggestions from leading experts of how to recognize and deal with inner emptiness.
1. Refocus and rebalance yourself.
According to Kaitlyn Slight, a marriage and family therapist in Raleigh, N.C., we should focus on ourselves and spend more time thinking about our desires.[2]
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In order to be in a positive state of body and mind, you can spend several minutes meditating or exercising.
The easiest way to rebalance yourself emotionally and physically is to take a warm bath.[3] Many researches have shown that bathing has a lot of benefits including pain relief, enhanced mobility, and improved psychological well-being.[4]
2. Find your needs with the help of others.
Everybody has needs, but what makes the needs painful is when we think we cannot get what we need. We think that we have to meet them by ourselves, but sometimes it is important to take action to get up and find someone to meet the need. Asking for help can resolve many life issues and can be a first step towards meeting your needs. For example, if your need is for the company you don’t have to spend your time to figure out how to be your own company. Just go find a company.
3. Appreciate and treasure what you have.
Another way to heal your inner emptiness is through gratitude. The research suggests that feeling grateful is a very important positive emotion that allows people to expand their worldview and the view of themselves, which later leads to building better social relations and skills.[5]
This means that individuals who are thankful are also more satisfied with their relationships with friends and family as well as they are less stressed and much happier. Try to be appreciative for what is around you by noticing all good things we take for granted. A simple compliment given during the day will show you how much positive energy you can create.
4. Never stop exploring something new.
Neurobiologists have found out that learning something new has motivational effects similar to dopamine which leads to the emotional arousal.[6] That’s why each time you review the information you’ve learned before, add a couple of new facts. Another good tip is to change your environment. Even such little things as changing lighting or temperature in your room can have a positive effect on your emotional state.
5. Ask for a professional help if needed.
Many people cannot identify the reason behind this feeling no matter how long they psychoanalyzed themselves and searched for a problem. The main thing is not to give up and find a good therapist who will help you to find the causations of the inner void from the past and bring them to the present moment so that you can become whole again.
Finding the cause of inner emptiness can be a challenging and long process. But instead of distracting yourself by filling this emptiness with things like shopping, food, alcohol and drugs, you’d better find out what makes you feel incomplete and regain your happiness.
Reference
| [1] | ^ | Huffington Post: The Real Cause of Inner Emptiness (And What to Do About It) |
| [2] | ^ | PsychCentral: When You Feel Empty: What It Means & What to Do |
| [3] | ^ | ArjoHuntleigh: Therapeutic benefit of a hot bath |
| [4] | ^ | Better Bathrooms: The physiological and psychological effects of bathing |
| [5] | ^ | Positive Psychology Program: Broaden-and-Build Theory of Positive Emotions (+PDF) |
| [6] | ^ | Science Daily: Pure Novelty Spurs The Brain |
