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9 Things You Can Do To Free Yourself From Negative Emotions

9 Things You Can Do To Free Yourself From Negative Emotions

It may be hard to believe, but emotions can become habits that have been formed through repetition. As such, negative emotions can become something that infiltrates your everyday life. Do you find that you’re constantly down on the world and yourself? Do you get annoyed easily and become bitter with people? Is anger your natural response to something? If you answered ‘yes’ to any of these questions, you may be a slave to negative emotions. You need to learn to stop before you actually transform into Walter Matthau.

1. Stop Justifying

    First and foremostly, you need to stop justifying getting angry and upset over everything. Stop thinking that you’re entitled to be so negative, because you’re not. The only person responsible for this is you. Do you really want to become that cranky old man or woman that tells everyone they ever meet why everything is awful and why everyone sucks? You know who I’m talking about, you’ve seen them in the grocery line. If you stop justifying your negativity to yourself you won’t have a reason to be angry, and much more people will actually enjoy being around you. Get over the spilt milk.

    2. Stop Making Excuses

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      You need to stop making excuses for both yourself and others. Perhaps you rationalize your own actions and why it’s okay for you to verbalize your anger. Or maybe you create explanations as to why other people deserve your anger. Either way, you’re trying to invent a socially acceptable explanation for your behavior. The only problem is that it probably isn’t acceptable and all it’s doing is keeping your negative emotions alive and making you miserable in the meantime. Eventually there will be no one left to care but yourself. Stop making yourself a victim. Really think about whether or not these other people have actually done anything wrong.

      3. Start Taking Responsibility

        Now that you’ve stopped making excuses, it’s time to take some responsibility for yourself and your actions. As soon as you do this, you will start depriving your negative emotions of the power they hold over you. What right do they have to your life anyway? Own your problems and your actions and stop blaming other people. It’s called being a happy, functional adult.

        4. Rise Above Other People’s Opinions

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          So I’ve done a lot of ranting about how you need to control your emotions and take responsibility. The truth is that this can be difficult when other people can actually be jerks, or if you care too much about what others think of you. You need to stop giving them so much power. Don’t let anyone but yourself define your self image and self worth. This is important, but if you define yourself through others, you are far more likely to be miserable. This is because as soon as you hear anything negative, you’re likely to react with anger and embarrassment. You’ll feel ashamed and inferior and may even begin indulging in self-pity that could lead to depression. The joke will be on you though, because in most cases, the people who made you feel this way won’t even realize it. They’re busy with their own lives. All of the negativity and hurt actually comes from you. You need to stop giving a crap about what other people think immediately. You’ll be much happier for it.

          5. Quit Your Negative Habits and Avoid Bad Influences

            Some habits and people purely and simply bring you down. It may difficult to do, but you need to remove these things from your life. Don’t hang around people who are negative all of the time. Instead, surround yourself with happy and positive people who take joy in life. You’d be surprised how easily their attitudes can rub off on you. Furthermore, don’t engage in behavior that may make you angry and depressed. If that beer or joint is going to have a negative effect, put it the hell down.

            6. Think Before You Respond

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              Calm yourself down, Hulk.

              Let’s say you’re in a situation where your natural reaction is to yell or send a passive aggressive Facebook message. Stop. Just, stop. Now think. Is this something you really want to do? Is it actually that bad? Is it even worth being angry or upset over? Did the person you’re about to react to actually do anything wrong, or is it in your head? What are some of the possible consequences of these actions? Will it destroy a friendship? Will you be stewing over it for weeks?

              These are just some of the questions that you need to start asking yourself before you react negatively to something. You may just find that you’re grateful that you thought about it before acting. Or maybe, because I have trouble being concise, by the time you get to the end of my questions, you’ll forget what even happened in the first place.

              7. Be Grateful

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                Instead of constantly obsessing over how crap your life is, start being grateful. What are the things or people you have in your life that you can be thankful for? Start defining your life by the good, as opposed to the bad. Get into this habit by thinking of at least one thing everyday that you’re grateful for.

                8. Remove “I Can’t” From Your Vocabulary

                  This is a simple one. Saying “I can’t” to things, including letting go of negative emotions, will make it a self-fulfilling prophecy. You can’t because you say you can’t. Stop placing limitations on yourself and give yourself some credit. You can if you say you can. Unless it’s something like diving out of a plane without a parachute and thinking you’ll survive. You probably can’t do that.

                  9. Just Let Go

                    Most importantly, you need to try and let go of your negative emotions. Holding onto them and subsequently applying them to every little thing that goes wrong isn’t healthy. In fact, it’s dangerous. A great deal of negative people don’t know how to feel much else and aren’t satisfied unless they have something to whine about. Ironically, they’re not happy unless they’re unhappy and actually go looking for conflict. Do you really want to be that person? If nothing else, it sounds exhausting. Let it go, people. Just let it go.

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                    Some things in life are hard to describe, yet we can recognize them when we see them.

                    Love is one of those things.

                    True love comes in many different forms, but here are some that many of us know well.

