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Published on August 4, 2020

15 Ways to Live a Fuller and Happier Life

15 Ways to Live a Fuller and Happier Life

You want to learn how to live a fuller happier life, and that is amazing! Happiness is entirely within your control; you just have to release the idea that you can find happiness from external sources. You create happiness for yourself by changing your attitude towards your life and improving your mindset.

I have split this list into three sections: Let Go, Discover, and Take Action. We cover all the things you need to let go of to life a fuller life, the parts of you that you need to discover, and the actions that you need to take in order to live your best life.

Let Go

Learning to let go of things that no longer serve you is imperative on your path to a happier life.

1. Let Go of Perfection

Nothing slows down happiness and growth faster than the relentless pursuit of perfection. It stops you in your tracks, frozen with the endless edits, tinkers, and changes to create your idea of perfection.

You will never be happy if you are constantly in the pursuit of perfection, because perfection is unattainable. You can perceive something as perfect, but if you constantly search for perfection, you will only ever find more flaws. You are coming from a headspace that leads you to believe it isn’t good enough, and that negative headspace can’t be filled with more tinkering and changing; it can only be filled with love and acceptance.

Let go of trying to do everything perfectly. Do everything imperfectly, and breathe through that nagging thought that it isn’t perfect. You’ll be surprised by how much stress is left behind.

2. Let Go of the Idea That You Know Everything

As we become teenagers and adults, we develop this mindset that we know everything and to not know something is to be weak and vulnerable. Let go of this idea and start questioning everything you think you know.

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The concept that you know everything and that you are always right is a closed mindset. You can’t learn, grow, and change if you aren’t open to new ideas and ways of thinking. Practice saying things like: “I did not know that,” “What do you think about this?” and “Is this true, or is this something I have just known my whole life?” Question your reality because it might be just repeated, old, and outdated ideals.

3. Let Go of Your Ego

Your ego is a wonderful tool at times, but when your ego gets too bossy, it becomes a problem. What is the ego? The ego is your idea of self[1]. The ego makes you act for appearances instead of principles.

When you’re performing for imaginary people’s imaginary expectations for you, you can only lose because you are creating the expectations and making them unrealistic. It is a constant practice to let go of the ego. Practice gratitude and letting go of those all-consuming thoughts.

4. Let Go of Constant Comparison

If you really want to learn how to live a fuller happier life, you have to stop comparing yourself to other people. Comparing yourself to others is futile because you aren’t the same. You haven’t walked in their shoes, and you don’t have their resources or skill set. You are different, and focusing on comparing yourself to them will only bring negative results.

Comparison ultimately results in resentment and deprives you of the joy in your life because, instead of focusing on all that you have, you focus on how you aren’t enough. Be inspired by other people and use it to propel your goals forward, but keep your eyes on your own unique life.

5. Let Go of Focusing on Negative Situations

I hate the phrase “think positive,” but it is misunderstood. It doesn’t mean ignore your problems and feelings; it means get creative. Find another solution. Think outside of the box! It is so easy to focus on the bad that is happening to you, but try not to focus on all the lack; practice gratitude and focus on all that you have.

Redirect your attention to potential solutions to your problems. Reach out for help if you need it. You can control how you perceive and handle situations. For example: Life is hard, and you are down, and you can’t stop feeling sad even though you are doing your best to avoid it and change your mindset. Try a new approach. Sit with your feelings, feel them fully, and face them so they can pass. Don’t focus on the negatives out of your control. Focus on the positive, the things to be grateful for, and all that you have.

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Discover

Life is full of lessons and surprises that are constantly waiting to be discovered. However, the most important discoveries are found inside of you.

6. Discover Your Values

Who are you? What do you believe in? If you want to learn how to live a fuller happier life, start with working out who you really are, what you truly believe in, and what your values are. Once you know who you are, what you value, and who you want to be, live your life in this way, despite what others may think of your choices.

7. Discover Self-Compassion

Life is hard, confusing, and messy. You aren’t a God. You are just a person trying to figure it out like the rest of us. Give yourself a break; you don’t have to have it all figured out. Always speak to yourself with kindness, even after you have done something wrong. Learn from your mistakes and be kind to yourself, and you will be so much happier. After all, it’s hard to be happy when there is someone living in your head constantly being mean to you.

8. Discover How to Live With No Regrets

When I was 14, I saw this motivational quote printed on wallpaper: “When you want to do something, do it right away. Do it when you can. It’s the only way to live a life without regrets.” I still remember it because it is so true.

