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Last Updated on February 25, 2018

High Achievers Are the Ones Who Make the Most Mistakes

High Achievers Are the Ones Who Make the Most Mistakes

The impact mistakes have had on most people’s lives is tremendous.

At school, you were taught to answer questions with model answers. At home, you were taught to be disciplined, have good manners and follow social etiquette. And at work, you’ve become accustomed to a constant expectation that you operate in a mistake-free manner!

The problem with all the above scenarios is that they punish mistakes. A teacher deducts marks for a wrong answer – a supervisor scolds people for failing to take the right action.

It’s no surprise, then, that from a very young age, people have been made to feel bad about making mistakes. Some have even felt like a complete failure. This constant negative feedback leads to most people desperately trying to live their lives without making any mistakes. It can actually become a compulsion. It may even lead to them trying to hide or lie about their mistakes.

But there is more to making mistakes than most have been led to believe.

The Unexpected Positive Side of Being Wrong

The truth is, by forever seeking to avoid mistakes – we actually end up making more mistakes!

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It’s time to start looking at mistakes from a different perspective. They aren’t the monster they’ve been made out to be. They’ve the remarkable ability to help bring about powerful and rapid personal growth.

If you try to avoid mistakes, then you’ll also be missing opportunities to experience something different from what you planned or expected. Imagine that you miss a connecting flight while traveling to an exotic location. By missing the flight, you are forced to stay for 24 hours in a destination that you’d never been to before. To your surprise, though, you find that the nearest city to the airport is picturesque, cosmopolitan and friendly.  In fact, during your time there – you begin to fall in love with everything the city has to offer. When you finally have to leave the city to go back to the airport, you feel genuinely sad. The city captivates your interest and warms your heart.

Clearly, if you hadn’t missed your flight, you would’ve never visited the city – and never discovered your immediate liking for it.

Life can be like that. Mistakes can lead to adventures and opportunities. And beyond that, mistakes can help you to understand how to make better decisions in future situations.

Making Mistakes Does Not Fend off Success, Avoiding Them Does

Unsuccessful people put the bulk of their focus and energy on avoiding mistakes, whereas successful people put the bulk of their focus and energy on making continual attempts at reaching their goals.

Jim Carrey, on his debut comic stand-up at a club called Yuk Yuk’s in Toronto, he was booed off stage. However, he didn’t let this break him. Instead, he used the experience as a wake up call to improve his performance. This wasn’t the only set back he endured. When auditioning for the Saturday Night Live 1980-81 season, he failed to land the part.[1] Again, he didn’t let this destroy his confidence or ambition, but instead he kept on pursing his dreams until he finally broke through to the mainstream in 1994 with the blockbuster movie “Ace Ventura: Pet Detective.”

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    Jim Carrey wasn’t so successful as a comic stand up at the very beginning.

    And then there is Michael Jordan. His profile on NBA’s website describes him as “the greatest basketball player of all time.”[2] And this is how most people think of him. However, Jordan himself said that:

    “I have missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I have lost almost 300 games. On 26 occasions I have been entrusted to take the game winning shot, and I missed. I have failed over and over and over again in my life.”

    But he clarified this statement by adding some vital information: “And that is why I succeed.

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      Each attempt they made was open to mistakes. With more attempts made, the more feedback they received, and the more chances they gained to do better.

      So, if you really want to avoid mistakes – attempt nothing and take no risks. Your record may remain clean, you’ll make few mistakes, but you’ll also have few achievements to write home about. In other words, avoiding mistakes is the easiest way to become and stay unsuccessful.

      From Making Mistakes to Mastering Mistakes

      Failed attempts are only futile if you don’t learn from them.

      Let’s say that you expect that mistakes will happen after you’ve made a choice. This is natural. You’re aware that choices come with risks, and risks can lead to mistakes. However, if you allow the same mistakes to occur time and time again, then you’re not learning or evolving – but instead are stuck in a rut. Albert Einstein said it well:

      “The definition of insanity is repeating the same mistakes over and over again and expecting different results.”

      A much better approach, is to analyze your mistakes, and to see if you can work out how to avoid them in the future. Put another way, make every attempt count and learn from it. By doing this, you’ll quickly overcome foolish mistakes, and begin to make real progress in your life.