                    True love means supporting those who can’t support themselves

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                      A young man comforts his date in Times Square, New York City. Image by mbtrama

                      strong hug

                        A young man holds his significant other close to him. Image by Brad Fults

                        running help

                          A young track competitor helps one of her injured opponents over the finish line. Image from ViralNova.com

                          feeding kitten

                            A soldier in the Korean War takes time to feed a baby kitten. Image from US Naval Insititute

                            It’s having the perfect selfie partner

                            mom and daughter selfie

                              A mother and her daughter take a selfie together. Image by Andrew Fysh

                              girlfriends

                                Two young girls pose for the camera. Image by Rolands Lakis

                                selfies

                                  A happy couple takes a picture together. Image by Kayla Heineman

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                                  selfie

                                    Two best friends take a selfie together. Image by Jason Wahido

                                    dude selfie

                                      Friends take a selfie together. Image by Glenn Scofield Williams

                                      It’s all the warm fuzzies

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                                        A young man spends time with his dog on a beach. Image by Magdalena Roeseler

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                                          A pet owner hugs his dog while on a day trip in San Francisco. Image by Taro the Shiba Inu

                                          It means having a friend to photobomb you

                                          photobomb

                                            A boy makes a funny face as he poses for a picture with his brother. Image by Michael Bentley

                                            old man photobomb

                                              A man photobombs his wife while their grandson snaps a picture. Image by Frank

                                              family photobomb

                                                Family members photobomb their relatives’ Thanksgiving day family photo. Image by Beth Scupham

                                                boyfriend photobomb

                                                  A friend photobombs the photographer and their friend, the woman in the foreground of this photo. Image by Lachlan Hardy

                                                  True love means being there even when life gets unbearably hard

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                                                  shoulder to cry on

                                                    A family watches the Vermont National Guard depart for Afghanistan. Image by The U.S. Army

                                                    flood dog

                                                      During a monsoon in the Philippines, a boy carries his dog to safety. Image by Romeo Ranoco

                                                      A woman is rescued from flood waters by a resident standing on top of her car during heavy rain in Chalandri suburb north of Athens

                                                        A man helps a woman out of her vehicle during a flood in Chalandri, Greece. Image by John Kolesidis

                                                        lunch

                                                          A woman has lunch with her husband every day, even after he’s passed away. Image from ViralNova.com

                                                          hug

                                                            A woman hugs the mother of 6-year-old Noah Ponzer, who was one of the victims of the Sandy Hook shootings. Image by Spencer Platt

                                                            rubble

                                                              An Oklahoma couple pauses while trying to salvage belongings from a family member’s home after a tornado. Image by Adrees Latif

                                                              sister and brother

                                                                A girl puts her arm around her little brother as they wait outside of Sandy Hook Elementary after gunshots are fired. Image by Reuters.

                                                                headstone

                                                                  A woman sits at her husband’s grave the day before their wedding anniversary. Image from NBC news

                                                                  It means taking the time for long goodbyes

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                                                                    A man says goodbye to his son before deploying. Image by Official U.S. Navy Page

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                                                                    national guard goodbye

                                                                      A South Carolina man says goodbye to his son before deploying for Afghanistan. Image by The National Guard

                                                                      saying goodbye

                                                                        A Sergeant hugs both of his sons before being deployed to Afghanistan. Image by The National Guard

                                                                        And cherishing reunions

                                                                        husband home

                                                                          A woman hugs her husband as she sees him for the first time since his deployment to Iraq. Image by The U.S. Army

                                                                          boyfriend home

                                                                            A young  woman hugs her significant other as he returns home for Kuwait. Image by The National Guard

                                                                            mother hug

                                                                              A mother drops to her knees as she hugs her son on her return home from the Persian Gulf. Image by The National Guard

                                                                              True love is letting yourself feel young when they’re around

                                                                              elderly women

                                                                                Two friends on their smartphones. Image by Robert Neff

                                                                                feeling young

                                                                                  A young couple getting their picture taken. Image by db Photograph

                                                                                  sprinkler dad

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                                                                                      wheelchairs

                                                                                        A couple holds hands on a fall day. Image by David Amsler

                                                                                        It’s letting yourself be silly… just because they’ll enjoy it

                                                                                        silly faces

                                                                                          A grandfather makes faces at the camera with his granddaughters. Image by Tim Pierce

                                                                                          vote for pedro

                                                                                            A woman’s father wears a Napoleon Dynamite t-shirt to make his daughter laugh. Image by emdot

                                                                                            True love is allowing yourself to show how you really feel

                                                                                            date night

                                                                                              A young couple kisses in the back of a restaurant in Washington, D.C. Image by Derek Key

                                                                                              playing violin

                                                                                                Violinist Nancy Dinovo plays at a memorial service for the victims of 9/11. Image by Christopher Morris

                                                                                                True love is timeless

                                                                                                old friends

                                                                                                  Friends spending some time together. Image by Cristian Bortes

                                                                                                  sitting around a fire

                                                                                                    A group of friends sits around a campfire eating. Image by New Old Stock

                                                                                                    elderly couple

                                                                                                      An elderly couple walks down a street together. Image by Matteo Paciotti

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