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Is Fear of Success Limiting Your Productivity?

Is Fear of Success Limiting Your Productivity?

    Most people will readily admit that they are afraid of failure.

    But what about fear of success? Is it possible that you are afraid of success and it’s limiting what you want to do in life?

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    Do you often wonder why you are not as successful as you know you could be – or should be?

    Do you blame it on circumstances? Time? Money? Or do you ever, gulp, blame it on yourself?

    No way…right?

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    The truth is a lot of people are afraid of a lot of things. And there is lots of good advice out there to help you overcome many types of fears. But when it comes to success, most people who are afraid of it are not even aware of it.

    So, how can you tell? How do you know if you’re one of those people who are afraid of success so you are unwittingly the one responsible for holding yourself back? CNN Money has a quiz you can take which includes the following questions:

    • Do you feel guilty about your own happiness if a friend tells you s/he is depressed?
    • Do you find yourself not telling others about your good luck so they won’t feel envious?
    • Do you have trouble saying no to people?
    • When you start a project do you suddenly find a bunch of others things you suddenly have to take care of?
    • Do you believe that people who look out for themselves are selfish?
    • Do you avoid asking for help because you’re afraid of bothering someone?

    Did you answer “yes” to some of those questions? If you did, it’s entirely possible you’re afraid of success. But does it really matter? Is your fear really limiting you?

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    People who are afraid of achieving success can experience the following:

    • A noted lack of effort in achieving goals, personal, school, or financial
    • Self-destructive behavior
    • Inability to make decisions and choices
    • Lack of motivation
    • Underachievement
    • Belittling your achievements
    • Feeling guilty when you do succeed
    • Making the “wrong” choices to ensure you will not be happy and successful
    • General negativity

    Clearly the answer is if you fear success then your life is less than it could be.

    But what can you do? What can you do to overcome success-fear so you can get on with creating the life you want to live?

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    Step One

    You can begin with taking about 10 minutes to examine an area of your life where you are not as successful as you would like, or know you can be. Ask yourself, what will happen if you really succeed in that area. Be realistic in your considerations and don’t forget to examine the “downside” of success in that area. For instance, if you lose weight will you suddenly get noticed in ways that feel stressful? Will you have to spend a lot of money you don’t have on new clothes? Make a list of everything that comes to your mind.

    Step Two

    • After the examination period, ask and answer the following
    • What can you do to accept yourself as successful?
    • What can you do to eliminate your “excuses?”
    • Who can you call on to give you honest feedback when you go into self-destruct mode?
    • What can you do to keep a closer eye on your motivations and commitment’s to goals so you can more quickly get back on track?
    • What can you do to learn to accept compliments and recognition?

    Step Three

    This is the most important step of all. We often tend to put ourselves around like-minded people without even realizing it and that makes it even harder to break a pattern. So go out of your way to surround yourself with successful people rather than others who may also fear success. Start today.

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    Last Updated on September 20, 2018

    How to Stay Calm and Cool When You Are Extremely Stressful

    How to Stay Calm and Cool When You Are Extremely Stressful

    Being in a hurry all the time drains your energy. Your work and routine life make you feel overwhelmed. Getting caught up in things beyond your control stresses you out…

    If you’d like to stay calm and cool in stressful situations, put the following 8 steps into practice:

    1. Breathe

    The next time you’re faced with a stressful situation that makes you want to hurry, stop what you’re doing for one minute and perform the following steps:

    • Take five deep breaths in and out (your belly should come forward with each inhale).
    • Imagine all that stress leaving your body with each exhale.
    • Smile. Fake it if you have to. It’s pretty hard to stay grumpy with a goofy grin on your face.

    Feel free to repeat the above steps every few hours at work or home if you need to.

    2. Loosen up

    After your breathing session, perform a quick body scan to identify any areas that are tight or tense. Clenched jaw? Rounded shoulders? Anything else that isn’t at ease?

    Gently touch or massage any of your body parts that are under tension to encourage total relaxation. It might help to imagine you’re in a place that calms you: a beach, hot tub, or nature trail, for example.

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    3. Chew slowly

    Slow down at the dinner table if you want to learn to be patient and lose weight. Shoveling your food down as fast as you can is a surefire way to eat more than you need to (and find yourself with a bellyache).

    Be a mindful eater who pays attention to the taste, texture, and aroma of every dish. Chew slowly while you try to guess all of the ingredients that were used to prepare your dish.

    Chewing slowly will also reduce those dreadful late-night cravings that sneak up on you after work.

    4. Let go

    Cliche as it sounds, it’s very effective.

    The thing that seems like the end of the world right now?

    It’s not. Promise.

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    Stressing and worrying about the situation you’re in won’t do any good because you’re already in it, so just let it go.

    Letting go isn’t easy, so here’s a guide to help you:

    21 Things To Do When You Find It Hard To Let Go

    5. Enjoy the journey

    Focusing on the end result can quickly become exhausting. Chasing a bold, audacious goal that’s going to require a lot of time and patience? Split it into several mini-goals so you’ll have several causes for celebration.

    Stop focusing on the negative thoughts. Giving yourself consistent positive feedback will help you grow patience, stay encouraged, and find more joy in the process of achieving your goals.

    6. Look at the big picture

    The next time you find your stress level skyrocketing, take a deep breath, and ask yourself:

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    Will this matter to me…

    • Next week?
    • Next month?
    • Next year?
    • In 10 years?

    Hint: No, it won’t.

    I bet most of the stuff that stresses you wouldn’t matter the next week, maybe not even the next day.

    Stop agonizing over things you can’t control because you’re only hurting yourself.

    7. Stop demanding perfection of yourself

    You’re not perfect and that’s okay. Show me a person who claims to be perfect and I’ll show you a dirty liar.

    Demanding perfection of yourself (or anybody else) will only stress you out because it just isn’t possible.

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    8. Practice patience every day

    Below are a few easy ways you can practice patience every day, increasing your ability to remain calm and cool in times of stress:

    • The next time you go to the grocery store, get in the longest line.
    • Instead of going through the drive-thru at your bank, go inside.
    • Take a long walk through a secluded park or trail.

    Final thoughts

    Staying calm in stressful situations is possible, all you need is some daily practice.

    Taking deep breaths and eat mindfully are some simple ways to train your brain to be more patient. But changing the way you think of a situation and staying positive are most important in keeping cool whenever you feel overwhelmed and stressful.

    Featured photo credit: Brooke Cagle via unsplash.com

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