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The 6 Simplest Ways To Free Yourself

The 6 Simplest Ways To Free Yourself

Are you at a place where all you need is a lifeline? A little freedom? Are you saying, “Calgon, take me away!” Believe me, I know the feeling. We can do so much for so many and still feel bound in chains to the world, to our surroundings, to our circumstances, and even to ourselves. Isn’t it time to free yourself? Just doing even a couple of these below will put you on the path to freedom… to just be.

1. Evaluate your self-worth.

Your self-worth has everything to do with how you see yourself, the places you visit, and the overall relationships you cultivate. If you have low self-worth, you will begin to attract people who also care nothing about themselves nor the people they hurt. However, if you value who you are and what you do, others will too. You will find yourself more apt to do what comes naturally to you while around them. You will enjoy yourself more because you are free to laugh, connect, and talk about what matters most to you and others will feel free to do the same.

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2. Be an original.

For some, this goes without saying. But for others, this will take some time. All of us want to feel like we matter. But it shouldn’t be for the sake of doing things that others do to fit in. That can jeopardize your character and make you a fake and a phony. Just be yourself. As they always say, “An original is better than its copy.”

3. Forgive yourself and others.

Can you say within your heart of hearts that you have no animosity towards anything or anyone? Just think for a minute. Someone cuts you off on the road and you had to give them a piece of your mind. Or someone said they would do something for you, and they never did it. Or better yet, a dear friend of yours spilled the beans on something you’ve recently discussed in private and you swore him or her to secrecy. Yes, it made you upset, but was it that bad no not forgive them? The art of forgiveness is a learned behavior that once utilized can be liberating to say the least. It makes you look at life differently and makes you realize “it really wasn’t that serious.”

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4. Learn to say no.

I know this one may be hard for some of you, but it is essential that you learn to say it for your own sanity. Not everyone will agree when you say no, nor will they like it. But who’s life is it anyway? The decisions you make ultimately affect you. Make sure those decisions make you feel comfortable and help you be effective in what you’ve been called to do. People will learn to respect you more by being honest and just saying no.

5. Control your reaction to things.

This one is extremely serious business. Many of us, with or without knowing it, assume the worst in people. Social media is one of the biggest places for this to happen. Imagine going to your inbox and seeing someone write something to you that disturbs you. Your first reaction is to take it the wrong way and lash back at them as a way of retaliation. However, you never tried to find out what the person was really trying to say or their emotions behind the message. Phone calls have almost become a thing of the past with some people, as texting and messaging has become the norm. But so much would be avoided if you would only control your reactions to it and find out more. Save your relationship and you free yourself from unnecessary heartache.

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6. Love yourself.

Be free to love everything about you. Your strengths, your flaws-as many or as little as they are-are still a part of you. Once you come to love who you are, you can then be free to love others. Be vulnerable to love. Your freedom is yours to explore. Make the best of the journey!

 

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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