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When You Can’t Make Up Your Mind, Try This Technique To Make Wiser Decisions

When You Can’t Make Up Your Mind, Try This Technique To Make Wiser Decisions

You just received a job offer from another company. While you have been working at your current job for several years and you enjoy what you do, this new position would offer you better pay and a chance to try something different. Suddenly, you feel that familiar twist in your stomach and your mind starts whirling.

The Problem of Indecision

All of us experience difficulty with making decisions at some point or another. We doubt our abilities and question whether we are making the right choice. An endless procession of what-if questions fill our minds, and sometimes staying stuck in indecision seems safer than making a decision at all. Yet, there are simple ways to become a more confident and efficient decision maker.

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You Will Never Be 100% Sure

When we are making a big decision that will greatly affect our future, we tend to want to be 100% sure that our choice is the “right one.” We bite our fingernails and analyze the situation forward, backward, and upside down, hoping that a perfect picture will emerge. The reality is that choosing the best option doesn’t require 100% certainty. In fact, nothing in life will ever be 100% certain, since every choice carries the potential for both risk and reward. Decision-making is less about complete certainty, and more about choosing the best option as it arises.

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You Can Always Make Adjustments

A great way to break through indecision is to remind yourself that you can always make changes and adjustments. You are not trapped by any decision you made yesterday, last week, or last month. You always have the right to change your mind or to make new decisions as you learn and grow. The biggest mistake is to make no decision at all. When you remain indecisive, you are really letting other people or circumstance choose for you. Even if you make a poor choice, you can always learn from your mistake. Letting others choose for you, however, stops you from learning the important lessons that will allow you to make better decisions in the future.

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Make a List of Pros and Cons

Few things can help you tackle a tough decision better than a list of pros and cons. While a list of positives and negatives for each outcome may seem simplistic, you will be amazed how much clearer your choices become when you write them down. We all have trouble sorting through information in our minds. For instance, have you ever made something a really big deal in your mind, but when you told someone else you realized it was really no big deal at all? The same thing happens with decision-making. We stress ourselves out when we keep all the what-ifs and possibilities swirling in our minds. Writing them down makes our options concrete and easier to grasp. Then, you are easily able to see which option includes more positives or more negatives.

Take Your Time

Often, we rush ourselves to make a big decision when we could have taken more time. We dislike the stress of sorting through our options and going through the pros and cons, so we try to just choose as quickly as possible and hope things will work out. Although it might provide some relief to make a quick decision, giving yourself time to process will ultimately bring you more peace. You don’t even need to spend the whole time consciously thinking about your choices. Just take a few days and “sleep on it,” letting your unconscious or intuitive mind take the lead. You may be surprised what insights pop up when you least expect them.

The most important thing to keep in mind when making decisions is that you don’t need to be perfect. Also, remind yourself that no one else makes perfect decisions either! Instead, think of the decision making process as an opportunity to grow and learn more about yourself and the world around you. When your goal is learning and doing the best you can, you free yourself from the pressure to be perfect. Without all that pressure, you may just find yourself feeling excited rather than stressed when the next big decision comes your way!

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Last Updated on July 2, 2020

7 Ways To Stop Being Lazy And Start Getting Things Done

7 Ways To Stop Being Lazy And Start Getting Things Done

“I’m going to take a lazy day today.”

Okay, there’s nothing wrong with this. It’s called a day off, and it’s a magical thing.

But when every day is a “lazy day,” there’s a problem. Sometimes we just need a kick in the butt to get us up and moving, so we can handle our business effectively.

Often, laziness has a deeper and darker cause that we don’t want to think about, let alone acknowledge. Here are 7 ways to stop being lazy and become more productive.

1 Find Out the Root Cause

Are you burned out from working 27 hours a day, 9 days a week since before you can remember? This is a signal that you need a rest or a change.

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Human beings are not meant to work all the time. Our paleolithic ancestors worked, on average, about 20 hours a week. (Yeah, we members of modern society are getting hosed.) Maybe you feel overwhelmed, are afraid to fail at the task, or you just don’t want to do the task; these are discrete problems with separate solutions.

Finding out the root cause of your laziness can help you make the changes you need to make to be a more effective and energetic person.

2. Find Your Passion for the Work

You started doing what you do for a reason, but sometimes, even the tasks we love the most can become dreary and mundane. When this happens, remind yourself why you started doing it in the first place.

You must have had a passion for it at some point, or you wouldn’t be bothering with it. Remind yourself of the good points of the work, not just the parts that suck.

3. Break up Your Time

People work more efficiently when they have ample rest time. Working in short, focused bursts is far more effective than trying to slog through the task all at once. Not only will you be happier with the end product, but you’ll feel better and more energized after completing it.

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4. Look at Ways You Can Do the Task More Efficiently

When possible, work smarter instead of harder.

We’ve already talked about why working hard doesn’t work as well. If you can find a better way to do the task, you’re more likely to enjoy it because you’re not simply performing the task by rote, but rather, using your creativity and imagination to their best effect. This will make you feel better about the job and probably enjoy it more, too.

Try these 12 Ways to Work Smart.

5. Ask for Help or Support

Sometimes, we just need a little extra backup. There’s nothing wrong with asking for help from a more motivated coworker, friend, or family member. This is a useful way to get you up and moving, because they will motivate you to do the task.

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At the same time, you may be doing them a favor by motivating them to work harder. A little friendly competition never hurt anyone!

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6. Think About Why You Don’t Want to Do the Task

This sounds like a rehash of number 1, but it’s really not.

Some jobs we don’t want to do because they’re just not fun. Mowing the lawn, cleaning the house, or getting under the car and replacing the alternator all have one thing in common. People don’t like doing these jobs because they take time and energy, they’re not pleasant, and we know that sooner or later, we’ll just be doing the same thing all over again.

However, instead of thinking about why you don’t want to do the task, think about the benefits. Your car will run better, the Homeowners’ Association won’t be leaving you a nasty gram for the sixth time this month, and your house will look nicer and feel more welcoming.

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By turning a negative into a positive, you’ll find your outlook about these tasks will be more positive too.

7. Force Yourself

Sometimes there’s just no getting around it. All the good advice and wishes in the world won’t make the job look any better. In these cases, you need to remember you’re an intelligent, mature member of Homo Sapiens, and get off your butt.

While it may not be fun at the time, you can look back on the task you did later and say, “Yeah. I did that.” You shouldn’t have to force yourself out of bed every morning (this is a warning sign of depression that you should NOT ignore), but every once in a while, we need to force ourselves to do something we just don’t want to do.

Believe it or not, you’ll be proud of yourself once the task is done.

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