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When Embracing Failure Is Not Enough: Learn How To Manage It

When Embracing Failure Is Not Enough: Learn How To Manage It

Failure is completely inevitable for people who wants to rise above the rest of the flock. No one has a 100 percent batting average.It’s a simple fact that sometimes when you swing you miss. But those misses are worth it for every time you hit something out of the park. Read below to learn to manage failure on your journey towards success.

1. You’re responsible for your failure

You failed. Accept it and move on. Also accept that, if you play your cards right, you will become better for your failure. Sure, you failed, you know that already, but if you learned enough from the experience you utilized the failure to become a better version of yourself. All successful people fail often; failures are inevitable if you want to find any success. If you don’t wallow in the mistakes you made, one failure can be a stepping stone to many more checkmarks in the win column.

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2. Learn to forgive yourself

Holding onto anger instead of forgiving someone is, as the saying goes, like drinking poison and expecting it to kill the other person. Not forgiving yourself for something you did is even more poisonous. In the end your anger benefits no one, and only hurts you. Accept that you didn’t succeed and learn to forgive yourself. It’s not that hard once you accept that you’re a human being who is not perfect. You wouldn’t expect perfection from anyone else, not even the most successful people in the world, so please don’t hold yourself to such a ridiculously high standard.

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3. Apologize frankly

You’re sorry, right? So admit it. You may not like owning up to your failures (it’s certainly never pleasant) but it is such a release when you finally say you’re sorry. Anyone you might have wronged or done a disservice to will appreciate you for having the courage to apologize. Make sure you know exactly what you’re sorry for and that you express it well. If your apology comes across as insincere, it will only have a neutral or, worse, a negative effect. Tell the recipient of your apology specifically what you did wrong, why you regret it, and what you’ll do to correct it in the future. That way, that person will know you have thought your actions through and truly want to make things right.

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4. Look back on your mistakes

This is one of the most important steps when you want to manage failure. Try to look back on your mistakes through an unbiased lens, analyzing what you did wrong and what you will do differently next time. Don’t be afraid to really pinpoint your missteps; uncovering the mistakes is the only way you’ll learn how to avoid them the next time around. A good trick is to ask someone else who saw where you went wrong what they think you could do better in the future. In the end, looking back on your own follies will always be through prejudiced eyes. Successful people always have their right-hand men and women to let them know where they can improve. Roping in someone else to inform you of what really happened is invaluable when you want to truly move past your failure.

5. Teach Others

You’re not the only person who can learn from your mistake. Teach others to avoid the kinds of errors you made along the way by sharing your story. All the best stories have flawed characters who make mistakes, so your failure could be a powerful speech or essay or presentation that others could learn a lot from. Think about your favorite biographies or autobiographies. They generally feature brilliant, successful individuals who rose above the failures they made in their lives. Maybe there will be a biography about you someday. Your recent failure could make a great chapter.

Featured photo credit: Portrait of thoughtful young handsome businessman via shutterstock.com

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Last Updated on September 20, 2018

8 Ways to Train Your Brain to Learn Faster and Remember More

8 Ways to Train Your Brain to Learn Faster and Remember More

You go to the gym to train your muscles. You run outside or go for hikes to train your endurance. Or, maybe you do neither of those, but still wish you exercised more.

Well, here is how to train one of the most important parts of your body: your brain.

When you train your brain, you will:

  • Avoid embarrassing situations. You remember his face, but what was his name?
  • Be a faster learner in all sorts of different skills. No problem for you to pick up a new language or new management skill.
  • Avoid diseases that hit as you get older. Alzheimer’s will not be affecting you.

So how to train your brain and improve your cognitive skills?

1. Work your memory

Twyla Tharp, a NYC-based renowned choreographer has come up with the following memory workout:

When she watches one of her performances, she tries to remember the first twelve to fourteen corrections she wants to discuss with her cast without writing them down.

If you think this is anything less than a feat, then think again. In her book The Creative Habit she says that most people cannot remember more than three.

The practice of both remembering events or things and then discussing them with others has actually been supported by brain fitness studies.

Memory activities that engage all levels of brain operation—receiving, remembering and thinking—help to improve the function of the brain.

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Now, you may not have dancers to correct, but you may be required to give feedback on a presentation, or your friends may ask you what interesting things you saw at the museum. These are great opportunities to practically train your brain by flexing your memory muscles.

