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Guess Which Is The Best Guy? It Tells Us Never To Judge Too Easily

Guess Which Is The Best Guy? It Tells Us Never To Judge Too Easily

Have you ever become best friends with someone you would never expect to at first sight?

Often, we judge too hastily, making decisions about people before we really know their story. What do people’s habits tell us about them?

Can you judge who the best person of the three people below based on their habits alone?

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        You’d pick C of course…

        But wait….

        Person A is Sir Winston Churchill

        Churchill was Britain’s greatest wartime leader. He was also a noted speaker, historian, soldier, war reporter and author-biographer.

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        Has two lovers – Churchill had a close friendship with Violet Asquith, daughter of the Prime Minister, and it was assumed that Churchill and Violet would marry. However, another woman, Clementine Hozier captured his heart. Churchill wasn’t sure Clementine would marry him, so he kept up his relationship with Violet, using her as a “back up,” while hoping to win Clementine’s heart. When Clementine accepted his proposal, he broke the news to Violet, leading her to jump off a cliff, although she sustained only minor injuries. Churchill would admit that he treated Violet badly, but the two remained close friends.

        Smokes cigars – Churchill always had a cigar in his mouth. His mother hated seeing him in public smoking so much that she bribed him with a pony and a new gun if he gave them up for six months. He did stop smoking then, but took it up again as soon as the six months were up. “The Churchill” a Cuban cigar was named after him.

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        Person B is Franklin Roosevelt (FDR)

        Lost his job twice – In 1912, he won the re-election to the state senate but did not finish his term. He instead accepted the position of assistant secretary of the Navy. He also then left the public sector Fidelity and Deposit when he ran for Governor of New York.

        Sleeps until midday – FDR was stricken with polio during the summer of 1921 leaving him paralyzed from the waist down. He eventually could walk small distances with the use of braces and canes. In 1944, he was plagued with headaches in the evenings that left him overly exhausted throughout the day causing him to sleep excessively.

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        Drinks a bottle of whisky every day – FDR ended prohibition and was known to mix cocktails in the oval office, right at his desk. It was fitting that when Truman got the news of FDR’s passing he was sipping a Bourbon, calling it a fine tribute to his predecessor.

        Person C is Adolf Hitler

        Doesn’t smoke – During his early life, Hitler was a heavy smoker, but eventually gave up the costly habit. He encouraged his closest associates to quit smoking and banned smoking in his office, and around him.

        Never betrayed his wife – Eva Braun was Hitler’s longtime companion, and was married to Hitler for just 40 hours before the pair committed suicide. Eva bit down on a Cyanide capsule while Hitler shot himself.

        Don’t judge an individual by their habits.

        We often judge others, keeping our minds closed. This also leads us to judge ourselves. We get stuck thinking our way is the only way, and anything different is wrong or negative. Instead, we need to look for the positive aspects of people and situations. Doing this will reduce judgment of others, and therefore the judgment of ourselves. It will also lead us to appreciate the differences in others and open our minds to new things.

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        Last Updated on September 17, 2018

        7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

        7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

        Relationships are complicated and when you’re unhappy, it can be difficult to tell what’s causing it and what needs to change.

        Sometimes it’s as easy as opening up to your partner about your problems, while other times it may be necessary to switch partners or roll solo to get your mind straight.

        When you’re in the thick of things, it can be difficult to tell if you’re unhappy in your relationship or just unhappy in general (in which case, a relationship may be just the cure you need).

        Here’re signs of an unhappy relationship that is possibly making you feel stuck:

        1. You’re depressed about your home life.

        No matter what you do in life, you’re going to have good and bad days. Your relationship is no different.

        However, no matter what you’re going through at home, you have to feel comfortable in your own home.

        If you constantly dread going home because your significant other is there, there’s a problem. Maybe it’s something you already know about, everyone has an argument or just needs some alone time.

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        When that yearning to be alone becomes an insatiable obsession over the course of months and years, it’s time to realize you’re not the exception to the rule.

