People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing – that’s why we recommend it daily.
What does it take to be highly motivated? Is it an inborn trait some people have and others don’t? The answer, as you might have suspected, is a resounding “no.” You can teach yourself how to be a more motivated person by copying the behaviors of high achievers. Here are 10 things highly successful, highly motivated people do not do.Advertising
They don’t fly by the seat of their pants.
Highly motivated people are planners. They like spontaneity in small doses; however, they make plans and anticipate bumps that are likely to come along as they go. If you want to follow the path of the highly motivated, then start each day by planning out your action steps. Identify the two of three most important things you want to accomplish every day, then go do them.
They don’t let goals run wild.
I’m all for setting goals. But if your list of goals is so large and unrealistic even Steve Jobs would’ve had trouble tackling them, it’s time to re-evaluate. Write down each of your goals and make sure they’re “SMART”:Advertising
They don’t try and do it all alone.
Highly motivated people lean on their support crew, especially when they’re struggling. Trying to do it all yourself is a common trait of entrepreneurs and go-getters. But the sooner you start asking for help, the easier your life will get.
They don’t take the easy way out.
The easier way isn’t always the best way. Sometimes it’s best to push yourself outside your comfort zone and try an approach that seems a little off-the-wall. That’s what highly motivated people do. They challenge themselves and take every opportunity to learn from those experiences.Advertising
They don’t neglect themselves.
Want to be highly successful? Then start making yourself a priority. Living for others is admirable and virtuous. But at the end of the day, the most important person in your life is you.
They don’t stop learning.
Folks who are highly motivated keep on learning until the day they die. Stuck in a rut and searching for motivation? Then find a book about a topic you’re interested in but know nothing about and dig in. You’ll often find inspiration and motivation in places you least expect it.Advertising
They don’t waste time.
In Charles Duhigg’s book, The Power of Habit, he points to research that shows we have a limited capacity for willpower each day. This means if you’re wasting time on meaningless tasks, then you’re less likely to stay motivated. So set a schedule for checking email and Facebook and limit your time watching TV. Then watch as your motivation levels rise and you get more done each day.
They don’t stop believing.
They don’t live with regrets.
We all make mistakes. That’s part of life. But the past is behind you, so leave it there and don’t look back. There’s no point stressing over decisions you made that didn’t pan out the way you wanted. What’s done is done. There’s only the present. So move on and focus your time and energy on living this moment to its fullest.
They don’t go a day without giving thanks.
Perhaps the biggest change in my daily motivation came about when I realized the importance of being grateful. Not just once in a while either‒every single day. Start each day by giving thanks for your life and the lives of those your love most, and you’ll find your levels of motivation soar to levels you never knew they could reach.
Last Updated on August 16, 2018
10 Ways To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone And Enjoy Taking Risks
The ability to take risks by stepping outside your comfort zone is the primary way by which we grow. But we are often afraid to take that first step.
In truth, comfort zones are not really about comfort, they are about fear. Break the chains of fear to get outside. Once you do, you will learn to enjoy the process of taking risks and growing in the process.
Here are 10 ways to help you step out of your comfort zone and get closer to success:
1. Become aware of what’s outside of your comfort zone
What are the things that you believe are worth doing but are afraid of doing yourself because of the potential for disappointment or failure?
Draw a circle and write those things down outside the circle. This process will not only allow you to clearly identify your discomforts, but your comforts. Write identified comforts inside the circle.
2. Become clear about what you are aiming to overcome
Take the list of discomforts and go deeper. Remember, the primary emotion you are trying to overcome is fear.
How does this fear apply uniquely to each situation? Be very specific.
Are you afraid of walking up to people and introducing yourself in social situations? Why? Is it because you are insecure about the sound of your voice? Are you insecure about your looks?
Or, are you afraid of being ignored?
3. Get comfortable with discomfort
One way to get outside of your comfort zone is to literally expand it. Make it a goal to avoid running away from discomfort.
Let’s stay with the theme of meeting people in social settings. If you start feeling a little panicked when talking to someone you’ve just met, try to stay with it a little longer than you normally would before retreating to comfort. If you stay long enough and practice often enough, it will start to become less uncomfortable.
4. See failure as a teacher
Many of us are so afraid of failure that we would rather do nothing than take a shot at our dreams.
Begin to treat failure as a teacher. What did you learn from the experience? How can you take that lesson to your next adventure to increase your chance of success?
Many highly successful people failed plenty of times before they succeeded. Here’re some examples:
5. Take baby steps
Don’t try to jump outside your comfort zone, you will likely become overwhelmed and jump right back in.
Take small steps toward the fear you are trying to overcome. If you want to do public speaking, start by taking every opportunity to speak to small groups of people. You can even practice with family and friends.
Take a look at this article on how you can start taking baby steps:
6. Hang out with risk takers
There is no substitute for this step. If you want to become better at something, you must start hanging out with the people who are doing what you want to do and start emulating them. (Here’re 8 Reasons Why Risk Takers Are More Likely To Be Successful).
Almost inevitably, their influence will start have an effect on your behavior.
7. Be honest with yourself when you are trying to make excuses
Don’t say “Oh, I just don’t have the time for this right now.” Instead, be honest and say “I am afraid to do this.”
Don’t make excuses, just be honest. You will be in a better place to confront what is truly bothering you and increase your chance of moving forward.
8. Identify how stepping out will benefit you
What will the ability to engage in public speaking do for your personal and professional growth? Keep these potential benefits in mind as motivations to push through fear.
9. Don’t take yourself too seriously
Learn to laugh at yourself when you make mistakes. Risk taking will inevitably involve failure and setbacks that will sometimes make you look foolish to others. Be happy to roll with the punches when others poke fun.
If you aren’t convinced yet, check out these 6 Reasons Not to Take Life So Seriously.
10. Focus on the fun
Enjoy the process of stepping outside your safe boundaries. Enjoy the fun of discovering things about yourself that you may not have been aware of previously.
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