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Last Updated on December 14, 2020

17 Things To Avoid In Order To Reach Your Goals

17 Things To Avoid In Order To Reach Your Goals

There are many things, both internal and external, that can stand in the way when you try to reach your goals. While you may not have control over the external factors, your ability to overcome personal habits that can stand in the way of reaching your goals is essential if you will overcome other stumbling blocks outside of yourself.

The following are highlights of some unfavorable attitudes and behaviors that you need to avoid in other to reach your goals. It also includes suggestions on what you should be doing instead to reach your goals.

1. Procrastination

One of the ways to kill your drive towards achieving your goals is when you form the habit of shifting what you can do now until a later time or day. This happens to most of us. You can begin to slip off the timelines of your goals if you don’t take the bull by the horn and do what needs to be done. The first thing you need to avoid to reach your goals is procrastination because it’s a killer of dreams.

Suggestion: Set aside distractions such as social media and TV. Also, practice doing the hard and important things first. Brian Tracy suggests that “if you have two important tasks before you, start with the biggest, hardest, most important task,” and persist to finish it before you move on to something else[1]. You need to activate the power of self-discipline to boost your productivity in order to accomplish your goals.

2. Pessimism

Sarah Dessen says[2]:

If you expect the worst, you’ll never be disappointed.

Pessimists are people who think about impossibility rather than possibilities or are more concerned about threats rather than opportunities.

A pessimist believes no matter what you do, the worst would eventually happen. However, to reach your goals, you need a high level of optimism. By being optimistic, you will find the energy to give the goals your best because you expect things to turn out well.

Suggestion: Resist negative thoughts. If you have found out some things can’t be done or are difficult to come by, spend extra time to find how they can be done. Where there is a will, there will always be a way.

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3. Complacency

To be complacent is to be in a situation where you do not see the need to do something substantial about your current situation. In complacency, your life revolves around a routine, and you are not learning or doing anything to challenge yourself or try something new.

One of the reasons people become complacent is the fear of failure or fear of what other people might think[3]. Perhaps you’ve been accused of being over-ambitious with your goals, which makes you want to tread softly; this can lead to complacency.

Suggestion: Never mind what people say about you; many are going nowhere, so work at your own pace. Don’t get stuck in a routine. Try something new consistently that can help you achieve your goals.

4. Imitating Others

Another thing to avoid is imitating others. Some people admire what others are doing, and they try to do the same without doing their own homework. While you can learn from what someone else is doing, you can’t succeed by just copying them.

Suggestion: If you admire what someone else is doing, try to learn about the source of their motivation. Then, if you desire to follow a similar direction, think about unique ways you can go about yours in a way that will work best for you.

5. Oversized Goals

Setting oversized goals is setting goals you do not need or goals that require a set of skills, experience, and resources you don’t have at the moment. You don’t have to run yourself to a burn out because of your goals. While it is okay to set stretch goals, working your butt off and achieving nothing at the end of the day can be demoralizing.

Suggestion: You can set big goals but also map out realistic plans to achieve the goals rather than just planning to “work hard” to achieve the goals. Otherwise, set the goals you can achieve within your capacity.

6. Self-Limiting Beliefs

Many times, we think we are not good enough or we don’t have the required experience to attain certain goals. In many cases, these thoughts are not true. They do not represent who we are; they are just thoughts based on low self-esteem.

Suggestion: Try to place what you are thinking side by side with what you have achieved over the years. Many times, when you take the time to write out your accomplishments, you will find out that you are more intelligent and have more abilities than you thought.

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7. Lack of Drive

Reaching your goals requires that you have sustained inspiration, tenacity, and drive to pull through the obstacles and challenges you face. Without those, your goals can become inactive, or you can become overwhelmed and abandon your goals.

Suggestion: Find every way to stay inspired and motivated in order to generate drive towards accomplishing your goals.

8. Lack of Consistency

Your goals will require some daily, weekly, monthly or periodic commitments to achieve them. It might be reading some chapters of a book weekly, exercising for some minutes every day, saving some amount of money monthly, etc. All these will require consistency, and missing out on your planned routines will bring a setback to your goals.

Suggestion: Make a plan and determine to follow your action plans strictly and consistently.

This article can help you learn how to stay consistent to achieve your goals.

9. Unclear Objectives

When the objectives of your goals are not clearly set, it is hard to reach them because there are no clear-cut yardsticks to measure your goals performance. While your goal is the end result you want to achieve, your goal objectives are the specific and measurable actions you have to take to achieve your goals.

Suggestion: Set clear objectives for your goals.

