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Published on March 16, 2020

How To Set Family Goals To Build A Happy Family (With Examples)

How To Set Family Goals To Build A Happy Family (With Examples)

The demands and pressures of work and the desire to be successful in life may overshadow the need to take care of the home front. If this happens, it can take its toll on your family if you do not set family goals to address this need. You can claim to be working hard for your family, but your family might be suffering because of your work and other commitments.

The demands of the family can be overwhelming: you have your spouse to look after and share your time and affection with, and you probably have children who are depending on your availability, care, and support for their positive growth and development.

The failure to plan family life as we plan for our work, career, and social activities can be a reason why families fall apart. Specific family goals can help avoid this.

Highlighted below are insights on how you can set your family goals. They are placed alongside some examples of goals that can bring about harmony in your family life.

What Are Family Goals?

There are different ways that one can look at family goals. One way is that they represent the desires you plan to achieve for your family. However, another opinion sees family goals as “any goal that inherently involves another member of your family in order to accomplish it.”[1]

Looking at it this way, it becomes clear that you can’t achieve your family goals without the cooperation of your family members. For example, setting a goal to maintain peace within your family requires the cooperation of your partner (and perhaps your children) to accomplish.

Why It Is Important to Set Family Goals?

Whatever comes out of your family is the product of your decisions and that of your spouse or partner.

While you can experience some level of success as an individual, your success becomes more meaningful when your family is able to feel your impact. As a spouse or parent, you have to take responsibility to ensure that your family is headed in the right direction, which is why it is important to set family goals.

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A happy family doesn’t just happen by luck or by chance; it is a product of both good intentions and sometimes hard decisions to make your family successful. Setting goals towards making those decisions is an important step you should take for your family.

How to Set Family Goals

Setting goals for your family shouldn’t be a difficult task. Here are some things to consider to make setting your family goals easy and fun.

1. What Do You and Your Spouse Want for Your Family?

Every family is unique, so you have to decide with your spouse what you want for your family. Think about how you want your family to look every day, or what you would like to achieve in a month, a year, or in 3, 5 or 10 years.

2. Which Families Do You Want to Emulate?

There are good examples of some families that you might like to emulate. Look around you. What have you observed that you think are desirable virtues you can imbibe in your family? Write them down and check if you can work out similar things for your family.

3. What Have You Seen in Other Families That You Want to Avoid?

Have you seen anything around you that you perceive as threats to families? It is time to set your own goals to make sure that you don’t experience them. For example, getting home late perpetually can strain the relationship between a husband and wife. If you notice this trend, you might want to set a goal to return home daily at a scheduled time that can be considered early enough.

4. What Are the Current Challenges in Your Family?

Most problems in families persist because both husband and wife (and possibly children, too) have not sat to have a decent conversation about them. When you talk about the challenges and also discuss the possible solutions, then you can come up with family goals that will address those problems.

5. How Can You Keep Your Family Strong, Healthy and Happy?

Keeping your family strong, healthy, and happy should be top priorities in your goal setting. The following are identified as characteristics of strong families: effective communication, affective involvement, encouragement, appreciation, commitment to family, social connectedness, ability to adapt, clear roles, time together, etc.[2] Think about how you can develop these attributes in your family and set goals towards them.

20 Examples of Family Goals and Standards

Ready to set your family goals? Find some examples below to guide and inspire you.

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1. Maintain Mutual Respect

One of the causes of conflict in the home is the lack of respect for one another. Mutual respect is described as “speaking to one another in a respectful and considerate fashion, keeping your partner in mind when making decisions, and responding to your partner’s needs and wants.”[3]

2. Raise Responsible, Productive, and Happy Children

Raising responsible children doesn’t just happen by chance. Parents with grown-up children know this. You have the chance the plan how responsible, productive, and happy you want your children to be.

3. Have an Active Religious Life

If you follow a religion, religious devotion can play a key role in marriages. On one side, it can help you to maintain spiritual and moral uprightness; on another, it helps you belong to a community of people where your family can also get external support and encouragement.

4. Generate Sufficient Finances

There is a cliché that says money is the sugar in the tea of marriage. While that can be a subject of debate, the truth is that a lack of sufficient funds in the family can create stress and tension. Therefore, setting a goal to generate adequate funding for your family needs is a goal worth pursuing.

5. Have and Run a Family Financial Plan

You have to create a long term financial plan for your family. This includes considering saving plans, investment plans, child education plans, etc.

If you’re not sure how to start making a financial plan, this article may be able to help.

6. Deal With Conflict Maturely

You can’t avoid conflicts or misunderstandings in the family, but you can determine to deal with them decisively and maturely. Setting a workable pattern for conflict resolution is a goal you should consider.

7. Grow Up and Old Together (Longevity)

The primary purpose of marriage is companionship, and one of the ways to maximize this is to live a long time together. Plan the things under your own control to live long together, such as reducing stress, living happily, eating healthy, and exercising.

