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15 Reasons Why You Have No Time to Relax and Have Fun

15 Reasons Why You Have No Time to Relax and Have Fun

Do you think that you have no time to catch up on your favorite TV series, go out with your friends on the weekend, or just sit around relaxing around doing nothing? You might have a boatload of time at your disposal, but don’t even know it!

Here are 15 reasons as to why you might be crunched for some R&R:

1. Your workplace is full of distractions.

Chatty coworkers, silly desk toys and emails of cute cats can put a damper on your ability to get things done. Eliminate distractions in your workspace by using noise-cancelling headphones or purchasing a white noise machine, work in a different area of the office or ask for a workspace reassignment, or log off of email or the internet completely when working.

2. You say “Yes” to everything that comes your way.

You don’t have to always say yes to everything that comes your way, be it an invite to a party or function, a question or even a chance to do something completely out of the blue. Think twice before saying yes to something – you have the power to control your schedule and your time.

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3. You mistake work time for playtime.

You say you’re working, but you’re playing yet another level of Candy Crush Saga…which one is it? Work or play? Playing during work time adds more time to your day and messes up your schedule. If you just sat down and worked, you’d be done so much sooner than if you stopped to play.

4. You don’t commit to scheduling meetings and appointments.

Not committing to meetings or appointments creates more work, effort and wasted time. Stop being wishy-washy when you receive an invite: you’ll either attend or not.

5. You don’t book your vacation well enough in advance.

Your vacation days are racking up at work, you’re feeling drained and the year’s almost finished. Why didn’t you put in that vacation request months ago? Take action and be sure to book your vacations in advance, you’ll be happy you did in six months’ time!

6. You watch the clock too much.

Counting all the minutes and seconds in your day isn’t healthy time management. If you’re constantly looking at or managing your schedule, you’re using up all your time: work and play time included.

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7. You get caught up in other people’s business and drama.

“I heard Joey had this terrible truck accident last weekend, broke both arms, and has to settle things in court… plus his wife’s threatening to leave him and take the kids with her…” Blah, blah, blah. The gossip mills will always be turning with information that really isn’t useful to your life. Step away from the gossip and instead spend your time on yourself and creating a life you love. 

8. You make mountains out of molehills.

You just broke the heel on your favorite pair of shoes! Your day is ruined…or is it? There’s no reason to waste time getting caught up on little things that can be fixed. Get the item fixed and move on with your life.

9. You check your smart phone every three minutes.

Constantly checking email, text messages, social media all adds up over time, especially if you are trying to relax. Put down the phone—or better yet, shut it off completely to prevent yourself from checking in every few minutes.

10. You volunteer too much of your personal time.

Do you go out of your way to volunteer your time even when it isn’t asked for? Sure, helping people out is good, but being burned out and bitter is not. Strike a balance as to how much of your free time you’ll volunteer or donate to your favorite causes per month.

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11. You participate in too many hobbies, clubs or extracurricular activities.

You signed up for yoga, Spanish lessons, pastry making, juggling lessons and antique cabinetry classes… every week! Stretching yourself thin is never good, especially when you were trying to relax in the first place. Narrow down your activities to one or two to keep things in check.

12. You wake up late.

Trying to squeeze more time in your day after a late start? Unfortunately relaxation and fun time are the first two things to get cut when you have a late start. Give yourself time to relax by getting a good night’s rest and waking up at the time you’re supposed to wake up.

13. You don’t plan your day.

A day without plans can quickly turn into a day of doing things for other people, or doing things that aren’t really necessary, thereby wasting your time even more. Get started by jotting down at three tasks that must get done for tomorrow, as well as when you’ll stop working so you can rest and relax.

14. You feel everything you do has to be perfect or “just so.”

Perfectionism can kill time in an instant. This isn’t to say you should do sloppy or incomplete work, but pick and choose your battles where you can do things well, better, and best.

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15. You tell yourself you have no time to relax and have fun.

Ahh, the classic case of self-sabotage. If you constantly tell yourself you don’t have any time for relaxing or fun, pretty soon you’ll believe it one hundred percent. Be adamant about finding times to relax and have fun: delegate work, rework your schedule, or give up that nonessential volunteer position.

Which of the above reasons ring true to you and your perception of not having enough time? Leave a comment below.

 

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Last Updated on January 3, 2020

The 10 Essential Habits of Positive People

The 10 Essential Habits of Positive People

Are you waiting for life events to turn out the way you want so that you can feel more positive about your life? Do you find yourself having pre-conditions to your sense of well-being, thinking that certain things must happen for you to be happier? Do you think there is no way that your life stresses can make you anything other than “stressed out” and that other people just don’t understand?  If your answer is “yes” to any of these questions, you might find yourself lingering in the land of negativity for too long!