What is the simplest way to help yourself remember what you see? Repetition.

For example, say you just met someone new:

“Hi, my name is George”

Don’t just respond with, “Nice to meet you”. Instead, say, “Nice to meet you George.”

Got it? Good.

2. Do something different repeatedly

By actually doing something new over and over again, your brain wires new pathways that help you do this new thing better and faster.

Think back to when you were three years old. You surely were strong enough to hold a knife and a fork just fine. Yet, when you were eating all by yourself, you were creating a mess.

It was not a matter of strength, you see. It was a matter of cultivating more and better neural pathways that would help you eat by yourself just like an adult does.

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And guess what? With enough repetition you made that happen!

But how does this apply to your life right now?

Say you are a procrastinator. The more you don’t procrastinate, the more you teach your brain not to wait for the last minute to make things happen.

Now, you might be thinking “Duh, if only not procrastinating could be that easy!”

Well, it can be. By doing something really small, that you wouldn’t normally do, but is in the direction of getting that task done, you will start creating those new precious neural pathways.

So if you have been postponing organizing your desk, just take one paper and put in its right place. Or, you can go even smaller. Look at one piece of paper and decide where to put it: Trash? Right cabinet? Another room? Give it to someone?

You don’t actually need to clean up that paper; you only need to decide what you need to do with it.

That’s how small you can start. And yet, those neural pathways are still being built. Gradually, you will transform yourself from a procrastinator to an in-the-moment action taker.

3. Learn something new

It might sound obvious, but the more you use your brain, the better its going to perform for you.

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For example, learning a new instrument improves your skill of translating something you see (sheet music) to something you actually do (playing the instrument).

Learning a new language exposes your brain to a different way of thinking, a different way of expressing yourself.

You can even literally take it a step further, and learn how to dance. Studies indicate that learning to dance helps seniors avoid Alzheimer’s. Not bad, huh?

4. Follow a brain training program

The Internet world can help you improve your brain function while lazily sitting on your couch. A clinically proven program like BrainHQ can help you improve your memory, or think faster, by just following their brain training exercises.

5. Work your body

You knew this one was coming didn’t you? Yes indeed, exercise does not just work your body; it also improves the fitness of your brain.

Even briefly exercising for 20 minutes facilitates information processing and memory functions. But it’s not just that–exercise actually helps your brain create those new neural connections faster. You will learn faster, your alertness level will increase, and you get all that by moving your body.

Now, if you are not already a regular exerciser, and already feel guilty that you are not helping your brain by exercising more, try a brain training exercise program like Exercise Bliss.

Remember, just like we discussed in #2, by training your brain to do something new repeatedly, you are actually changing yourself permanently.

6. Spend time with your loved ones

If you want optimal cognitive abilities, then you’ve got to have meaningful relationships in your life.  Talking with others and engaging with your loved ones helps you think more clearly, and it can also lift your mood.

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If you are an extrovert, this holds even more weight for you. At a class at Stanford University, I learned that extroverts actually use talking to other people as a way to understand and process their own thoughts.

I remember that the teacher told us that after a personality test said she was an extrovert, she was surprised. She had always thought of herself as an introvert. But then, she realized how much talking to others helped her frame her own thoughts, so she accepted her new-found status as an extrovert.

7. Avoid crossword puzzles

Many of us, when we think of brain fitness, think of crossword puzzles. And it’s true–crossword puzzles do improve our fluency, yet studies show they are not enough by themselves.

Are they fun? Yes. Do they sharpen your brain? Not really.

Of course, if you are doing this for fun, then by all means go ahead. If you are doing it for brain fitness, then you might want to choose another activity

8. Eat right – and make sure dark chocolate is included

Foods like fish, fruits, and vegetables help your brain perform optimally. Yet, you might not know that dark chocolate gives your brain a good boost as well.

When you eat chocolate, your brain produces dopamine. And dopamine helps you learn faster and remember better. Not to mention, chocolate contains flavonols, antioxidants, which also improve your brain functions.

So next time you have something difficult to do, make sure you grab a bite or two of dark chocolate!

The bottom line

Now that you know how to train your brain, it’s actually time to start doing.

Don’t just consume this content and then go on with your life as if nothing has changed. Put this knowledge into action and become smarter than ever!

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