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How To Find Your Passion in Life and Fulfill Purpose

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How To Find Your Passion in Life and Fulfill Purpose

We all have passions, but we don’t always know what they are. Your passion is your gift to the world, but you may have forgotten or suppressed it. Perhaps you lack the courage to follow your heart and turn your dreams into reality, or you base your choices on what you thought was expected of you. It’s all too easy for us to accept our paradigm rather than embarking on a new journey, and that’s why finding your passion in life can be challenging.

Have you denied your passion, not believing deep down that you are worthy of it? Who told you that you are not good enough or that you don’t deserve to do what you love? Was it true? Is it true now?

Here’s the process I learned that empowered me to find clarity around my heartfelt desires, see what was holding me back, and start living the dream.

Negative Thoughts Can Prevent You From Finding Your Passion in Life

Our thoughts are outside of our control. They come and go on their own accord. We don’t choose them but rather, they choose us.

However, what is within our control is how we respond to them. We can allow them to influence us, or we can just watch them go by. We can feed them or just ignore them. We have the gift of discernment and the freedom to choose.

So, when a negative thought comes to mind, something like—”I don’t deserve to be happy in my work so I should do something joyless just to pay the bills,”—why would we pay attention and, thereby, dis-empower ourselves?

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Thoughts like “I can’t do that because…” followed by a list of reasons can hold us back as surely as chains, but they aren’t real—they are just thoughts.

“Argue for your limitations, and sure enough, they’re yours”, wrote Richard Bach in his book Illusions: The Adventures of a Reluctant Messiah. It’s all too easy to find excuses why we can’t do something or complain about what we don’t enjoy, but learning how to find your passion in life and fulfill purpose takes courage—and just a little bit of self-love.

Comfort Is the Enemy of Passion

Comfort can prevent you from finding your passion in life just as contentment breeds complacency. As Nithya Shanti wrote: “When we are interested, we do what is convenient. When we are committed, we do whatever it takes.”

A steady job, regular income, and social recognition all contribute to a temptation to ‘play it safe.’ But how many people pro-actively planned to make a living in the way that it turned out compared with those who ‘fell into’ a job, career, or profession by accident?

‘Work’ is always going to account for a huge proportion of our lives and unless we continuously make conscious choices, we are leaving our destiny to chance. Decisions we take in our twenties typically tend to map out future decades as ‘sensible’ factors like experience, finances, and job-security come into play.

Surprisingly, what may appear at the time to be a setback, such as a challenge at work or even losing your job, can sometimes be a gift—an opportunity to choose a different path.

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It’s at this point in our lives that we may start to have ‘what if?’ moments. But how much better would it be to preempt this with regular reflection and to pro-actively plan our transition? This is the time to be very conscious and aware, to listen to our inner voice, watch our thoughts, and decide where to focus our attention.

Go Deep Into the Body to Find Your Truth

While the voice of the heart says one thing, your brain might have other ideas often based on fear, scarcity, and your gut-feel may be contradicted by logic.

The question is which voice will you listen to? Quiet reflection, space, time, and focusing deep into the feeling will reveal the answer for there the truth lies.

Why? Because passion is an emotion that you just can’t miss! Passion is inextricably linked with pure joy and while merely thinking about our passion is enough to affect our emotions, the acid test is actually doing it. When we actively live our passion and fulfill our purpose, we feed our souls. Doing what we love makes us shine—we extend ourselves, we soar like an eagle.

Once you start living your dream, your whole demeanor changes and your passion becomes infectious. You feel lighter, your life flows more easily, your path is clearer, and you intuitively know what to do next as the pieces of your personal jigsaw start falling into place.

‘Aha!’ moments abound, and decisions become easier as intuition and synchronicity light up the way ahead.

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What You Excel at May Not Be your Passion

When you find your passion in life, it will invariably be something that you are pretty good at. Conversely, you may excel at something that you find completely uninspiring due to a conflict of values or simply a lack of inner connection.

It might fund a lifestyle that keeps you materially satisfied, but is it enough? Only you know the answer to that—or do you?

How would you describe yourself at this moment? Content, happy, joyful, peaceful? How close to the ‘edge’ of your life are you? Ask yourself whether life could be better—whether you could be better.

You’re the Boss!

You know what makes you tick. You know your strengths, weaknesses, tricks, and secrets. You can kid other people but you can’t kid yourself. Only you can permit yourself to follow your dream—to choose to value yourself that much.

No one is going to wave a magic wand so that everything falls into place and you live happily ever after. It’s up to you. You are in charge. You are the boss. You are the one person on this earth qualified to take control of your life.

You know what’s best for you, but you might need some insight to get in touch with your inner wisdom—that gold inside you which is just itching to shine.

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You do want to shine, don’t you?

Clarity Is the Gateway to Finding Your Passion in Life

For 5 consecutive days, ditch reality for fantasy. Pretend that there are no limits to what you can achieve even if it seems impossible.

