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3 Deep Conclusions I Learned From My Hairdresser

3 Deep Conclusions I Learned From My Hairdresser

The first time I went to my wise hairdresser I was 16. He transferred from one place to another and I followed him wherever he went. Finally he bought his own place, but that’s not my point. I was bound to him. Why? Well, because I was connected with him. He made my hair beautiful, and most of all, we talked about deep subjects that I couldn’t even think to mention to my parents nor to my friends.

Even though his job was to “cut and style hair” as Zohan said, his job was also to listen to his customers and try to give solutions to their problems. We all have problems (including me) that cannot be revealed to everyone. My hairdresser doesn’t belong to the group of “everyone.” He was the guy I could “spit out” my problems.

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He always had wise comebacks. Was it his talent or his overall experience? I don’t know but I would like to share the three deep conclusions I learned from him.

1. There is a solution, ALWAYS

As I mentioned shortly before, I don’t know his mind-set or way of thinking but he always had a solution for every complication! It is easier to look at things from another view and to give advice to someone else but he always gave reasonable solutions. I crashed my car once and I didn’t know what to do so I went to him.

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He encouraged me to call my father calmly and to confess the exact story of how it happened and that clearly I was “under booze.” Believe it or not everything went perfectly. Well not perfect, but understandable. My father told me that he was also a cause in one accident under the influence. He also told me, “Everyone makes a mistake once. The second time you will pay for your consequences.”

2. Not everything turns out perfectly

I went to him for a haircut. It was summer 2011 in July. We had the deepest conversation about all kinds of stuff. If we measured the deepness of the conversation we could touch the core of the Earth, literally.

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We talked for hours. One year before, I told him that I was happy, had friends, a perfect car and I had a lot of money (from my parents) and everything was going great. He responded with a secret smile filled with sadness. I clearly remember he told me, “I don’t want to put you down Koko (my nickname), but things change all of the time and you will have to accept them.”

Fast-forward, it was 2013, lots of things had changed. I had couple of friends because all the rest became disinterested. I started making money on my own by working in my Spa Center, managing blogs and writing texts. I no longer had all the free time in the world. This was not a bad thing, but quite the opposite. I was living life on my own and it was beautiful. Far more beautiful when I was living in a false reality.

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3. Money is a must

Then a couple of years ago, we had a talk about money and its meaning. He stated it clear with two sentences, “Money is a must and you have to earn it with both your hands. Money is not going to make you happy, but an absence of money can buy you whole lot of miseries.” I live on these two sentences. I don’t know where he got this knowledge from, but I looked at him like I was looking at a wizard!

That’s most of my hairdressers’ wisdom. I had many deep conversations but I don’t want to break my fingers writing all that. I hope you will find your own “seer hairdresser.

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

What Is Creativity? We All Have It, and Need It

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Do you think of yourself as a creative person? Do you play the drums or do watercolor paintings? Perhaps compose songs or direct plays? Can you even relate to any of these so called ‘creative’ experiences? Growing up, did you ever have that ‘artistic’ sibling or friend who excelled in drawing, playing instruments or literature? And you maybe wondered why you can’t even compose a birthday card greeting–or that drawing stick figures is the furthest you’ll ever get to drawing a family portrait. Many people have this common assumption that creativity is an inborn talent; only a special group of people are inherently creative, and everyone else just unfortunately does not have that special ability. You either have that creative flair or instinct, or you don’t. But, this is far from the truth! So what is creativity?

Can I Be Creative?

The fact is, that everyone has an innate creative ability. Despite what most people may think, creativity is a skill that everyone can learn and hone on. It’s a skill with huge leverage that allows you to generate enormous amounts of value from relatively little input. How is that so? You’ll have to start by expanding your definition of creativity. Ironically, you have to be creative and ‘think out of the box’ with the definition! Creativity at its heart, is being able to see things in a way that others cannot. It’s a skill that helps you find new perspectives to create new possibilities and solutions to different problems. So, if you encounter different challenges and problems that need solving on a regular basis, then creativity is an invaluable skill to have.Let’s say, for example, that you work in sales. Having creativity will help you to look for new ways to approach and reach out to potential customers. Or perhaps you’re a teacher. In this role you have to constantly look for new ways to deliver your message and educate your students.

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How Creativity Works

Let me break another misconception about creativity, which is that it’s only used to create completely “new” or “original” things. Again, this is far from the truth. Because nothing is ever completely new or original. Everything, including works of art, doesn’t come from nothing. Everything derives from some sort of inspiration. That means that creativity works by connecting things together in order to derive new meaning or value.From this perspective, you can see a lot of creativity in action. In technology, Apple combines traditional computers with design and aesthetics to create new ways to use digital products. In music, a musician may be inspired by various styles of music, instruments and rhythms to create an entirely new type of song. All of these examples are about connecting different ideas, finding common ground amongst the differences, and creating a completely new idea out of them.

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Creativity Needs an Intention

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Creativity Is a Skill

At the end of the day, creativity is a skill. It’s not some innate or natural born talent that some have over others. What this means is that creativity and innovation can be practiced and improved upon systematically.A skill can be learned and practiced by applying your strongest learning styles. Want to know what your learning style is? Try this test. A skill can be measured and improved through a Feedback Loop, and can be continuously upgraded over time by regular practice. Through regular practice, your creativity goes through different stages of proficiency. This means that you can become more and more creative! If you never thought that creativity was relevant to you, or that you don’t have a knack for being creative… think again! You can use creativity in any aspect of your life. In fact you should use it, as it will allow you to to break through your usual loop, get you out of your comfort zone, and inspire you to grow and try new things. Creativity will definitely give you an edge when you’re trying to solve a problem or come up with new solutions.

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