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Last Updated on November 19, 2019

23 Good Habits for a Productive and Stress Free Life

23 Good Habits for a Productive and Stress Free Life

There is no stress-free life out there but, there are better and worse ways we can deal with stress and have a productive life.

“It is impossible to live without stressing about something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all – in which case, you fail by default.”

This is a slightly modified quote by J.K. Rowling, but it rings true for every life out there.

And the better ways to deal with stress include the following 23 good habits.

1. Accept Life as It Is

“Life becomes easy once you accept that life is hard.”

This is a quote by Scott Peck which tells us that we need to think about life not as a stress-avoidant, but to accept stress as a natural part of life and find a way to live with it. This will make us bear the burden easier.

2. Pick Your Level

Life is like a game and you are a character in it. You choose the level at which you want to play the game. Some levels are harder, some easier, and your character can beat some levels easier while others harder.

Find your own level and play the game there to avoid additional stress and still stay productive.

Michael Phelps is an awesome water-level player, but with his short legs and long torso, he would be quite bad at long-distance running level.

Pick your level and the stress which will come with it will be “easier.”

3. Reframe It

“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” – Viktor E. Frankl.

This has an even bigger weight when it comes from someone who was an Auschwitz survivor and saw the horrors we can’t even imagine. But in spite of that, Frankl knew that his life has meaning and that there is a world’s difference in thinking you are completely helpless and, in thinking that you have absolute power to choose your response in that small window between the stimulus and your response.

So no matter how dire and stressful the situation might look, you can always reframe it into something which suits you better.

You can either have a 90% chance of surviving the operation or, a 10% chance of dying during the operation. Your choice.

4. Don’t Argue with Strangers

No matter what the debate is, from climate change to gender policy to flat-earth movement, you will face someone who has deep disagreements with you. And you will think that by citing demonstrable facts to counter another person’s beliefs, you will change their minds. Because logic says so.

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But that’s the time when a psychological phenomenon called the “backfire effect” takes over. And what happens is that as soon as you eloquently put forth the data to change the other person’s beliefs, they actually double down on them.

So the person actually believes more in their belief once you’ve demonstrated the facts and data that it isn’t true. And then, you two become even more polarized which doesn’t help anyone.

Just skip the arguing part because it won’t get you anywhere and will just cause major stress in the forms of assertions “If you could just look at the data, you would see that I’m right/ you’re wrong.”

5. Don’t Argue with Strangers…on Facebook

Take everything above and apply it to the virtual world and you get a giant mess of a situation. Not only do we need to stop ourselves from arguing with people face to face, but we need to skip over all the stupidities we see on Facebook (or Twitter, or any other social platforms).

But as the example above, you will not change anything by arguing with strangers on Facebook (or Twitter).

Austin Kleon in his book Keep Going: 10 Ways To Stay Creative In Good Times And Bad wrote an entire page filled with a single sentence over and over again:

“I will not argue with strangers over the internet.”

Following his advice will provide you with more time to be productive and, less time to be stressed about opinions of people who you will never even face.

6. Lose the Complaining Attitude

Sometimes things aren’t the way we want them to be. That is called life and sometimes, that really sucks. But hey, there is a way some people make that fact even worse.

And that is complaining!

It’s that one person on the bus of 50 people who yells and screams at the driver because he missed a turn or, because there is a delay on the road. The other 49 passengers are experiencing the same thing, but there is one person who decided to make the entire experience even worse.

If you want to have a stress free life, lose the complaining attitude.

7. Physically Move

If you’re on the bus with the person who keeps on complaining, just exit the bus and wait for the next one. Sometimes, you really need to move yourself physically away from people who create stress.

This also works when someone tries to argue with you or they are being loud for no reason, or they are simply “citing facts.” Simply stand up and start walking while singing Craig David’s song in your head:

“I’m walking away
from trouble in my life
I’m walking away
oh to find a better day.”

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8. Physically Move #2

A great way to increase your productivity and avoid stress is to move–physically. Take a small walk for 20 to 30 minutes to clear your head and get back to your work refreshed.

When I was writing this article, I did the same thing. Took a nice 20 minutes long walk in the beautiful nature of Rab and once I got back to my room, I finished the article.

