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Last Updated on July 21, 2021

6 Characteristics of a Successful Person That Make Them Outstanding

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6 Characteristics of a Successful Person That Make Them Outstanding

Highly successful people are uncommon. They walk the roads you walk on and stand under the same sun, but they view the world from a lens that sets them apart from the common man.

In the following lines, I will lend you that lens.

The 6 points you will see may look nothing like what you would expect, but their charm rests on their ability to look like one thing while being another. And there, I just gave you one characteristic to wet your beak:

Highly successful people see the good in every situation.

But what else do they share?

In no particular order, here are 6 characteristics of a successful person:

1. They Never Just Try.

Successful people never just try because just trying isn’t doing. Instead, they do what they set to achieve.

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People who only try things just for the sake of trying won’t be able to maximize the experience. But successful people do things with a clear goal in mind.

How do they do this?

  • By being crystal clear about their goals
  • By sacrificing anything that would steal resources (e.g., time) away from those goals.
  • By celebrating every small win along the way

2. They Leverage Everything.

Successful people know how to leverage everything. To put it simply, to leverage is to use a small input to reap a maximum reward. They naturally possess a certain level of resourcefulness and wit that others do not.

Highly successful people have the unique ability to make use of every bit of their human experience.

They sell their winning strategies in books, market their experience on TV shows, use their vulnerabilities to connect with strangers, and leverage their friendships to access closed circles.

Look at your life and assets carefully. You’ll realize that there are many things that you could leverage.

3. They Give More Than They Take.

One of the principal characteristics of a successful person is that they give more than they take.

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A general rule in life is to always give more than what is expected from you, and this applies perfectly to the path to success.

There is a connection between the number of people you serve and the number of returns you can make. That is why billionaires tend to be from those companies that serve the largest number of people. Does Amazon ring a bell?

Find a universal pain point, focus on addressing it, and in due time the returns will come. Nature rewards givers.

4. They Conquer Hearts.

The most valuable resources and opportunities are hidden behind relationship walls.

Whether they are introverts or extroverts, highly successful people find ways to connect with the people they meet. They understand that if our aspirations or backgrounds do not unite us, then our flaws will.

So, they use whatever common ground is available at the moment to reach for your heart.

For example, they will:

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  • Greet you in your native language.
  • Call you by name as much as they can.
  • Mirror your body language if they have no clue what sports you are talking about.

And if none of those work, they will show themselves as vulnerable by telling others stories about themselves. This works like a charm, and it’s very effective for strengthening relationships.

5. They Give Up (For the Right Things).

Knowing when and what to give up is one of the lesser-known characteristics of a successful person, but it is an important one nevertheless.

Only a fool will repeat the same action but expect different results. Successful people get that.

As a result, they do not lay their time on the altar of regrets or stay in love with ideas and methods that do not work. They fall in love with the end goal, not the path, and stick to what works. They make face the difficult decisions of what to give up and what to pursue.

They quickly discard what doesn’t work, and then they try something else. It is more difficult to progress through life if you don’t know when or what you should give up.

6. They Are A-Students in Life.

Although many highly successful people are school dropouts, one thing they never drop out of is the school of life. This is one of the most important characteristics of a successful person.

They are fantastic students of their mistakes. That is why most of them keep a personal journal where they write their mistakes and reflect on them.

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They are great students of others’ successes, which is why they read more books than the average man. They know that they’re not perfect and that they have a lot to learn from other successful people.

They are students of what makes people tick. Case in point, there is something you bought this week that you didn’t really need. But the company was still able to make you but it.

They are brilliant students of people’s problems. Proof? Their products or solutions sell, which leads to greater contribution to society and most of the time, more profit.

If you commit to being an astute student of life, you would have made a great leap on your journey to success. I believe that you will, so I wish you the very best in this endeavor.

Conclusion

Many factors are involved in the success or failure of a person. Remembering these 6 characteristics of a successful person is a good start if you want to achieve great things in life.

On the topic of success, many things are uncertain. However, one thing’s for sure:

It’s never going to be easy, but it’s certainly going to be worth it.

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Published on October 14, 2021

How to Silence the Impostor Syndrome

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How to Silence the Impostor Syndrome

Do you ever worry about being exposed as a “fraud?” You’re not alone. It’s actually quite common for people to feel like imposters. In fact, approximately 70 percent of people admit to having experienced impostor syndrome[1] at some point in their lives — a Twitter poll found that 87 percent of people have experienced this.[2] Even successful and famous people like Tom Hanks, Howard Schultz, and Natalie Portman suffer from imposter syndrome.

But, what exactly is imposter syndrome. And, more importantly, how can you silence it?

Originally coined in 1978 by psychologists Pauline Rose Clance, Ph.D., ABPP, and Suzanne Imes, Ph.D., the term “impostor syndrome” describes symptoms that include being unable to internalize accomplishments and being afraid of being exposed as a fraud.

The individual may also be plagued by chronic self-doubt and believe that they’re unqualified for success despite evidence to the contrary. Inadequacies, fears of failure, and disbelief that success is a matter of luck or timing are also common.

If you don’t address this phenomenon, feeling like an impostor can prevent you from achieving ambitious goals. Moreover, those experiencing these feelings tend to over-prepare or procrastinate — which obviously hinders productivity and reaching goals. And, as if that weren’t bad enough, imposter syndrome prevents you from pursuing new challenges and opportunities.

Do you feel like you’re suffering from impostor syndrome? If so, don’t beat yourself up. After all, there are effective ways to overcome these feelings in a healthy and proactive way.

1. Don’t Hide It.

“Firstly, acknowledge it,” advises Claudine Robson,[3] the Intentional Coach. “You give strength to imposter syndrome by letting it continue to peck away at your confidence unchecked.” It can only be banished if you acknowledge it as soon as possible and break the silence.

