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Last Updated on December 14, 2020

How to Set Family Goals to Build a Happy Family (With Examples)

How to Set Family Goals to Build a Happy Family (With Examples)
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The demands and pressures of work and the desire to be successful in life may overshadow the need to take care of the home front. If this happens, it can take its toll on your family if you do not set family goals to address this need. You can claim to be working hard for your family, but your family might be suffering because of your work and other commitments.

The demands of the family unit can be overwhelming: you have your spouse to look after and share your time and affection with, and you probably have children who are depending on your availability, care, and support for their positive growth and development.

The failure to plan family life as we plan for our work, career, and social activities can be a reason why families fall apart. Specific family goals can help avoid this.

Highlighted below are insights on how you can set your family goals. They are placed alongside some examples of goals that can bring about harmony in your family life.

What Are Family Goals?

There are different ways that one can look at family goals. One way is that they represent the desires you plan to achieve for your family. However, another opinion sees family goals as “any goal that inherently involves another member of your family in order to accomplish it.”[1]

Looking at it this way, it becomes clear that you can’t achieve your family goals without the cooperation of your family members. For example, setting a goal to maintain peace within your family requires the cooperation of your partner (and perhaps your children) to accomplish.

Why Is It Important to Set Family Goals?

Whatever comes out of your family is the product of your decisions and that of your spouse or partner.

While you can experience some level of success as an individual, your success becomes more meaningful when your family is able to feel your impact. As a spouse or parent, you have to take responsibility to ensure that your family is headed in the right direction, which is why it is important to set family goals.

A happy family doesn’t just happen by luck or chance; it is a product of both good intentions and sometimes hard decisions to make your family successful.

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How to Set Family Goals

Setting goals for your family shouldn’t be a difficult task. Here are some things to consider to make setting your family goals easy and fun.

1. What Do You and Your Spouse Want for Your Family?

Every family is unique, so you have to decide with your spouse what you want for your family. Think about how you want your family to look every day, or what you would like to achieve in a month, a year, or in 3, 5 or 10 years.

2. Which Families Do You Want to Emulate?

There are good examples of some families that you might like to emulate. What have you observed that you think are desirable virtues you can imbibe in your family? Write them down and check if you can work out similar things for your family.

3. What Have You Seen in Other Families That You Want to Avoid?

Have you seen anything around you that you perceive as threats to families? It is time to set your own goals to make sure that you don’t experience them.

For example, getting home late perpetually can strain the relationship between a husband and wife. If you notice this trend, you might want to set a goal to return home daily at a scheduled time.

4. What Are the Current Challenges in Your Family?

Most problems in families persist because both husband and wife (and possibly children, too) have not taken the time to discuss them. When you talk about the challenges and discuss the possible solutions, then you can come up with family goals that will address those problems.

5. How Can You Keep Your Family Strong, Healthy, and Happy?

Keeping your family strong, healthy, and happy should be top priorities in your goal setting. The following are identified as characteristics of strong families: effective communication, affective involvement, encouragement, appreciation, commitment to family, social connectedness, ability to adapt, clear roles, time together, etc.[2]

Think about how you can develop these attributes in your family and set goals towards them.

20 Examples of Family Goals

Ready to set your family goals? Find some examples below to guide and inspire you.

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1. Maintain Mutual Respect

One of the causes of conflict in the home is the lack of respect for one another. Mutual respect is described as “speaking to one another in a respectful and considerate fashion, keeping your partner in mind when making decisions, and responding to your partner’s needs and wants.”[3]

2. Raise Responsible, Productive, and Happy Children

Raising responsible children doesn’t just happen by chance. Parents with grown-up children know this. You have the chance the plan how responsible, productive, and happy you want your children to be.

3. Have an Active Religious or Spiritual Life

If you follow a religion, religious devotion can play a key role in marriages. On one side, it can help you to maintain spiritual and moral uprightness; on another, it helps you belong to a community of people where your family can also get external support and encouragement.

4. Generate Sufficient Finances

There is a cliché that says money is the sugar in the tea of marriage. While that can be a subject of debate, the truth is that a lack of sufficient funds in the family can create stress and tension. Therefore, setting a goal to generate adequate funding for your family needs is a goal worth pursuing.

5. Have and Run a Family Financial Plan

You have to create a long term financial plan for your family. This includes considering saving plans, investment plans, child education plans, etc. You can also help your children learn about finances by offering chore money that they have to put into a savings account.