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      As a hard-hitting example for you to think about, if you know that drunk driving can kill, and you still do it because you think it’s about “making more attempts and mistakes,” that’s a foolish act – not an attempt that will help you grow.

      On the other hand, if you plan a business project with some risky ideas, but expect there will be mistakes, then even if these efforts turn out to be unsuccessful, you’ll learn from them.

      A mistake is just a mis-take, start over by learning from your last mis-take.

      Making mistakes doesn’t equal failure. Not making any, however, will mean that you miss out on tons of attempts and learning opportunities. This guarantees failure.

      Be brave, be bold, and be prepared to make mistakes.

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      Last Updated on February 19, 2019

      How to Make Changes in Life To Be The Very Best Version of You

      How to Make Changes in Life To Be The Very Best Version of You

      Let’s start with the problem:

      You get back from work. You’re tired. It was a long day. You know there’s things you could do, to get out of the rut you’re in.

      But, let’s be honest. You really would rather relax, sit down and chill for a bit. Grab a snack. Watch your favourite show.

      By the time you’ve done that, the day’s over. There’s just not enough time. To make this worse – you don’t have the energy or willpower to make changes in your life today.

      So where do you go from there?

      What you need are some easy to apply actions that are proven to work.

      This article is going to give you 4 steps on how to make changes in life so you can follow today and get closer to success – even when you are feeling tired and lazy.

      These steps have proven to work for me, and many of the coaching clients I work with privately.

      1. Squash inconsistency by giving up motivation

      Now most people, when they want to make changes to their lives, focus on making lengthy to-do lists and plans. They think over and over again about what is going wrong, what is going well and what they want, etc.

      All in a bid to push themselves to getting more motivated.

      Guess what? This isn’t going to work.

      Willpower and motivation are feelings. Feelings are vague and unreliable.

      Instead what you should do is focus on putting your flawed unpredictable self in the best possible environments.

      If you do one thing first from this list, it’s THIS:

      Find and go to the best possible environment for the area of your life you want to change.

      For example:

      • If you want to get fit, make your first goal to show up at the gym three times a week.
      • If you want to find a new relationship, show up to a meet up in your city for single people.
      • If you want to be productive and make your business idea work, don’t work at home, go to a co working space nearby.

      The reason people fail to become the best version of themselves is because they underestimate the power of environments to influence behavior.

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      Accept that you are flawed, prone to distractions and your motivation and willpower will fail you.

      The best hack at your disposal? Show up to “change inducing” environments and get out of your comfort zone (physically)!

      OK. Next step.

      2. Recruit an elite team to help you (for free)

      Open up any social media platform you’re active on that contains some positive connections you have.

      Send this message to one person you already know and trust ton help you make changes to your life:

      “Hey [first name]. Can I be really frank and honest with you? I’m having one of those – ‘OMG I NEED TO MAKE CHANGES TO MY LIFE!’ moments.

      And I was browsing the internet, looking for tips and this article I came across suggested accountability. So here I am, messaging you to be part of my accountability system.

      My ask is simple.

      Can we sit together once a week at [x place] but do absolutely no socializing? I’ll buy the [coffee/food] and it will be a space to force me to do [x thing]. You literally have to do nothing other than eat the free coffee/food I pay for lol. But it will keep my accountability high, which is what I need.

      What you reckon? Can you help? Thanks!”

      Now obviously, change the language to suit you but you get the idea.

      Not only are you going to environments that will help you make changes, but by bringing a friend (or two), you make it even likelier that you will succeed. It doesn’t even have to be in person, it could be a video call.

      People fail to make changes to their lives because they try to do it all themselves.

      It doesn’t really work in long term, and it doesn’t have to be this way.

      You can recruit and “enlist” people to help you. By doing this, you’re taking care of the up and down motivation you have.

      Not only are people happy to help, when they see this type of behavior, they’re also inspired and motivated to change their lives. Pretty soon, you end up creating change in not just your life, but other people’s too.

      So when the next dip in willpower comes?

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      You have a friend sitting right next to you, watching your every move, making sure you get things done anyway.

      3. Build good habits effortlessly

      Changing your life means changing your day to day habits.

      Habits are automated behaviors you do everyday, like how a clock works, without thinking or motivating yourself to do them.

      Some habits help you to change, others can stop you. One of the best ways to replace your ‘bad’ habits with good ones is to treat them like old clothes.