        You’re unhappy in your relationship, and you need to take a look in the mirror and do whatever it takes to make yourself smile.

        2. You aren’t comfortable being yourself.

        Remember all those things you discovered about yourself when you first got together? The way your partner made you feel when you met that made you fall in love with him or her in the first place.

        If they don’t make you feel that way anymore, it’s not the end of the world. If your partner makes you uncomfortable about being you, then her or she is only dragging you down. It’s up to you to decide how to handle that.

        You need to be comfortable with who you are. This means being comfortable in your skin and with the way you walk, talk, look, breath, move, and all the other things that make you uniquely you.

        If the person who supposedly loves you doesn’t make you feel good about yourself, know that you can do better. They’re not even one in a billion.

        3. You can’t stop snooping.

        Mutual trust is necessary in any relationship. The only way to get that trust is with respect.

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        I can find you anywhere online, no matter how private and secure you think you are. The odds of you having a password I can’t crack are slim. If we’ve met in person, I could install a remote key logger on your device without even touching it.

        Finding your information online hardly takes a clandestine organization. Any idiot with a Wi-Fi-enabled device can cyberstalk you. I’m just the only idiot in the village admitting it.

        So now that we know everyone snoops, it’s time to address your personal habits. Governments snoop because they don’t trust us. If you’re snooping on your partner, it’s because you don’t trust them.

        It’s ok to have doubts, and it’s perfectly normal to look into anything that looks weird, but keep in mind that data collection is only half of an investigation.

        If you find yourself constantly snooping and questioning everything, clearly there’s a trust issue and the relationship likely needs to end.

        4. You’re afraid of commitment.

        If you’ve been dating longer than a year and you aren’t engaged, it’s never going to happen.

        Commitment is important. People will come up with a million ways to describe why they can’t be committed.

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        No matter who you are if you like it, you need to put a ring on it. Find an engagement ring, stick a gemstone in it and marry the person. If you’re not legally able to get married or you don’t believe in it for one reason or another, have a child (or adopt one, however you’re able to) or treat your partner’s family like your own. It’s a huge financial and mental commitment.

        If you’re not ready for one or the other after some time, don’t waste anymore of your precious life on the relationship.

        Your relationship should be something that propels you forward. If it’s not going anywhere, make it an open relationship and call it what it is—dating multiple people.

        5. You imagine a happier life without your partner.

        If all you’re doing is imagining a happier life without your partner, it’s a sign that you’re in the wrong relationship. You’re unhappy and you need to get out.

        Your partner should be included in your dreams. There’s nothing wrong with wanting a future with someone.

        Try to remember what you dreamed of before you got your heart broken by the realities of life, love and the pursuit of human success.

        Remember when you would crush on that cute kid in class? You would secretly imagine marrying him or her and going on an adventure—that’s the way life should be.

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        If you’re not at least imagining adventures together, then why are you in that relationship?

        6. You resent, rather than love your partner.

        When a relationship starts to crumble, you begin to resent your partner for all the things you once loved about him or her.

        When you’ve reached this point, your partner has reached at least No. 2 on this list. From your partner’s perspective, your unhappiness with them is picked up as bashing them for being who they are.

        If you’re both unhappy in the relationship, it’s better if it ends as quickly and painlessly as possible.

        7. You chase past feelings.

        It’s okay to reminisce about the past, but if all you do is wish things were like they used to be, it’s a sign you’re not on the right path.

        You’re unhappy and, at the very least, you need to have an open dialogue about it. This isn’t necessarily a sign that the relationship should end, but it definitely needs a spark.

        When you talk to your partner candidly about what it is you’re looking for, you never know how they’ll react. The risk alone is worth it, good or bad.

        Final thoughts

        If you’re feeling stuck in your current relationship, it’s time to reflect about it with your partner. Don’t ignore these signs of an unhappy relationship as they will slowly go worse and harm both you and your partner in long-term.

        Featured photo credit: josh peterson via unsplash.com

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