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“Then you need to separate your feelings from facts,” Robson adds. “One thing imposter syndrome does very effectively is to mix up your perceptions of reality.”

If you can, take a step back and look at the situation objectively. “Recognize when you should — and when you should not — feel fraudulent,” she says. Appreciate and acknowledge the task, intellect, and insight that have led to your success.

You might even be able to take action by recognizing that the reason you feel fraudulent is that you’re new to a task. “That gives you a path forward; learning is growth, don’t deny yourself that.”

2. Implement the STOP Technique

In her book Cognitive Enlightenment, Melinda Fouts, Ph.D., outlines a technique to overcome imposter syndrome using what she calls the STOP technique.

“STOP is an acronym for ‘silence the oppressive player,” Fouts explains in Forbes.[4] “You need to eradicate this tape that is playing 24/7, whether you are conscious of it or not. It plays loudest when we are tired, hungry, or feeling defeated.”

Steps to implementing the STOP technique and rewiring your brain are as follows:

To replace the tape of not good enough, you need a “launch sentence.” “I’m more than good enough” would is an example of a solid launch statement.

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Put your launch sentence in prominent locations, such as your car’s dashboard or computer. How come? The reason is that as the tape plays, you won’t be able to remember your launch statement.

Continue to say “stop” until you recall your launch sentence, says Fouts.

Put your launch sentence into your own words and pontificate.

While going about your daily tasks, like while driving or exercising, practice your launch sentence so you can recall it when you need it in the future.

“I am told this sounds simple and it does,” she adds. However, this technique is challenging when your negative tape is playing. You will not want to replace the tape every day while your brain is rewiring itself. “It is these moments you can’t give up.”

3. Distinguish Humility and Fear

When it comes to hard work and accomplishments, there’s humility, and then there’s fear. In other words, having a high level of competence can lead one to discount its value occasionally. However, as Carl Richards wrote in an article for the New York Times,[5] “After spending a lot of time fine-tuning our ability, isn’t it sort of the point for our skill to look and feel natural?”

The problem is that we feel unworthy from time to time. But, as Seth Godin explained in a blog post,[6] “When you feel unworthy, any kind response, positive feedback or reward feels like a trick, a scam, the luck of the draw.”

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Feeling worthy without feeling entitled is possible. And, finding the right balance between them is critical for overcoming impostor syndrome. “Humility and worthiness have nothing at all to do with defending our territory,” Godin continues. “We don’t have to feel like a fraud to also be gracious, open, or humble.”

4. Keep a “Brag Sheet”

When you were sending out college applications, did you build yourself a “brag sheet?” If not, here’s a clean description from Shawna Newman,[7] “A brag sheet is very similar to a student resume – it highlights your accomplishments, key experiences, leadership skills, and employment throughout your secondary education.” In short, “it’s a quick reference guide with all the details and achievements for someone trying to get to know you better.”

While it may be awkward at first, you can apply the same concept when coping with imposter syndrome. Just compose a list of your accomplishments, activities, skills. That’s it. Just remember Godin’s advice and also be humble and gracious.

As an added perk, besides being an effective way to talk myself up, I’ve also found that this has helped me stop comparing myself to others. Instead of harping about other people’s milestones, I’m honing in on what I’ve done.

5. Celebrate Wins, Period

Speaking of accomplishments, they shouldn’t be categorized as small or big. After all, you feel as if you don’t belong when you have imposter syndrome. So, the more you celebrate your wins, the more confident you’ll become.

Furthermore, accept compliments without qualifying them and practice listening to praise every day. Finally, become kinder to yourself by saying at least one kind thing to yourself daily. And, give yourself a well-deserved pat on the back.

6. Assemble a Legion of Superheroes

“You know how corporations have a board of directors to — in theory — make them stronger, maintain checks and balances, leverage resources, and help advance the organization’s vision?” asks inspirational speaker, speaking coach, and creative consultant Tania Katan.[8] “Why not assemble your own board of directors to leverage resources to help make your career stronger, keep you in check and balanced, and advance your vision?”

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“My friend Alison Wade, president of conferences, training, and consulting at Techwell, calls her personal board of directors her “front-row” — those are the people she invites to sit spitting distance from the stage, cheer her on, challenge her, and review her performance,” Katan writes.

As for Katan, she calls hers a “legion of superheroes.” The reason? “I dig the idea of joining forces to do good in the corporate galaxy.”

It’s important to have a diverse group of individuals who will defend you. Ideally, they should be varied in all dimensions, such as cultural background, way of thinking, and skills.

Katan recommends that you meet together frequently, whether if that’s once a week or every quarter. “Share your experiences, fears, creative ideas, aspirations,” she adds. “Celebrate each other’s accomplishments.” You also need to both support and challenge each other. “Discover what you are capable of doing when you combine your powers.”

7. Visualize Success

Follow the example of a professional athlete by imagining yourself crushing that presentation or project. You’ll enjoy the relief from performance-related stress. And, more importantly, it can help you avoid focusing on the worst-case scenario.

Final Words of Advice

While there’s no single formula to cure imposter syndrome, the tips listed above are a start. After all, your success depends on your ability to fight the negative effects of it. For example, feeling unworthy over time can lead to crippling anxiety and depression if left untreated.

If you’ve tried the above, then make sure that you speak to someone about what you’re experiencing, whether it’s a mentor, peer group, or licensed professional. And, above all else, there’s a place at the table for everyone — no matter what your inner voice is telling you.

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How to Silence the Impostor Syndrome was originally published on Calendar by John Rampton.

Featured photo credit: Laurenz Kleinheider via unsplash.com

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