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Here’s How To Be The Superhero Of Your Story

Here’s How To Be The Superhero Of Your Story

Superman, Batman, Spiderman … what do these superheroes have in common? Well, for one they have superhuman powers we can only dream of.

However, while we may never have the ability to fly, see through walls, or shoot lasers out of our eyes, each of us has our own set of powers that are uniquely human and just as amazing. When you learn to harness them, you can create the life you’ve always dreamed of. Here’s how to be the hero of your story, starting today.

1. Stand up to the bad guys.

Superheroes all must face their fears at some point, and same goes for us. Take a stand against injustice, even if it doesn’t affect you. Stick up for the little guys, the underdogs, the bullied.

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2. Make the choice to take action.

Superheroes are often faced with tough choices. The easiest thing to do is often nothing. That’s why you need to consciously decide you’re taking action, right here, right now. Then—

3. Actually take action.

The first step is often the hardest but it’s also the most important, especially if you have big dreams for your life. Stop thinking so much and start doing. Focus on the small wins.

4. Spend your time wisely.

You don’t need to be a superhero to realize time is the most valuable asset in the world. So ask yourself: are you making good use of your time? Most people aren’t. We watch too much TV, spend too much time on Facebook and don’t understand the difference between “busy” and productive. Here’s a hint: if your busywork isn’t netting you results, it’s not productive.

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5. Ignore the haters.

In every superhero’s story, there’s always the inevitable naysayers. Want to know the best way to defeat the villains in your life? Stop paying attention to them. Look them in the eye, tell them you have other plans and get to work chasing your dreams.

6. Sacrifice your own needs once in a while.

Heroes are selfless. They look out for others first. You might want to think about doing the same. Why? Because when you put others first it feels good. And good stuff will happen to you in turn. So do a good deed today.

7. Let your alter-ego chill for some downtime.

Listen, Superman needs to wind down and just be Clark Kent sometimes. Relaxation is absolutely vital to living a healthy, balanced life. Make time for reflection and meditation. Try doing a little yoga; it has amazing health benefits.

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8. Form a team of other superheroes.

Most superheroes rely on a sidekick at some point to get them through tough times and you should too. If your goal is to lose weight, for example, research shows having a support network can make you more likely to achieve your goals. Likewise, if you want to go places in your career, networking is crucial. Start reaching out to successful people you respect and asking questions. What’s the worst that can happen?

9. Let love conquer all.

Every superhero is smitten by love at some point. This is not a weakness. Quite the contrary, actually. Love makes you stronger. If you haven’t found that special someone, keep searching. You will. If you have, don’t ever take that person for granted. Tell them you love them every day.

10. Be humble.

Humility is one of the most admirable qualities of heroes. Allow others on your team to be the stars of the show. Superheroes don’t crave the spotlight or demand attention. They sit quietly behind the scenes and allow others to shine. That’s the mark of a true hero.

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That’s how to be a hero. Now it’s time to go rewrite your story.

Featured photo credit: Eneas via flickr.com

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Last Updated on September 17, 2018

7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

Relationships are complicated and when you’re unhappy, it can be difficult to tell what’s causing it and what needs to change.

Sometimes it’s as easy as opening up to your partner about your problems, while other times it may be necessary to switch partners or roll solo to get your mind straight.

When you’re in the thick of things, it can be difficult to tell if you’re unhappy in your relationship or just unhappy in general (in which case, a relationship may be just the cure you need).

Here’re signs of an unhappy relationship that is possibly making you feel stuck:

1. You’re depressed about your home life.

No matter what you do in life, you’re going to have good and bad days. Your relationship is no different.

However, no matter what you’re going through at home, you have to feel comfortable in your own home.

If you constantly dread going home because your significant other is there, there’s a problem. Maybe it’s something you already know about, everyone has an argument or just needs some alone time.

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When that yearning to be alone becomes an insatiable obsession over the course of months and years, it’s time to realize you’re not the exception to the rule.

You’re unhappy in your relationship, and you need to take a look in the mirror and do whatever it takes to make yourself smile.

2. You aren’t comfortable being yourself.

Remember all those things you discovered about yourself when you first got together? The way your partner made you feel when you met that made you fall in love with him or her in the first place.

If they don’t make you feel that way anymore, it’s not the end of the world. If your partner makes you uncomfortable about being you, then her or she is only dragging you down. It’s up to you to decide how to handle that.

You need to be comfortable with who you are. This means being comfortable in your skin and with the way you walk, talk, look, breath, move, and all the other things that make you uniquely you.

If the person who supposedly loves you doesn’t make you feel good about yourself, know that you can do better. They’re not even one in a billion.

3. You can’t stop snooping.

Mutual trust is necessary in any relationship. The only way to get that trust is with respect.

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I can find you anywhere online, no matter how private and secure you think you are. The odds of you having a password I can’t crack are slim. If we’ve met in person, I could install a remote key logger on your device without even touching it.

Finding your information online hardly takes a clandestine organization. Any idiot with a Wi-Fi-enabled device can cyberstalk you. I’m just the only idiot in the village admitting it.

So now that we know everyone snoops, it’s time to address your personal habits. Governments snoop because they don’t trust us. If you’re snooping on your partner, it’s because you don’t trust them.

It’s ok to have doubts, and it’s perfectly normal to look into anything that looks weird, but keep in mind that data collection is only half of an investigation.

If you find yourself constantly snooping and questioning everything, clearly there’s a trust issue and the relationship likely needs to end.

4. You’re afraid of commitment.

If you’ve been dating longer than a year and you aren’t engaged, it’s never going to happen.

Commitment is important. People will come up with a million ways to describe why they can’t be committed.

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No matter who you are if you like it, you need to put a ring on it. Find an engagement ring, stick a gemstone in it and marry the person. If you’re not legally able to get married or you don’t believe in it for one reason or another, have a child (or adopt one, however you’re able to) or treat your partner’s family like your own. It’s a huge financial and mental commitment.

If you’re not ready for one or the other after some time, don’t waste anymore of your precious life on the relationship.

Your relationship should be something that propels you forward. If it’s not going anywhere, make it an open relationship and call it what it is—dating multiple people.

5. You imagine a happier life without your partner.

If all you’re doing is imagining a happier life without your partner, it’s a sign that you’re in the wrong relationship. You’re unhappy and you need to get out.

Your partner should be included in your dreams. There’s nothing wrong with wanting a future with someone.

Try to remember what you dreamed of before you got your heart broken by the realities of life, love and the pursuit of human success.

Remember when you would crush on that cute kid in class? You would secretly imagine marrying him or her and going on an adventure—that’s the way life should be.

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If you’re not at least imagining adventures together, then why are you in that relationship?

6. You resent, rather than love your partner.

When a relationship starts to crumble, you begin to resent your partner for all the things you once loved about him or her.

When you’ve reached this point, your partner has reached at least No. 2 on this list. From your partner’s perspective, your unhappiness with them is picked up as bashing them for being who they are.

If you’re both unhappy in the relationship, it’s better if it ends as quickly and painlessly as possible.

7. You chase past feelings.

It’s okay to reminisce about the past, but if all you do is wish things were like they used to be, it’s a sign you’re not on the right path.

You’re unhappy and, at the very least, you need to have an open dialogue about it. This isn’t necessarily a sign that the relationship should end, but it definitely needs a spark.

When you talk to your partner candidly about what it is you’re looking for, you never know how they’ll react. The risk alone is worth it, good or bad.

Final thoughts

If you’re feeling stuck in your current relationship, it’s time to reflect about it with your partner. Don’t ignore these signs of an unhappy relationship as they will slowly go worse and harm both you and your partner in long-term.

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