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8 Reasons You Should Not Always Overthink

8 Reasons You Should Not Always Overthink
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The human mind likes to be engaged and aware. Actively it always wants to be put to action. However it is left for you to term if these actions are right for you or not. For many thinking may just be the solution to their problem, but in the real sense if not regulated in the right dose it could lead to their debacle.

1. It doesn’t heal the pain but extends the time-frame

“Some of the greatest battles will be fought within the silent chambers of your own soul.” – Ezra Taft Benson

Over-thinking is a slow and insidious killer. It is not an antidote rather it is a poison on its own. And how devastating the effects can be when it tears down your mental and physical balance. Through the experience so much is lost and the hole it leaves seems too deep to be filled. Rather than clearing the pathway for possibilities to come, it stretches you into a realm of impossibilities.

2. Not everything will always be under your control

“The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any.” – Alice Walker

Whether we like it or not, many things will not be under our control. We cannot even determine how good the weather will be in a week’s time, so why bother it? But for many they try to fight this notion and take charge with their thoughts. Painfully even these negative thoughts take them captive and exert its influence on them. Know that you cannot control everything, and you cannot determine possibilities or outcomes, you can only be prepared for them.

3. It shuts out solutions and focuses more on the problem

“Thinking is the hardest work there is, which is probably the reason so few engage in it.” – Henry Ford

In many cases time and patience offers the best solutions we need. But if only we could wait and act on how to make these solutions happen. Overthinking doesn’t offer solutions, rather it deludes us from seeing that there is a way out and channeling our resources into making this way out.

4. It steals your positive energy

“Don’t think. Thinking is the enemy of creativity. It’s self-conscious, and anything self-conscious is lousy. You can’t try to do things. You simply must do things.” – Ray Bradbury

We have so much positive energy in faith, joy and, optimism, confidence and peace. Yet with overthinking you have these beautiful qualities robbed and replaced by fear, resentment, anger, worry and doubts. Negative energy will not offer a structure and the excitement to get you out of precarious situations.

5. It makes you less thankful

“Over thinking ruins moods and kills good vibes.” – SupaNova Slom

Truthfully no matter how bad a situation or your environment is, there is always something to be thankful for. Being thankful makes you realize what progress and beauty you still have in your world. Focusing on this provides happiness and gladness.

6. It bloats our insecurities

“We are dying from over thinking. We are slowly killing ourselves by thinking about everything. Think. Think. Think. You can never trust the human mind anyway. It’s a death trap.” – Anthony Hopkins

Insecurities that may have dwelt in the deepest ocean of our thoughts seem to emanate anytime we overthink. Our insecurities diminish and bruise our self worth.

7. It puts you in a cocoon of “what ifs”

“But he wasn’t really thinking properly. It was as if the thoughts were chasing each other round and round his head without managing to catch up with each other.” – Isabel Hoving, The Dream Merchant

What is in the past and is assumed is illusory and not real. Overthinking puts you in a vague world where you do not face the realities and true essence of life. Nothing is perfect we should know and in finding solace in improving our situation rather than dwelling in “what ifs” we take charge of our situations and find purposeful direction.

8. It doesn’t make you appreciate the moment

“The more you overthink the less you will understand.” – Habeeb Akande

The moment is the present and this we are all living in. No one needs to live in a tomorrow or in the past, but rather the moment. In the moment you can find pleasure, grace and awareness in the simple things of life. We can find strong emotions to become lords over our circumstances. Overthinking could rob us of the moment and deny us of the consistent certainties that we still have. Sometimes what could take us out of our dilemmas and worries is to experience a day at a time.

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The Importance of Reminders (And How to Make a Reminder Work)

The Importance of Reminders (And How to Make a Reminder Work)
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No matter how well you set up your todo list and calendar, you aren’t going to get things done unless you have a reliable way of reminding yourself to actually do them.

Anyone who’s spent an hour writing up the perfect grocery list only to realize at the store that they forgot to bring the list understands the importance of reminders.

Reminders of some sort or another are what turn a collection of paper goods or web services into what David Allen calls a “trusted system.”[1]

A lot of people resist getting better organized. No matter what kind of chaotic mess, their lives are on a day-to-day basis because they know themselves well enough to know that there’s after all that work they’ll probably forget to take their lists with them when it matters most.

