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Last Updated on November 26, 2020

How To Find Your Passion in Life and Fulfill Purpose

How To Find Your Passion in Life and Fulfill Purpose

We all have passions, but we don’t always know what they are. Your passion is your gift to the world, but you may have forgotten or suppressed it. Perhaps you lack the courage to follow your heart and turn your dreams into reality, or you base your choices on what you thought was expected of you. It’s all too easy for us to accept our paradigm rather than embarking on a new journey, and that’s why finding your passion in life can be challenging.

Have you denied your passion, not believing deep down that you are worthy of it? Who told you that you are not good enough or that you don’t deserve to do what you love? Was it true? Is it true now?

Here’s the process I learned that empowered me to find clarity around my heartfelt desires, see what was holding me back, and start living the dream.

Negative Thoughts Can Prevent You From Finding Your Passion in Life

Our thoughts are outside of our control. They come and go on their own accord. We don’t choose them but rather, they choose us.

However, what is within our control is how we respond to them. We can allow them to influence us, or we can just watch them go by. We can feed them or just ignore them. We have the gift of discernment and the freedom to choose.

So, when a negative thought comes to mind, something like—”I don’t deserve to be happy in my work so I should do something joyless just to pay the bills,”—why would we pay attention and, thereby, dis-empower ourselves?

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Thoughts like “I can’t do that because…” followed by a list of reasons can hold us back as surely as chains, but they aren’t real—they are just thoughts.

“Argue for your limitations, and sure enough, they’re yours”, wrote Richard Bach in his book Illusions: The Adventures of a Reluctant Messiah. It’s all too easy to find excuses why we can’t do something or complain about what we don’t enjoy, but learning how to find your passion in life and fulfill purpose takes courage—and just a little bit of self-love.

Comfort Is the Enemy of Passion

Comfort can prevent you from finding your passion in life just as contentment breeds complacency. As Nithya Shanti wrote: “When we are interested, we do what is convenient. When we are committed, we do whatever it takes.”

A steady job, regular income, and social recognition all contribute to a temptation to ‘play it safe.’ But how many people pro-actively planned to make a living in the way that it turned out compared with those who ‘fell into’ a job, career, or profession by accident?

‘Work’ is always going to account for a huge proportion of our lives and unless we continuously make conscious choices, we are leaving our destiny to chance. Decisions we take in our twenties typically tend to map out future decades as ‘sensible’ factors like experience, finances, and job-security come into play.

Surprisingly, what may appear at the time to be a setback, such as a challenge at work or even losing your job, can sometimes be a gift—an opportunity to choose a different path.

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It’s at this point in our lives that we may start to have ‘what if?’ moments. But how much better would it be to preempt this with regular reflection and to pro-actively plan our transition? This is the time to be very conscious and aware, to listen to our inner voice, watch our thoughts, and decide where to focus our attention.

Go Deep Into the Body to Find Your Truth

While the voice of the heart says one thing, your brain might have other ideas often based on fear, scarcity, and your gut-feel may be contradicted by logic.

The question is which voice will you listen to? Quiet reflection, space, time, and focusing deep into the feeling will reveal the answer for there the truth lies.

Why? Because passion is an emotion that you just can’t miss! Passion is inextricably linked with pure joy and while merely thinking about our passion is enough to affect our emotions, the acid test is actually doing it. When we actively live our passion and fulfill our purpose, we feed our souls. Doing what we love makes us shine—we extend ourselves, we soar like an eagle.

Once you start living your dream, your whole demeanor changes and your passion becomes infectious. You feel lighter, your life flows more easily, your path is clearer, and you intuitively know what to do next as the pieces of your personal jigsaw start falling into place.

‘Aha!’ moments abound, and decisions become easier as intuition and synchronicity light up the way ahead.

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What You Excel at May Not Be your Passion

When you find your passion in life, it will invariably be something that you are pretty good at. Conversely, you may excel at something that you find completely uninspiring due to a conflict of values or simply a lack of inner connection.

It might fund a lifestyle that keeps you materially satisfied, but is it enough? Only you know the answer to that—or do you?

How would you describe yourself at this moment? Content, happy, joyful, peaceful? How close to the ‘edge’ of your life are you? Ask yourself whether life could be better—whether you could be better.

You’re the Boss!

You know what makes you tick. You know your strengths, weaknesses, tricks, and secrets. You can kid other people but you can’t kid yourself. Only you can permit yourself to follow your dream—to choose to value yourself that much.

No one is going to wave a magic wand so that everything falls into place and you live happily ever after. It’s up to you. You are in charge. You are the boss. You are the one person on this earth qualified to take control of your life.

