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Rekindle the romance in 9 easy ways

Rekindle the romance in 9 easy ways

We’ve all been there; you meet someone, fall in love and the romance blossoms. So after that initial honeymoon period ends, what next? It’s so easy to slip back into the comfortable stage, life takes over and commitments pile up, leaving very little time to enjoy each other’s company.

Keeping the romance alive doesn’t mean you have to always give massive tokens of love or go through the motions with traditional gestures at birthdays, anniversaries and Christmas. The little things all count and something simple can give you that little moment of intimacy, perfect to rekindle your romance, when life gets in the way.

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1. Behave like children

You might be responsible adults now, but why shouldn’t you have as much fun as you did when you were kids? Taking time out to have fun together is a great way to reconnect. Go to the zoo, laugh at the monkeys getting up to no-good, take photos of you with funny-looking creatures in the background and feed the animals in the petting area, it’s all good fun!

2. Go for lots of walks together

The best way to relax and enjoy each other’s company is to get out and about on foot. Whether that’s a hike in the mountains of Snowdonia or a gentle wander throughout the enchanting woodlands of the New Forest. You’ll find beautiful walks, views and scenery to enjoy and no-doubt you’ll find the perfect spot to watch the sunset, how romantic!

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3. Make each other laugh

It’s pretty easy really, but finding the time to relax and make each other laugh is a simple way to rekindle those warm fuzzies. Turn off your phone and don’t even think about work. Instead focus on making each other laugh, no one likes someone who is serious all the time and can’t let go of the real world.

4. Get on your bike

Whether that’s a tandem bike or your own bike, go out for the day and ride carefree through the countryside, stopping at pretty village pubs for a drink along the way. If you haven’t ridden a bike for a couple of years, this is the perfect opportunity to get back in the saddle – and provide each other with a couple of laughs.

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5. Go out for a romantic meal

Might sound cliché, but treat yourselves to a romantic dinner for two. Whether you’d enjoy a slap up meal in a fancy restaurant or fish and chips down your local chippy, do whatever you feel comfortable doing, but make sure you agree on the choice!

6. Cook a meal together

Buy a load of really tasty ingredients and cook something up together, if you don’t get in each other’s way then bonus! If you find one person is always cooking, why not switch it up in future and share the burden, you never know if you might actually enjoy doing it.

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7. Go on holiday

Might sound like an easy one, but really relaxing and spending time together on holiday sometimes still gets put on the back burner. Book somewhere secluded, peaceful and relaxing for some quality one to one time with no interruptions.

8. Do absolutely nothing

It’s important for couples to be able to sit and do nothing together without an awkward silence. Nothing meaning – no work or household chores. So spend a couple of evenings relaxing in front of the TV with a bottle of wine. Watch a film together, read a book or play a board game.

9. Give each other space

You don’t have to be with each other 24/7. Take some time just for you, whether that be reading a book in the sunshine or heading off separately at the shops to indulge your different interests. Don’t forget you’re an individual too.

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Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

How often have you said something simple, only to have the person who you said this to misunderstand it or twist the meaning completely around? Nodding your head in affirmative? Then this means that you are being unclear in your communication.

Communication should be simple, right? It’s all about two people or more talking and explaining something to the other. The problem lies in the talking itself, somehow we end up being unclear, and our words, attitude or even the way of talking becomes a barrier in communication, most of the times unknowingly. We give you six common barriers to communication, and how to get past them; for you to actually say what you mean, and or the other person to understand it as well…

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Think about it this way, a simple phrase like “what do you mean” can be said in many different ways and each different way would end up “communicating” something else entirely. Scream it at the other person, and the perception would be anger. Whisper this is someone’s ear and others may take it as if you were plotting something. Say it in another language, and no one gets what you mean at all, if they don’t speak it… This is what we mean when we say that talking or saying something that’s clear in your head, many not mean that you have successfully communicated it across to your intended audience – thus what you say and how, where and why you said it – at times become barriers to communication.[1]

Perceptual Barrier

The moment you say something in a confrontational, sarcastic, angry or emotional tone, you have set up perceptual barriers to communication. The other person or people to whom you are trying to communicate your point get the message that you are disinterested in what you are saying and sort of turn a deaf ear. In effect, you are yelling your point across to person who might as well be deaf![2]

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The problem: When you have a tone that’s not particularly positive, a body language that denotes your own disinterest in the situation and let your own stereotypes and misgivings enter the conversation via the way you talk and gesture, the other person perceives what you saying an entirely different manner than say if you said the same while smiling and catching their gaze.

