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5 Reasons Why You Should Stop Living Insanely

5 Reasons Why You Should Stop Living Insanely

My daughter is obsessed with chocolate surprise eggs. I think they’re disgusting and a waste of MY money and yet I keep buying and she keeps eating them.

If you’re not familiar with chocolate surprise eggs they are exactly what you would think, plastic eggs wrapped in a chocolate outer layer. In order to get the surprise you must eat the outside of the egg first or depending on your mood you could rip the chocolate off. By any means necessary the goal is to get the surprise egg. When my daughter first started eating them I must admit I was intrigued to know what the surprise was but after 5 consecutive eggs my daughter and I realized the surprise was always the same, bummer.

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While there was actually no longer anything “surprising” about the surprise egg, my daughter is still just as eager to open the egg each time to make sure the surprise hasn’t changed (it’s always a lion by the way). As I continue to watch her open the eggs over and over again I instantly began to think of insanity. Doing the same thing but expecting different results.

Many of us don’t want to admit it but we all deal with insanity at some point in our lives. We keep getting to work late then complain about working later; we job hunt from left to right and keep landing the same miserable job and we even complain about how unhappy we are every day as if happiness will come the more we complain; insanity.

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So if you’re one of millions of people who continues to do the same thing and keeps expecting the same results here are 5 reasons why you should stop.

You’re Wasting Time

Do you complain every day? Eat junk food for breakfast? Spend hours scrolling through social media when you could be building your business? Congrats you are wasting time that you could be using to improve the life you’re unhappy about.

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You’re Disappointing Yourself

Overtime you continue to do something and you know the results will never change, you’re only disappointing yourself.  While I hate wasting money on surprise eggs my daughter’s disappointment doesn’t impact me. Why disappoint yourself when the world around you does it almost daily.

You’re Not Advancing

I’m a firm believer that if whatever you are doing isn’t advancing you, it’s demoting you. I am often reminded of a the story of an old man who spent every single day in his rocking chair. He was convinced that just by sitting in the rocking chair he was making movement. Sadly, just because you’re moving doesn’t mean you’re going anywhere. The same holds true to repeatedly doing the same thing over and over again. Just because you’re doing something doesn’t mean it’s purposeful.

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Nobody Wants To Be The Insane Friend

You know the friend that everyone has, the one who often complains about everything that’s going wrong in their life yet they’re never willing to do anything to change it. If you don’t know who the insane friend in your life is, it might be you and nobody wants to be the insane friend.

You’ll Be Doing Yourself A Favor

We live in a world where we are often more concerned about what impacts others versus what impacts us. Living a life of doing the same thing but expecting different results is not only frustrating to those around you but if you give it enough time it’s guaranteed to drive you insane too. Do yourself a favor and stop making the same mistakes, the moment you do you are guaranteed to watch the quality of your life improve.

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Last Updated on July 16, 2019

7 Ways to Get Rid of Negative Energy and Become Positive

7 Ways to Get Rid of Negative Energy and Become Positive

Negativity affects ourselves and everyone around us. It limits our potential to become something great and live a fulfilling, purposeful life. Negativity has a tangible effect on our health, too. Research has shown that people who cultivate negative energy experience more stress, more sickness, and less opportunity over the course of their lives than those who choose to live positively.

When we make a decision to become positive, and follow that decision up with action, we will begin to encounter situations and people that are also positive. The negative energy gets edged out by all positive experiences. It’s a snowball effect.

Although negative and positive thoughts will always exist, the key to becoming positive is to limit the amount of negativity that we experience by filling ourselves up with more positivity.

Here are some ways to get rid of negativity and become more positive.

1. Become Grateful for Everything

When life is all about us, it’s easy to believe that we deserve what we have. An attitude of entitlement puts us at the center of the universe and sets up the unrealistic expectation that others should cater to us, our needs, and our wants. This vain state of existence is a surefire way to set yourself up for an unfulfilled life of negativity.

People living in this sort of entitlement are “energy suckers”–they are always searching for what they can get out of a situation. People that don’t appreciate the nuances of their lives live in a constant state of lacking. And it’s really difficult to live a positive life this way.

