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Last Updated on November 26, 2020

How To Find Your Passion in Life and Fulfill Purpose

How To Find Your Passion in Life and Fulfill Purpose

We all have passions, but we don’t always know what they are. Your passion is your gift to the world, but you may have forgotten or suppressed it. Perhaps you lack the courage to follow your heart and turn your dreams into reality, or you base your choices on what you thought was expected of you. It’s all too easy for us to accept our paradigm rather than embarking on a new journey, and that’s why finding your passion in life can be challenging.

Have you denied your passion, not believing deep down that you are worthy of it? Who told you that you are not good enough or that you don’t deserve to do what you love? Was it true? Is it true now?

Here’s the process I learned that empowered me to find clarity around my heartfelt desires, see what was holding me back, and start living the dream.

Negative Thoughts Can Prevent You From Finding Your Passion in Life

Our thoughts are outside of our control. They come and go on their own accord. We don’t choose them but rather, they choose us.

However, what is within our control is how we respond to them. We can allow them to influence us, or we can just watch them go by. We can feed them or just ignore them. We have the gift of discernment and the freedom to choose.

So, when a negative thought comes to mind, something like—”I don’t deserve to be happy in my work so I should do something joyless just to pay the bills,”—why would we pay attention and, thereby, dis-empower ourselves?

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Thoughts like “I can’t do that because…” followed by a list of reasons can hold us back as surely as chains, but they aren’t real—they are just thoughts.

“Argue for your limitations, and sure enough, they’re yours”, wrote Richard Bach in his book Illusions: The Adventures of a Reluctant Messiah. It’s all too easy to find excuses why we can’t do something or complain about what we don’t enjoy, but learning how to find your passion in life and fulfill purpose takes courage—and just a little bit of self-love.

Comfort Is the Enemy of Passion

Comfort can prevent you from finding your passion in life just as contentment breeds complacency. As Nithya Shanti wrote: “When we are interested, we do what is convenient. When we are committed, we do whatever it takes.”

A steady job, regular income, and social recognition all contribute to a temptation to ‘play it safe.’ But how many people pro-actively planned to make a living in the way that it turned out compared with those who ‘fell into’ a job, career, or profession by accident?

‘Work’ is always going to account for a huge proportion of our lives and unless we continuously make conscious choices, we are leaving our destiny to chance. Decisions we take in our twenties typically tend to map out future decades as ‘sensible’ factors like experience, finances, and job-security come into play.

Surprisingly, what may appear at the time to be a setback, such as a challenge at work or even losing your job, can sometimes be a gift—an opportunity to choose a different path.

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It’s at this point in our lives that we may start to have ‘what if?’ moments. But how much better would it be to preempt this with regular reflection and to pro-actively plan our transition? This is the time to be very conscious and aware, to listen to our inner voice, watch our thoughts, and decide where to focus our attention.

Go Deep Into the Body to Find Your Truth

While the voice of the heart says one thing, your brain might have other ideas often based on fear, scarcity, and your gut-feel may be contradicted by logic.

The question is which voice will you listen to? Quiet reflection, space, time, and focusing deep into the feeling will reveal the answer for there the truth lies.

Why? Because passion is an emotion that you just can’t miss! Passion is inextricably linked with pure joy and while merely thinking about our passion is enough to affect our emotions, the acid test is actually doing it. When we actively live our passion and fulfill our purpose, we feed our souls. Doing what we love makes us shine—we extend ourselves, we soar like an eagle.

Once you start living your dream, your whole demeanor changes and your passion becomes infectious. You feel lighter, your life flows more easily, your path is clearer, and you intuitively know what to do next as the pieces of your personal jigsaw start falling into place.

‘Aha!’ moments abound, and decisions become easier as intuition and synchronicity light up the way ahead.

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What You Excel at May Not Be your Passion

When you find your passion in life, it will invariably be something that you are pretty good at. Conversely, you may excel at something that you find completely uninspiring due to a conflict of values or simply a lack of inner connection.

It might fund a lifestyle that keeps you materially satisfied, but is it enough? Only you know the answer to that—or do you?

How would you describe yourself at this moment? Content, happy, joyful, peaceful? How close to the ‘edge’ of your life are you? Ask yourself whether life could be better—whether you could be better.

You’re the Boss!

You know what makes you tick. You know your strengths, weaknesses, tricks, and secrets. You can kid other people but you can’t kid yourself. Only you can permit yourself to follow your dream—to choose to value yourself that much.

