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Rekindle the romance in 9 easy ways

Rekindle the romance in 9 easy ways

We’ve all been there; you meet someone, fall in love and the romance blossoms. So after that initial honeymoon period ends, what next? It’s so easy to slip back into the comfortable stage, life takes over and commitments pile up, leaving very little time to enjoy each other’s company.

Keeping the romance alive doesn’t mean you have to always give massive tokens of love or go through the motions with traditional gestures at birthdays, anniversaries and Christmas. The little things all count and something simple can give you that little moment of intimacy, perfect to rekindle your romance, when life gets in the way.

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1. Behave like children

You might be responsible adults now, but why shouldn’t you have as much fun as you did when you were kids? Taking time out to have fun together is a great way to reconnect. Go to the zoo, laugh at the monkeys getting up to no-good, take photos of you with funny-looking creatures in the background and feed the animals in the petting area, it’s all good fun!

2. Go for lots of walks together

The best way to relax and enjoy each other’s company is to get out and about on foot. Whether that’s a hike in the mountains of Snowdonia or a gentle wander throughout the enchanting woodlands of the New Forest. You’ll find beautiful walks, views and scenery to enjoy and no-doubt you’ll find the perfect spot to watch the sunset, how romantic!

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3. Make each other laugh

It’s pretty easy really, but finding the time to relax and make each other laugh is a simple way to rekindle those warm fuzzies. Turn off your phone and don’t even think about work. Instead focus on making each other laugh, no one likes someone who is serious all the time and can’t let go of the real world.

4. Get on your bike

Whether that’s a tandem bike or your own bike, go out for the day and ride carefree through the countryside, stopping at pretty village pubs for a drink along the way. If you haven’t ridden a bike for a couple of years, this is the perfect opportunity to get back in the saddle – and provide each other with a couple of laughs.

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5. Go out for a romantic meal

Might sound cliché, but treat yourselves to a romantic dinner for two. Whether you’d enjoy a slap up meal in a fancy restaurant or fish and chips down your local chippy, do whatever you feel comfortable doing, but make sure you agree on the choice!

6. Cook a meal together

Buy a load of really tasty ingredients and cook something up together, if you don’t get in each other’s way then bonus! If you find one person is always cooking, why not switch it up in future and share the burden, you never know if you might actually enjoy doing it.

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7. Go on holiday

Might sound like an easy one, but really relaxing and spending time together on holiday sometimes still gets put on the back burner. Book somewhere secluded, peaceful and relaxing for some quality one to one time with no interruptions.

8. Do absolutely nothing

It’s important for couples to be able to sit and do nothing together without an awkward silence. Nothing meaning – no work or household chores. So spend a couple of evenings relaxing in front of the TV with a bottle of wine. Watch a film together, read a book or play a board game.

9. Give each other space

You don’t have to be with each other 24/7. Take some time just for you, whether that be reading a book in the sunshine or heading off separately at the shops to indulge your different interests. Don’t forget you’re an individual too.

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10 Life Lessons You’d Better Learn Early on in Life

10 Life Lessons You’d Better Learn Early on in Life

There are so many lessons I wish I had learned while I was young enough to appreciate and apply them. The thing with wisdom, and often with life lessons in general, is that they’re learned in retrospect, long after we needed them. The good news is that other people can benefit from our experiences and the lessons we’ve learned.

Here’re 10 important life lessons you should learn early on:

1. Money Will Never Solve Your Real Problems

Money is a tool; a commodity that buys you necessities and some nice “wants,” but it is not the panacea to your problems.

There are a great many people who are living on very little, yet have wonderfully full and happy lives… and there are sadly a great many people are living on quite a lot, yet have terribly miserable lives.

Money can buy a nice home, a great car, fabulous shoes, even a bit of security and some creature comforts, but it cannot fix a broken relationship, or cure loneliness, and the “happiness” it brings is only fleeting and not the kind that really and truly matters. Happiness is not for sale. If you’re expecting the “stuff” you can buy to “make it better,” you will never be happy.

2. Pace Yourself

Often when we’re young, just beginning our adult journey we feel as though we have to do everything at once. We need to decide everything, plan out our lives, experience everything, get to the top, find true love, figure out our life’s purpose, and do it all at the same time.