Do you want to wake up at 70 or 80 or 100 and realize that you have regrets? Money comes around, time does not. If you want to do something, go do it. Now. Live your life right now, because you never know when you will wake up regretting all the things you never did.

9. Discover Balance

If you want to learn how to live a fuller happier life, you need to find balance. Do more things you love! Have more fun!

Spend some time finding balance in areas that you are lacking. For example, a workaholic will most likely need to have adventure. Someone who is constantly stressed may need to incorporate yoga or meditation into their routine. Find a way to stabilize your actions and emotions to live happier.

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10. Discover Your Self-Expression

If you learn how to express yourself emotionally and creatively, you will find a new world of happiness and fulfillment. Embrace your inner artist. Speak your truth, and say how you truly feel, fearlessly.

Part of living authentically is expressing who you are, even if people don’t like it. Live your truth, and find your tribe. You are wonderful and important, and you will find happiness in expressing who you really are.

Take Action

Taking action in life is only helpful if your actions help you stay true to your authentic self. Practice the actions below to learn how to live a fuller happier life.

11. Leave Your Comfort Zone

To live your fullest life, it means you have to leave your comfort zone and achieve your goals. Everything you want is on the other side of your comfort zone. Fear and happiness may seem like opposites, but they aren’t. Fear is just the step to help you up to the cookie jar that is happiness. To get there, you must be brave enough to get on the step and risk falling off.

12. Take One Day at a Time

Focus on living your best day each day. Don’t focus on how bad the past has been or what the future could be. Every day is a new day, and your past mistakes were lessons for you to apply today so you don’t repeat your mistakes. Focus on how you can improve today to be happy, fulfilled, and hit your goals in the future.

13. Surround Yourself With People Who Lift You up

You are only as happy as your environment. If you are surrounded by negative people who don’t believe in you and try and keep you down, your ability to be happy and fulfilled will be capped. If there are people in your life trying to sabotage your happiness, you’ll have a difficult time overcoming those negative emotions.

You are a combination of the five people you hang out with most, so make sure they are on your team and will to spread positivity wherever they go. Don’t be afraid to change up your people; you are doing them a favor, as well.

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14. Do What Makes You Happy

Not everyone is going to understand what you are doing, and people will try and tell you that you are crazy and hold you back. However, if it makes you happy and fulfilled, do it anyway. Prove them wrong.

Innovators have to push the boundaries of what is possible, and this applies to your life. You are an innovator, too. Your project is your life, and you have to be willing to continue down your path despite the negative voices that may come your way.

15. Take Personal Responsibility

It’s time to take action and take personal responsibility for your life. Bad things happen to people every day, and you have to stop blaming other people and situations for your bad experiences. This is a simple but vital mindset shift because it takes control back.

If you are responsible for everything that happens to you and you do, then you can change it. Take responsibility for each thing that happens to you, and use the knowledge you gain to prevent the same mistakes in the future. However (and this is key), don’t use it to blame and torture yourself about how bad a person you are. Use it to learn and apply to the future, without self-shaming. None!

Final Thoughts

Learning how to live a fuller happier life is completely in your control. It is all about attitude, mindset, and actions taken to create the life you want. It can be scary and overwhelming, but if you take small steps and practice gratitude, you can find your happiness. You deserve to be happy, so choose it.

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10 Things to Do If You’re Feeling Hopeless About Your Future

10 Things to Do If You’re Feeling Hopeless About Your Future

Whether you’re a mother who wants the best for her children, a hard worker waiting for your promotion, or someone dealing with a personal tragedy such as a job loss, divorce, or losing a loved one, when we are feeling hopeless, we all need to dig deep to make it through these challenges.

However, hope can only be accessed once we get out of our heads and quit over-rationalizing. We need to be truly convinced that better things are in store for us. Even if things may not seem to be going right in the present, we need to believe that there’s a bigger plan that we cannot yet see.

These 10 steps will inspire you and give you the boost of hope that you need to keep going when you’re feeling hopeless about the future.

1. Take a Step Back

If you’re overwhelmed by your emotions, and if the feelings of insecurity are plaguing your mind, it’s a sign that you need to step back and engage in some serious self-care to regroup and honor your feelings.

Go for a walk, speak with a friend, take a mini-vacation, listen to music, meditate, or journal. Do anything that helps you return to center and balance.

Acknowledge and reward yourself for each milestone you reach, no matter how small. Every step you take matters and will bring you closer to your dreams.

Focus on the now by taking conscious, deep breaths and appreciating all that’s in your present moment.

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2. Revisit Your Vision and Goals

If you’ve hit a wall, it would be beneficial to revisit your goals and vision. Take note of the exact goals that you have laid out and remind yourself what inspired you to create them in the first place.

