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When Embracing Failure Is Not Enough: Learn How To Manage It

When Embracing Failure Is Not Enough: Learn How To Manage It

Failure is completely inevitable for people who wants to rise above the rest of the flock. No one has a 100 percent batting average.It’s a simple fact that sometimes when you swing you miss. But those misses are worth it for every time you hit something out of the park. Read below to learn to manage failure on your journey towards success.

1. You’re responsible for your failure

You failed. Accept it and move on. Also accept that, if you play your cards right, you will become better for your failure. Sure, you failed, you know that already, but if you learned enough from the experience you utilized the failure to become a better version of yourself. All successful people fail often; failures are inevitable if you want to find any success. If you don’t wallow in the mistakes you made, one failure can be a stepping stone to many more checkmarks in the win column.

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2. Learn to forgive yourself

Holding onto anger instead of forgiving someone is, as the saying goes, like drinking poison and expecting it to kill the other person. Not forgiving yourself for something you did is even more poisonous. In the end your anger benefits no one, and only hurts you. Accept that you didn’t succeed and learn to forgive yourself. It’s not that hard once you accept that you’re a human being who is not perfect. You wouldn’t expect perfection from anyone else, not even the most successful people in the world, so please don’t hold yourself to such a ridiculously high standard.

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3. Apologize frankly

You’re sorry, right? So admit it. You may not like owning up to your failures (it’s certainly never pleasant) but it is such a release when you finally say you’re sorry. Anyone you might have wronged or done a disservice to will appreciate you for having the courage to apologize. Make sure you know exactly what you’re sorry for and that you express it well. If your apology comes across as insincere, it will only have a neutral or, worse, a negative effect. Tell the recipient of your apology specifically what you did wrong, why you regret it, and what you’ll do to correct it in the future. That way, that person will know you have thought your actions through and truly want to make things right.

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4. Look back on your mistakes

This is one of the most important steps when you want to manage failure. Try to look back on your mistakes through an unbiased lens, analyzing what you did wrong and what you will do differently next time. Don’t be afraid to really pinpoint your missteps; uncovering the mistakes is the only way you’ll learn how to avoid them the next time around. A good trick is to ask someone else who saw where you went wrong what they think you could do better in the future. In the end, looking back on your own follies will always be through prejudiced eyes. Successful people always have their right-hand men and women to let them know where they can improve. Roping in someone else to inform you of what really happened is invaluable when you want to truly move past your failure.

5. Teach Others

You’re not the only person who can learn from your mistake. Teach others to avoid the kinds of errors you made along the way by sharing your story. All the best stories have flawed characters who make mistakes, so your failure could be a powerful speech or essay or presentation that others could learn a lot from. Think about your favorite biographies or autobiographies. They generally feature brilliant, successful individuals who rose above the failures they made in their lives. Maybe there will be a biography about you someday. Your recent failure could make a great chapter.

Featured photo credit: Portrait of thoughtful young handsome businessman via shutterstock.com

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Matt is a marketer and writer who shares about lifestyle and productivity tips on Lifehack.

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Last Updated on July 16, 2019

6 Effective Ways to Enhance Your Problem Solving Skills

6 Effective Ways to Enhance Your Problem Solving Skills

Have you ever thought of yourself as a problem solver? I’m guessing not. But in reality, we are constantly solving problems. And the better our problem solving skills are, the easier our lives are.

Problems arise in many shapes and forms. They can be mundane, everyday problems, or larger more complex problems:

What to have for dinner tonight?

Which route to take to work?

How to fix a project that’s running behind schedule?

How to change from an uninspiring job to a career you’re really passionate about?

Every day, you’ll be faced with at least one problem to solve. But it gets easier when you realize that problems are simply choices. There’s nothing ‘scary’ about them other than having to make a decision.

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No matter what job you’re in, where you live, who your partner is, how many friends you have, you will be judged on your ability to solve problems. Because problems equal hassles for everyone concerned. And people don’t like hassle. So the more problems you can solve, the less hassle all-round, the happier people are with you. Everyone wins.

Why Are Problem Solving Skills Important?

Problem is something hard to understand or accomplish or deal with. It can be a task, a situation, or even a person. Problem solving involves methods and skills to find the best solutions to problems.