If you’re not sure how to start making a financial plan, this article may be able to help.

6. Deal With Conflict Maturely

You can’t avoid conflicts or misunderstandings in the family, but you can determine to deal with them decisively and maturely. Setting a workable pattern for conflict resolution is a goal you should consider.

7. Grow up and Old Together (Longevity)

The primary purpose of marriage is companionship, and one of the ways to maximize this is to live a long time together. Plan the things under your own control to live long together, such as reducing stress, living happily, eating healthy, and exercising.

8. Maintain Open and Productive Communication

Encourage open and productive communication in your family. If possible, have a day each week for “tell it all,” where each family member will communicate their desires, pains, and opinions about happenings in the family and the direction the family is headed.

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9. Create Family Values, a Vision, and a Mission

Visions, missions, and core values are not only good for individuals or corporate organizations, but they are also applicable to the family as well. Have some values and mission distinctive to the family and something you are all working towards together.

10. Create Work/Life Balance

Most people already have this as a wish, but you have to be more intentional about learning and implementing secrets to creating a work/life balance. Make sure you can have a good time with your family while also working hard to provide for them.

11. Encourage and Provide Top-Level Education

You can make it your goal to support your family members with funds to attain the highest level of education possible. This will take thinking outside the box to generate sufficient income.

12. Start a Family Business

You can plan to create wealth in your family by starting a family business, a legacy you can pass on to your children.

13. Spend Quality Time Together

Make a goal to spend quality time with your family on a regular basis. If possible, reduce screen time when you are at home so as to maximize your family time even if it’s just during family meals.

14. Create Time for Each Family Member

Each member of your family needs their own separate time with you. Whether you are a dad or mom, have it as a goal to spend one-on-one time with your spouse and each of your kids weekly or twice a month. Doing this will help you to get closer to them and understand their worries and needs.

15. Create Family Getaways and Special Vacations

One of the ways to create a happy family is by going on special family vacations and getaways. People can get bored if they always stay at home and might need a fresh atmosphere to unwind. You can plan this twice a year or once a year depending on your budget.

16. Create Surprise Nights out With Your Spouse

Deliberately inject some joy in your home by planning some surprise date nights with your spouse.

17. Follow a Family Diet Plan

Build a healthy family by ensuring that your family eats healthy. Once in a while, create a special diet plan for your family members to boost family health. If you have the space, you can even start a home vegetable garden to teach your kids about healthy eating.

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18. Exercise Together

Have some fun with your family members by creating time to exercise together, either indoors or outdoors. You can do exercises like bike riding, playing basketball, or swimming at the community pool.

19. Create a Family To-Do List

Another way to encourage the unity of mind and purpose in your family is by creating a to-do list. For example, make a collection of books to read or movies to see and create time to discuss them later.

20. Start a Family Charity or Support One

Build a legacy in your family by creating a charity or foundation that caters to people with special needs. If you don’t have the time and resources to start one, you can make a commitment to provide regular support to a charity of your choice.

Final Thoughts

Keep in mind that when setting your family goals, your ultimate objectives will be to build a strong, healthy, and happy family. Being strong means that your family is bonded firmly together and that every member feels important and connected to the family.

Being healthy means there is mutual love and respect, and everyone is in sound in mind, body, and soul.

Being happy means there are few dull moments in your home; you are all having fun and everyone feels grateful to be part of a family that shows love and loyalty.

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Featured photo credit: Jimmy Dean via unsplash.com

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100 Incredible Life Hacks That Make Life So Much Easier

100 Incredible Life Hacks That Make Life So Much Easier
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Want to learn some quick and easy life hacks that are easy to do, low cost and saves you time?

By tweaking little things in your daily life, it can make your life much more convenient!

Here’re 100 of the most practical life hacks so you can just pick up any of them right away!