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8. Maintain Open and Productive Communication

Encourage open and productive communication in your family. If possible, have a day each week for “tell it all” where each family member will communicate their desires, pains, and opinion about happenings in the family and the direction the family is headed.

9. Create Family Values, a Vision, and a Mission

Visions, missions, and core values are not only good for individuals or corporate organizations, but they are also applicable to the family as well. Have some values and mission distinctive to the family and something you are all working towards together.

10. Create Work/Life Balance

Most people already have this as a wish, but you have to be more intentional about learning and implementing secrets to creating a work/life balance. Your family needs it most.

11. Encourage and Provide Top-level Education

You can make it your goal to support your family members with funds to attain the highest level of education possible. This will take thinking outside the box to generate sufficient income.

12. Start a Family Business

You can plan to create wealth in your family by starting a family business, a legacy you can pass on to your children.

13. Spend Quality Time Together

Make a goal to spend quality time with your family. If possible, keep phones and gadgets put away when you are at home so as to maximize your family time.

14. Create Time for Each Family Member

Each member of your family needs their own separate time with you. Whether you are a dad or mom, have it as a goal to spend one-one time with your spouse and each of your kids weekly or twice a month. Doing this will help you to get closer to them and understand their worries and needs.

15. Create Family Getaways and Special Vacations

One of the ways to create a happy family is by taking your family on special holidays and getaways. People can get bored in their immediate environment and might need a fresh atmosphere to unwind. You can plan this twice a year or once a year depending on your budget.

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16. Create Surprise Nights out With Your Spouse

Deliberately inject some ecstasy in your home by planning some surprise date nights with your spouse.

17. Follow a Family Diet Plan

Build a healthy family by ensuring that your family eats healthy. Once in a while, create a special diet plan for your family members to boost family health.

18. Exercise Together

Make your family a fit family. Have some fun with your family members by creating time to exercise together, either indoors or outdoors.

19. Create a Family To-Do List

Another way to encourage the unity of mind and purpose in your family is by creating a “to-do” list. For example, make a collection of books to read or movies to see and create time to discuss them later.

20. Start a Family Charity or Support One

Build a legacy in your family by creating a charity or foundation that caters to people with special needs. If you don’t have the time and resources to start one, you can make a commitment to provide regular support to a charity of your choice.

Final Thoughts

Keep in mind that when setting your family goals, your ultimate objectives will be to build a strong, healthy, and happy family. Being strong means that your family is bonded firmly together and that every member feels important and connected to the family.

Being healthy means there is mutual love and respect, and everyone is in sound in mind, body, and soul.

Being happy means there are few dull moments in your home; you are all having fun and everyone feels satisfied to be part of the family.

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How to Live Longer? 21 Ways to Live a Long Life

How to Live Longer? 21 Ways to Live a Long Life

When it comes to living long, genes aren’t everything. Research has revealed a number of simple lifestyle changes you can make that could help to extend your life, and some of them may surprise you.

So, how to live longer? Here are 21 ways to help you live a long life

1. Exercise

It’s no secret that physical activity is good for you. Exercise helps you maintain a healthy body weight and lowers your blood pressure, both of which contribute to heart health and a reduced risk of heart disease–the top worldwide cause of death.

2. Drink in Moderation

I know you’re probably picturing a glass of red wine right now, but recent research suggests that indulging in one to three glasses of any type of alcohol every day may help to increase longevity.[1] Studies have found that heavy drinkers as well as abstainers seem to have a higher risk of early mortality than moderate drinkers.

3. Reduce Stress in Your Life

Stress causes your body to release a hormone called cortisol. At high levels, this hormone can increase blood pressure and cause storage of abdominal fat, both of which can lead to an increased risk of heart disease.

4. Watch Less Television

A 2008 study found that people who watch six hours of television per day will likely die an average of 4.8 years earlier than those who don’t.[2] It also found that, after the age of 25, every hour of television watched decreases life expectancy by 22 minutes.

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Television promotes inactivity and disengagement from the world, both of which can shorten your lifespan.

5. Eat Less Red Meat

Red meat consumption is linked to an increased risk of heart disease and cancer.[3] Swapping out your steaks for healthy proteins, like fish, may help to increase longevity.

If you can’t stand the idea of a steak-free life, reducing your consumption to less than two to three servings a week can still incur health benefits.

6. Don’t Smoke

This isn’t exactly a revelation. As you probably well know, smoking significantly increases your risk of cancer.

7. Socialize

Studies suggest that having social relationships promotes longevity.[4] Although scientists are unsure of the reasons behind this, they speculate that socializing leads to increased self esteem as well as peer pressure to maintain health.

8. Eat Foods Rich in Omega-3 Fatty Acids

Omega-3 fatty acids decrease the risk of heart disease[5] and perhaps even Alzheimer’s disease.[6] Salmon and walnuts are two of the best sources of Omega-3s.