The following are some tips to keep positive no matter what comes your way. This post will help you stop looking for what psychologists call “positivity” in all the wrong places!  Here are the ten essential habits of positive people.

1. Positive people don’t confuse quitting with letting go.

Instead of hanging on to ideas, beliefs, and even people that are no longer healthy for them, they trust their judgement to let go of negative forces in their lives.  Especially in terms of relationships, they subscribe to The Relationship Prayer which goes:

 I will grant myself the ability to trust the healthy people in my life … 

To set limits with, or let go of, the negative ones … 

And to have the wisdom to know the DIFFERENCE!

 2.  Positive people don’t just have a good day – they make a good day.

Waiting, hoping and wishing seldom have a place in the vocabulary of positive individuals. Rather, they use strong words that are pro-active and not reactive. Passivity leads to a lack of involvement, while positive people get very involved in constructing their lives. They work to make changes to feel better in tough times rather than wish their feelings away.

3. For the positive person, the past stays in the past.

Good and bad memories alike stay where they belong – in the past where they happened. They don’t spend much time pining for the good ol’ days because they are too busy making new memories now. The negative pulls from the past are used not for self-flagellation or unproductive regret, but rather productive regret where they use lessons learned as stepping stones towards a better future.

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4. Show me a positive person and I can show you a grateful person.

The most positive people are the most grateful people.  They do not focus on the potholes of their lives.  They focus on the pot of gold that awaits them every day, with new smells, sights, feelings and experiences.  They see life as a treasure chest full of wonder.

5. Rather than being stuck in their limitations, positive people are energized by their possibilities.

Optimistic people focus on what they can do, not what they can’t do.  They are not fooled to think that there is a perfect solution to every problem, and are confident that there are many solutions and possibilities.  They are not afraid to attempt new solutions to old problems, rather than spin their wheels expecting things to be different this time.  They refuse to be like Charlie Brown expecting that this time Lucy will not pull the football from him!

6. Positive people do not let their fears interfere with their lives!

Positive people have observed that those who are defined and pulled back by their fears never really truly live a full life. While proceeding with appropriate caution, they do not let fear keep them from trying new things. They realize that even failures are necessary steps for a successful life. They have confidence that they can get back up when they are knocked down by life events or their own mistakes, due to a strong belief in their personal resilience.

7. Positive people smile a lot!

When you feel positive on the inside it is like you are smiling from within, and these smiles are contagious. Furthermore, the more others are with positive people, the more they tend to smile too! They see the lightness in life, and have a sense of humor even when it is about themselves. Positive people have a high degree of self-respect, but refuse to take themselves too seriously!

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8. People who are positive are great communicators.

They realize that assertive, confident communication is the only way to connect with others in everyday life.  They avoid judgmental, angry interchanges, and do not let someone else’s blow up give them a reason to react in kind. Rather, they express themselves with tact and finesse.  They also refuse to be non-assertive and let people push them around. They refuse to own problems that belong to someone else.

9. Positive people realize that if you live long enough, there are times for great pain and sadness.

One of the most common misperceptions about positive people is that to be positive, you must always be happy. This can not be further from the truth. Anyone who has any depth at all is certainly not happy all the time.  Being sad, angry, disappointed are all essential emotions in life. How else would you ever develop empathy for others if you lived a life of denial and shallow emotions? Positive people do not run from the gamut of emotions, and accept that part of the healing process is to allow themselves to experience all types of feelings, not only the happy ones. A positive person always holds the hope that there is light at the end of the darkness.  

10. Positive person are empowered people – they refuse to blame others and are not victims in life.

Positive people seek the help and support of others who are supportive and safe.They limit interactions with those who are toxic in any manner, even if it comes to legal action and physical estrangement such as in the case of abuse. They have identified their own basic human rights, and they respect themselves too much to play the part of a victim. There is no place for holding grudges with a positive mindset. Forgiveness helps positive people become better, not bitter.

How about you?  How many habits of positive people do you personally find in yourself?  If you lack even a few of these 10 essential habits, you might find that the expected treasure at the end of the rainbow was not all that it was cracked up to be. How could it — if you keep on bringing a negative attitude around?

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I wish you well in keeping positive, because as we all know, there is certainly nothing positive about being negative!

Featured photo credit: Janaína Castelo Branco via flickr.com

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