No one is going to wave a magic wand so that everything falls into place and you live happily ever after. It’s up to you. You are in charge. You are the boss. You are the one person on this earth qualified to take control of your life.

You know what’s best for you, but you might need some insight to get in touch with your inner wisdom—that gold inside you which is just itching to shine.

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You do want to shine, don’t you?

Clarity Is the Gateway to Finding Your Passion in Life

For 5 consecutive days, ditch reality for fantasy. Pretend that there are no limits to what you can achieve even if it seems impossible.

Do the 5 steps of this process one day at a time to allow your unconscious desires to rise slowly to the surface.[1]

  1. Imagine how fantastic it would be if…
  2. Believe in miracles and brainstorm what you would wish for.
  3. Research some of your initial ideas and see what sticks.
  4. Feel into your heart and gut to see which one is inspiring just for the sheer joy of it.
  5. Imagine you have to choose today, which one would make you think “OMG”?

The 3 C’s: 3 Simple Steps to Passion, Purpose, and Performance

  • Consciousness: Have a candid conversation with yourself about your current frustrations and aspirations. Challenge your version of your life to highlight previously unconscious thought patterns including negative beliefs and limiting narratives.
  • Clarity: Free of these constraints, fresh insight then empowers you to bust the paradigm that seems to have kept you trapped so that you can find and embrace your passion. It also promotes purpose and momentum to create the steps that will lead to your vision.
  • Commitment: Hold yourself accountable to a friend, family member, or work colleague for implementing the action plans that you created.

The Difference Between Creativity and Fulfillment

As you begin to create your reality from your heart space, you may notice an inexplicable drop in your energy levels. This is quite normal and is usually due to a lack of fulfillment. Finding your passion energizes you, enabling you to do the ‘work’ necessary to manifest the dream. But your brain expects the reward immediately. and it wonders “where’s the rush?”

Just keep remembering that the payoff comes at the moment—the ‘now’. Only when you are doing the thing you love will you experience that unique level of joy. So, don’t expect immediate gratification. Just trust that your ROI from the hard work you are putting in place will be worthwhile and that your purpose will be fulfilled.

Final Thoughts

So, this is how 5 days of clarity and the 3 c’s method will help you break the paradigm, empower yourself, find your passion in life, fulfill your purpose, and get from where you are now to where you want to be. The path to finding your passion in life isn’t easy, but it is well worth the effort pursuing.

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Life coach (using the motivational 3 c's Model) and writer.

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I Hate My Life: 10 Things You Can Do Now to Stop Hating Life

I Hate My Life: 10 Things You Can Do Now to Stop Hating Life

Hating life is a bit of a misnomer it seems: in the media, in education, in every aspect of our lives, we’re shown visions of a perfect world, one where everyone is happy and life is a decades-long dream. Unfortunately, it isn’t.

Life can and is hard and tough and painful at times. I have first-hand experience of this: Years ago, I was a recent university graduate, unemployed and aimless. All of this was having a knock-on effect on my social and mental wellbeing—I wasn’t sleeping. I wasn’t seeing my friends as often. I was snappy to family members and I could barely drag myself out of bed in the morning…

That doesn’t mean it can’t change.

Life goes through ebbs and flows all the time and the key to getting through it all without cutting off your social circle and eating your local grocery store out of Ben & Jerry’s, is to cultivate some techniques and methods of going through life with some stability and grace. It’s not a guarantee against life’s hardships but, take the steps you want to use and you won’t hate life.

If you want to stop hating your life and start falling in love with it, take these steps:

1. Get Plenty of Sleep

Seriously, you’re obviously going to be grouchy and more inclined towards the more miserable side, if you’re not getting your recommended seven or more hours of sleep a night.

Start checking in how much you sleep and then start making steps to go to bed earlier and sleep for longer. It might cure every problem but at least you’ll be well-rested and less likely to nap throughout the day. If you’re having trouble getting to sleep, try these 10 Best Natural Sleep Aids to Help You Feel Rested

2. Eat Healthily

I have had a real issue with eating healthily for years and it wasn’t until I was hospitalised a few years ago (for a condition unrelated to my eating for the sake of disclosure), that I really started to look at what I ate and how I viewed my body.

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I’m absolutely an advocate of body positivity and loving your body at any size and while I haven’t lost any huge amount of weight, eating a hell of a lot healthier improved my mood and made me feel better.