For example, if you want to lose 10 pounds, was it because your doctor recommended it or because you want to get healthier?

The key is to set goals that you’re fired up about and that you’re willing to commit to. Your goals need to be connected to an overarching vision that will galvanize you to overcome any obstacle.

Create a vision board, or write a descriptive and vivid account of what you would like to achieve.

3. Manage Your Expectations

Another possible reason that you’re losing motivation and feeling hopeless is that your expectations are too high. Often, our biggest disappointments occur from having unrealistic expectations. “Unrealistic” doesn’t always mean that you can’t achieve your goals, but that you may need more time or resources to actualize them.

For example, when opening a new store, instead of hoping to make 10K, focus on breaking even and perfecting your system of operations. Set positive and specific goals that feel manageable, especially in the beginning stages. Setting healthy expectations that are easy to reach will encourage you to keep going.

4. Have a Contingency Plan

There’s always a chance that your plans won’t work out as you hoped they would. I know that it’s hard to accept failure as a possibility without getting dejected, especially if it’s important to you.However, I’ve always found that having an alternative plan keeps failure in perspective[1].

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A plan B is like a safety net, there to catch you in case you lose your grip. In creating a contingency plan, it’s essential to assess what went wrong in your previous plan.

What could you have done differently? What are the lessons from the experience that can equip you with the knowledge to get it right the next time around? Ask friends, mentors, and coaches for candid feedback to supplement your own insights.

Let a solid plan B comfort you in knowing that failure is not the end of the road but merely a bend that’s leading you somewhere else.

You can learn how to create a solid contingency plan here.

5. Find Sources of Positive Reinforcement

Hope is like a candle flame that can burn out without constant positive reinforcement. We need reminders to stimulate us with hope about the future. Fortunately, there are plenty of ways to be inspired, such as acknowledging our small successes along the way and remembering the times when we were able to overcome obstacles.

You can also find inspiration in books, music, movies, affirmation, and other people’s stories. I also love being in the presence of young children who radiate optimism. Find your own unique sources of motivation that work for you and do your best to stay away from the black hole of social media.

6. Have a Strong Circle of Support

As social beings, we benefit tremendously from having support from a community of people that matter to us when we are feeling hopeless. Friends and family members are the primary lifeline for most of us, but we can also extend our network to include a trusted group of mentors, coaches, counselors, or a support group who are open to hearing our story and who believe in the vision that we have for our life.

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Whenever we’re down and out, these are the people who can be a source of comfort and help us get back in the game.

7. Stay in Touch With Your Vision

It’s easier to feel hopeful when we’re guided by a strong vision for our future. That’s why it’s essential to clarify your vision and future plans.

Goal-setting, vision boards, and visualization are a couple of techniques that can give shape to our dreams. By committing to these practices, our vision will become more tangible and within our reach.

Touching base with our goals will make them feel real and give us a focal point towards which we can direct all of our energy.

8. Stay Well-Informed and Be Proactive

Without knowledge and action, hope is just psychological fluff. Hope should propel us to seek out more information about what we desire and take directed steps towards realizing it.

Knowledge is power, as the saying goes, and it gives us the capacity to make more mindful choices. It strengthens our belief that we have what it takes to influence outcomes and to consciously move forward.

9. Stay Focused on the Present Moment

Hope has a future orientation and can, therefore, direct our thoughts away from the present. It’s essential that you don’t spend too much time planning for the future as this can lead to feeling hopeless.

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Even though we want things to get better, we have to make peace with where we are in our current lives. This quiet acceptance will give us inner peace and prevent us from becoming overly attached to future outcomes[2].

Stay present to overcome feeling hopeless

    The truth is that the present moment is all we’ll ever have, and we should make every effort to capture its beauty and essence as we go through it.

    10. Practice Gratitude

    Gratitude generates a feeling of warmth and abundance. Based on the Law of Attraction[3], the more appreciative that you are for all that you have, material or otherwise, the more you’re likely to attract good things to you and improve your mental health.

    The next time you’re feeling down about the future, take a deep breath and think of all the wonderful things and people around you. You’ll feel an instant shift in how you see your life when you see how many things in your life you can be grateful for.

    You can start spending time with a gratitude journal or think of a few things you’re thankful for on a daily basis.

    The Bottom Line

    The next time you feel hopeless while waiting for things to happen in your life, remember that life is ultimately about the journey and not the destination. Hold your dreams close to your heart, work steadily towards them, but don’t forget to look around you and appreciate the gift of being alive on this beautiful planet.

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