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Top 5 Tips For an Effective Parent

Top 5 Tips For an Effective Parent

There is no joy that can exceed the joy of receiving a newborn baby, especially for a first-time parent. Most first time parents are filled with joy after receiving their first born babies and all they want is to give them to the best parental care there can ever be. It is important to have a parenting plan that will offer guidance to the new parent on how to go about this new challenge. While there is no one universal parenting style for all parents, the end result is to bring up disciplined and responsible children. How a parent will achieve that is up to them. In this article, I will offer five tips that could help any parent enhance their parenting skills.

1. Your child is your first priority

Most parents have a busy schedule and they have family and work priorities which are competing for attention. It is important for a parent to differentiate between important tasks and urgent tasks. Spending time with your child may not be urgent especially if you have a nanny, but it is of ultimate importance. In some cases, one may be forced to make career sacrifices in order to spend quality time with their child. It is a tough decision to make but it is worthwhile. I know parents who have quit their well-paying jobs in order to raise a child. Most of them will tell you that it was one of the best decisions they have ever made.

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2. Love your child unconditionally

The first person that a child interacts with is the parent. It is the responsibility of the parent to show unconditional love to the child and encourage him or her to be confident. Confidence is the most important trait in every human being and it is better cultivated since childhood. A parent should make the child feel valued by spending quality time with them. Tell your child a story, read them a children’s book or even listen to them tell you stories. This provides a great bonding for the parent and the child and it serves as an act of love. Listening to your child and appreciating what they feel about something helps the child’s self-esteem to improve. Compliment them when they do something good with different gifts and discourage them when they do something bad. Complementing and discouraging should both be done with love.

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3. Build a strong team at home

Naturally, parenting is not a man affair. It should be a team work for the mother, father, and others. However, mother and father are most influential people of the life of the child. While mothers are known to offer emotional needs to a child, fathers, on the other hand, are known to independence and self-assertiveness. They let the child do things on their own. These two aspects of both parents are healthy for the child as it enables them to develop an all rounded character. Both the father and the mother must agree on the rules of the house and how to discipline the child. This will create an enabling environment for the success of the team. Single parents should look for a member of the opposite sex to fulfill the role of a father or mother figure for the child. This could be a trusted friend or family member.

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4. Discipline systematically

Children have a tendency to behave badly especially if they are not corrected. A parent must set rules that separate right from wrong. The rules need to be crystal clear and consistent. It is important to punish your child consistently when they do something wrong. However, never punish your child when you are angry. Always wait until you are calm. Discipline is not always punishing the child; it helps reinforce positive behavior and courtesy.

5. Teach your child to be responsible

A child needs to be taught that they are responsible for the decisions they make and the outcomes of such decisions. This will also teach them that happiness is a choice they have to make and it does not depend on the circumstance they are in. Parents should delegate certain tasks to their children according to their age. Assign them chores at home and let them go about them freely. If they ask for guidance regarding a chore, gladly guide them with love.

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Last Updated on December 9, 2019

5 Simple Ways to Relieve Stress Effectively

5 Simple Ways to Relieve Stress Effectively

Everyone experiences mental stress at one time or another. Maybe you’re starting a new career, job, or business, or you feel incredibly overwhelmed between work, parenting, and your love life (or a lack of it). It could even be that you simply feel that you have way too much to do and not enough time to do it,  plus, on top of everything, nothing seems to be going the way it should!

Yup, we all experience mental stress from time-to-time, and that’s okay as long as you have the tools, techniques and knowledge that allow you to fully relieve it once it comes.

Here are 5 tips for relieving mental stress when it comes so you can function at your best while feeling good (and doing well) in work, love, or life:

1. Get Rationally Optimistic

Mental stress starts with your perception of your experiences. For instance, most people get stressed out when they perceive their reality as “being wrong” in some way. Essentially, they have a set idea of how things “should be” at any given moment, and when reality ends up being different (not even necessarily bad), they get stressed.

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This process is simply a result of perception and can be easily “fixed” by recognizing that although life might not always be going as YOU think it should, it’s still going as it should—for your own benefit.

In fact, once you fully recognize that everything in your life ultimately happens for your own growth, progress, and development—so you can achieve your goals and dreams—your perception works in your favor. You soon process and respond to your experience of life differently, for your advantage. That’s the essence of becoming “rationally optimistic.”

The result: no more mental stress.

2. Unplug

Just like you might need to unplug your computer when it starts acting all crazy, you should also “unplug” your mind.

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How on earth do you unplug your mind? Simple: just meditate.

It isn’t nearly difficult or complicated as some people think, so, if you don’t already meditate, give it a try. Whether you meditate for 5 minutes, 30 minutes, or 2 hours, this is a surefire way to reduce mental stress.

Meditation has been scientifically proven to relax your body (resulting in less mental stress), while also reducing anxiety and high blood pressure.

3. Easy on the Caffeine

Yes, we know, we know—everyone loves a nice java buzz, and that’s okay, but there’s a fine line between a small caffeine pick-me-up and a racing heart and mind that throws you into a frenzy of mental stress.

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Try giving up caffeine for a while and see how you feel. And, if that’s completely out of the question for you, at least try to minimize it. You might find that lots of your mental stress mysteriously “disappears” as your caffeine intake goes down.

4. Attack Mental Stress Via the Back Door

That’s right: your body and mind are part of the whole being, and are constantly influencing and affecting each other. If you’re experiencing a lot of mental stress, try to reduce it by calming your body down—a calm body equals a calmer mind.

How do you calm your body down and reduce physical stress? A  great way to reduce physical stress (thereby reducing mental stress) is to take natural supplements that are proven to reduce stress and anxiety while lifting your mood. Three good ones to look into are kava-kava, St John’s wort, and rhodiola rosea:

  • Kava-kava is a natural plant known to have mild sedative properties, and you should be able to find it at your natural health food store or vitamin store. It’s available in capsules or liquid extract form.
  • St John’s wort is a natural flower used to treat depression. Again, it’s found at your local health store in capsules or liquid. Because it uplifts mood (enabling you to see the brighter side of all experiences) it helps relieve mental stress as well.
  • Rhodiola rosea is a natural plant shown to reduce stress and uplift mood, and Russian athletes have been using it forever. Like the other two supplements mentioned, rhodiola rosea can be found at your natural health store in capsule or liquid form.

While these supplements are all natural and can be very helpful for most people, always check with your health care provider first as they can cause side-effects depending on your current health situation etc.

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5. Good Old-Fashioned Exercise

This tip has been around forever because it works. Nothing relieves mental stress like running, kickboxing—you name it. Anything super-physical will wipe out most of your mental stresses once the exercise endorphins (happy chemicals) are released into your brain.

The result: mental stress will be gone!

So, if you’re feeling overwhelmed or just plain stressed, try using some of the above tips. You can even print this out or save it to refer to regularly.

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