In short, it’s absolutely okay to have a pizza and a soda as a treat, but just have something healthier tomorrow.

Here’re some inspirations for you: How to Find a Healthy Eating Plan That Actually Works for You

3. Write It All Down

Sometimes the best thing you can do is let it all out. Keeping things that are making you hate life all bottled up is neither helpful to getting out of that cycle nor healthy for your overall wellbeing.

Grab yourself a notebook, a journal, a diary, a bit of paper, whatever, and just start writing down how you feel. As soon as you’ve done that, start thinking about what you could do in theory to stop this from happening or to stop you from feeling like this.

4. Get Some Fresh Air

It’s underrated and we all take it for granted, but really, getting out of your home and going for a walk can be really beneficial. It gets you outside in the (hopefully) sunshine and getting to see the whole of life as you walk around can be really grounding and calming.

Believe me, if you’re stuck inside mulling over on the bad things of your life, grab a pair of sneakers and go for a walk. Plus, it’s free. Can’t say better than that, can you?

5. Get Some Exercise

This is practically a Part II of the previous step, but as someone who used to look at the gym as something people did when they were feeling particularly masochistic, I can actually say I enjoy it now.

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You don’t even have to subscribe to a fancy gym—go for a run around the block with your headphones in or lift some heavy boxes to build up muscle tone.

Bonus: Doing all that heavy lifting of boxes or incorporating exercise into chores will make your house cleaner and look even more awesome, as well as making you look and feel better.

6. Treat Yourself

Hating your life can be exhausting, and I mean that literally. It drains the energy from you until all you want to do is lie in bed with a pint of ice cream and the last five seasons of a TV show on Netflix.

Therefore, a good thing to keep your spirits up can be to treat yourself.

Life is too short, after all, to deny yourself some treats. Go see that movie that looks awesome in the cinema, grab a gelato with a friend, paint your nails, whatever makes you happy, do it. You deserve it.

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7. Cut out Those Negative Triggers

Chances are that if you hate life, something is setting off those triggers in your head. Until you’re able to deal with them without turning all misanthropic, the best thing might be just to get rid of all of those negative triggers.

If you’re suffering from what AllGroanUp refer to as “Obsessive Comparison Disorder” (i.e. obsessively checking out the lifestyles of all your “successful” friends), then stop using Facebook and Twitter as much.

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Social media can be a fantastic way to connect, but it can be also be a toxic environment for neuroses and comparisons to breed.

Trust me, I know. If it sets you off, cut it out.

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8. Dance

Yes you can dance. No, really, you can. It doesn’t matter if you’re not some breakdancing dynamo or ballroom extraordinaire, everyone can dance. It’s programmed into the human race, the ultimate expression of emotion.

Dance like no one’s watching, dance like you don’t care. Tap your feet, sway your hips, go as mad or as wild as you want to to your favourite songs. Nothing quite shakes the cobwebs off than losing yourself in rhythm and dance to a song you love.

9. Get Organized

A great way to start moving forward and looking at what you can change in your life to make it better, is to get organized.

Spend a weekend going through your home and clearing the unnecessary stuff out of it. Get rid of the stuff you don’t need or don’t want anymore and start to give everything a space.

It doesn’t have to look like it’s stepped off the pages of Good Housekeeping, but clearing a lot of space and making sure that your home has a bit of harmony can do wonders for your mental wellbeing.

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10. Pay It Forward

Life is a mystery and it can be a minefield to get through. Sometimes you stumble, sometimes you fall. The important part is to pick yourself back up and keep walking forward.

Paying it forward is simply helping others. Charity is something that is often thrown around as an accessory to human behavior—how many celebrities have you read about who have done something heinous, but are defended by the phrase “but [they] do charity work”?

Go volunteer! If you think you’re at breaking point, go help other people.

People in the world out there will be going through the same things that you are going through; and while you might not run into someone who’s going through the exact same circumstances, you will be helping people who need help.

Helping out a soup kitchen, or at a church bake sale, or at a homeless shelter or wherever needs help, can make a huge difference to the lives of those individuals involved. And believe me, it’ll do a hell of a lot for your state of mind .

A great idol of mine, Audrey Hepburn, once stated that we have two hands: one for helping ourselves, and one for helping others. That’s a fantastic sentiment and one I think will help people who hate their live.

If you go and help other people, you’re having such a positive ripple effect on the world that some of it will come back to you one way or another, and it will get better.

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