10. Pursuing the Wrong Goals

Some goals are not meant for you. You can know if you are chasing after the wrong goals when your goals are not aligned with who you are and you’re doing it because you don’t know what else to do. It’s also a clue if it doesn’t take much effort to achieve the goals you’ve set or if you’re not even sure whether you have achieved them or not.

Suggestion: Think properly before setting your goals and make sure they align with what you really want and have the ability to do.

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11. Quitting Easily

Goals are meant to be challenging. If your goals aren’t challenging you, it means they are not worth it. You will never be able to achieve your goals if you are the type that quits easily. The challenges are there to stretch you to think and work harder.

Suggestion: When setting your goals, think ahead about the possible difficulties that you might encounter. Then, have a plan on how you intend to work around them.

12. Taking Shortcuts

Taking shortcuts will not help you to achieve your goals. For example, the concept of weight loss has to do with “negative energy balance.” This means that weight loss will most likely happen when the amount of calories that you need is lesser than the ones you are taking in or retaining. This is why weight loss comes through exercise and proper diet.

I instead of exercising and dieting, you resolve to be taking “slimming teas” and other substances to “burn fat,” you might end up damaging your health rather than losing weight.

Suggestion: Be sure to follow due process on your goals. The results will be more accurate, reliable, and long-lasting.

13. Taking on Too Much

When you have too many things to do at one time, you won’t have the required attention for each of them, and this will make it difficult to achieve anything substantial.

Suggestion: Prioritize your goals and focus on one thing at a time.

14. Lack of Collaboration

Some goals might require that you collaborate with someone else. It might be your spouse, colleague at work, or business partner. Failure to do this or ask for help from someone can lead to not reaching your goals.

Suggestion: Look for partners in progress with whom you can work together to achieve your goals

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15. Poor Communication

Communication is essential to achieving your goals. Les Brown stated that “your ability to communicate is an important tool in the pursuit of your goals, whether it is with your family, your co-workers or your clients and customers.” Poor communication leads to poor results

Suggestion: Learn to communicate and be honest about your goals.

If you need help working on your communication skills, this article may be able to help.

16. Overconfidence

Sometimes, overconfidence can cost you your goals. If you think you have all you need to achieve your goals and you don’t embrace learning new things or ask for help when you need it, you are not doing things right.

Suggestion: Learn all you can about your goals and don’t hesitate to ask for help if you need it.

17. Limited Understanding of Requirements

If you have a limited understanding of what it takes to achieve your goal, you might become overwhelmed when the reality stares you in the face. This might lead to abandoning your goal.

Suggestion: Know what it takes to achieve your goals and only proceed when you’ve carefully figured out how you will meet the requirements.

Bottom Line

Try your best to ensure that you are not the enemy of your own progress. Be self-disciplined, believe in yourself, and put in your best toward achieving your goals. Watch out for hindrances, and do not hesitate to get help if you need to.

Featured photo credit: Dan DeAlmeida via unsplash.com

Reference

[1] Brian Tracy: Eat That Frog
[2] Goodreads: Lock and Key Quotes
[3] Ryan Estis: Why Do We Become Complacent, Comfortable and Bored?

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30 Goals To Set For Yourself Before Turning Into 40s

30 Goals To Set For Yourself Before Turning Into 40s

Some people believe that once they’ve passed the age of 30, they’re too old to do something new and exciting; that it’s time for them to settle down.

If you have found your dream job, and are clear about your purpose of life, then go ahead and live your best life! However, it’s never too late to dream a new dream and set some new goals.

The vast majority of the people focus on their careers and how much they need to earn, but there are certain things you should do to create unforgettable memories and make yourself proud of what you managed to accomplish.

Whereas there are countless ideas which vary on your attitude and lifestyle, the following list is full of things anyone should try.

1. Visit a new continent.

New continent means a whole new experience, different culture and tons of interesting people to meet. Everyone should visit another continent at least once in a lifetime, it’s a priceless experience.

2. Travel to at least 20 countries.

Each new country you visit is an original life lesson and unique memories. The more countries you travel to, the better you can compare them and draw conclusions from people’s behavior, culture, and rituals. By spending time in different environments, we can learn a lot about ourselves.

3. Make at least one friend in every country you visit.

Traveling somewhere without making a new friend there is a huge loss. By interacting with local people, you may have a chance to learn about the secret facts of that very location and explore some mysterious places. What’s more, creating a bond with the locals creates an opportunity to revisit the country cheaper by being hosted by the people you’ve met.

