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How to Tie a Tie Like an Expert

How to Tie a Tie Like an Expert

If you’re a man, tying a tie is going to come up. Aside from weddings and funerals, you’ll look good if you wear one at work regardless of the dress code. Prepare yourself for life with 12 ways to tie a tie like an expert.

1. Four in Hand

Lay the tie around your neck with the wide end about 12 inches lower than the narrow end of the tie.

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    Cross the wide end of the tie over the front of narrow end.

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      Cross the wide end back underneath the narrow end.

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        Cross back over the front of the narrow end again.

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          Bring the wide end up behind the back of the loop.

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            Pull the wide end down through the front knot.

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              Fix any twists, wrinkles, and folds, then tighten the knot and hold the narrow end, while sliding the knot up the narrow end. Fold your collar down, and take a selfie.

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                Don’t forget to smile… ;)

                2. Windsor

                Lay the tie around your neck with the wide end about 18 inches lower than the narrow end of the tie.

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                  Cross the wide part of the tie over the narrow end.

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                    Cross the wide end up and through the back of the loop and pull to the right.

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                      Bring the wide end back up behind the knot and to the left.

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                        Bring the wide end up in front of the loop and drop down through the back of the loop.

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                          Pull the wide end to the right.

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                            Cross the wide part of the tie over the narrow end.

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                              Bring the wide end up and through the back of the loop.

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                                Pull the wide end down and pass through the loop to form the knot.

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                                  Fix any twists, wrinkles, and folds, then tighten the knot and hold the narrow end, while sliding the knot up the narrow end. Fold your collar down, and take a selfie…

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                                    “Get yourself a car and ride it on the wind” – Chris Cornell

                                    3. Nicky

                                    Lay the tie around your neck with the wide end about 8 inches below the narrow end. Make sure the tie is backwards (with the label facing out).

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                                      Cross the narrow end of the tie over front of the wide end.

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                                        Bring the wide end up over top of the narrow end.

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                                          Pull the wide end down behind the loop and to the right.

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                                            Cross the wide end over the front of the knot.

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                                              Bring the wide end up behind the back of the narrow end

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                                                Pull the wide end down through the loop to form the knot. Fix any twists, wrinkles, and folds, then tighten the knot and hold the narrow end, while sliding the knot up the narrow end. Fold your collar down, and take a selfie.

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                                                  “You’re the best around! Nothing’s gonna ever keep you down” – Joe Esposito

                                                  4. Half-Windsor

                                                  Lay the tie around your neck with the wide end about 12 inches lower than the narrow end of the tie.

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                                                    Cross the wide part of the tie over front of the narrow end.

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                                                      Bring the wide end back underneath the narrow end to the left.

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                                                        Lift the wide end up in front of the loop and drop down through the back of the loop.

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                                                          Pull the wide end to the right.

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                                                            Cross the wide part of the tie over the front of the knot.

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                                                              Bring the wide end up and through the back of the loop.

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                                                                Pull the wide end down through the loop to form the knot. Fix any twists, wrinkles, and folds, then tighten the knot and hold the narrow end, while sliding the knot up the narrow end. Fold your collar down, and take a selfie.

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                                                                  Any man with a microphone can tell you what he loves the most…” – Jack White

                                                                  5. Grantchester

                                                                  Lay the tie around your neck with the wide end about 16 inches below the narrow end. Make sure the tie is backwards (with the label facing out).

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                                                                    Cross the narrow end of the tie over front of the wide end.

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                                                                      Cross the wide end over the narrow end.

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                                                                         Cross the wide end under the knot to the other side.

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                                                                          Cross the wide part of the tie over the front of the knot.

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                                                                            Bring the wide end up and through the back of the loop.

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                                                                              Pull the wide end down and pass the loop in front and to the right.

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                                                                                Cross the wide end under the knot to the opposite side.

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                                                                                  Cross the wide part of the tie over the front of the knot.

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                                                                                    Bring the wide end up and through the back of the loop.

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                                                                                      Pull the wide end down through the loop to form the knot. Fix any twists, wrinkles, and folds, then tighten the knot and hold the narrow end, while sliding the knot up the narrow end. Fold your collar down, and take a selfie.

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                                                                                        Dark Knight feeling, die and be a hero. Or live long enough to see yourself become a villain…” – S. Carter

                                                                                        6. Balthus

                                                                                        Lay the tie around your neck with the wide end about 18 inches below the narrow end. Make sure the tie is backwards (with the label facing out).

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                                                                                          Cross the narrow end of the tie over front of the wide end.

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                                                                                             Bring the wide end up over top of the narrow end.

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                                                                                              Pull the wide end down behind the loop and to the right.