9. Exercise

Studies have shown over and over again that exercise helps increase your productivity, lowers tension and stress, makes you healthy, improves memory, reduces risk of depression, boosts your physical and mental energy, provides higher self-esteem, regulate your sleep patterns, and gives you a great cooping mechanism which provides stronger resilience.

Or spoken in plain English language: “Just do it.”

10. Eat a Slightly Bit Better

Most people are tired of hearing the advice of “eat healthy.” First of all, that means a completely different thing for almost everyone out there. You can’t just take a copy/paste diet from the internet and apply it to your situation. There are specifics regarding your body, immune system and geographical position that you need to take into concern.

Someone living in Norway will have a different healthy diet from someone living in Mexico or Ecuador. Someone who has genetical problems with heart or blood will have a different healthy diet from someone who doesn’t have those problems.

But no matter what your situation is, just remember that every change starts small and slow. So don’t make big and rash changes– they never last.

Start small and keep at it. Eventually, the compound effect will take place and you will become healthier.

11. Practice Mindfulness

This doesn’t have to be meditation. That’s just one form of mindfulness. My personal practice is taking a longer walk in nature with my headphones on as white noise. That works the best for me, but you try your own thing(s) and stick with those that work for you.

Mindfulness is always personal, there is no cookie-cutter thing you can just take from someone else.

Learn more about mindfulness here: Meditation Can Change Your Life: The Power of Mindfulness

12. Have Some Kind of a Spiritual Connection

This can be whatever you want it to be. But it has to be bigger than you.

We need something in our lives which is bigger than us to whom we can turn to. It can be your personal God, Allah, Buddha, or just your mission, vision or personal “why” in life.

This article may just help you find your “why”: What Is the Purpose of Life and What Should You Live For?

13. Talk with People Face to Face

Texting and calling isn’t a replacement for face-to-face interaction with people. No man is an island and everyone out there needs to communicate with other people in their physical proximity.

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So turn off your laptop and go meet a friend for a coffee.

14. Enjoy a Night out

And it’s not just about a casual coffee during the day. Enjoy a night out with your friends and the good time will lower your stress, increase your happiness, and that will make you even more productive in the following days and weeks.

15. Have a Meal with the People You Love

I had a friend from Andalusia, Spain who told me that there is a special time during the dinner called “sobremesa.” It’s the time during the dinner when everyone finished their meal but before someone starts collecting the plates and moving away from the dinner table.

He said that those 45 minutes to 1 hour is a special time where his family talks about life, sharing good and bad things that happened to them during the week. It’s practices like these that we need more to bond with our loved ones.

16. Read Books

You only live one life, but if you read books, you can live out thousands of other lives. And just imagine what kind of ideas, stories, novelties, mind-boggling stuff you can (and will) read in books.

If there is one thing that I suggest to every single person who I ever meet, it is to read books and to read as much as possible. I read 90 books in the last two years and they have changed me in every single aspect of my life.[1]

17. Don’t Read 90% of the Things on the Internet

But we humans are lazy and why should we read a 350-page long book when we can just skim over a book review which takes us 3 minutes?

And that’s why 90% of the things on the internet are crap (Sturgeon’s Law). Most of the articles on the internet are created to spur outrages without any concern for the truth. Because it’s all about the clicks which bring advertising and that leads to money.

So choose what you read online wisely. Choose to read only trustworthy and positive websites.

18. Don’t Watch the News

News cover 1% of the 1% of the 1% of the extremes that happen in the country. So not only are they not the representatives of what is really happening, but they are also focusing on getting the eyeballs through the most extreme news so that the advertisers give them more money.

19. Don’t Read the Newspapers

“We think the more information we consume the more signal we’ll consume. Only the mind doesn’t work like that. When the volume of information increases, our ability to comprehend the relevant from the irrelevant becomes compromised. We place too much emphasis on irrelevant data and lose sight of what’s really important.” — Nassim Taleb

Most stuff in the newspapers is noise. Ignore it. The important stuff will find a way to reach you, one way or another.

The best decision of my life was to stop reading the newspaper.

20. The Two-Scroll Rule for Social Media

People who tell you to stop using social media to lower stress and increase your productivity are not being realistic. Because most of us will not comply nor would it be beneficial for us to comply with that.

But to prevent mindless scrolling on social media, there is something called the Two-Scroll rule.

