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10 Things You Should Know Before Dating a Female Fitness Competitor

10 Things You Should Know Before Dating a Female Fitness Competitor

Fit chicks are in and everybody knows it. They’re filling up our Instagram discovery feeds, and for good reason! Not only are they lean and chiseled, but they’re strong and dedicated as well. That being said, if you’ve been fortunate enough to land yourself a date with one of the most dedicated of fit chick types (a fitness competitor) there are some important things to note.
Maybe your wife or girlfriend is embarking on a new fitness competitor journey. Perhaps you’ve just met an amazing girl who just so happens to be a fitness competitor. Either way you’ll notice some interesting behavior that comes with the territory of competitive fitness. In the interest of helping you better understand this fabulous new female you’re about to meet, I’ve come up with a list of the top 10 things you should know before dating a fitness competitor. You’re welcome ;)

1. She’s hungry therefore she’s easily irritated

hangry

    Hangry is a real thing. If your fit girl seems a bit on edge, she’s probably just a half an hour out from her next meal. No worries though. Once she has her cup of Greek yogurt and a protein shake, she’ll be right back to her happy self.

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    2. No, she can’t “skip the gym today”

    Each competitor’s training schedule will be different. Some women get a rest day while others use this day for extra cardio. This will depend on their coach and their goals. Either way, if she has plans to go to gym, it’s because she actually HAS to go. If she skips shoulders, she misses an opportunity to grow. She could always make this up later in the week, but that means a 3-hour gym visit on Wednesday – not fun.

    3. She’s like a shape shifter…every 4 weeks you’ll see changes

    This is an exciting part. Fitness competitors see significant change every four weeks or so. You’ll notice her arms getting stronger, her legs getting leaner, and her abs getting ripped! When you notice something, say something. She may not see these changes herself, so it helps when others point them out to keep her motivated.

    4. She gets one cheat meal, let’s not push that

    Cheat meals are an interesting thing. Depending on her program, she may or may not have one once a week. Trying to talk her into eating more cheat meals than her plan allows for will only throw her off track. She’ll let you know when she has a cheat meal, otherwise, don’t try to talk her into an ice cream outing or a pizza party.

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    5. She’s tired. Going out on a Tuesday isn’t her thing anymore

    On top of whatever else she has going on with work, school, etc., she’s got 2+ hours to put in at the gym at least 5 days a week. Even a quick get together after her PM workout can seem as exhausting as running a marathon. Understand that her saying no to a night out because she’s tired doesn’t necessarily mean that she’s not interested. In fact, she might just prefer a night in with you and Netflix.

    6. Someone needs to take her progress pics…it’s not fun

    If she asks you to take her progress pics, you’re definitely moving up in terms of trust…this is a good thing. There’s just one drawback – it’s not fun. The time you’ll spend getting a “good” picture from three angles will take much longer than you ever thought possible. She’ll need to try different ways of flexing and posing to highlight her progress in each image. Bear with her, and don’t forget to tell her how fabulous she looks!

    7. Sundays are for meal prep

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      No matter your plans for Sunday fun day, meal prepping needs to be included. The amount of time this can take varies by her method of cooking and how many days in advance she cooks. There will be lots of rice, chicken, and veggies, but no eating, just stuffing it into Tupperware – strange, but necessary.

      8. Tupperware is everywhere

      Speaking of Tupperware, she’ll have it everywhere! In the car, in the kitchen, at her office desk, and maybe even in her gym bag. This is because she’s toting around 2-3 Tupperware containers on a daily basis. They land in strange places before finally making it to the dishwasher at the end of the day.

      9. She chooses restaurants carefully

      You want to go to Olive Garden, but something about pasta and bottomless bread sticks just doesn’t seem to fit with her whole “low carb” thing. Work with her to find a place that offers tasty options with lean meat and veggies. She can still eat out, she just prefers restaurants with fewer temptations (i.e., bread sticks!) and more options for low carbs and high protein.

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      10. She’s extremely loyal and dedicated in all aspects of life

      All of these points may have you a bit scared. Fortunately, dating a fitness competitor offers more opportunities to make up for the craziness than flaunting some pretty sweet eye candy at the pool this season. You’ve landed yourself a woman with drive, persistence, and best of all, loyalty. She takes pride in her appearance and is willing to work hard to keep a good thing going. In other words, when she commits, you know you can trust her to do what it takes to maintain a happy relationship for both of you.

