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7 Crucial Things You Need To Be Honest About

7 Crucial Things You Need To Be Honest About

Honesty is the best policy, right? But we’re all guilty of telling “little white lies” sometimes.

Regardless, there are certain things in life it’s important to be honest about.

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Here are 7 of them.

Your guilty pleasures.

Everyone has a guilty pleasure or two. Not everyone is honest about them though. I remember back when I was trying to quit smoking I would always tell people, “I only smoke on the weekends.” In reality, I was still puffing a few smokes every day‒I just didn’t want to admit it. So be forthcoming about your habits and vices and if you really want to change, make a commitment to do so.

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Your struggles.

The sooner you honestly assess the things you’re struggling with, the sooner you can find ways to make your life better. Whether you’re dealing with struggles with work, your family, your friends, or yourself, the first step is having the courage to ask for help. Then take action by talking to a friend or family member, reading an inspiring article or book, or writing down your thoughts in a journal. Find ways to be happier right now. They’re right in front of you if you look for them.

Your free time.

How do you spend your free time? Be honest. The average person in the USA spends an astonishing 34 hours a week watching TV. Even if you spend half that, TV is a huge time waster for most people. So is the Internet (unless you’re reading useful info like the articles on this website, of course). But there comes a time when you need to honestly assess how you spend your time so that you can find ways to be more productive and make the most of your short time here.

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Your health.

If you think eating junk food all day and not exercising is going to lead to a fulfilling life, guess again. Research shows that people who exercise are happier. And eating the right foods can help you lose weight, look better, and feel better about yourself. So why do we keep choosing to live lifestyles that don’t make our lives better in the long-run? Your health is one of the most important things to be honest about. Don’t take it for granted.

Your work.

It’s easy to get caught up in the day-to-day monotony of working life. But the truth is, so many of us are living miserable lives because we keep working at jobs we hate. I know what you’re probably saying, “How am I supposed to pay my bills?” This is obviously a legitimate concern. But money doesn’t buy happiness. If you hate your job, start doing something you love on the side. Do some freelance writing. Teach music to underprivileged kids. Coach a sports team. Find work that fulfills you and start doing it now.

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Your family.

You can’t pick your family, which means you’re stuck with the one you have. However, that doesn’t mean you should accept ignorance, complacency, and excuses from your family members. If there’s something you don’t like about one of your family members, tell him or her. Be honest. Just do it in a constructive way and offer solutions to help. Ask yourself this: if there was something about you that drove a family member nuts, would you rather hear the honest truth or be lied to? For me, the truth hurts but I always expect people to be honest with me, because I feel I owe it to them to do the same.

Your habits.

One of the biggest mistakes I see people make is they focus too much on the expected outcome rather than changing the underlying behavior. In other words, if you want to accomplish a goal, don’t focus on the goal; instead, focus on creating the habits and routines that will help lead you to the goal. Ultimately it’s those seemingly automatic, habitual behaviors that turn negative behaviors into positive ones.

And that’s the key to getting anything you want in life: be honest about what you want to change, then work on forming habits to help change it.

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Last Updated on August 16, 2018

10 Ways To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone And Enjoy Taking Risks

10 Ways To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone And Enjoy Taking Risks

The ability to take risks by stepping outside your comfort zone is the primary way by which we grow. But we are often afraid to take that first step.

In truth, comfort zones are not really about comfort, they are about fear. Break the chains of fear to get outside. Once you do, you will learn to enjoy the process of taking risks and growing in the process.

Here are 10 ways to help you step out of your comfort zone and get closer to success:

1. Become aware of what’s outside of your comfort zone

What are the things that you believe are worth doing but are afraid of doing yourself because of the potential for disappointment or failure?

Draw a circle and write those things down outside the circle. This process will not only allow you to clearly identify your discomforts, but your comforts. Write identified comforts inside the circle.

2. Become clear about what you are aiming to overcome

Take the list of discomforts and go deeper. Remember, the primary emotion you are trying to overcome is fear.

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How does this fear apply uniquely to each situation? Be very specific.

Are you afraid of walking up to people and introducing yourself in social situations? Why? Is it because you are insecure about the sound of your voice? Are you insecure about your looks?

Or, are you afraid of being ignored?

3. Get comfortable with discomfort

One way to get outside of your comfort zone is to literally expand it. Make it a goal to avoid running away from discomfort.

Let’s stay with the theme of meeting people in social settings. If you start feeling a little panicked when talking to someone you’ve just met, try to stay with it a little longer than you normally would before retreating to comfort. If you stay long enough and practice often enough, it will start to become less uncomfortable.

4. See failure as a teacher

Many of us are so afraid of failure that we would rather do nothing than take a shot at our dreams.

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Begin to treat failure as a teacher. What did you learn from the experience? How can you take that lesson to your next adventure to increase your chance of success?

Many highly successful people failed plenty of times before they succeeded. Here’re some examples:

10 Famous Failures to Success Stories That Will Inspire You to Carry On

5. Take baby steps

Don’t try to jump outside your comfort zone, you will likely become overwhelmed and jump right back in.

Take small steps toward the fear you are trying to overcome. If you want to do public speaking, start by taking every opportunity to speak to small groups of people. You can even practice with family and friends.

Take a look at this article on how you can start taking baby steps:

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The Number One Secret to Life Success: Baby Steps

6. Hang out with risk takers

There is no substitute for this step. If you want to become better at something, you must start hanging out with the people who are doing what you want to do and start emulating them. (Here’re 8 Reasons Why Risk Takers Are More Likely To Be Successful).

Almost inevitably, their influence will start have an effect on your behavior.

7. Be honest with yourself when you are trying to make excuses

Don’t say “Oh, I just don’t have the time for this right now.” Instead, be honest and say “I am afraid to do this.”

Don’t make excuses, just be honest. You will be in a better place to confront what is truly bothering you and increase your chance of moving forward.

8. Identify how stepping out will benefit you

What will the ability to engage in public speaking do for your personal and professional growth? Keep these potential benefits in mind as motivations to push through fear.

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9. Don’t take yourself too seriously

Learn to laugh at yourself when you make mistakes. Risk taking will inevitably involve failure and setbacks that will sometimes make you look foolish to others. Be happy to roll with the punches when others poke fun.

If you aren’t convinced yet, check out these 6 Reasons Not to Take Life So Seriously.

10. Focus on the fun

Enjoy the process of stepping outside your safe boundaries. Enjoy the fun of discovering things about yourself that you may not have been aware of previously.

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