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Top 5 Tips For an Effective Parent

Top 5 Tips For an Effective Parent

There is no joy that can exceed the joy of receiving a newborn baby, especially for a first-time parent. Most first time parents are filled with joy after receiving their first born babies and all they want is to give them to the best parental care there can ever be. It is important to have a parenting plan that will offer guidance to the new parent on how to go about this new challenge. While there is no one universal parenting style for all parents, the end result is to bring up disciplined and responsible children. How a parent will achieve that is up to them. In this article, I will offer five tips that could help any parent enhance their parenting skills.

1. Your child is your first priority

Most parents have a busy schedule and they have family and work priorities which are competing for attention. It is important for a parent to differentiate between important tasks and urgent tasks. Spending time with your child may not be urgent especially if you have a nanny, but it is of ultimate importance. In some cases, one may be forced to make career sacrifices in order to spend quality time with their child. It is a tough decision to make but it is worthwhile. I know parents who have quit their well-paying jobs in order to raise a child. Most of them will tell you that it was one of the best decisions they have ever made.

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2. Love your child unconditionally

The first person that a child interacts with is the parent. It is the responsibility of the parent to show unconditional love to the child and encourage him or her to be confident. Confidence is the most important trait in every human being and it is better cultivated since childhood. A parent should make the child feel valued by spending quality time with them. Tell your child a story, read them a children’s book or even listen to them tell you stories. This provides a great bonding for the parent and the child and it serves as an act of love. Listening to your child and appreciating what they feel about something helps the child’s self-esteem to improve. Compliment them when they do something good with different gifts and discourage them when they do something bad. Complementing and discouraging should both be done with love.

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3. Build a strong team at home

Naturally, parenting is not a man affair. It should be a team work for the mother, father, and others. However, mother and father are most influential people of the life of the child. While mothers are known to offer emotional needs to a child, fathers, on the other hand, are known to independence and self-assertiveness. They let the child do things on their own. These two aspects of both parents are healthy for the child as it enables them to develop an all rounded character. Both the father and the mother must agree on the rules of the house and how to discipline the child. This will create an enabling environment for the success of the team. Single parents should look for a member of the opposite sex to fulfill the role of a father or mother figure for the child. This could be a trusted friend or family member.

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4. Discipline systematically

Children have a tendency to behave badly especially if they are not corrected. A parent must set rules that separate right from wrong. The rules need to be crystal clear and consistent. It is important to punish your child consistently when they do something wrong. However, never punish your child when you are angry. Always wait until you are calm. Discipline is not always punishing the child; it helps reinforce positive behavior and courtesy.

5. Teach your child to be responsible

A child needs to be taught that they are responsible for the decisions they make and the outcomes of such decisions. This will also teach them that happiness is a choice they have to make and it does not depend on the circumstance they are in. Parents should delegate certain tasks to their children according to their age. Assign them chores at home and let them go about them freely. If they ask for guidance regarding a chore, gladly guide them with love.

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Last Updated on March 13, 2019

How to Get out of a Rut: 12 Useful Ways to Get Unstuck

How to Get out of a Rut: 12 Useful Ways to Get Unstuck

Have you gotten into a rut before? Or are you in a rut right now?

You know you’re in a rut when you run out of ideas and inspiration. I personally see a rut as a productivity vacuum. It might very well be a reason why you aren’t getting results. Even as you spend more time on your work, you can’t seem to get anything constructive done. While I’m normally productive, I get into occasional ruts (especially when I’ve been working back-to-back without rest). During those times, I can spend an entire day in front of the computer and get nothing done. It can be quite frustrating.

Over time, I have tried and found several methods that are helpful to pull me out of a rut. If you experience ruts too, whether as a working professional, a writer, a blogger, a student or other work, you will find these useful. Here are 12 of my personal tips to get out of ruts:

1. Work on the small tasks.

When you are in a rut, tackle it by starting small. Clear away your smaller tasks which have been piling up. Reply to your emails, organize your documents, declutter your work space, and reply to private messages.

Whenever I finish doing that, I generate a positive momentum which I bring forward to my work.

2. Take a break from your work desk.

Get yourself away from your desk and go take a walk. Go to the washroom, walk around the office, go out and get a snack.

Your mind is too bogged down and needs some airing. Sometimes I get new ideas right after I walk away from my computer.

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3. Upgrade yourself

Take the down time to upgrade yourself. Go to a seminar. Read up on new materials (#7). Pick up a new language. Or any of the 42 ways here to improve yourself.

The modern computer uses different typefaces because Steve Jobs dropped in on a calligraphy class back in college. How’s that for inspiration?

4. Talk to a friend.

Talk to someone and get your mind off work for a while.

Talk about anything, from casual chatting to a deep conversation about something you really care about. You will be surprised at how the short encounter can be rejuvenating in its own way.

5. Forget about trying to be perfect.

If you are in a rut, the last thing you want to do is step on your own toes with perfectionist tendencies.

Just start small. Do what you can, at your own pace. Let yourself make mistakes.

Soon, a little trickle of inspiration will come. And then it’ll build up with more trickles. Before you know it, you have a whole stream of ideas.

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6. Paint a vision to work towards.

If you are continuously getting in a rut with your work, maybe there’s no vision inspiring you to move forward.

Think about why you are doing this, and what you are doing it for. What is the end vision in mind?

Make it as vivid as possible. Make sure it’s a vision that inspires you and use that to trigger you to action.

7. Read a book (or blog).

The things we read are like food to our brain. If you are out of ideas, it’s time to feed your brain with great materials.

Here’s a list of 40 books you can start off with. Stock your browser with only the feeds of high quality blogs, such as Lifehack.org, DumbLittleMan, Seth Godin’s Blog, Tim Ferris’ Blog, Zen Habits or The Personal Excellence Blog.

Check out the best selling books; those are generally packed with great wisdom.

8. Have a quick nap.

If you are at home, take a quick nap for about 20-30 minutes. This clears up your mind and gives you a quick boost. Nothing quite like starting off on a fresh start after catching up on sleep.

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9. Remember why you are doing this.

Sometimes we lose sight of why we do what we do, and after a while we become jaded. A quick refresher on why you even started on this project will help.

What were you thinking when you thought of doing this? Retrace your thoughts back to that moment. Recall why you are doing this. Then reconnect with your muse.

10. Find some competition.

Nothing quite like healthy competition to spur us forward. If you are out of ideas, then check up on what people are doing in your space.

Colleagues at work, competitors in the industry, competitors’ products and websites, networking conventions.. you get the drill.

11. Go exercise.

Since you are not making headway at work, might as well spend the time shaping yourself up.

Sometimes we work so much that we neglect our health and fitness. Go jog, swim, cycle, whichever exercise you prefer.

As you improve your physical health, your mental health will improve, too. The different facets of ourselves are all interlinked.

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Here’re 15 Tips to Restart the Exercise Habit (and How to Keep It).

12. Take a good break.

Ruts are usually signs that you have been working too long and too hard. It’s time to get a break.

Beyond the quick tips above, arrange for a 1-day or 2-days of break from your work. Don’t check your (work) emails or do anything work-related. Relax and do your favorite activities. You will return to your work recharged and ready to start.

Contrary to popular belief, the world will not end from taking a break from your work. In fact, you will be much more ready to make an impact after proper rest. My best ideas and inspiration always hit me whenever I’m away from my work.

Take a look at this to learn the importance of rest: The Importance of Scheduling Downtime

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