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                                                                                                Bring the wide end up and over the front of the knot.

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                                                                                                  Pull the wide end down behind the loop and to the left.

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                                                                                                    Bring the wide end up and over the front of the knot.

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                                                                                                      Pull the wide end down behind the knot and to the right.

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                                                                                                        Cross the wide part of the tie over the front of the knot.

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                                                                                                          Bring the wide end up behind the knot.

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                                                                                                            Pull the wide end down through the loop to form the knot. Fix any twists, wrinkles, and folds, then tighten the knot and hold the narrow end, while sliding the knot up the narrow end. Fold your collar down, and take a selfie.

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                                                                                                              “There’s room at the top I’m telling you still, but first you must learn how to smile as you kill…” – John Lennon

                                                                                                              7. Kelvin

                                                                                                              Lay the tie around your neck with the wide end about 8 inches below the narrow end. Make sure the tie is backwards (with the label facing out). Cross the narrow end of the tie over front of the wide end.

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                                                                                                                Cross the wide end over the narrow end.

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                                                                                                                  Cross the wide end under the knot to the other side.

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                                                                                                                    Cross the wide part of the tie over the front of the knot.

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                                                                                                                      Bring the wide end up and through the back of the loop.

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                                                                                                                        Pull the wide end down through the loop to form the knot. Fix any twists, wrinkles, and folds, then tighten the knot and hold the narrow end, while sliding the knot up the narrow end. Fold your collar down, and take a selfie.

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                                                                                                                          I’m a slave to myself and disobey my boss…” – Lupe Fiasco  

                                                                                                                          8. St Andrew

                                                                                                                          Lay the tie around your neck with the wide end about 8 inches below the narrow end. Make sure the tie is backwards (with the label facing out).

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                                                                                                                            Cross the narrow end of the tie over front of the wide end.

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                                                                                                                              Cross the wide end over the front of the narrow end.

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                                                                                                                                Cross the wide end behind the knot to the other side.

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                                                                                                                                   Bring the wide end up over the front of the knot.

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                                                                                                                                     Pull the wide end down behind the knot and to the right.

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                                                                                                                                      Cross the wide end over the front of the narrow end.

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                                                                                                                                        Bring the wide end up behind the knot.

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                                                                                                                                          Pull the wide end down through the loop to form the knot. Fix any twists, wrinkles, and folds, then tighten the knot and hold the narrow end, while sliding the knot up the narrow end. Fold your collar down, and take a selfie.

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                                                                                                                                            “Victory consistently – train all year to be the enemies misery. No stress visibly neither does it enter me. I think positively. You cant harm me mentally…” – Dwayne Carter Jr.

                                                                                                                                            9. Victoria

                                                                                                                                            Lay the tie around your neck with the wide end about 8 inches below the narrow end.

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                                                                                                                                              Cross the wide end of the tie over the front of the narrow end.

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                                                                                                                                                Cross the wide end behind the loop to the other side.

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                                                                                                                                                  Cross the wide end over the front of the knot to the other side.

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                                                                                                                                                    Cross the wide end behind the knot to the other side.

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                                                                                                                                                      Cross the wide end over the front of the knot to the other side.

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                                                                                                                                                        Bring the wide end up behind the back of the knot.

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                                                                                                                                                          Pull the wide end down through the loop to form the knot. Fix any twists, wrinkles, and folds, then tighten the knot and hold the narrow end, while sliding the knot up the narrow end. Fold your collar down, and take a selfie.

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                                                                                                                                                            “You want to succeed you have to try or one day you’ll get older, and regret it all cause you can’t provide…” – Marcus Hopsin

                                                                                                                                                             

                                                                                                                                                            10. Hanover

                                                                                                                                                            Lay the tie around your neck with the wide end about 12 inches below the narrow end. Make sure the tie is backwards (with the label facing out).

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                                                                                                                                                              Cross the narrow end of the tie over the front of the wide end.

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                                                                                                                                                                Cross the wide end over the front of the knot to the other side.

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                                                                                                                                                                  Bring the wide end up behind the back of the knot.

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                                                                                                                                                                    Pull the wide end down over the front of the knot and to the left.

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                                                                                                                                                                      Cross the wide end behind the back of the knot to the other side.

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                                                                                                                                                                        Bring the wide end up over the front of the knot.

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                                                                                                                                                                           Pull the wide end down behind the back of the knot to the left.

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                                                                                                                                                                             Cross the wide end over the front of the knot to the other side.

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                                                                                                                                                                              Bring the wide end up behind the back of the knot.

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                                                                                                                                                                                Pull the wide end down through the loop to form the knot. Fix any twists, wrinkles, and folds, then tighten the knot and hold the narrow end, while sliding the knot up the narrow end. Fold your collar down, and take a selfie.