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Once you take your phone in your hand and open Facebook/Twitter/Instagram, you are only allowed to scroll down twice. That way, you still see what’s happening on the platforms but are limited in time and information which bombards you. This also makes you follow only the most important things on the platforms.

21. Focus on Your Long-Term Goals

There is nothing more fulfilling to a person than progress at something meaningful. So work on your long-term goals and it won’t even feel like work, it will feel like a mission to you.

It will be your own level that you’ve chosen to play at and your own vision which you decided to bring to life.

More work here means less stress in your life.

Learn how to set long-term goals with these tips: The Surefire Way to Set Long Term Goals and Reach Success

22. Learn How to Rest

Most people are in a perpetual “on” state. This really damages their health and productivity.

If you’re working, you are working. If you’re resting, you are resting. Go 100% in both activities and you will see massive differences in your results with less effort, less stress, and more productivity.

If you want to master this, take a look at this article: How to Use Deep Work to Wipe out Distractions And Boost Productivity

You can also learn from people like Cal Newport or just get his book Deep Work.

23. Be Okay with Failing from Time to Time

“It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all – in which case, you fail by default.” — J.K. Rowling

You will fail your way to success– there is no other way. So don’t be afraid of failing, be afraid of not even trying.

Learn to conquer your fear of failure: Why You Have the Fear of Failure (And How to Conquer It Step-By-Step)

But if you read all the way up to here, you have already taken the first step forward. Now keep going, we got your back:

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Last Updated on January 24, 2020

10 Good Habits To Have in Life To Be More Successful

10 Good Habits To Have in Life To Be More Successful

Habits are behaviors and patterns that you showcase by default. They enable you to carry out crucial activities like taking a shower, brushing your teeth, getting prepared for work.

Interestingly, you follow this routine every day without considering them. Your unconscious habits create room for your brain to perform more advanced activities like problem-solving and choosing what book to read.

Everyone has habits, and several of those habits are activated every day. I would classify them into three groups:

  • The first category includes the habits that you hardly notice as they have become a major part of your life- such as brushing teeth or wearing clothes.
  • The second category comprises good habits to have to be more successful-like eating healthily, exercising your body and reading books.
  • The last group consists of those habits that are harmful-like procrastinating, smoking or overeating.

Habits are fundamental to becoming successful in life — or probably ending up a failure. Yet, as significant as habits are, some lack the knowledge of their capabilities.

Habits are default activities that you engage in without giving an afterthought. They are automatic behavioral or mental activities. They help you carry out some actions without exerting too much energy. They simplify your life.

Several people aspire to break bad habits. For instance, some people diet to stop overeating. They exercise to reduce obesity. Habits can hinder or impact your performance and productivity.

That’s why I would share 10 good habits to have to be more successful in life.

1. Begin Your Day with Meditation

I recommend mindful meditation early in the morning. This practice helps you to be in the present moment. Consequently, it enables you to be mindful of challenging situations during the day.

Different stressors may trigger as you go through the day; meditation helps you to remain calm before taking on the challenges.

Personally, it helps me to devise strategies and think about ideas. Meditation is a good habit to have if you want to be connected to what’s significant in your life.

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2. Be Grateful for What You Have

Sometimes, you waste time thinking of what’s not enough. You become immersed in those daunting challenges. However, challenges justify the presence of hope. When you have life, you have expectations. You will be free from challenges when you are six feet under. The only strategy you have to stop focusing on your problems is to focus on what you have.

Gratitude is a time-tested pathway to success, health, and happiness. It redirects your focus to what you have from what you lack. Here’s what James Clear does every day,[1]

“I say one thing I’m grateful for each day when I sit down to eat dinner.”

3. Smile

Can you pause and smile before you continue reading this?

Now here is what just happened based on research conducted by the Association for Psychological Science; you set a pace for living a happier life when you smile. A genuine smile or what’s called a Duchenne smile is a good habit to have if you want to find spiritual, emotional and mental peace of mind.[2]

Smiling induces the release of molecules that function towards fighting stress. The physiological state of your body determines the state of your mind. When you slouch or frown, your mind takes cues relating to unhappiness and depression. But, once you adjust yourself by putting up a smile, you begin to feel a new level of excitement and vibrancy.

Can you smile again?

4. Start Your Day with a Healthy Breakfast

Starting your day with a healthy breakfast is a good habit to have and forms a crucial part of your life. Nevertheless, about 31 million Americans skip their breakfast each day.[3]

If you are fed up hearing that breakfast is a crucial component of your day, you are only fighting the truth. If you want to become more successful, you need to ‘break your fast’ with healthy foods every morning.

