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How to Get Your Child Support Lowered

How to Get Your Child Support Lowered

Payments of child support can only be modified at the court’s discretion whether it is going up or down. To have payments decreased, you will have to prove that the financial situation of one or both of the parents has changed dramatically. Read carefully and plan your case according to your situation regarding your payments.

Request a Modification

At any given time, a parent has the right to have their child support reviewed and modified if needed. A “downward modification” is when child support is requested to be lowered. Many times, the state will not modify child support with no basis, you will need to have proof that justifies your request for a lower financial obligation. Extenuating circumstances would be things like the loss of a job, sudden disability, a new minor dependent, or the sudden loss of a job. Beware, though, that the court can deny the request if you do not provide sufficient exculpatory circumstances.

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Speak to the Other Parent

During a divorce emotions are all over the place and many times, the parents are not willing to communicate with each other. It is vital to remember that the court system likes it when two parents are willing to work out an arrangement with each other, and sometimes this includes a downward modification. If you don’t have a decrease in income but have an added expense, try to talk to the other parent and offer to help in another way in exchange for a reduction that is mutually agreed upon. This may be taking up more responsibilities during the week or being at the mercy of the other parent when they need care for the child. Whatever the agreement is, it will need to be notarized and presented to a judge or a hearing officer.

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If it is not possible to have the other parent agree with lowering the payments, propose the suspension of payments until your circumstances change and you are able to begin paying the full payments again.

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Provide Evidence for Your Change of Circumstances and Filing a Petition

What will you need in order to successfully lower the payments? Gather up your recent pay stubs or other evidence of your income if you are self-employed. If your familiar obligations have changed (like the birth of a child) provide evidence for this. If you have become disabled, collect your medical records. For instance, Beyoncé’s father had his payments lowered by about $9500 per month, in order to better fit his financial situation. If you believe you are paying more than what is required in other ways, like school tuition or medical insurance, this could qualify as substantial. When this has been gathered, you will need to file a petition with the court. Most courts have fairly simple forms that are basically fill in the blank. Some will as for a financial affidavit. You will also need to provide sufficient notice to the other parent. The easiest thing to do is to have the sheriff serve the papers to them for a fee.

Terminating Support Completely

In certain situations, the court will actually terminate the financial obligations of a parent. If you have no income, if you are going to be incarcerated, and if the child reaches the age of majority. On the other hand, your obligation for paying child support will be terminated if you obtain custody of the child. This will include filing a petition that outlines the change in circumstances, thus convincing the judge to grant you custody, and sometimes the assistance of an attorney is needed.

Often times, when parents get a divorce and custody, support is not split absolutely half and half – one of the parents will end up paying child support monthly. In some cases, the parent is not able to make the payments or feels that the payments need to be lowered. When the appropriate steps are taken, it is possible to have the payments lowered to an amount that is more sustainable.

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Last Updated on May 15, 2019

How to Tap Into the Power of Positivity

How to Tap Into the Power of Positivity

As it appears, the human mind is not capable of not thinking, at least on the subconscious level. Our mind is always occupied by thoughts, whether we want to or not, and they influence our every action.

“Happiness cannot come from without, it comes from within.” – Helen Keller

When we are still children, our thoughts seem to be purely positive. Have you ever been around a 4-year old who doesn’t like a painting he or she drew? I haven’t. Instead, I see glee, exciting and pride in children’s eyes. But as the years go by, we clutter our mind with doubts, fears and self-deprecating thoughts.

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Just imagine then how much we limit ourselves in every aspect of our lives if we give negative thoughts too much power! We’ll never go after that job we’ve always wanted because our nay-saying thoughts make us doubt our abilities. We’ll never ask that person we like out on a date because we always think we’re not good enough.

We’ll never risk quitting our job in order to pursue the life and the work of our dreams because we can’t get over our mental barrier that insists we’re too weak, too unimportant and too dumb. We’ll never lose those pounds that risk our health because we believe we’re not capable of pushing our limits. We’ll never be able to fully see our inner potential because we simply don’t dare to question the voices in our head.

But enough is enough! It’s time to stop these limiting beliefs and come to a place of sanity, love and excitement about life, work and ourselves.

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So…how exactly are we to achieve that?

It’s not as hard as it may seem; you just have to practice, practice, practice. Here are a few ideas on how you can get started.

1. Learn to substitute every negative thought with a positive one.

Every time a negative thought crawls into your mind, replace it with a positive thought. It’s just like someone writes a phrase you don’t like on a blackboard and then you get up, erase it and write something much more to your liking.

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2. See the positive side of every situation, even when you are surrounded by pure negativity.

This one is a bit harder to put into practice, which does not mean it’s impossible.

You can find positivity in everything by mentally holding on to something positive, whether this be family, friends, your faith, nature, someone’s sparkling eyes or whatever other glimmer of beauty. If you seek it, you will find it.

3. At least once a day, take a moment and think of 5 things you are grateful for.

This will lighten your mood and give you some perspective of what is really important in life and how many blessings surround you already.

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4. Change the mental images you allow to enter your mind.

How you see yourself and your surroundings make a huge difference to your thinking. It is like watching a DVD that saddens and frustrates you, completely pulling you down. Eject that old DVD, throw it away and insert a new, better, more hopeful one instead.

So, instead of dwelling on dark, negative thoughts, consciously build and focus on positive, light and colorful images, thoughts and situations in your mind a few times a day.

If you are persistent and keep on working on yourself, your mind will automatically reject its negative thoughts and welcome the positive ones.

And remember: You are (or will become) what you think you are. This is reason enough to be proactive about whatever is going on in your head.

Featured photo credit: Kyaw Tun via unsplash.com

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