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                                                                                                                                                                                  “Bow-wow-yippie-yo-yippie-yay. Bow-wow-wow-yippie-yo-yippie-yeah” – George Clinton

                                                                                                                                                                                  11. Shelby (Pratt)

                                                                                                                                                                                  Lay the tie around your neck with the wide end about 8 inches below the narrow end. Make sure the tie is backwards (with the label facing out).

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                                                                                                                                                                                    Cross the narrow end of the tie over front of the wide end.

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                                                                                                                                                                                      Bring the wide end up over top of the loop.

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                                                                                                                                                                                         Pull the wide end down and to the left.

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                                                                                                                                                                                          Cross the wide part of the tie over the front of the knot.

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                                                                                                                                                                                            Bring the wide end up and through the back of the loop.

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                                                                                                                                                                                              Pull the wide end down through the loop to form the knot. Fix any twists, wrinkles, and folds, then tighten the knot and hold the narrow end, while sliding the knot up the narrow end. Fold your collar down, and take a selfie.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                “It’s hard being young from the slums, eatin five cent gums, not knowin where your meals comin from” – Christopher Wallace

                                                                                                                                                                                                12. Cavendish

                                                                                                                                                                                                Lay the tie around your neck with the wide end about 12 inches below the narrow end.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                  Cross the wide end of the tie over the front of narrow end.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                     Cross the wide end underneath the narrow end to the other side.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                      Cross the wide end over the front of the loop.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                        Bring the wide end up behind the back of the knot.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                          Pull the wide end down over the front of the knot and to the right.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                            Cross the wide end behind the back of the knot to the other side.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                              Cross the wide end up over the front of the knot.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                Bring the wide end up behind the back of the knot.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                  Pull the wide end down through the loop to form the knot. Fix any twists, wrinkles, and folds, then tighten the knot and hold the narrow end, while sliding the knot up the narrow end. Fold your collar down, and take a selfie…

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                    “Put the gloves on, sparring with my ego. Everyone’s greatest obstacle, I beat ’em,,,” – Ben Haggerty

                                                                                                                                                                                                                    General Tips:

                                                                                                                                                                                                                    When you’re finished, the wide end of your tie should barely touch your belt buckle.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Untie your tie every night before storage to prevent wrinkles.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                    You should own at least 5 ties: 1 Solid Black, 1 Solid Red, 3 Misc

                                                                                                                                                                                                                    You can purchase ties for $1-$5 at any thrift shop, clothing exchange, Salvation Army, Goodwill, etc.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Always wear a tie to an interview, and if nobody else is wearing a tie at work, be the only guy doing it.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Only wear a tie on a date if it’s required where you’re going.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                    The Best Way to Create a Vision for the Life You Want

                                                                                                                                                                                                                    The Best Way to Create a Vision for the Life You Want

                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Creating a vision for your life might seem like a frivolous, fantastical waste of time, but it’s not: creating a compelling vision of the life you want is actually one of the most effective strategies for achieving the life of your dreams. Perhaps the best way to look at the concept of a life vision is as a compass to help guide you to take the best actions and make the right choices that help propel you toward your best life.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                    your vision of where or who you want to be is the greatest asset you have

                                                                                                                                                                                                                      Why You Need a Vision

                                                                                                                                                                                                                      Experts and life success stories support the idea that with a vision in mind, you are more likely to succeed far beyond what you could otherwise achieve without a clear vision. Think of crafting your life vision as mapping a path to your personal and professional dreams. Life satisfaction and personal happiness are within reach. The harsh reality is that if you don’t develop your own vision, you’ll allow other people and circumstances to direct the course of your life.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                      How to Create Your Life Vision

                                                                                                                                                                                                                      Don’t expect a clear and well-defined vision overnight—envisioning your life and determining the course you will follow requires time, and reflection. You need to cultivate vision and perspective, and you also need to apply logic and planning for the practical application of your vision. Your best vision blossoms from your dreams, hopes, and aspirations. It will resonate with your values and ideals, and will generate energy and enthusiasm to help strengthen your commitment to explore the possibilities of your life.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                      What Do You Want?

