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7 Most Actionable Driving Safety Tips I Learned From My Dad

7 Most Actionable Driving Safety Tips I Learned From My Dad

“Anyone can be a father, but it takes someone special to be a Daddy.”

Teaching a teenager to drive is one of the most dreaded rites of child-rearing. With many parents required to spend 40 or more hours in the car providing the supervised practice that teens need in order to get their driver’s license, the process is more than just a familiar ritual. It’s a serious commitment. Most parents do a great job teaching the basic skills needed to control the car. Many parents, however, don’t know how to teach young drivers the skills they need to avoid accidents. Another thing young drivers need to be taught early on is that speeding is just not worth it. It will cause them to incur points on their license, pay costly fines (which THEY, not you, will have to pay), may cause their license to be suspended or revoked, or in some cases even land them in jail. As I was learning to drive, my dad put in the time and energy to teach me a few practical driving safety tips that make accident avoidance easier.

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  1. The Basics

Parking is a challenge for many young drivers. Parents like my dad, who are up to the challenge, spend more time working on this simple skill. Steering, braking without stopping short, and accelerating smoothly are all valuable driving skills that teens need before they head to the DMV to take their license test.

  1. Highway Safety 

Driving in heavy traffic panics many teens. Teaching them the skills to cope with it, however, means that when they’re out on the road, they will be less likely to be caught short. Giving them the confidence to safely make left turns into oncoming traffic and offering advice concerning how to merge on and off highways at a high speed will help increase confidence and keep teens safer.

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  1. Driving Diversity 

When teens are first learning to drive, their parents often keep them on back roads and in parking lots: safe environments where they won’t be exposed to as many potential problems. As teens spend more time behind the wheel, however, they need diverse places to practice their newfound skills. My dad spent time with me in a variety of driving environments: crowded roads; back roads; highways; turnpikes; and more.

  1. Weather 

Weather conditions can turn bad in an instant. These conditions are particularly hazardous to teens, who haven’t accumulated the driving experience necessary to be good at handling them. My dad spent time with me on the road under a variety of weather conditions, from bright sunny days when the sun shines into the car and makes it difficult to see, to rainy days when the road is slick and the safe driving speed is lower than normal. We practiced driving at night, driving on snow, and everything else I needed to develop confidence as a young driver.

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  1. Hazard Recognition 

Judgment behind the wheel is one of the fundamental skills my father taught me, and one that other young drivers will benefit from, as well. Recognizing potential hazards and avoiding them quickly is an automatic skill for some, but others need it to be taught. My dad taught me to look for potential hazards as I was driving and to think about what I would do if they turned into a serious problem. Where would I go if that car pulled out in front of me? If my brakes slipped at that red light, what would my next move be? As I gained confidence with this test, my ability to avoid those hazards increased substantially.

  1. Cell Phones 

Cell phones are one of the leading causes of distraction among teenage drivers. My dad taught me to stash my cellphone in the glove compartment, where I can’t see it and can’t be tempted to reach for it while I’m driving. This simple technique can help teenagers prepare to be more focused on their driving.

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  1. Confidence

Too many young drivers have their license in hand, but no confidence to go along with it. They’re timid behind the wheel, struggling to manage situations that pop up as they’re driving. My dad instilled a sense of confidence in me that has, many times, made it easier to face conditions on the road and prepare for whatever happens. It takes hours behind the wheel in a variety of conditions, but offering teens those skills will make them better drivers who are more able to handle anything that comes their way.

When lessons are taught patiently, respectfully, and even lovingly, they can penetrate the brain of the most stubborn teen and teach them the value of a lifetime of safe driving habits. The more time a parent spends behind the wheel with their teen, the better the teen’s skills will be. As your teen crosses that critical milestone and learns to drive, giving them the safe driving skills they need will ensure that they’re able to avoid road hazards and reach their destination safely.

Featured photo credit: Audi via audi.co.uk

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Published on January 30, 2019

How to Support a Working Mother as a Working Father

How to Support a Working Mother as a Working Father

In roughly 60 percent of two-parent households with children under the age of 18, both parents work full time. But who takes time off work when the kids are sick in your house? And if you are a manager, how do you react when a man says he needs time to take his baby to the pediatrician?

The sad truth is, the default in many companies and families is to value the man’s work over the woman’s—even when there is no significant difference in their professional obligations or compensation. This translates into stereotypes in the workplace that women are the primary caregivers, which can negatively impact women’s success on the job and their upward mobility.

According to a Pew Research Center analysis of long-term time-use data (1965–2011), fathers in dual-income couples devote significantly less time than mothers do to child care.[1] Dads are doing more than twice as much housework as they used to (from an average of about four hours per week to about 10 hours), but there is still a significant imbalance.