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9. Be Optimistic

Studies suggest that optimists are at a lower risk for heart disease and, generally, live longer than pessimists.[7] Researchers speculate that optimists have a healthier approach to life in general–exercising more, socializing, and actively seeking out medical advice. Thus, their risk of early mortality is lower.

10. Own a Pet

Having a furry-friend leads to decreased stress, increased immunity, and a lessened risk of heart disease.[8] Depending on the type of pet, they can also motivate you to be more active.

11. Drink Coffee

Studies have found a link between coffee consumption and longer life.[9] Although the reasons for this aren’t entirely clear, coffee’s high levels of antioxidants may play a role. Remember, though, drowning your cup of joe in sugar and whipped cream could counter whatever health benefits it may hold.

12. Eat Less

Japan has the longest average lifespan in the world, and the longest lived of the Japanese–the natives of the Ryukyu Islands–stop eating when they’re 80% full. Limiting your calorie intake means lower overall stress on the body.

13. Meditate

Meditation leads to stress reduction and lowered blood pressure.[10] Research suggests that it could also increase the activity of an enzyme associated with longevity.[11]

Taking as little as 15 minutes a day to find your zen can have significant health benefits, and may even extend your life.

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14. Maintain a Healthy Weight

Being overweight puts stress on your cardiovascular system, increasing your risk of heart disease.[12] It may also increase the risk of cancer.[13] Maintaining a healthy weight is important for heart health and living a long and healthy life.

15. Laugh Often

Laughter reduces the levels of stress hormones, like cortisol, in your body. High levels of these hormones can weaken your immune system.

16. Don’t Spend Too Much Time in the Sun

Too much time in the sun can lead to an increased risk of skin cancer. However, sun exposure is an excellent way to increase levels of vitamin D, so soaking up a few rays–perhaps for around 15 minutes a day–can be healthy. The key is moderation.

17. Cook Your Own Food

When you eat at restaurants, you surrender control over your diet. Even salads tend to have a large number of additives, from sugar to saturated fats. Eating at home will enable you to monitor your food intake and ensure a healthy diet.

Take a look at these 14 Healthy Easy Recipes for People on the Go and start to cook your own food.

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18. Eat Mushrooms

Mushrooms are a central ingredient in Dr. Joel Fuhrman’s GOMBS disease fighting diet. They boost the immune system and may even reduce the risk of cancer.[14]

19. Floss

Flossing helps to stave off gum disease, which is linked to an increased risk of cancer.[15]

20. Eat Foods Rich in Antioxidants

Antioxidants fight against the harmful effects of free-radicals, toxins which can cause cell damage and an increased risk of disease when they accumulate in the body. Berries, green tea and broccoli are three excellent sources of antioxidants.

Find out more antiosidants-rich foods here: 13 Delicious Antioxidant Foods That Are Great for Your Health

21. Have Sex

Getting down and dirty two to three times a week can have significant health benefits. Sex burns calories, decreases stress, improves sleep, and may even protect against heart disease.[16] It’s an easy and effective way to get exercise–so love long and prosper!

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Reference

[1] Wiley Online Library: Late‐Life Alcohol Consumption and 20‐Year Mortality
[2] BMJ Journals: Television viewing time and reduced life expectancy: a life table analysis
[3] Arch Intern Med.: Red Meat Consumption and Mortality
[4] PLOS Medicine: Social Relationships and Mortality Risk: A Meta-analytic Review
[5] JAMA: Fish and Omega-3 Fatty Acid Intake and Risk of Coronary Heart Disease in Women
[6] NCBI: Effects of Omega‐3 Fatty Acids on Cognitive Function with Aging, Dementia, and Neurological Diseases: Summary
[7] Mayo Clinic Proc: Prediction of all-cause mortality by the Minnesota Multiphasic Personality Inventory Optimism-Pessimism Scale scores: study of a college sample during a 40-year follow-up period.
[8] Med Hypotheses.: Pet ownership protects against the risks and consequences of coronary heart disease.
[9] The New England Journal of Medicine: Association of Coffee Drinking with Total and Cause-Specific Mortality
[10] American Journal of Hypertension: Blood Pressure Response to Transcendental Meditation: A Meta-analysis
[11] Science Direct: Intensive meditation training, immune cell telomerase activity, and psychological mediators
[12] JAMA: The Disease Burden Associated With Overweight and Obesity
[13] JAMA: The Disease Burden Associated With Overweight and Obesity
[14] African Journal of Biotechnology: Anti-cancer effect of polysaccharides isolated from higher basidiomycetes mushrooms
[15] Science Direct: Periodontal disease, tooth loss, and cancer risk in male health professionals: a prospective cohort study
[16] AHA Journals: Sexual Activity and Cardiovascular Disease

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