You know what’s best for you, but you might need some insight to get in touch with your inner wisdom—that gold inside you which is just itching to shine.

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You do want to shine, don’t you?

Clarity Is the Gateway to Finding Your Passion in Life

For 5 consecutive days, ditch reality for fantasy. Pretend that there are no limits to what you can achieve even if it seems impossible.

Do the 5 steps of this process one day at a time to allow your unconscious desires to rise slowly to the surface.[1]

  1. Imagine how fantastic it would be if…
  2. Believe in miracles and brainstorm what you would wish for.
  3. Research some of your initial ideas and see what sticks.
  4. Feel into your heart and gut to see which one is inspiring just for the sheer joy of it.
  5. Imagine you have to choose today, which one would make you think “OMG”?

The 3 C’s: 3 Simple Steps to Passion, Purpose, and Performance

  • Consciousness: Have a candid conversation with yourself about your current frustrations and aspirations. Challenge your version of your life to highlight previously unconscious thought patterns including negative beliefs and limiting narratives.
  • Clarity: Free of these constraints, fresh insight then empowers you to bust the paradigm that seems to have kept you trapped so that you can find and embrace your passion. It also promotes purpose and momentum to create the steps that will lead to your vision.
  • Commitment: Hold yourself accountable to a friend, family member, or work colleague for implementing the action plans that you created.

The Difference Between Creativity and Fulfillment

As you begin to create your reality from your heart space, you may notice an inexplicable drop in your energy levels. This is quite normal and is usually due to a lack of fulfillment. Finding your passion energizes you, enabling you to do the ‘work’ necessary to manifest the dream. But your brain expects the reward immediately. and it wonders “where’s the rush?”

Just keep remembering that the payoff comes at the moment—the ‘now’. Only when you are doing the thing you love will you experience that unique level of joy. So, don’t expect immediate gratification. Just trust that your ROI from the hard work you are putting in place will be worthwhile and that your purpose will be fulfilled.

Final Thoughts

So, this is how 5 days of clarity and the 3 c’s method will help you break the paradigm, empower yourself, find your passion in life, fulfill your purpose, and get from where you are now to where you want to be. The path to finding your passion in life isn’t easy, but it is well worth the effort pursuing.

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Life coach (using the motivational 3 c's Model) and writer.

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7 Reasons Why a Life Without Purpose is Unfulfilling

7 Reasons Why a Life Without Purpose is Unfulfilling

Every motivational speaker preaches the importance of having a purpose in life. They all tell you that a life without purpose is not the right way to go.

None of them are wrong. In fact, what they say is 100% true. But it’s not the easiest when you’re struggling to find the motivation that you need to find a purpose. It takes a lot to take a step out of your life without purpose to change the way you live and think.

What bigger motivation can there be than to tell you all the reasons why a life without purpose is hurting you?

Here are 7 fundamental reasons that will give you just enough motivation to get on with the search of your life’s purpose because living without one is affecting you beyond your imagination!

1. A Life Without Purpose Has No Meaning

Have you ever dreaded living a lifeless life? If not, you probably don’t know how excruciating such an existence is.

Imagine not wanting to wake up every morning but also not wanting to go to sleep at night. No will to work, no excitement to spend, no friends’ company to enjoy, and no reason to continue living. A blank mind with nothing to think about. The lack of emotions—negative and positive. Nothing to look forward to.

Yes, it’s clearly a depressing life. That’s exactly what you end up feeling without a purpose in life.

A lack of purpose means a lack of goals. This means nothing is leading you to an imaginary final destination. You literally have nowhere to go, you find it absolutely torturous to be on the way, and you don’t even like the route.

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Why even would you want to go on such a journey?

Even if you have goals, they are very haphazard. One goal contradicts the other. You’re all over the place with no sense of direction at all. A life without purpose is as meaningless as this.

However, once you have a clear idea of why you’re living, you get an idea of the bigger outcome that you can look forward to. Every step of the way is meaningful. Your journey is not just a wander around without an aim. Instead, even the strolls become enjoyable because you know they’re leading you to where you’re supposed to be.

2. You’re Full of Anxiety

Do you find yourself stuck in a cycle of an anxious life? Well, there’s a high chance it’s because of your lack of purpose.

A life without purpose is senseless. Nothing you do in life is connected. Since nothing seems to be coherent, your mind is unable to comprehend why everything is happening.