      What happens when your t-shirt gets old, faded and out of fashion? You replace it with something new and improved.

      Do the same thing with your habits – upgrade and replace them with something better. Start small, then slowly graduate to higher levels of difficulty.

      Let me give you a clear example of what I mean:

      A few years ago (before it became mainstream), I was trying to start my own habit of meditating every single day to help boost my productivity and mindfulness. I’d done a mind blowing course called Vipassana. It involved 10 days of deeply powerful meditation combined with noble silence in a remote part of the UK.

      Now it was easy to do when I was there (#1 – environment!) with all those other meditators (#2 – people helping me). All I could do was meditate. There were ZERO distractions. I had NO CHOICE.

      When I got home however, after a few days of sticking with it, I quickly caved.

      Those extra 30 minutes of sleep were just so much easier than waking up everyday at 4am for a long one hour meditation.

      So what did I do to build this really important habit?

      Like with most things, I wanted to make changes to my life. I wanted to become my best self.

      I knew how important it was. I just couldn’t follow through consistently and kept failing over and over.

      Then, it hit me.

      I needed to start small. I made a tiny change, that made all the difference.

      I made a tiny change, that I could stick to – without fail – that has me meditating daily every single day now.

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      What was it?

      Instead of trying to do something BIG inconsistently (1 hour of 4am morning meditation) and failing again and again. I decided to do something small consistently.

      Building any good habit really just comes down to repetition. The way the brain is built works in favour of this.

      My new habit became:

      When I wake up, I will fold my bedding neatly. Then I will sit cross legged for 30 seconds with my eyes closed.

      Eventually, once I did this consistently for a few months. I increased difficulty.

      When I wake up, I will fold my bedding neatly. Then I will meditate for 10 minutes.

      Why does this work?

      What’s important here is that the behavior you want (meditating) is tied to another consistent habit (folding your bedding).

      I attached my new habit to one that already is consistent.

      Making it more likely to happen.

      Secondly, I aimed for consistency, not perfection. This is where a lot of people fail. They have an idea of the change they want, but things become all or nothing.

      When you do this, you fail to realize the power of consistency. The brain you have loves patterns. In this case, I trained my brain to repeat a set pattern every morning when I fold my bed.

      There was no motivation or willpower required.

      This training has gone so far now that if I miss a day of meditating, I really feel uncomfortable. I’m just as conditioned to meditate as most people are to checking their phones in the morning.

      If you want to learn more about quitting bad habits, Lifehack’s CEO also has a guide on it:

      How to Break Bad Habits: I Broke 3 Bad Habits in Less Than 2 Months

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      4. Create more time by quitting social media

      You know the best thing I’ve ever done for my productivity and it took me 30 seconds to do?

      I deleted all social media apps from my phone and blocked them on my laptop.

      Then, to reinforce it, I told all my friends and followers on Facebook (my most used platform) I wasn’t using it for a while.

      Now, there’s nothing wrong with my social media. Social media is a tool. Tools are neutral. It’s how we use them that is “productive” or “distracting”.

      We each have to judge how healthy our usage is – especially when weighed against unlocking our best self.

      That said. For most people reading this, including me, I think limiting our usage is a very favorable advantage.

      One of the best ways to make changes in our lives is not to add new tools or tricks. But simply remove things that distract us.

      Social media is something I use heavily for both my businesses. Technically I’m a “social media influencer” and “YouTuber”. I need to be posting constantly, right?

      Our situations are unique, so I came up with a unique solution for this. After deleting and blocking these apps from my devices, I installed a social media management software that still allows me to post my updates.

      The big difference however, is I cannot spend any time scrolling and being distracted.

      Summing it up

      Change is not always about more. Sometimes it’s about doing less and getting rid of what distracts or blocks you.

      Trying to do things by yourself is a good way to fail. Share your goals and pitfalls with people, no one helps until you ask.

      Start with small changes consistently instead of big changes failed at consistently. The momentum will give you results over time.

      So what to do next to make changes in your life?

      1. Write down where you are going to GO to create the changes you want.
      2. Message 3-4 people on social media and ask them to help you using the message template I gave you.
      3. Choose one small habit to get started with immediately and upgrade it over time.
      4. Delete all, or at least most social media apps on your devices, and notify people you are leaving to make it stick.

      Featured photo credit: Unsplash via unsplash.com

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