Worries stuff our life. The newly grown acnes, the assignment deadline, or the fear of insomnia. Simply a thought of these is already suffocating. But worry is like worms eating up your health, or even your life.
After reading this article, you will understand more about what worry is, and find ways to drive out the worries, and regain the control of your life.
It’s the uncertainty that’s messing up with you.
Worries can be in different forms, but one commonality of them is all worries carry uncertainty. What makes us really worried is the intangible uncertain feeling.
In fact, this is proved by scientists. Scientists tell us that our brain needs instant feedback in order to judge the situation, and then decides the action. If we are devoid of feedback and certainty, we are living in a Delayed Return Environment . And as a result, all the negative emotions pop up.
Make the small wins count.
To eliminate worry, the first thing you can do is to focus on the small wins every day. If the lack of feedback causes us worry, then providing the feedback our brain needs can already flip over the situation. When our brain receive the feedback, the uncertainty becomes less uncertain, and the anxiety is lessened. Better still, if we focus on the positive feedback every day, we do not only eliminate the uncertainty, but also create motivation and happiness for us.
Shift your focus.
Another way to eliminate worry is to shift your focus from the long-term problem to your daily routine. Focusing on the long-term problems, like the fear of breaking up or the fear of death, is only causing unnecessary uncertainties. After all, no one can really predict the future. Instead, you should focus on the more tangible problems in your daily routine, like cooking the dinner tonight or watering the plants. By solving these minor problems, you minimize the uncertainty and gain a small taste of success, giving the encouragement you need to carry on with your life.
Yes, most of us do worry, but just take it easy. While you are still troubled by worries, remember you own the control of your life. You have the power to get rid of worries and have a more carefree life.
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