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When we begin to be grateful and appreciate everything in our lives–from the small struggles that make us better, to the car that gets us from A to B every day–we shift our attitude from one of selfishness, to one of appreciation. This appreciation gets noticed by others, and a positive harmony begins to form in our relationships.

We begin to receive more of that which we are grateful for, because we’ve opened ourselves up to the idea of receiving, instead of taking. This will make your life more fulfilling, and more positive.

2. Laugh More, Especially at Yourself

Life gets busy, our schedules fill up, we get into relationships, and work can feel task oriented and routine-driven at times. Being human can feel more like being a robot. But having this work-driven, serious attitude often results in negative and performance oriented thinking.

Becoming positive means taking life less seriously and letting yourself off the hook. This is the only life that you get to live, why not lighten up your mood?

Laughter helps us become positive by lightening our mood and reminding us not to take life so seriously. Are you sensitive to light sarcasm? Do you have trouble laughing at jokes? Usually, people who are stressed out and overly serious get most offended by sarcasm because their life is all work and no play.

If we can learn to laugh at ourselves and our mistakes, life will become more of an experiment in finding out what makes us happy. And finding happiness means finding positivity.

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3. Help Others

Negativity goes hand in hand with selfishness. People that live only for themselves have no higher purpose in their lives. If the whole point of this world is only to take care of yourself and no one else, the road to a long-term fulfillment and purpose is going to be a long one.

Positivity accompanies purpose. The most basic way to create purpose and positivity in your life is to begin doing things for others. Start small; open the door for the person in front of you at Starbucks or ask someone how their day was before telling them about yours.

Helping others will give you an intangible sense of value that will translate into positivity. And people might just appreciate you in the process.

4. Change Your Thinking

We can either be our best coach or our best enemy. Change starts from within. If you want to become more positive, change the wording of your thoughts. We are the hardest on ourselves, and a stream of negative self talk is corrosive to a positive life.

The next time you have a negative thought, write it down and rephrase it with a positive spin. For example, change a thought like, “I can’t believe I did so horribly on the test–I suck.” to “I didn’t do as well as I hoped to on this test. But I know I’m capable and I’ll do better next time.”

Changing our self-talk is powerful.

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5. Surround Yourself with Positive People

We become most like the people that we surround ourselves with. If our friend group is full of negative energy-suckers and drama queens, we will emulate that behavior and become like them. It is very difficult to become more positive when the people around us don’t support or demonstrate positive behavior.

As you become more positive, you’ll find that your existing friends will either appreciate the new you or they will become resistant to your positive changes. This is a natural response.

Change is scary; but cutting out the negative people in your life is a huge step to becoming more positive. Positive people reflect and bounce their perspectives onto one another. Positivity is a step-by-step process when you do it solo, but a positive group of friends can be an escalator.

6. Get into Action

Negative thoughts can be overwhelming and challenging to navigate. Negativity is usually accompanied by a “freak-out” response, especially when tied to relationships, people and to worrying about the future. This is debilitating to becoming positive and usually snowballs into more worry, more stress and more freak-outs.

Turn the negative stress into positive action. The next time you’re in one of these situations, walk away and take a break. With your eyes closed, take a few deep breaths. Once you’re calm, approach the situation or problem with a pen and pad of paper. Write out four or five actions or solutions to begin solving the problem.

Taking yourself out of the emotionally charged negative by moving into the action-oriented positive will help you solve more problems rationally and live in positivity

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7. Take Full Responsibility, Stop Being the Victim

You are responsible for your thoughts.

People that consistently believe that things happen to them handicap themselves to a victim mentality. This is a subtle and deceptive negative thought pattern. Phrases like “I have to work” or “I can’t believe he did that to me” are indicators of a victim mentality. Blaming circumstances and blaming others only handicaps our decision to change something negative into something positive.

Taking full responsibility for your life, your thoughts and your actions is one of the biggest steps in creating a more positive life. We have unlimited potential within to create our own reality, change our life, and change our thoughts. When we begin to really internalize this, we discover that no one can make us feel or do anything. We choose our emotional and behavioral response to people and circumstances.

Make positive choices in favor of yourself.

“Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habit. Watch your habits; they become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny” ― Lao Tzu

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