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How To Be Your Own Life Coach in 4 Easy Steps

How To Be Your Own Life Coach in 4 Easy Steps

In its simplest form, the role of a life coach is to help people solve problems. Life coaches can be a wonderful means to help you discover new ways of doing things and defeat bad habits. But most life coaches don’t come cheap. And many people don’t think they have the time to work with a life coach. Those are just two of the reasons why you’re probably wondering how to be your own life coach. Not to worry, friends, because we have you covered. Read on.

How to Be Your Own Life Coach: 4 Simple Steps

Step 1: Spend time honestly assessing your strengths and weaknesses.

What are you good at? What would you like to be better at? To change something about yourself, you need to identify your problem areas so you can come up with a strategy to fix them. So answer these powerful questions honestly and openly: What would your friends and family say are your top 3 strengths? What about your top 3 weaknesses? How are your relationships with others? What are your biggest fears? You’ll use this information later.

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Step 2: Identify your goals.

Okay, now you know what you’re good at and what you’re not so good at. So what do you do with that information? That answer is that you set goals to improve upon both your strengths and weaknesses. You want to keep getting better at the stuff you’re already good at, while simultaneously addressing areas of growth.

Here’s how you do it. Answer these questions (make sure you write them down):

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These questions will help you explore and develop your talents. Once you have the answers, use them to help you set goals. Research shows that goals are easier to reach if they’re specific and not too numerous. So start small. Let’s say your goal is to lose weight. How much do you want to lose overall? If it’s 20 pounds, what is a realistic monthly goal? Don’t expect to lose 10 pounds every month. 1-2 pounds is more achievable. Write it down:

  • This year: I will lose 20 pounds
  • Each month: I will lose about 2 pounds
  • This week: I will lose half a pound

Notice how these goals are framed. Don’t say, “I want to…”. Say “I will…”. It’s an important psychological distinction.

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Step 3: Record your progress.

So now you have your goals figured out. The next step is to start a journal. Write down your goals, and record the actions you take each day to get you closer to your goals. Commit to making one small change every week and keep building from there. For example, one week you can cut out soda. The next week you can cut out all sugary beverages. It takes between 1 and 6 months to make a new  behavior stick, so keep at it and it will become a habit before you know it.

Step 4: Assess your results and tweak your approach.

The final step is to assess and test how you’re doing every month. Ask yourself: what’s working? What’s not? What are some different approaches I can try? For example, if you have trouble progressing and achieving your monthly goals, try using online behavior change tools like Stickk, a cool website that allows you to make health commitments and be held accountable for achieving them.

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Finally, if there’s one thing you need to understand about how to be your own life coach, it’s this: your mindset will determine your success or failure. Silence negative thoughts and frame everything in the positive (i.e., “I am”, “I will,” or “I can”). Be completely committed and you will succeed. Tell everyone you know about the behaviors you want to change. Not letting people down is a huge motivator to stick with your goals. And don’t be afraid to ask for help, especially from people in your group of friends who have been there and done that.

Remember, at the end of the day, the only person standing in the way of you achieving your dreams is you.

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Scott Christ

Scott Christ is a writer, entrepreneur, and founder of Pure Food Company.

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Last Updated on June 26, 2020

10 Things To Remember When Everything Goes Wrong

10 Things To Remember When Everything Goes Wrong

Problems and heartaches in life are inevitable. However, there are some things to remember when you’re right in the thick of it that can help you get through it. When everything seems to be going wrong, practice telling yourself these things.

1. This Too Shall Pass

Sometimes life’s rough patches feel like they’re going to last forever. Whether you’re dealing with work-related issues, family problems, or stressful situations, very few problems last for a lifetime. So remind yourself, that things won’t be this bad forever.

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2. Some Things are Going Right

When things are going wrong, it’s hard to recognize what is going right. It’s easy to screen out the good things and only focus on the bad things. Remind yourself that some things are going right. Purposely look for the positive, even if it is something very small.

3. I Have Some Control

One of the most most important things to remember is that you have some control of the situation. Even if you aren’t in complete control of the situation, one thing you can always control is your attitude and reaction. Focus on managing what is within your control.

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4. I Can Ask for Help

Asking for help can be hard sometimes. However, it’s one of the best ways to deal with tough situations. Tell people what you need specifically if they offer to help. Don’t be afraid to call on friends and family and ask them for help, whether you need financial assistance, emotional support, or practical help.

5. Much of This Won’t Matter in a Few Years

Most of the problems we worry about today won’t actually matter five years from now. Remind yourself that whatever is going wrong now is only a small percentage of your actual life. Even if you’re dealing with a major problem, like a loved one’s illness, remember that a lot of good things are likely to happen in the course of a year or two as well.

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6. I Can Handle This

A lack of confidence in handling tough times can add to stress. One of the best things to remember is that you can handle tough situations. Even though you might feel angry, hurt, disappointed, or sad, it won’t kill you. You can get through it.

7. Something Good Will Come Out of This

No matter how bad a situation is, it’s almost certain that something good will come out of it. At the very least, it’s likely that you will learn a life lesson. Perhaps you learn not to repeat the same mistake in the future or maybe you move on from a bad situation and find something better. Look for the one good thing that can result when bad things happen.

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8. I Can Accept What’s Out of my Control

There are many things that aren’t within your control. You can’t change the past, another person’s behavior, or a loved one’s health issues. Don’t waste time trying to force others to change or trying to make things be different if it isn’t within your control. Investing time and energy into trying to things you can’t will cause you to feel helpless and exhausted. Acceptance is one of the best way to establish resilience.

9. I Have Overcome Past Difficulties

One of the things to remember when you’re facing difficulties, is that you’ve handled problems in the past. Don’t overlook past difficulties that you’ve dealt with successfully. Remind yourself of all the past problems you’ve overcome and you’ll gain confidence in dealing with the current issues.

10. I Need to Take Care of Myself

When everything seems to be going wrong, take care of yourself. Get plenty of rest, get some exercise, eat healthy, and spend some time doing leisure activities. When you’re taking better care of yourself you’ll be better equipped to deal with your problems.

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