11 Heart-Melting Questions That Will Captivate Her Mind

11 Heart-Melting Questions That Will Captivate Her Mind

If there is a lady somewhere that you like so much and would want to impress, then you need to be very creative to get her attention. There are many ways of getting into a lady’s mind, with asking her questions being one of the best ways. However, you need to be very careful with the type of questions that you ask her so that you improve your chances of getting her. If you have the right questions, then you increase your chances of getting her. Similarly, the wrong questions kill all your chances of having that beautiful lady that you want.

Here below are the 11 heart-melting questions that will captivate her mind.

1. What are your secret skills?

A number of women like to talk about themselves. This is the perfect opportunity that you can give her to talk more about herself and brag. This question will not only let you know of her special skills, but also give her the impression that you don’t mind when she talks of herself.


2. What was your favorite childhood toy?

If you are serious about captivating the mind of a lady, then do not forget to ask this question. She will definitely boast about how caring she was when she was young. Furthermore, it will give you an idea of what she used to like.

3. What would you grab if your house were on fire?

Another good question that will captivate her mind is about what she treasures most from her house. By asking what she will save when her house is on fire, you will know her greatest treasure in her house. She will be more than glad to tell you to want she likes.

4. What is your favorite place in the entire world?

You also need to show her that you mind knowing her best place in the world. She will give you a definite answer that will make her wondering if you want to take her there. Already, you will have piqued her interest.


5. What’s your current passion in life?

Of the many questions to ask a woman, never forget to ask about her passion in life. She will be happy to know that you are interested in knowing what she finds passionate in life. This question will also help you to know if you have the same passion.

6. Do you have a nickname?

This is a good question that you can present in a soft manner. If she does not like her nickname, do not pressure her to say it. However, if she likes her nickname, you should ask her the story behind it.

7. As a kid, what did you want to be when you grow up? Do you still want it?

This question targets her life’s ambitions. She would be happy to let you know about her childhood ambitions and if she still holds on to them. If she has changed her ambitions, you should ask her what motivated her to change.


8. If you were stuck in an elevator and you had a chance to listen to one song, what would be the song?

The woman is probably waiting for you to ask her about her favorite song. Do not do it casually. Ask her in a way that will melt her heart. If you ask this way, she will surely tell you of her personal favorite music, which will help you know her better.

9. What do you hate most in a man?

Here is her opportunity to warn you of what she does not expect you to do. You will make her feel that you are special and willing to know what she hates most so that you will not do those things.

10. What is your favorite way to spend your Sundays?

You can also ask her how she likes spending her free time, more especially on Sunday afternoon (since it tends to be more people’s day off).


11. What kind of things make you laugh?

To get her heart melting, you should ask her what kind of things make her laugh. You will be surprised to hear the kind of answers that she will give you. You can even use one to make her laugh.

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We thought that the expression ‘broken heart’ was just a metaphor, but science is telling us that it is not: breakups and rejections do cause physical pain. When a group of psychologists asked research participants to look at images of their ex-partners who broke up with them, researchers found that the same brain areas that are activated by physical pain are also activated by looking at images of ex-partners. Looking at images of our ex is a painful experience, literally.[1].

Given that the effect of rejections and breakups is the same as the effect of physical pain, scientists have speculated on whether the practices that reduce physical pain could be used to reduce the emotional pain that follows from breakups and rejections. In a study on whether painkillers reduce the emotional pain caused by a breakup, researchers found that painkillers did help. Individuals who took painkillers were better able to deal with their breakup. Tamar Cohen wrote that “A simple dose of paracetamol could help ease the pain of a broken heart.”[2]


Just like painkillers can be used to ease the pain of a broken heart, other practices that ease physical pain can also be used to ease the pain of rejections and breakups. Three of these scientifically validated practices are presented in this article.

Looking at images of loved ones

While images of ex-partners stimulate the pain neuro-circuitry in our brain, images of loved ones activate a different circuitry. Looking at images of people who care about us increases the release of oxytocin in our body. Oxytocin, or the “cuddle hormone,” is the hormone that our body relies on to induce in us a soothing feeling of tranquility, even when we are under high stress and pain.


In fact, oxytocin was found to have a crucial role as a mother is giving birth to her baby. Despite the extreme pain that a mother has to endure during delivery, the high level of oxytocin secreted by her body transforms pain into pleasure. Mariem Melainine notes that, “Oxytocin levels are usually at their peak during delivery, which promotes a sense of euphoria in the mother and helps her develop a stronger bond with her baby.”[3]

Whenever you feel tempted to look at images of your ex-partner, log into your Facebook page and start browsing images of your loved ones. As Eva Ritvo, M.D. notes, “Facebook fools our brain into believing that loved ones surround us, which historically was essential to our survival. The human brain, because it evolved thousands of years before photography, fails on many levels to recognize the difference between pictures and people”[4]



Endorphins are neurotransmitters that reduce our perception of pain. When our body is high on endorphins, painful sensations are kept outside of conscious awareness. It was found that exercise causes endorphins to be secreted in the brain and as a result produce a feeling of power, as psychologist Alex Korb noted in his book: “Exercise causes your brain to release endorphins, neurotransmitters that act on your neurons like opiates (such as morphine or Vicodin) by sending a neural signal to reduce pain and provide anxiety relief.”[5] By inhibiting pain from being transmitted to our brain, exercise acts as a powerful antidote to the pain caused by rejections and breakups.


Jon Kabat Zinn, a doctor who pioneered the use of mindfulness meditation therapy for patients with chronic pain, has argued that it is not pain itself that is harmful to our mental health, rather, it is the way we react to pain. When we react to pain with irritation, frustration, and self-pity, more pain is generated, and we enter a never ending spiral of painful thoughts and sensations.


In order to disrupt the domino effect caused by reacting to pain with pain, Kabat Zinn and other proponents of mindfulness meditation therapy have suggested reacting to pain through nonjudgmental contemplation and acceptance. By practicing meditation on a daily basis and getting used to the habit of paying attention to the sensations generated by our body (including the painful ones and by observing these sensations nonjudgmentally and with compassion) our brain develops the habit of reacting to pain with grace and patience.

When you find yourself thinking about a recent breakup or a recent rejection, close your eyes and pay attention to the sensations produced by your body. Take deep breaths and as you are feeling the sensations produced by your body, distance yourself from them, and observe them without judgment and with compassion. If your brain starts wandering and gets distracted, gently bring back your compassionate nonjudgmental attention to your body. Try to do this exercise for one minute and gradually increase its duration.


With consistent practice, nonjudgmental acceptance will become our default reaction to breakups, rejections, and other disappointments that we experience in life. Every rejection and every breakup teaches us great lessons about relationships and about ourselves.

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[1] US National Library of Medicine: Social rejection shares somatosensory representations with physical pain
[2] Daily Mail: Nursing a broken heart? How taking a paracetamol could dull the pain of rejection
[3] Mother For Life: Oxytocin’s Role
[4] Psychology Today: Facebook and Your Brain
[5] Alex Korb: The Upward Spiral

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