Problem solving is important because we all have decisions to make, and questions to answer in our lives. Amazing people like Eleanor Roosevelt, Steve Jobs, Mahatma Gandhi and Martin Luther King Jr., are all great problems solvers. Good parents, teachers, doctors and waiters all have to be good at solving different sort of problems as well.

Problem solving skills are for our everyday lives.

How to Enhance Problem Solving Skills

Most people believe that you have to be very intelligent in order to be a good problem solver, but that’s not true.

You don’t have to be super smart to be a problem solver, you just need practice.

When you understand the different steps to solve a problem, you’ll be able to come up with great solutions.

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1. Focus on the Solution, Not the Problem

Neuroscientists have proven that your brain cannot find solutions if you focus on the problem.[1] This is because when you focus on the problem, you’re effectively feeding ‘negativity,’ which in turn activates negative emotions in the brain. These emotions block potential solutions.

I’m not saying you should ‘ignore the problem,’ instead, try to remain calm. It helps to first, acknowledge the problem; and then, move your focus to a solution-oriented mindset where you keep fixed on what the ‘answer’ could be, rather than lingering on ‘what went wrong’ and ‘who’s fault it is’.

2. Adapt 5 Whys to Clearly Define the Problem

5 Whys is a problem solving framework to help you get to the root of a problem.

By repeatedly asking the question “why” on a problem, you can dig into the root cause of a problem, and that’s how you can find the best solution to tackle the root problem once and for all. And it can go deeper than just asking why for five times.

For example:

If the problem is “always late to work”…

  • Why am I late to work?
    I always click the snooze button and just want to go on sleeping.
  • Why do I want to go on sleeping?
    I feel so tired in the morning.
  • Why do I feel tired in the morning?
    I slept late the night before, that’s why.
  • Why did I sleep late?
    I wasn’t sleepy after drinking coffee, and I just kept scrolling my Facebook feed and somehow I couldn’t stop.
  • Why did I drink coffee?
    Because I was too sleepy at work in the afternoon, not having enough sleep the night before.

So there you see, if you didn’t try to dig out the root of the problem, you may just set a few more alarms and have it beep every five minutes in the morning. But in fact, the problem you need to solve is to quit Facebook surfing endlessly at night so you’ll feel more energetic in the day time, and you won’t even need coffee.

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3. Simplify Things

As human beings, we have a tendency to make things more complicated than they need to be! Try simplifying your problem by generalizing it.

Remove all the details and go back to the basics. Try looking for a really easy, obvious solution – you might be surprised at the results! And we all know that it’s often the simple things that are the most productive.

4. List out as Many Solutions as Possible

Try to come up with ‘ALL POSSIBLE SOLUTIONS’ – even if they seem ridiculous at first. It’s important you keep an open mind to boost creative thinking, which can trigger potential solutions.

Coming from 10 years in the corporate advertising industry, it is drummed into you that ‘No idea is a bad idea’ and this aids creative thinking in brainstorms and other problem-solving techniques.

Whatever you do, do not ridicule yourself for coming up with ‘stupid solutions’ as it’s often the crazy ideas that trigger other more viable solutions.

5. Think Laterally

Change the ‘direction’ of your thoughts by thinking laterally. Pay attention to the saying,

‘You cannot dig a hole in a different place by digging it deeper.”

Try to change your approach and look at things in a new way. You can try flipping your objective around and looking for a solution that is the polar opposite!

Even if it feels silly, a fresh and unique approach usually stimulates a fresh solution.

6. Use Language That Creates Possibility

Lead your thinking with phrases like ‘what if…’ and ‘imagine if…’ These terms open up our brains to think creatively and encourage solutions.

Avoid closed, negative language such as ‘I don’t think…’ or ‘But this is not right…’.

The Bottom Line

There’s nothing scary about a problem when you start to adapt my advice.

Try not to view problems as ‘scary’ things! If you think about what a problem really is, it’s really just feedback on your current situation.

Every problem is telling you that something is not currently working and that you need to find a new way around it.

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So try to approach problems neutrally – without any judgment. Practice focusing on defining a problem, keep calm and not to make things too complicated.

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Reference

[1] Planet of Success: Problem vs Solution Focused Thinking

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