This habit is not difficult to form if you usually rush out the door every single morning. You can wake up earlier to fix yourself a meal so you don’t break down during the day.

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Get inspired by these 20 Healthy Breakfast Choices That Will Save You Time.

5. Exercise Daily

One of the good habits to have is to exercise your body and muscles every day. You don’t have to run a marathon or lift a weight. You only need to engage in less strenuous activities that oxygenate your blood and inject endorphins in your body.

Jack Dorsey, the CEO of Twitter, classified exercise as a good habit to maximize his already jam-packed schedule.[4] He said,

‘I wake up by 5, meditate for 30 minutes, seven-minute workout times three, make coffee, and check-in.’

He said on Product Hunt that he follows this routine every day as it gives him a steady-state that empowers him to be more productive.

6. Manage Your Time as You Manage Your Finance

Another good habit is the act of managing your time effectively. This goes a long way to impact your achievement.

Time management is what separates the successful from the rest of the world as we all possess the same amount of time. How you leverage time determines your potential to succeed in life.

So how do you manage your time effectively?

Here’s Jack Dorsey’s recommendation in one of the Techonomy events;

“I accomplish effective time management by theming my days and practicing self-discipline. These themes help me handle distractions and interactions. If a request or task does not align with the theme for that day, I don’t do it. This sets a cadence for everyone in the company to deliver and evaluate their progress”.

And this is Dorsey’s weekly theme:[5]

  • Monday – Management
  • Tuesdays – Product
  • Wednesday – Marketing and growth
  • Thursdays – Developers and partnerships
  • Fridays – Culture and recruiting
  • Saturdays – Taking off
  • Sundays – Reflection, feedback, strategy, and preparing for Monday

No wonder he was able to run two companies when others were struggling with one job.

7. Set Daily Goals with Intentions

Everyone has goals. It may relate to business or personal life. The truth is, we’re all tending towards a particular direction or another. Nevertheless, while long-term goals can offer you direction, it’s your daily goals that you establish that help you develop short-term goals that are essential for your success.

Long-term goals may not give you the motivation you need to keep on. But when you implement your short-term milestones daily, you become fired up, and you can overcome the challenges that come with taking on bigger tasks.

Here’s the main truth:Successful people don’t set goals without establishing their intentions. According to Jennifer Cohen of Forbes,[6]

“What helps you to achieve your desired expectation is ensuring intentions accompany your daily goals.”

Be intentional about your daily goals!

8. Seek Inspiration

It is usually difficult to be inspired for a considerable length of time. Sometimes, you become discouraged and feel like giving up on your goals when things are not working out as intended.

A practical approach to stay on top of the situation is to inspire yourself each day. When you wake up in the morning after meditation, watch some motivational videos, and let the story of great leaders inspire you.

Establish what Anthony Robbins called the ‘hour of power.’ Determine how many minutes you spend but make it count. Inspiration is the fuel for achievement because when you can conceive it in your mind, you can accomplish it.

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Michal Solowow, an investor and the founder of Mitex, a construction company puts it this way,[7]

“The problems I encounter in everyday life motivates me to find solutions. This is a self-propelling mechanism. becoming a billionaire was never a motivating factor.”

9. Save Steadily, Invest with All Prudence

I can exhaust the good habits to have without talking about saving and investing. Most times, you overlook the significance of saving for the future when you are living in your present moment. According to CNBC, a $1000 emergency will propel several Americans into debt.[8]

However, it is not enough to save, and you must invest your fund and be wise with it. If you pay attention to this now, you will set yourself for a life of success in the future. Ensure you save at least six months in your emergency account so you can be prepared for any future emergency.

10. Budget and Track Your Spendings

Benjamin Franklin warned of taking the precaution of little expenses. He said,

“A small leak sinks a great ship.”

It is easy to discard little expenses, but the truth is they always add up. This happens when you fail to budget.

Budgeting is a good habit to have, which can impact your financial life significantly. The money you spend on extravagant lifestyles can be saved and invested in your future.

The Bottom Line

Endeavor to cultivate these good habits to have to become more successful as you journey through life. The quicker you cultivate them, the faster you achieve your goals.

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