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When Embracing Failure Is Not Enough: Learn How To Manage It

When Embracing Failure Is Not Enough: Learn How To Manage It

Failure is completely inevitable for people who wants to rise above the rest of the flock. No one has a 100 percent batting average.It’s a simple fact that sometimes when you swing you miss. But those misses are worth it for every time you hit something out of the park. Read below to learn to manage failure on your journey towards success.

1. You’re responsible for your failure

You failed. Accept it and move on. Also accept that, if you play your cards right, you will become better for your failure. Sure, you failed, you know that already, but if you learned enough from the experience you utilized the failure to become a better version of yourself. All successful people fail often; failures are inevitable if you want to find any success. If you don’t wallow in the mistakes you made, one failure can be a stepping stone to many more checkmarks in the win column.

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2. Learn to forgive yourself

Holding onto anger instead of forgiving someone is, as the saying goes, like drinking poison and expecting it to kill the other person. Not forgiving yourself for something you did is even more poisonous. In the end your anger benefits no one, and only hurts you. Accept that you didn’t succeed and learn to forgive yourself. It’s not that hard once you accept that you’re a human being who is not perfect. You wouldn’t expect perfection from anyone else, not even the most successful people in the world, so please don’t hold yourself to such a ridiculously high standard.

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3. Apologize frankly

You’re sorry, right? So admit it. You may not like owning up to your failures (it’s certainly never pleasant) but it is such a release when you finally say you’re sorry. Anyone you might have wronged or done a disservice to will appreciate you for having the courage to apologize. Make sure you know exactly what you’re sorry for and that you express it well. If your apology comes across as insincere, it will only have a neutral or, worse, a negative effect. Tell the recipient of your apology specifically what you did wrong, why you regret it, and what you’ll do to correct it in the future. That way, that person will know you have thought your actions through and truly want to make things right.

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4. Look back on your mistakes

This is one of the most important steps when you want to manage failure. Try to look back on your mistakes through an unbiased lens, analyzing what you did wrong and what you will do differently next time. Don’t be afraid to really pinpoint your missteps; uncovering the mistakes is the only way you’ll learn how to avoid them the next time around. A good trick is to ask someone else who saw where you went wrong what they think you could do better in the future. In the end, looking back on your own follies will always be through prejudiced eyes. Successful people always have their right-hand men and women to let them know where they can improve. Roping in someone else to inform you of what really happened is invaluable when you want to truly move past your failure.

5. Teach Others

You’re not the only person who can learn from your mistake. Teach others to avoid the kinds of errors you made along the way by sharing your story. All the best stories have flawed characters who make mistakes, so your failure could be a powerful speech or essay or presentation that others could learn a lot from. Think about your favorite biographies or autobiographies. They generally feature brilliant, successful individuals who rose above the failures they made in their lives. Maybe there will be a biography about you someday. Your recent failure could make a great chapter.

Featured photo credit: Portrait of thoughtful young handsome businessman via shutterstock.com

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

An Inspirational Story…

For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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