83 tie a small piece of bright colored fabric

    84 write random letter

      85 use a rubberband

        86 dorm smell bad

          87 lean your phone on your sunglassess

            89 how to waterproof your shoes

              90 take a picture of the name card

                91 iron inside out

                  92 old newspaper

                    93 tumble try shoes

                      keep a card like this

                        SONY DSC

                          94 soap bar

                            95 make a hole

                              96 drop the battery

                                97 use a coozie

                                  98 when taking a picture

                                    use a clean dust pan

                                      try a pants hanger

                                        use your cellphone light

                                          use a spring from an old pen

                                            quick and easy iphone speaker

                                              user binder clips

                                                wrap a wet paper towel around your beverage

                                                  put pancake mix in a ketchup bottle

                                                    clean out an old lotion bottle for your beach

                                                      use a muffin tin to serve condiments at a bbq

                                                        doritos are great for kindling

                                                          use nail polish to identify different keys

                                                            use a hanging shoe rack to store cleaning supplies

                                                              freeze grapes to chill white wine without

                                                                use paper clips to organize your cables

                                                                  almost finished your jar of nutella

                                                                    sick of having a box full of tangled

                                                                      unroll the rim to increase the capacity

                                                                        cut open toilet paper rolls and use as a cuff

                                                                          remove the stem from strawberries

                                                                            turn an old bottle into a simple little cord holder

                                                                              for iced coffee and iced cappuccino, use frozen coffee cubes

                                                                                how to fold a fitted bed sheet

                                                                                  tired of snoozing past your alarm

                                                                                    place a rubber band around an open paint can to wipe your brush on

                                                                                      ut a wooden spoon across a boiling pot

                                                                                        use bread clips to save flip-flops

                                                                                          take pictures of friends holding items

                                                                                            how i always know which headphone is the left one

                                                                                              put a stocking over the end of a vacuum

                                                                                                How to make sure you drink enough water

                                                                                                  user a can opener to open blister

                                                                                                    good sandwich guide

                                                                                                      turn your muffin pans upside down

                                                                                                        50 pounds of groceries and living on the 5th floor

                                                                                                          the right way to make a blt

                                                                                                            add one teaspoon of baking soda

                                                                                                              38

                                                                                                                hair straighteners equals to collar irons

                                                                                                                  stack your clothes vertically to see them all

                                                                                                                    the right way to make cookies in the summer

                                                                                                                      how to clean a blender

                                                                                                                        the right way to eat a popsicle

                                                                                                                          use bread clips to label and organize power cords

                                                                                                                            to get the built up residue off of your shower head

                                                                                                                              user a hair clip to orgainize long wires

                                                                                                                                a frozen saturated sponge in a bag

                                                                                                                                  rub stuck zipper teeth with a graphite pencil

                                                                                                                                    use a soda pop tab

                                                                                                                                      50

                                                                                                                                        51 How to multiply large numbers in your head.

                                                                                                                                          52 How to open a bottle if you dont have a corkscrew.

                                                                                                                                            rub a walnut on damaged wooden furniture

                                                                                                                                              kids fall out of bed

                                                                                                                                                use toothpaste to clear up hazy car

                                                                                                                                                  58

                                                                                                                                                    59 keep pizza out while driving home

                                                                                                                                                      60 put your straw through the tab to keep it from rising

                                                                                                                                                        hold oreos with a fork so your fingers

                                                                                                                                                          Never lose your remotes again

                                                                                                                                                            hiding your emergency money

                                                                                                                                                              use a bread tab to hold your spot on a roll

                                                                                                                                                                if you are at a hotel and run out of chargers

                                                                                                                                                                  keep a square of cardboard in a ziplock bag

                                                                                                                                                                    If you need to pee or smoke at a bar

                                                                                                                                                                      drill holes in the bottom of your garbage

                                                                                                                                                                        use an accented letter as your passcode

                                                                                                                                                                          use a squeeze ketchup bottle top with your shopvac

                                                                                                                                                                            do something unusual when locking the door

                                                                                                                                                                              when heating leftovers space out a circle in the middle

                                                                                                                                                                                dont burn yourself in those hard to reach candles

                                                                                                                                                                                  put a small amount of water in a glass when you microwave your pizza

                                                                                                                                                                                    75 use a piece of paper to organize

                                                                                                                                                                                      use half a pool noodle

                                                                                                                                                                                        pencil case to store cables

                                                                                                                                                                                          78 clothespin to hold nail

                                                                                                                                                                                            79 make blts

                                                                                                                                                                                              80 take a picture of your fridge

                                                                                                                                                                                                81 fill plastic water bottles

                                                                                                                                                                                                  82 right ways to eat chips

                                                                                                                                                                                                    99 if your plug keeps failing

                                                                                                                                                                                                      100 put the banana on the wire

                                                                                                                                                                                                        88 before you throw away a post it

                                                                                                                                                                                                          Source: Reddit LifeProTips

                                                                                                                                                                                                          There you go, 100 awesome life hacks that you can try right now to make your life a lot easier!

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