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Is Fear of Success Limiting Your Productivity?

Is Fear of Success Limiting Your Productivity?

    Most people will readily admit that they are afraid of failure.

    But what about fear of success? Is it possible that you are afraid of success and it’s limiting what you want to do in life?

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    Do you often wonder why you are not as successful as you know you could be – or should be?

    Do you blame it on circumstances? Time? Money? Or do you ever, gulp, blame it on yourself?

    No way…right?

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    The truth is a lot of people are afraid of a lot of things. And there is lots of good advice out there to help you overcome many types of fears. But when it comes to success, most people who are afraid of it are not even aware of it.

    So, how can you tell? How do you know if you’re one of those people who are afraid of success so you are unwittingly the one responsible for holding yourself back? CNN Money has a quiz you can take which includes the following questions:

    • Do you feel guilty about your own happiness if a friend tells you s/he is depressed?
    • Do you find yourself not telling others about your good luck so they won’t feel envious?
    • Do you have trouble saying no to people?
    • When you start a project do you suddenly find a bunch of others things you suddenly have to take care of?
    • Do you believe that people who look out for themselves are selfish?
    • Do you avoid asking for help because you’re afraid of bothering someone?

    Did you answer “yes” to some of those questions? If you did, it’s entirely possible you’re afraid of success. But does it really matter? Is your fear really limiting you?

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    People who are afraid of achieving success can experience the following:

    • A noted lack of effort in achieving goals, personal, school, or financial
    • Self-destructive behavior
    • Inability to make decisions and choices
    • Lack of motivation
    • Underachievement
    • Belittling your achievements
    • Feeling guilty when you do succeed
    • Making the “wrong” choices to ensure you will not be happy and successful
    • General negativity

    Clearly the answer is if you fear success then your life is less than it could be.

    But what can you do? What can you do to overcome success-fear so you can get on with creating the life you want to live?

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    Step One

    You can begin with taking about 10 minutes to examine an area of your life where you are not as successful as you would like, or know you can be. Ask yourself, what will happen if you really succeed in that area. Be realistic in your considerations and don’t forget to examine the “downside” of success in that area. For instance, if you lose weight will you suddenly get noticed in ways that feel stressful? Will you have to spend a lot of money you don’t have on new clothes? Make a list of everything that comes to your mind.

    Step Two

    • After the examination period, ask and answer the following
    • What can you do to accept yourself as successful?
    • What can you do to eliminate your “excuses?”
    • Who can you call on to give you honest feedback when you go into self-destruct mode?
    • What can you do to keep a closer eye on your motivations and commitment’s to goals so you can more quickly get back on track?
    • What can you do to learn to accept compliments and recognition?

    Step Three

    This is the most important step of all. We often tend to put ourselves around like-minded people without even realizing it and that makes it even harder to break a pattern. So go out of your way to surround yourself with successful people rather than others who may also fear success. Start today.

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    Last Updated on May 15, 2019

    How to Tap Into the Power of Positivity

    How to Tap Into the Power of Positivity

    As it appears, the human mind is not capable of not thinking, at least on the subconscious level. Our mind is always occupied by thoughts, whether we want to or not, and they influence our every action.

    “Happiness cannot come from without, it comes from within.” – Helen Keller

    When we are still children, our thoughts seem to be purely positive. Have you ever been around a 4-year old who doesn’t like a painting he or she drew? I haven’t. Instead, I see glee, exciting and pride in children’s eyes. But as the years go by, we clutter our mind with doubts, fears and self-deprecating thoughts.

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    Just imagine then how much we limit ourselves in every aspect of our lives if we give negative thoughts too much power! We’ll never go after that job we’ve always wanted because our nay-saying thoughts make us doubt our abilities. We’ll never ask that person we like out on a date because we always think we’re not good enough.

    We’ll never risk quitting our job in order to pursue the life and the work of our dreams because we can’t get over our mental barrier that insists we’re too weak, too unimportant and too dumb. We’ll never lose those pounds that risk our health because we believe we’re not capable of pushing our limits. We’ll never be able to fully see our inner potential because we simply don’t dare to question the voices in our head.

    But enough is enough! It’s time to stop these limiting beliefs and come to a place of sanity, love and excitement about life, work and ourselves.

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    So…how exactly are we to achieve that?

    It’s not as hard as it may seem; you just have to practice, practice, practice. Here are a few ideas on how you can get started.

    1. Learn to substitute every negative thought with a positive one.

    Every time a negative thought crawls into your mind, replace it with a positive thought. It’s just like someone writes a phrase you don’t like on a blackboard and then you get up, erase it and write something much more to your liking.

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    2. See the positive side of every situation, even when you are surrounded by pure negativity.

    This one is a bit harder to put into practice, which does not mean it’s impossible.

    You can find positivity in everything by mentally holding on to something positive, whether this be family, friends, your faith, nature, someone’s sparkling eyes or whatever other glimmer of beauty. If you seek it, you will find it.

    3. At least once a day, take a moment and think of 5 things you are grateful for.

    This will lighten your mood and give you some perspective of what is really important in life and how many blessings surround you already.

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    4. Change the mental images you allow to enter your mind.

    How you see yourself and your surroundings make a huge difference to your thinking. It is like watching a DVD that saddens and frustrates you, completely pulling you down. Eject that old DVD, throw it away and insert a new, better, more hopeful one instead.

    So, instead of dwelling on dark, negative thoughts, consciously build and focus on positive, light and colorful images, thoughts and situations in your mind a few times a day.

    If you are persistent and keep on working on yourself, your mind will automatically reject its negative thoughts and welcome the positive ones.

    And remember: You are (or will become) what you think you are. This is reason enough to be proactive about whatever is going on in your head.

    Featured photo credit: Kyaw Tun via unsplash.com

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