Anxiety is triggered when a person’s mind thinks their life is in danger. So, in the case of a purposeless life, your brain translates the lack of connection to be a threat to your life. Anything that doesn’t seem to be a fit is automatically a danger as per your brain.

On the contrary, if your mind can link your doings with a coherent purpose, everything tends to make more sense. Hence, you feel more at peace and less anxious. Your mind is at ease because the path to the final purpose isn’t pointless anymore.

3. Motivation Is a Long-Lost Dream

One thing that pretty much every human who wants to be successful needs is a lot of motivation.

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For a clearer picture, look at it from the perspective that you do have a defined purpose in life. You trust in every way that life leads you to. What does that do? It boosts your brain to work harder. Every step of the way makes you feel closer to your final destination. This automatically encourages you to perform better.

Without a purpose, you can never scale your achievements. Since you don’t know what it’s leading you to, you consider it to be meaningless. But when you’re well-aware of the expected results, the smallest progress is a motivation booster too.

You can try out all the motivation boosting tips but the one that will work the best is to find your life’s purpose and live by it.

4. Lack of Focus Keeps You From Growing

Every field, career, part of life, and relationship requires growth. Human life is ultimately the name of progress—if nothing else, at least your mental capacity and knowledge grow.

Where does this growth come from? You could have access to the best knowledge sources. Yet, you won’t learn a word unless your mind is in a state to absorb that information. Similarly, if you’re focused, you can learn something valuable even from the most non-happening events.

Basically, the way this works is that a life purpose keeps you working in one direction. You may take a few turns here and there, but the ultimate output is known. So, all the hard work you’re putting in is intended for your life’s purpose in the bigger picture.

This focus is unachievable any other way. With a purpose, you’ll choose a career path, people around you, relationships, friends, living space, and even your daily commute accordingly. So everywhere you go, your focus remains undisturbed. The end goal in mind is consistent.

With a clear focus on the right things, you can easily get past the minor inconveniences. The important things are always in your focus no matter how small they are. So, overall, it gets way easier for a person with a defined life purpose to work well, harder, and more effectively.

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5. Success Seems Unachievable in a Life Without Purpose

Everything that you’ve read so far directly contributes to your success or failure. So, mental peace, motivation, and focus are all important to be successful in any part of your life. But there’s more to the picture.

You may have a vision in mind even if you don’t have a life purpose. You might even push yourself to the maximum to stay focused in the direction that you think is right for you.

Look at it this way:

You head out for New York but you got on the wrong road. You’re welcomed with a narrow road that is too dark to even see around—but you keep going. Your car breaks down and there’s no workshop nearby. Yet, you push the car as far as possible. You can go for as long you want but you’ll never reach New York.

So, without even knowing what your life’s purpose is—no matter how hard you work—it will be useless. If you know the right path for you, you might not even have to work half as hard to get to your desired results.

6. Affects Physical Health

A life without purpose affects more than just your mental health. It can impact your physical wellbeing too.[1]

First of all, the strain on your mind automatically translates to your physical body. Continuous stress is likely to cause hair loss, acne, weight loss, weight gain, etc. But there can be more serious consequences as well.

Studies have proven that people with a clear sense of purpose in life live longer than those who continue with a life without purpose. People with their life purpose well-defined were able to tolerate more pain and also had a lesser risk of heart diseases.

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What’s more astonishing is that people without a purpose in life are 2.4 times more likely to develop Alzheimer’s disease, too.

The reason may possibly be that people who don’t have a life purpose lose hope and don’t have anything to look forward to. So, the psychological effect gets to their physical wellbeing. Whatever the case, if a defined life purpose can save you from all this hassle, why wouldn’t want to have one?

7. Nothing in Life Is Enjoyable

Social inclusion is a huge part of one’s purpose in life.[2] People who are living a purposeless life tend to be more lonely. Even if they join social gatherings, they are lesser likely to enjoy it.

Since such people do not have mental clarity, they just cannot enjoy the fun things around them. Their brain is unable to comprehend emotions. This doesn’t necessarily mean that their circumstances aren’t good enough. The same environment and people can be enjoyable for a person who feels content mentally.

Conclusion

Every single one of these reasons is proven to be a result of a purposeless life. Every single reason leads to a chaotic lifestyle. Nobody would purposely want to live a life like that.

We’ve been given a very short time to live in this world. So instead of wasting it living a life without purpose, it’s time you start making an effort to improve it.

Getting out of this hurtful life is right within your hands. Go through the hassle and short-term struggle to live a worthy life till eternity!

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Reference

[1] University of Minnesota: Why is Life Purpose Important?
[2] NCBI: Alone and Without Purpose

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