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Slow down—don’t rush into things. Let your life unfold. Wait a bit to see where it takes you, and take time to weigh your options. Enjoy every bite of food, take time to look around you, let the other person finish their side of the conversation. Allow yourself time to think, to mull a bit.

Taking action is critical. Working towards your goals and making plans for the future is commendable and often very useful, but rushing full-speed ahead towards anything is a one-way ticket to burnout and a good way to miss your life as it passes you by.

3. You Can’t Please Everyone

“I don’t know the secret to success, but the secret to failure is trying to please everyone” – Bill Cosby.

You don’t need everyone to agree with you or even like you. It’s human nature to want to belong, to be liked, respected and valued, but not at the expense of your integrity and happiness. Other people cannot give you the validation you seek. That has to come from inside.

Speak up, stick to your guns, assert yourself when you need to, demand respect, stay true to your values.

4. Your Health Is Your Most Valuable Asset

Health is an invaluable treasure—always appreciate, nurture, and protect it. Good health is often wasted on the young before they have a chance to appreciate it for what it’s worth.

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We tend to take our good health for granted, because it’s just there. We don’t have to worry about it, so we don’t really pay attention to it… until we have to.

Heart disease, bone density, stroke, many cancers—the list of many largely preventable diseases is long, so take care of your health now, or you’ll regret it later on.

5. You Don’t Always Get What You Want

“Life is what happens while you’re busy making other plans.” – John Lennon

No matter how carefully you plan and how hard you work, sometimes things just don’t work out the way you want them to… and that’s okay.

We have all of these expectations; predetermined visions of what our “ideal” life will look like, but all too often, that’s not the reality of the life we end up with. Sometimes our dreams fail and sometimes we just change our minds mid-course. Sometimes we have to flop to find the right course and sometimes we just have to try a few things before we find the right direction.

6. It’s Not All About You

You are not the epicenter of the universe. It’s very difficult to view the world from a perspective outside of your own, since we are always so focused on what’s happening in our own lives. What do I have to do today? What will this mean for me, for my career, for my life? What do I want?

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It’s normal to be intensely aware of everything that’s going on in your own life, but you need to pay as much attention to what’s happening around you, and how things affect other people in the world as you do to your own life. It helps to keep things in perspective.

7. There’s No Shame in Not Knowing

No one has it all figured out. Nobody has all the answers. There’s no shame in saying “I don’t know.” Pretending to be perfect doesn’t make you perfect. It just makes you neurotic to keep up the pretense of manufactured perfection.

We have this idea that there is some kind of stigma or shame in admitting our limitations or uncertainly, but we can’t possibly know everything. We all make mistakes and mess up occasionally. We learn as we go, that’s life.

Besides—nobody likes a know-it-all. A little vulnerability makes you human and oh so much more relatable.

8. Love Is More Than a Feeling; It’s a Choice

That burst of initial exhilaration, pulse quickening love and passion does not last long. But that doesn’t mean long-lasting love is not possible.

Love is not just a feeling; it’s a choice that you make every day. We have to choose to let annoyances pass, to forgive, to be kind, to respect, to support, to be faithful.

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Relationships take work. Sometimes it’s easy and sometimes it’s incredibly hard. It is up to us to choose how we want to act, think and speak in a relationship.

9. Perspective Is a Beautiful Thing

Typically, when we’re worried or upset, it’s because we’ve lost perspective. Everything that is happening in our lives seems so big, so important, so do or die, but in the grand picture, this single hiccup often means next to nothing.

The fight we’re having, the job we didn’t get, the real or imagined slight, the unexpected need to shift course, the thing we wanted, but didn’t get. Most of it won’t matter 20, 30, 40 years from now. It’s hard to see long term when all you know is short term, but unless it’s life-threatening, let it go, and move on.

10. Don’t Take Anything for Granted

We often don’t appreciate what we have until it’s gone: that includes your health, your family and friends, your job, the money you have or think you will have tomorrow.

When you’re young, it seems that your parents will always be there, but they won’t. You think you have plenty of time to get back in touch with your old friends or spend time with new ones, but you don’t. You have the money to spend, or you think you’ll have it next month, but you might not.

Nothing in your life is not guaranteed to be there tomorrow, including those you love.

This is a hard life lesson to learn, but it may be the most important of all: Life can change in an instant. Make sure you appreciate what you have, while you still have it.

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