Fortunately, there are ways to make sure we remember to check our lists — and to remember to do the things we need to do, whether they’re on a list or not.

In most cases, we need a lot of pushing at first, for example by making a reminder, but eventually we build up enough momentum that doing what needs doing becomes a habit — not an exception.

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From Creating Reminders to Building Habits

A habit is any act we engage in automatically without thinking about it.

For example, when you brush your teeth, you don’t have to think about every single step from start to finish; once you stagger up to the sink, habit takes over (and, really, habit got you to the sink in the first place) and you find yourself putting toothpaste on your toothbrush, putting the toothbrush in your mouth (and never your ear!), spitting, rinsing, and so on without any conscious effort at all.

This is a good thing because if you’re anything like me, you’re not even capable of conscious thought when you’re brushing your teeth.

The good news is you already have a whole set of productivity habits you’ve built up over the course of your life. The bad news is, a lot of them aren’t very good habits.

That quick game Frogger to “loosen you up” before you get working, that always ends up being 6 hours of Frogger –– that’s a habit. And as you know, habits like that can be hard to break — which is one of the reasons why habits are so important in the first place.

Once you’ve replaced an unproductive habit with a more productive one, the new habit will be just as hard to break as the old one was. Getting there, though, can be a chore!

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The old saw about anything you do for 21 days becoming a habit has been pretty much discredited, but there is a kernel of truth there — anything you do long enough becomes an ingrained behavior, a habit. Some people pick up habits quickly, others over a longer time span, but eventually, the behaviors become automatic.

Building productive habits, then, is a matter of repeating a desired behavior over a long enough period of time that you start doing it without thinking.

But how do you remember to do that? And what about the things that don’t need to be habits — the one-off events, like taking your paycheck stubs to your mortgage banker or making a particular phone call?

The trick to reminding yourself often enough for something to become a habit, or just that one time that you need to do something, is to interrupt yourself in some way in a way that triggers the desired behavior.

The Wonderful Thing About Triggers — Reminders

A trigger is anything that you put “in your way” to remind you to do something. The best triggers are related in some way to the behavior you want to produce.

For instance, if you want to remember to take something to work that you wouldn’t normally take, you might place it in front of the door so you have to pick it up to get out of your house.

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But anything that catches your attention and reminds you to do something can be a trigger. An alarm clock or kitchen timer is a perfect example — when the bell rings, you know to wake up or take the quiche out of the oven. (Hopefully you remember which trigger goes with which behavior!)

If you want to instill a habit, the thing to do is to place a trigger in your path to remind you to do whatever it is you’re trying to make into a habit — and keep it there until you realize that you’ve already done the thing it’s supposed to remind you of.

For instance, a post-it saying “count your calories” placed on the refrigerator door (or maybe on your favorite sugary snack itself)  can help you remember that you’re supposed to be cutting back — until one day you realize that you don’t need to be reminded anymore.

These triggers all require a lot of forethought, though — you have to remember that you need to remember something in the first place.

For a lot of tasks, the best reminder is one that’s completely automated — you set it up and then forget about it, trusting the trigger to pop up when you need it.

How to Make a Reminder Works for You

Computers and ubiquity of mobile Internet-connected devices make it possible to set up automatic triggers for just about anything.

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Desktop software like Outlook will pop up reminders on your desktop screen, and most online services go an extra step and send reminders via email or SMS text message — just the thing to keep you on track. Sandy, for example, just does automatic reminders.

Automated reminders can help you build habits — but it can also help you remember things that are too important to be trusted even to habit. Diabetics who need to take their insulin, HIV patients whose medication must be taken at an exact time in a precise order, phone calls that have to be made exactly on time, and other crucial events require triggers even when the habit is already in place.

My advice is to set reminders for just about everything — have them sent to your mobile phone in some way (either through a built-in calendar or an online service that sends updates) so you never have to think about it — and never have to worry about forgetting.

Your weekly review is a good time to enter new reminders for the coming weeks or months. I simply don’t want to think about what I’m supposed to be doing; I want to be reminded so I can think just about actually doing it.

I tend to use my calendar for reminders, mostly, though I do like Sandy quite a bit.

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Reference

[1] Getting Things Done: Trusted System

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