                                                                                                                                                                                                                      The question sounds deceptively simple, but it’s often the most difficult to answer. Allowing yourself to explore your deepest desires can be very frightening. You may also not think you have the time to consider something as fanciful as what you want out of life, but it’s important to remind yourself that a life of fulfillment does not usually happen by chance, but by design.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                      It’s helpful to ask some thought-provoking questions to help you discover the possibilities of what you want out of life. Consider every aspect of your life, personal and professional, tangible and intangible. Contemplate all the important areas, family and friends, career and success, health and quality of life, spiritual connection and personal growth, and don’t forget about fun and enjoyment.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                      Some tips to guide you:

                                                                                                                                                                                                                      • Remember to ask why you want certain things
                                                                                                                                                                                                                      • Think about what you want, not on what you don’t want.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                      • Give yourself permission to dream.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                      • Be creative. Consider ideas that you never thought possible.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                      • Focus on your wishes, not what others expect of you.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                      Some questions to start your exploration:

                                                                                                                                                                                                                      • What really matters to you in life? Not what should matter, what does matter.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                      • What would you like to have more of in your life?
                                                                                                                                                                                                                      • Set aside money for a moment; what do you want in your career?
                                                                                                                                                                                                                      • What are your secret passions and dreams?
                                                                                                                                                                                                                      • What would bring more joy and happiness into your life?
                                                                                                                                                                                                                      • What do you want your relationships to be like?
                                                                                                                                                                                                                      • What qualities would you like to develop?
                                                                                                                                                                                                                      • What are your values? What issues do you care about?
                                                                                                                                                                                                                      • What are your talents? What’s special about you?
                                                                                                                                                                                                                      • What would you most like to accomplish?
                                                                                                                                                                                                                      • What would legacy would you like to leave behind?

                                                                                                                                                                                                                      It may be helpful to write your thoughts down in a journal or creative vision board if you’re the creative type. Add your own questions, and ask others what they want out of life. Relax and make this exercise fun. You may want to set your answers aside for a while and come back to them later to see if any have changed or if you have anything to add.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                      What Would Your Best Life Look Like?

                                                                                                                                                                                                                      Describe your ideal life in detail. Allow yourself to dream and imagine, and create a vivid picture. If you can’t visualize a picture, focus on how your best life would feel. If you find it difficult to envision your life 20 or 30 years from now, start with five years—even a few years into the future will give you a place to start. What you see may surprise you. Set aside preconceived notions. This is your chance to dream and fantasize.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                      A few prompts to get you started:

                                                                                                                                                                                                                      • What will you have accomplished already?
                                                                                                                                                                                                                      • How will you feel about yourself?
                                                                                                                                                                                                                      • What kind of people are in your life? How do you feel about them?
                                                                                                                                                                                                                      • What does your ideal day look like?
                                                                                                                                                                                                                      • Where are you? Where do you live? Think specifics, what city, state, or country, type of community, house or an apartment, style and atmosphere.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                      • What would you be doing?
                                                                                                                                                                                                                      • Are you with another person, a group of people, or are you by yourself?
                                                                                                                                                                                                                      • How are you dressed?
                                                                                                                                                                                                                      • What’s your state of mind? Happy or sad? Contented or frustrated?
                                                                                                                                                                                                                      • What does your physical body look like? How do you feel about that?
                                                                                                                                                                                                                      • Does your best life make you smile and make your heart sing? If it doesn’t, dig deeper, dream bigger.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                      It’s important to focus on the result, or at least a way-point in your life. Don’t think about the process for getting there yet—that’s the next stepGive yourself permission to revisit this vision every day, even if only for a few minutes. Keep your vision alive and in the front of your mind.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                      Plan Backwards

                                                                                                                                                                                                                      It may sound counter-intuitive to plan backwards rather than forwards, but when you’re planning your life from the end result, it’s often more useful to consider the last step and work your way back to the first. This is actually a valuable and practical strategy for making your vision a reality.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                      • What’s the last thing that would’ve had to happen to achieve your best life?
                                                                                                                                                                                                                      • What’s the most important choice you would’ve had to make?
                                                                                                                                                                                                                      • What would you have needed to learn along the way?
                                                                                                                                                                                                                      • What important actions would you have had to take?
                                                                                                                                                                                                                      • What beliefs would you have needed to change?
                                                                                                                                                                                                                      • What habits or behaviors would you have had to cultivate?
                                                                                                                                                                                                                      • What type of support would you have had to enlist?
                                                                                                                                                                                                                      • How long will it have taken you to realize your best life?
                                                                                                                                                                                                                      • What steps or milestones would you have needed to reach along the way?

                                                                                                                                                                                                                      Now it’s time to think about your first step, and the next step after that. Ponder the gap between where you are now and where you want to be in the future. It may seem impossible, but it’s quite achievable if you take it step-by-step.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                      It’s important to revisit this vision from time to time. Don’t be surprised if your answers to the questions, your technicolor vision, and the resulting plans change. That can actually be a very good thing; as you change in unforeseeable ways, the best life you envision will change as well. For now, it’s important to use the process, create your vision, and take the first step towards making that vision a reality.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                      Featured photo credit: Matt Noble via unsplash.com

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