4. Take a spontaneous trip.

Without planning every single detail, pack all the necessary stuff and set off into the unknown. You don’t even have to leave your country, the key is to make it impromptu, face what life throws at you and see how you can deal with that. Once the trip is over, you’ll learn some incredible lessons that you wouldn’t have by booking an all-inclusive vacation.

Catching a last-minute flight to a random destination might be a starting point for a serious adventure.

5. Learn a new language.

Do you know what’s the Bill Gates’ most regretted thing is? It’s not learning a second language. During your travel, it’s a great opportunity to practice your language skills with locals. While you are at home, you can learn the basics using books, attending a course or through online programs. And then, once you have a chance to speak with native speakers, this will be the moment when you learn the most. During just a few months of attending a German high school, I learned far more than spending two years of practice with books (though it was a good preparation).

6. Go Bungee Jumping.

This idea may seem crazy to you, but it’s just a warm up comparing to the next one. Bungee jumping is an insane way to face your fears and do something against common sense. As for me, it’s a valuable lesson which emphasizes the fact that even the scariest things turn out to be tolerable once you go through them.

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7. Skydive.

As I promised, this one is hardcore. Experience the unstoppable power of gravitation and see the world from a different perspective. Though I didn’t skydive yet, doing it at least once is definitely on my bucket list.

8. Face your worst fear.

Whatever you fear, most probably it’s a mental issue and not a real danger. There’re countless phobias people suffer from. I don’t know what’s yours, but I dare you to test your limits and see how far you can go.

9. Stand on top of a mountain.

And get there going on a foot. The view from the top is invaluable and unique. You literally feel the power of nature and see how small we actually are comparing to the natural forces.

10. Boost your financial stability.

Before you turning into 40, becoming financially independent is almost mandatory. To avoid getting lost in debt and make the money work for you and not vice versa, you should devote some time to learning finances. This 14-day plan is a great way to start.

11. Create your personal emergency fund.

Saving money regularly is a life-saving habit once you are in financial troubles. Most experts suggest your emergency fund should allow yourself to cover at least 3 months of living expenses. While you are busy making your dreams come true and doing crazy things, be aware that accidents do happen, so having a financial security is definitely helpful while you’ll be figuring out the alternative plan to solve your problems.

12. Create an online business on the side.

Nowadays, there are endless ways to make some extra money online. A legit method almost anyone can try out is monetizing your skills through creating an online course or ebook. It’s a great way to cover additional expenses and learn a bit of entrepreneurship from real life experience. Maybe you’ll even be able to leave your 9–5 and create your dream lifestyle making money from any place in the world like digital nomads do.

To learn more, check out these 24 easy ways to make money on the internet.

13. Develop a habit of daily exercising.

The older you are, the more likely you are to lead a sedentary lifestyle which is a horrible tendency. To avoid it, focus on creating healthy habits. There’s no excuse for not finding at least 20 minutes a day to train. You can try out bodyweight workouts or go for a quick run.

Your body will be incredibly grateful and serve you well for longer.

Although he has one of the most exacting jobs you can imagine, Barrack Obama works out for 45-minute every day. It’s a habit everyone should borrow.

14. Start eating healthy.

Diet-related problems are a huge concern in today’s world. More than one-third U.S. adults are obese. Mostly, because of unhealthy diet and a sedentary lifestyle. Taking care of your eating patterns is mandatory if you keep your health. The more you put it off, there more likely you are to never get started.

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In a nutshell, choose unprocessed, whole products and avoid junk food with huge amounts of sugar, salt, and fat.

15. Get in the best shape of your life.

There are some living miracles like C.T. Fletcher who achieved the best shape during his 50s. However, now is always the perfect moment to do that. Educate yourself about nutrition, maybe invest in a personal coach and commit to fully transform your body. There are countless 1-year transformations on Youtube which serve as a great source of inspiration.

Once you are in your life’s best shape, go on a photo session so you can proudly show your grandchildren how shredded you once were.

16. Become a disciplined person.

Self-discipline is an enormously useful skill when it comes to making your dreams become a reality. Without discipline, you can’t stick to your commitments and work toward your goals. Becoming a person with rules will have a positive impact on your future self.

The fact is, you can either control yourself or let yourself control you. If you dream of a meaningful life, you’ll definitely aim for the first option.

This free self-discipline book is a good resource to begin with.

17. Become a morning person.

The majority of the most successful people swear by the power of being an early riser. Whether it’s CEOs, world’s best athletes or other outstanding individuals, most of them have a morning routine which highly contributes to their success.

Morning ritual empowers your day and gives you an advantage over the rest of the world which still sleeps while you work to become a better self.

