
How to Stop People Pleasing: Scripts for the 2-Second Window
The yes fires faster than judgment arrives, which is why self-esteem work is the wrong first move: a reflex is not a belief. Implementation intentions are better at stopping an automatic response (d = .77) than at starting a new one (d = .65), so the fix belongs at the response latency. Four scripts cover almost every ask: the hold, the clean no, the bounded yes, and the unwind of a yes already given. A hedged maybe lands worse than a direct no.













