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8 Unnecessary Scary Thoughts Most People Have During A Job Interview

8 Unnecessary Scary Thoughts Most People Have During A Job Interview

What happens if you forget one of your best prepared answers in the job interview? This is just one of the many scary thoughts you may have beforehand. When it actually happens, it is even more heart stopping. Other scary thoughts during the interview could really put you off your performance so let us have a look at these and look at the best way of dealing with them. Negative thoughts can rear their ugly heads during the interview but if you are well prepared, you can easily banish these and move on.

1. I have made a bad first impression

So, your handshake was a bit limp or just far too forceful?  Maybe you are so nervous that your mouth is already dry and you lost your usual poise when you entered the room. Time to move on because there is a lot to be done and you can easily recover from these minor setbacks. The interviewers’ perceptions were probably completely different anyway.

But for the next time, remember to wipe your hands before entering and also aim for a firm handshake and maintain eye contact.

2. I am taking too far too long to answer the questions

Interviewers do not expect rapid, flash answers because they can give the impression of being far too smart and even superficial. They also might give the impression of something learned off by heart, especially if it does not match exactly what was asked. So, let us get this into perspective:

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  • You cannot predict or prepare all the answers.
  • Interviewers do expect you to think about the questions before plunging in.
  • Reflection can be positive.

The solution is to play for time by asking for clarification. You might not be sure or you may need more details. You can also choose to answer partially, then jump in and ask the clarifying question. This is much better than waffling on. Also bear in mind that some questions may be deliberately ambiguous so that asking for clarification means that you are thoughtful and on the ball.

3. I am too nervous

During the interview, an attack of nerves can be very upsetting. Most of these problems need to be addressed before the interview. Try these hacks for the next time:

  • Reduce nerves by being well prepared.
  • Arrive early.
  • Learn breathing techniques to practise before being called in.
  • Run your wrists under cold water in the restroom when you arrive at the venue. This does help and also try dabbing this water behind your ears.
  • Reduce fidgeting by keeping a copy of your CV in your hand.
  • Sit comfortably so that correct breathing is facilitated.

4. I am not up to speed on the company’s mission

If you suddenly feel that there are some gaps in your knowledge, then you should have prepared more carefully. Here are some standard tasks that you need to do beforehand:

  • Research the company fully.
  • Familiarize yourself with their products, mission, projects and policies.
  • Study the job description again and make sure that your skills match the duties and prepare for some likely questions.
  • Study their publicity and brochures.

5. I cannot remember these people’s names

You may be given the names of the interviewers beforehand. One way to avoid a memory lapse is to make sure that you have researched their careers and any other notable features about them. You have seen their photos on the Linked In profiles so it will be easier to match the name and the face when the time comes. This also helps you to engage with the interviewer very quickly.

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6. I am unable to answer some of the tough questions

Questions about leadership, mundane work, weaknesses, and ambitions can really throw you. They can ask you how you define success or why you have been in a job for such a short time or even a long time. The list is endless. But preparation will stand you in good stead here. Study these questions and answers here from a well known recruitment agency in the UK.

7.  I can’t do this

Once you replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you’ll start having positive results.” – Willie Nelson

All too often, you may feel that the negative thoughts are getting the upper hand and this can be disastrous for your performance. They can distract you and cause you to give wrong or careless answers.

Keeping your thoughts positive and upbeat is the best possible way of being successful. This has been proved over and over again. In addition, sitting upright is not just a matter of looking good. It can assist in maximizing your breathing and helping you to remain confident, relaxed and optimistic.

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8. I cannot stand this silence

Very often, there are silent moments towards the end of an interview and these can be awkward for you. Traditionally, the request for questions about the company will come at this point. Make sure you have plenty of questions up your sleeve.

However, there will be other moments when it may not be so easy to fill the vacuum. As regards what salary you are expecting, this can often result in silence. One technique is to respond with a question, such as: ‘What salary range were you thinking of for this post?’  As regards remaining in touch, you can ask about who will initiate the next contact after the interview.

As we have seen, scary thoughts need not be the protagonists at your interview. Preparing well can eliminate most of these, although everyone will be nervous to some extent.

How have you coped with interview nerves and scary thoughts? Let us know in the comments below.