18. Read at leat 100 books.

Whatever your problem is, there is at least one decent book offering a solution. Books hide incredible value and knowledge. The sad fact is, however, more and more people prefer TV shows or video games.

Once I became a regular reader, I realized how much you miss out if you refuse to read. The impact books have made (and still make) on my life is gigantic.

Start to finish reading at least one book a month, and you will have completed 12 book a year!

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If you don’t know which books to choose, check out this post.

19. Write a book.

81% of the population feels they could write a book, but only the minority takes action and starts writing. The truth is, once you begin to write, you are a writer. Finishing a book is challenging but the sense of satisfaction afterward is definitely worth it.

Pick a topic and devote 30 minutes a day to writing. In a year or even sooner, you’ll not only drastically improve your language skills but also finish your first book.

Nowadays, when self-publishing becomes more and more popular, you can release your work avoiding the middlemen and maybe even discover that your calling turns out to be a writer. You don’t know until you try…

20. Write a letter to your future self.

Make sure to include your dreams, expectations and plans. Decide how much time needs to go by until you open your letter. Once you do it, it will be the moment of truth and a chance to see whether you became who you wanted to be.

If you prefer modern technology, you can write an email to your future self using free services like futureme.org.

21. Go offline for a whole month.

Imagine no Facebook, Internet, Reddit or Lifehack for the whole month. This 30-day challenge tests your ability to entertain yourself in the world ruled by technology, avoiding the Internet and computers completely. To make it even more spicy, cut off the television.

It’s a great opportunity to spend more time with your friends and family, focus on your passions and read more books.

22. Take a picture every day for a whole year.

I doubt there are many mementos better than this. Once the year is over, you create a time-lapse which shows portrait by portrait how you changed during the 365 days.

Watching it 20 years later will probably make you cry.

23. Make a list of things that truly make you happy.

And make sure to do these activities as often as possible. You can have all the money in the world and a career that society considers the most successful, yet you can feel miserable. It’s because the real happiness comes from experiences, self-realization, and contribution. While you discover the world checking off the things from this list, try to find out which environment makes you the happiest person in the world.

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Whenever you face a hard moment, take out your happiness-list and start doing one of the things from it. As a result, the bad emotion fades away much quicker.

24. Complete the integrity challenge.

Integrity challenge is an idea from I borrowed from Joel Runyon. Oftentimes our actions don’t represent our thoughts and commitments. This weird phenomenon is most visible when a new year begins and most of the people fail to stick to their resolutions. The way it works is simple. Choose one thing, ideally an uncomfortable task like daily jogging for 30 minutes, determine the timeframe (e.g. 90 days) and then just do your thing every single day without failing even once until you arrive at the finish line.

This test points out your weaknesses and questions your willpower. However, once you accomplish it successfully, it gives you a huge motivation boost to pursue more complex goals which every 20-something should aim at.

25. Help a homeless person to get back to a normal life.

Our life isn’t only about ourselves but also about the people around us. There are many folks who really need help but are ignored by the majority of the society. Imagine supporting a homeless person with the goal in mind to make them a self-sufficient member of the community again.

If you feel miserable, be aware that giving back is one of the fastest methods to make yourself incredibly happy.

26. Donate to a local foundation.

The amount of your donation doesn’t matter, the fact of doing it does. Imagine if everyone (who’s financially independent) donated a dollar a month to a foundation of choice. It seems small but once you add up all the donations, the sum can make a huge difference in other people’s lives.

27. Stop looking for other people’s approval.

This is an especially useful yet rare skill. We definitely care way too much about how others perceive us which in result lowers your self-esteem and confidence as well as makes you overthink the simple choices. Abandoning the validation completely is tough, but it’s worth working toward it.

Once you accept the inevitable disapproval, you can become your true and authentic self. To get started, have a look at this post.

28. Learn to say no.

Saying no at the right moment is a habit which guarantees you a better life. However, the tendency in most people is quite the opposite. They say yes way too much and end up with unnecessary commitments and responsibilities which don’t add any value to their lives.

Now is when you should finally grasp that. There are plenty of things you don’t need to say yes to all the time.

29. Make a DIY furniture.

Do it yourself” movement grows in popularity and some of the ideas people come up with are seriously unbelievable. Creating your own piece of furniture boosts your creativity, tests your manual skills and saves you money. The satisfaction after putting your favorite books on a hand-made shelf beats every commercial furniture.

30. Spend a night under the stars.

As for me, watching the sky in the night is the best way to get the existential buzz. It’s a beautiful scenario to contemplate about your life, plans, and the future. Pitch a tent in the nature, make a bonfire, invite your loved ones and fire your imagination with the stars.

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