      Featured photo credit: Gorgeous young woman using dumbbells to work on her triceps. Lots of copy space via shutterstock.com

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      Published on September 23, 2020

      6 Effective Negotiation Skills to Master

      6 Effective Negotiation Skills to Master

      I don’t know about you, but many times when I hear the word negotiate I think of lawyers working out a business deal or having to do battle with a car salesman to try to get a lower price. Since I am in recruiting, the term “negotiation” comes up when someone is attempting to get a higher compensation package.

      If we think about it, we tend to negotiate almost every day in a wide variety of things we do. Getting a handle on the important negotiation skills can be incredibly beneficial in many parts of our lives. Let’s take a look at 6 effective negotiation skills to master.

      What is Negotiation?

      First, let’s take a look at what negotiation is. Put simply, negotiation is a method by which people settle their differences. It is a process in which compromise or agreement can be reached without argument or dispute.

      Anytime two people or sides disagree on something, they are almost always looking for the best possible outcome for their side. This could be from an individual’s perspective or someone representing an organization.

      In reality, it’s rare that one side gets everything they want and the other side gets nothing that they are seeking. Seeking to reach a common ground of sorts where both sides feel like they are getting most of what they want is the key to being successful and maintaining the relationship.

      Places We Negotiate

      I’ve mentioned that we negotiate in just about all phases of our life. For those of you who are shaking your head no, I invite you to think about the following:

      1. Work/Business

      This one is the most obvious and it’s what naturally comes to mind when we think of the word “negotiate”.

      When you first started at your current job, you might have asked for a higher salary. It could be that you delivered a huge new client to your company and used this as leverage in your most recent evaluation for more compensation. If you work with vendors (and just about every company does), maybe you worked them to a lower price or better contract terms.

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      In recruiting, I negotiate with candidates and hiring managers all the time to land the best talent I can find. It’s very common to accept additional work with the (sometimes spoken, sometimes unspoken) agreement that it will benefit your career in the future.

      Recently, I took over a project that was my boss was working on so that I would be able to attend a conference later in the year. And so it goes, we do this all day long at work.

      2. Personal

      I don’t know about you, but I negotiate with my spouse all the time. I’ll cook dinner with the understanding that she does the dishes. Who wants to mow the lawn and who wants to vacuum and dust the house?

      I think we should save 10% for retirement, but she thinks 5% is plenty. Therefore, we save 8%. And don’t even get me started with my kids. My older daughter can borrow my car as soon as she finishes her chores. My younger daughter can go hang out with her friends when her homework is done.

      Then, there are all those interactions in our personal lives outside our homes. The carpenter wants to charge me $12,000 to build a new deck. I think $10,000 is plenty so we agree on $11,000. I ask my neighbor if I can borrow his snowblower in the winter if I invite him over the next time I grill steak. And so on.

      3. Ourselves

      You didn’t expect this one, did you? We negotiate with ourselves all day long.

      I’ll make sure I don’t skip my workout tomorrow since I’m going to have that extra piece of pizza. My spouse has been quiet the last few days, is it worth me asking her about, or should I leave it alone? I think the car place charged me for some repairs that weren’t needed, should I say something or just let it go? I know my friend has been having some personal challenges, should I check in with him? We’ve been friends for a long time, I’m sure he’d come to me if he needed help. I’ve got the #4 pick in this year’s Fantasy Football draft, should I choose a running back or a wide receiver?

      Think about that non-stop voice inside your head. It always seems to be chattering away about something and many times, it’s us negotiating with ourselves. I’ll finish up that report that the boss needs before I turn on the football game.

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      Why Negotiation Skills Are So Important

      Put simply, negotiation skills are important because we all interact with other people, and not only other people but other organizations and groups of people as well.

      We all rarely want the same thing or outcome. Most of the time a vendor is looking at getting you to pay a higher price for something than you want to spend. Therefore, it’s important to negotiate to some middle ground that works well for both sides.

      My wife and I disagree on how much to save for retirement. If we weren’t married it wouldn’t be an issue. We’d each contribute how much we wanted to on our retirement funds. We choose to be married, so we have to come to some agreement that we both feel comfortable with. We have to compromise. Therefore, we have to negotiate.

      If we each lived on a planet by ourselves, we would be free to do just about anything we wanted to. We wouldn’t have to compromise with anyone because we wouldn’t interact with anyone. We would make every choice unilaterally the way we wanted to.