This is not just an issue between spouses; it’s a workplace culture issue. In many offices, it is still taboo for dads to openly express that they have family obligations that need their attention. In contrast, the assumption that moms will be on the front lines of any family crisis is one that runs deep.

Consider an example from my company. A few years back, one of our team members joined us for an off-site meeting soon after returning from maternity leave. Not even two hours into her trip, her husband called to say that the baby had been crying nonstop. While there was little our colleague could practically do to help with the situation, this call was clearly unsettling, and the result was that her attention was divided for the rest of an important business dinner.

This was her first night away since the baby’s birth, and I know that her spouse had already been on several business trips before this event. Yet, I doubt she called him during his conferences to ask child-care questions. Like so many moms everywhere, she was expected to figure things out on her own.

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The numbers show that this story is far from the exception. In another Pew survey, 47 percent of dual-income parents agreed that the moms take on more of the work when a child gets sick.[2] In addition, 39 percent of working mothers said they had taken a significant amount of time off from work to care for their child compared to just 24 percent of working fathers. Mothers are also more likely than fathers (27 percent to 10 percent) to say they had quit their job at some point for family reasons.

Before any amazing stay-at-home-dads post an angry rebuttal comment, I want to be very clear that I am not judging how families choose to divide and conquer their personal and professional responsibilities; that’s 100 percent their prerogative. Rather, I am taking aim at the culture of inequity that persists even when spouses have similar or identical professional responsibilities. This is an important issue for all of us because we are leaving untapped business and human potential on the table.

What’s more, I think my fellow men can do a lot about this. For those out there who still privately think that being a good dad just means helping out mom, it’s time to man up. Stop expecting working partners—who have similar professional responsibilities—to bear the majority of the child-care responsibilities as well.

Consider these ways to support your working spouse:

1. Have higher expectations for yourself as a father; you are a parent, not a babysitter.

Know who your pediatrician is and how to reach him or her. Have a back-up plan for transportation and emergency coverage.

Don’t simply expect your partner to manage all these invisible tasks on her own. Parenting takes effort and preparation for the unexpected.

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As in other areas of life, the way to build confidence is to learn by doing. Moms aren’t born knowing how to do this stuff any more than dads are.

2. Treat your partner the way you’d want to be treated.

I can’t tell you the number of times I’ve heard a man on a business trip say to his wife on a call something to the effect of, “I am in the middle of a meeting. What do you want me to do about it?”

However, when the tables are turned, men often make that same call at the first sign of trouble.

Distractions like this make it difficult to focus and engage with work, which perpetuates the stereotype that working moms aren’t sufficiently committed.

When you’re in charge of the kids, do what she would do: Figure it out.

3. When you need to take care of your kids, don’t make an excuse that revolves around your partner’s availability.

This implies that the children are her first priority and your second.

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I admit I have been guilty in the past of telling clients, “I have the kids today because my wife had something she could not move.” What I should have said was, “I’m taking care of my kids today.”

Why is it so hard for men to admit they have personal responsibilities? Remember that you are setting an example for your sons and daughters, and do the right thing.

4. As a manager, be supportive of both your male and female colleagues when unexpected situations arise at home.

No one likes or wants disruptions, but life happens, and everyone will face a day when the troubling phone call comes from his sitter, her school nurse, or even elderly parents.

Accommodating personal needs is not a sign of weakness as a leader. Employees will be more likely to do great work if they know that you care about their personal obligations and family—and show them that you care about your own.

5. Don’t keep score or track time.

At home, it’s juvenile to get into debates about who last changed a diaper or did the dishes; everyone needs to contribute, but the big picture is what matters. Is everyone healthy and getting enough sleep? Are you enjoying each other’s company?

In business, too, avoid the trap of punching a clock. The focus should be on outcomes and performance rather than effort and inputs. That’s the way to maintain momentum toward overall goals.

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The Bottom Line

To be clear, I recognize that a great many working dads are doing a terrific job both on the home front and in their professional lives. My concern is that these standouts often aren’t visible to their colleagues; they intentionally or inadvertently let their work as parents fly under the radar. Dads need to be open and honest about family responsibilities to change perceptions in the workplace.

The question “How do you balance it all?” should not be something that’s just asked of women. Frankly, no one can answer that question. Juggling a career and parental responsibilities is tough. At times, really tough.

But it’s something that more parents should be doing together, as a team. This can be a real bonus for the couple relationship as well, because nothing gets in the way of good partnership faster than feelings of inequity.

On the plus side, I can tell you that parenting skills really do get better with practice—and that’s great for people of both sexes. I think our cultural expectations that women are the “nurturers” and men are the “providers” needs to evolve. Expanding these definitions will open the doors to richer contributions from everyone, because women can and should be both—and so should men.

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