The solution: Start the conversation on a positive note, and don’t let what you think color your tone, gestures of body language. Maintain eye contact with your audience, and smile openly and wholeheartedly…

Attitudinal Barrier

Some people, if you would excuse the language, are simply badass and in general are unable to form relationships or even a common point of communication with others, due to their habit of thinking to highly or too lowly of them. They basically have an attitude problem – since they hold themselves in high esteem, they are unable to form genuine lines of communication with anyone. The same is true if they think too little of themselves as well.[3]

The problem: If anyone at work, or even in your family, tends to roam around with a superior air – anything they say is likely to be taken by you and the others with a pinch, or even a bag of salt. Simply because whenever they talk, the first thing to come out of it is their condescending attitude. And in case there’s someone with an inferiority complex, their incessant self-pity forms barriers to communication.

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The solution: Use simple words and an encouraging smile to communicate effectively – and stick to constructive criticism, and not criticism because you are a perfectionist. If you see someone doing a good job, let them know, and disregard the thought that you could have done it better. It’s their job so measure them by industry standards and not your own.

Language Barrier

This is perhaps the commonest and the most inadvertent of barriers to communication. Using big words, too much of technical jargon or even using just the wrong language at the incorrect or inopportune time can lead to a loss or misinterpretation of communication. It may have sounded right in your head and to your ears as well, but if sounded gobbledygook to the others, the purpose is lost.

The problem: Say you are trying to explain a process to the newbies and end up using every technical word and industry jargon that you knew – your communication has failed if the newbie understood zilch. You have to, without sounding patronizing, explain things to someone in the simplest language they understand instead of the most complex that you do.

The solution: Simplify things for the other person to understand you, and understand it well. Think about it this way: if you are trying to explain something scientific to a child, you tone it down to their thinking capacity, without “dumbing” anything down in the process.[4]

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Emotional Barrier

Sometimes, we hesitate in opening our mouths, for fear of putting our foot in it! Other times, our emotional state is so fragile that we keep it and our lips zipped tightly together lest we explode. This is the time that our emotions become barriers to communication.[5]

The problem: Say you had a fight at home and are on a slow boil, muttering, in your head, about the injustice of it all. At this time, you have to give someone a dressing down over their work performance. You are likely to transfer at least part of your angst to the conversation then, and talk about unfairness in general, leaving the other person stymied about what you actually meant!

The solution: Remove your emotions and feelings to a personal space, and talk to the other person as you normally would. Treat any phobias or fears that you have and nip them in the bud so that they don’t become a problem. And remember, no one is perfect.

Cultural Barrier

Sometimes, being in an ever-shrinking world means that inadvertently, rules can make cultures clash and cultural clashes can turn into barriers to communication. The idea is to make your point across without hurting anyone’s cultural or religious sentiments.

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The problem: There are so many ways culture clashes can happen during communication and with cultural clashes; it’s not always about ethnicity. A non-smoker may have problems with smokers taking breaks; an older boss may have issues with younger staff using the Internet too much.

The solution: Communicate only what is necessary to get the point across – and eave your personal sentiments or feelings out of it. Try to be accommodative of the other’s viewpoint, and in case you still need to work it out, do it one to one, to avoid making a spectacle of the other person’s beliefs.[6]

Gender Barrier

Finally, it’s about Men from Mars and Women from Venus. Sometimes, men don’t understand women and women don’t get men – and this gender gap throws barriers in communication. Women tend to take conflict to their graves, literally, while men can move on instantly. Women rely on intuition, men on logic – so inherently, gender becomes a big block in successful communication.[7]

The problem: A male boss may inadvertently rub his female subordinates the wrong way with anti-feminism innuendoes, or even have problems with women taking too many family leaves. Similarly, women sometimes let their emotions get the better of them, something a male audience can’t relate to.

The solution: Talk to people like people – don’t think or classify them into genders and then talk accordingly. Don’t make comments or innuendos that are gender biased – you don’t have to come across as an MCP or as a bra-burning feminist either. Keep gender out of it.

And remember, the key to successful communication is simply being open, making eye contact and smiling intermittently. The battle is usually half won when you say what you mean in simple, straightforward words and keep your emotions out of it.

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