Do the 5 steps of this process one day at a time to allow your unconscious desires to rise slowly to the surface.[1]

  1. Imagine how fantastic it would be if…
  2. Believe in miracles and brainstorm what you would wish for.
  3. Research some of your initial ideas and see what sticks.
  4. Feel into your heart and gut to see which one is inspiring just for the sheer joy of it.
  5. Imagine you have to choose today, which one would make you think “OMG”?

The 3 C’s: 3 Simple Steps to Passion, Purpose, and Performance

  • Consciousness: Have a candid conversation with yourself about your current frustrations and aspirations. Challenge your version of your life to highlight previously unconscious thought patterns including negative beliefs and limiting narratives.
  • Clarity: Free of these constraints, fresh insight then empowers you to bust the paradigm that seems to have kept you trapped so that you can find and embrace your passion. It also promotes purpose and momentum to create the steps that will lead to your vision.
  • Commitment: Hold yourself accountable to a friend, family member, or work colleague for implementing the action plans that you created.

The Difference Between Creativity and Fulfillment

As you begin to create your reality from your heart space, you may notice an inexplicable drop in your energy levels. This is quite normal and is usually due to a lack of fulfillment. Finding your passion energizes you, enabling you to do the ‘work’ necessary to manifest the dream. But your brain expects the reward immediately. and it wonders “where’s the rush?”

Just keep remembering that the payoff comes at the moment—the ‘now’. Only when you are doing the thing you love will you experience that unique level of joy. So, don’t expect immediate gratification. Just trust that your ROI from the hard work you are putting in place will be worthwhile and that your purpose will be fulfilled.

Final Thoughts

So, this is how 5 days of clarity and the 3 c’s method will help you break the paradigm, empower yourself, find your passion in life, fulfill your purpose, and get from where you are now to where you want to be. The path to finding your passion in life isn’t easy, but it is well worth the effort pursuing.

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Last Updated on November 30, 2021

Confused About Life? Try These 4 Things to Find Clarity

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Confused About Life? Try These 4 Things to Find Clarity

Life is a mystery. We all know that. There are parts where the light at the end of the tunnel is clearly visible, but there are also parts where feel extremely confused about life.

It’s pretty normal to go through these highs and lows. Everyone experiences them, yet only a few speak up about it. So, if you’ve been feeling lost in the maze of life recently, don’t worry, because you’re not alone.

Luckily, since a lot of people have already gone through this before you, the key to unlocking this grave matter has been found!

Why Have I Become So Confused About Life?

Life is like an amusement part. Sometimes, you try a ride that will take you up to the sky. Other times, it brings you back to the ground. If you feel like life is a bumpy ride most days, you are probably questioning why you have become so confused about life.

So what’s going on? Why do you feel this way?

One of the major reasons why you may feel like this is because you don’t have time to enjoy your passions.

If you’re passionate about your career, that’s amazing. However, it may not be an outlet where you can exercise your creativity. If you’re too busy with your job and other daily routines, you’ll eventually feel like you’re stuck in a rut.

Aside from that, you may have also become detached from your purpose. It’s hard to see where you want yourself to end up in the future if you have a shallow idea of what your motivations are.

Third, you may feel confused about life because you’re alone. Even though you’re always with people, there may be a lack of substantial and genuine support around you. Building vital connections with other people is a must.

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Finally, you may be facing cognitive overload. This affects people of all ages. You may have so much stuff on your plate that you feel overloaded and feel out of control. Because of this, you need to find time to offload your current load.

How to Overcome Confusion and Find Joy in Life

You don’t have to be making any more bad decisions due to your confusion. Instead, try out 4 simple things to find clarity.

These things will pull you out of the swamp of confusion and place you on clear, dry land.

“Good. Be confused. Confusion is where inspiration comes from.” –– Robyn Mundell

1. Don’t Panic

When most people feel mental fog starts creeping in, they panic. While it’s human nature to get anxious about feeling like you’re not in control of your life, remember that this is just temporary.

Do not run away from the situation. This temporary solution will only make your problem worse. Instead, reassure yourself that you can get through this. Try to think of a hard situation you have handled before and remember how you powered through it.

It’s absolutely normal to feel like you’re making wrong decisions about your life, but when you fill your mind with negative thoughts, you will begin questioning your ability to overcome challenges. You may even become irrational and make wrong decisions.

As much as you can, be conscious about the way you talk to yourself when you are feeling lost or when you make wrong decisions. By practicing positive self-talk despite your confusion, you can feel more control of your life.

2. Discover Your Direction in a Confused Life

The first of the three things you need to sort is your life’s direction.

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We all are living this life with a deep purpose. There’s a reason why we’re here. Whether you believe in a religion or not, every scientific and religious belief tells us the same thing.

No matter how small or big your life’s purpose is, everything you do in life is connected to it. So, if you can figure it out and follow the right path deliberately, your feelings of being confused about life will be diminished. You will know that every step you take is meaningful because it’s leading you to where you’re supposed to be.

To be honest, finding the direction of your life isn’t the easiest thing. It is a long journey, to say the least. However, if one stays consistently motivated to get an answer, the answer will present itself.

Your life’s direction isn’t written in a secret book, nor is it enclosed in a buried treasure box. It’s closer to you than anything else in this world. The answer that you need is right inside you. That is why it’s so hard to get it out. Since it’s always been inside you, you have to struggle with your own self to bring it out.