      As we all know, this isn’t how things are. We are constantly interacting with other people and organizations, each one with their own agenda’s, viewpoints, and opinions. Therefore, we have to be able to work together.

      6 Negotiation Skills to Master

      Having strong negotiation skills helps us create win-win situations with others, allowing us to get most of what we want in conjunction with others around us.

      Now, let’s look at 6 effective negotiation skills to master.

      1. Preparation

      Preparation is a key place to start with when getting ready to negotiate. Being prepared means having a clear vision of what you want and how you’d go about achieving it. It means knowing what the end goal looks like and also what you are willing to give to get it.

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      It also means knowing who you are negotiating with and what areas they might be willing to compromise on. You should also know what your “bottom line” is. By “bottom line” I mean what is the most you are willing to give up to get what you want.

      For instance, several years ago, I decided it was time to get a newer car. I say newer because I wanted a “new to me” car, not a brand new car. I did my research and figured out what type of car I wanted. I decided on what must-have items on the car I wanted, the highest amount of miles that would already be on it, the colors I was willing to get it in, and the highest amount of money I was willing to pay.

      After visiting numerous car dealerships I was able to negotiate buying a car. I knew what I was willing to give up (amount of money) and what I was willing to accept, things like the color, amount of miles, etc. I came prepared. This is critical.

      2. Clear Communication

      The next key skill you need to be an effective negotiator is clear communication. You have to be able to clearly articulate what you want to the other party. This means both clear verbal and written communication.

      If you can’t clearly tell the other person what you want, how do you expect to get it? Have you ever worked through something with a vendor or someone else only to learn of a surprise right at the end that wasn’t talked about before? This is not what you would call clear communication. It’s essential to be able to share a coherent and logical vision with the person you are working with.

      3. Active Listening

      Let’s do a quick review of active listening. This is when you are completely focused on the speaker, understand their message, comprehend the information, and respond appropriately. This is a necessary ingredient to be able to negotiate successfully. You must be able to fully focus on the other person’s wants to completely understand them.

      If you aren’t giving them your full attention, you may miss some major points or details. This leads to frustration down the road on both sides. Ensure you are employing your active listening skills when in arbitration mode.

      4. Teamwork and Collaboration

      To be able to get to a place of common ground and a win-win scenario, you have to have a sense of teamwork and collaboration.

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      If you are only thinking about yourself and what you want without giving much care to what the other person is wanting, you are bound to wind up without a solution. The other person may get frustrated and give up if they see you are unwilling to meet them halfway or care little for what they want.

      When you collaborate, you are working together to help each other get what is most important to you. The other upside to negotiating with a sense of teamwork and collaboration is that it helps create a sense of trust, which, in turn, helps provide positive energy for working to a successful conclusion.

      5. Problem Solving

      Problem-solving is another key negotiation skill. When you are working with the other person to get the deal done many times you’ll face new challenges along the way.

      Maybe you want a new vendor to provide training on the software they are selling you but they say it’s going to cost an additional $20,000 to provide this service. If you don’t have the additional $20,000 in the budget to spend on the software but you feel the training is critical, how are you going to solve that problem?

      From what I’ve seen, most vendors aren’t willing to provide additional services without getting paid for them. This is where problem-solving skills will help continue the discussions. You might suggest to the vendor that your company will also be looking to replace their financial software next year, and you’d be happy to ensure they get one of the first seats at the table when the time comes if they could perhaps lower the pricing on their training.

      There’s a solution to most challenges, but it takes problem-solving skills to work through them effectively.

      6. Decision-Making Ability

      Finally, having strong decision-making ability will help you seal the deal when you get to a place where everyone feels like they are getting what works for them. Each step of the way you can cross off the list when you get what you are looking for and decide to move onto the next item. Then, once you have all of your must-have boxes checked and the other side feels good about things, it’s time to shake hands and sign on the dotted line. Powerful decision-making ability will help you get to the finish line together.

      Conclusion

      There you have it, 6 effective negotiation skills to master to lead a more fulfilling life. Once we realize that we negotiate in one form or another almost every day in every phase of our lives, we realize how critical a skill it is.

      Possessing strong negotiation skills will help you in nearly every one of your relationships at both the workplace and in your personal life. If you feel your arbitration tools could use some sharpening, try some of the 6 effective negotiation skills to master that we’ve talked about.

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