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Featured photo credit: Interview/Alan Cleaver via flickr.com

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5 Types of Horrible Bosses and How to Beat Them All

5 Types of Horrible Bosses and How to Beat Them All

When I left university I took a job immediately, I had been lucky as I had spent a year earning almost nothing as an intern so I was offered a role. On my first day I found that I had not been allocated a desk, there was no one to greet me so I was left for some hours ignored. I happened to snipe about this to another employee at the coffee machine two things happened. The first was that the person I had complained to was my new manager’s wife, and the second was, in his own words, ‘that he would come down on me like a ton of bricks if I crossed him…’

What a great start to a job! I had moved to a new city, and had been at work for less than a morning when I had my first run in with the first style of bad manager. I didn’t stay long enough to find out what Mr Agressive would do next. Bad managers are a major issue. Research from Approved Index shows that more than four in ten employees (42%) state that they have previously quit a job because of a bad manager.

The Dream Type Of Manager

My best manager was a total opposite. A man who had been the head of the UK tax system and was working his retirement running a company I was a very junior and green employee for. I made a stupid mistake, one which cost a lot of time and money and I felt I was going to be sacked without doubt.

I was nervous, beating myself up about what I had done, what would happen. At the end of the day I was called to his office, he had made me wait and I had spent that day talking to other employees, trying to understand where I had gone wrong. It had been a simple mistyped line of code which sent a massive print job out totally wrong. I learn how I should have done it and I fretted.

My boss asked me to step into his office, he asked me to sit down. “Do you know what you did?” I babbled, yes, I had been stupid, I had not double-checked or asked for advice when I was doing something I had not really understood. It was totally my fault. He paused. “Will you do that again?” Of course I told him I would not, I would always double check, ask for help and not try to be so clever when I was not!

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“Okay…”

That was it. I paused and asked, should I clear my desk. He smiled. “You have learnt a valuable lesson, I can be sure that you will never make a mistake like that again. Why would I want to get rid of an employee who knows that?”

I stayed with that company for many years, the way I was treated was a real object lesson in good management. Sadly, far too many poor managers exist out there.

The Complete Catalogue of Bad Managers

The Bully

My first boss fitted into the classic bully class. This is so often the ‘old school’ management by power style. I encountered this style again in the retail sector where one manager felt the only way to get the best from staff was to bawl and yell.

However, like so many bullies you will often find that this can be someone who either knows no better or is under stress and they are themselves running scared of the situation they have found themselves in.

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The Invisible Boss

This can either present itself as management from afar (usually the golf course or ‘important meetings) or just a boss who is too busy being important to deal with their staff.

It can feel refreshing as you will often have almost total freedom with your manager taking little or no interest in your activities, however you will soon find that you also lack the support that a good manager will provide. Without direction you may feel you are doing well just to find that you are not delivering against expectations you were not told about and suddenly it is all your fault.

The Micro Manager

The frustration of having a manager who feels the need to be involved in everything you do. The polar opposite to the Invisible Boss you will feel that there is no trust in your work as they will want to meddle in everything you do.

Dealing with the micro-manager can be difficult. Often their management style comes from their own insecurity. You can try confronting them, tell them that you can do your job however in many cases this will not succeed and can in fact make things worse.

The Over Promoted Boss

The Over promoted boss categorises someone who has no idea. They have found themselves in a management position through service, family or some corporate mystery. They are people who are not only highly unqualified to be managers they will generally be unable to do even your job.

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You can find yourself persistently frustrated by the situation you are in, however it can seem impossible to get out without handing over your resignation.

The Credit Stealer

The credit stealer is the boss who will never publically acknowledge the work you do. You will put in the extra hours working on a project and you know that, in the ‘big meeting’ it will be your credit stealing boss who will take all of the credit!

Again it is demoralising, you see all of the credit for your labour being stolen and this can often lead to good employees looking for new careers.

3 Essential Ways to Work (Cope) with Bad Managers

Whatever type of bad boss you have there are certain things that you can do to ensure that you get the recognition and protection you require to not only remain sane but to also build your career.

1. Keep evidence

Whether it is incidents with the bully or examples of projects you have completed with the credit stealer you will always be well served to keep notes and supporting evidence for projects you are working on.

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Buy your own notebook and ensure that you are always making notes, it becomes a habit and a very useful one as you have a constant reminder as well as somewhere to explore ideas.

Importantly, if you do have to go to HR or stand-up for yourself you will have clear records! Also, don’t always trust that corporate servers or emails will always be available or not tampered with. Keep your own content.

2. Hold regular meetings

Ensure that you make time for regular meetings with your boss. This is especially useful for the over-promoted or the invisible boss to allow you to ‘manage upwards’. Take charge where you can to set your objectives and use these meetings to set clear objectives and document the status of your work.

3. Stand your ground, but be ready to jump…

Remember that you don’t have to put up with poor management. If you have issues you should face them with your boss, maybe they do not know that they are coming across in a bad way.

However, be ready to recognise if the situation is not going to change. If that is the case, keep your head down and get working on polishing your CV! If it isn’t working, there will be something better out there for you!

Good luck!

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