But once again, the key is saved because millions before you have already experienced this journey. They succeeded, and so can you.

How To Bring Your Life’s Meaning to the Surface

To find the solution to your confusing life, all you have to do is interrogate yourself. Ask yourself the following questions, test your memory, listen to your intuition, and let clarity find its way to you.

1. What Do You Enjoy the Most in Life?

Currently, nothing is life might seem enjoyable, but look back. There are always certain things that your heart is in deeply. Make a list of the things that you have enjoyed the most in your life. It could be something as small as a 5-minute meditation session or a whole other state that you lived in.

2. What Do You Hate to Do in Life?

Just like some things come naturally to you, some you just naturally cannot enjoy, no matter how hard you try. You don’t necessarily have to be bad at these tasks, but you just don’t like doing them. These are definitely the things that are pulling you away from your life’s true direction.

3. What Are Your Goals?

Based on the things that you enjoy or don’t, you need to come up with some goals. You don’t know your life’s direction very clearly at this point. Hence, your goals don’t have to enforce a certain aim. Just think of the things you’d love to achieve in the longer run. Make a list of SMART goals with all of this knowledge in mind.

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4. Is Your Current Lifestyle Allowing You to Reach Your Goals?

Sit down with your list of goals. It’s time to contemplate. With an open mind, think about everything in your life that is helping you achieve your defined goals. Simultaneously, make a list of things that are pushing you away from them. You already know that whatever is diverging your path needs to be avoided.

5. What Can You Control to Fulfill Your Dreams?

Of the goals that you have, which ones can you achieve by changing parts of your life? Change things that are in your control if they help you reach your aims, dreams, and mental peace.

For things that seem to be out of your control, just accept them[1]. This is a huge factor that causes confusion. Don’t struggle to change everything around you. Some things are out of your hands, and maybe it’s better that way.

3. Figure out Your Ideal Career

The next dilemma that makes your life confusing is regarding career choices. Of course, your well-being depends majorly on your source of income. Now, not only does everyone want a career that makes them wealthy, but they also want to enjoy it.

People who are looking for a stable job, especially fresh graduates, are ones who experience this confusion in the worst possible way. However, some people who already have a well-paid job may also be unhappy with their career choice.

Steps to Shortlist a Career Option

There is a very simple, step-by-step process to help you figure out which career will be your ideal route. Keep in mind that more money doesn’t guarantee mental peace, and, similarly, a job that you enjoy may not pay as much as you want.

1. List Your Skills and Qualifications

Start with self-evaluation. There are two parts to this. The first is your qualifications, and the other is your skill set.

Your qualifications are everything you’ve studied or learned. Include your educational background, majors, subjects, short courses, online seminars, and everything else that you’ve learned over the years.

Next, you have your skills. Everything you’ve learned may not have translated into practicality. The things that you learned to do or know how to do from experimenting or experience all classify as your skills. Include every minute detail, even if it is something like making delicious pancakes.

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The next step is to figure out which careers can use your skills[2]. So if you’re a great cook, you can teach it to other people, work in a restaurant, write a cookbook, etc.

2. Take an Online Career Test

It’s all right if you’re having a hard time putting 2 and 2 together. Matching your skills to a career may be hard for you. That is why there are so many online tests that help you put your finger on it.

You can search online to get access to hundreds of quick tests that ask you a few questions. Based on your answers, they give you some options that you can consider. Look for the ones that jump out immediately, not necessarily the ones at the top of the list. If you feel good about one suggestion, follow that idea further.

3. Look Through Job Options That Require Your Skills

In today’s digital world, searching for jobs is way easier. You don’t have to go door-to-door and ask businesses what they require. Instead, look at the job descriptions that most businesses have posted on their websites. You should follow their social media, too.

If you know of some online job portals, be sure to sign up. Look through the different job postings to figure out where your skills can come in handy. You are highly likely to find a suitable job in this way.

4. Avoid Emotional Attachment If You’re Not Ready

The last thing that may be causing confusion in your life is vagueness in terms of emotional commitments. Should you be romantically involved with someone? Is it time to get married? Should you stay single for a while?

Some signs indicate your unpreparedness for a commitment. If you’re experiencing the opposite, you can go ahead and settle down with a person that you love.

Here are some signs that you may not be ready for emotional commitment. If you identify with any of these, take some time to explore your own goals and direction before offering dedication to another human.

  • You can’t compromise, and things always have to be your way.
  • You can’t spend too much time with the same person because you get bored.
  • Sharing your personal space, time, and things is a big no for you.
  • Your shoulders are already burdened with one too many responsibilities related to career, family, education, etc.
  • Career-wise, you’re not where you want to be, and your attention and focus are on your career goals with no time for distractions.
  • You went through a bad breakup or heartbreak recently.

Final Thoughts

Life is complicated, and confusion is a natural result of that. Fortunately, moments of confusion, if worked through properly, often lead us to higher levels of clarity about our direction and purpose. Take the time to identify why you are confused about life and tackle them to get back on your desired path.

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