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Rekindle the romance in 9 easy ways

Rekindle the romance in 9 easy ways

We’ve all been there; you meet someone, fall in love and the romance blossoms. So after that initial honeymoon period ends, what next? It’s so easy to slip back into the comfortable stage, life takes over and commitments pile up, leaving very little time to enjoy each other’s company.

Keeping the romance alive doesn’t mean you have to always give massive tokens of love or go through the motions with traditional gestures at birthdays, anniversaries and Christmas. The little things all count and something simple can give you that little moment of intimacy, perfect to rekindle your romance, when life gets in the way.

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1. Behave like children

You might be responsible adults now, but why shouldn’t you have as much fun as you did when you were kids? Taking time out to have fun together is a great way to reconnect. Go to the zoo, laugh at the monkeys getting up to no-good, take photos of you with funny-looking creatures in the background and feed the animals in the petting area, it’s all good fun!

2. Go for lots of walks together

The best way to relax and enjoy each other’s company is to get out and about on foot. Whether that’s a hike in the mountains of Snowdonia or a gentle wander throughout the enchanting woodlands of the New Forest. You’ll find beautiful walks, views and scenery to enjoy and no-doubt you’ll find the perfect spot to watch the sunset, how romantic!

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3. Make each other laugh

It’s pretty easy really, but finding the time to relax and make each other laugh is a simple way to rekindle those warm fuzzies. Turn off your phone and don’t even think about work. Instead focus on making each other laugh, no one likes someone who is serious all the time and can’t let go of the real world.

4. Get on your bike

Whether that’s a tandem bike or your own bike, go out for the day and ride carefree through the countryside, stopping at pretty village pubs for a drink along the way. If you haven’t ridden a bike for a couple of years, this is the perfect opportunity to get back in the saddle – and provide each other with a couple of laughs.

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5. Go out for a romantic meal

Might sound cliché, but treat yourselves to a romantic dinner for two. Whether you’d enjoy a slap up meal in a fancy restaurant or fish and chips down your local chippy, do whatever you feel comfortable doing, but make sure you agree on the choice!

6. Cook a meal together

Buy a load of really tasty ingredients and cook something up together, if you don’t get in each other’s way then bonus! If you find one person is always cooking, why not switch it up in future and share the burden, you never know if you might actually enjoy doing it.

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7. Go on holiday

Might sound like an easy one, but really relaxing and spending time together on holiday sometimes still gets put on the back burner. Book somewhere secluded, peaceful and relaxing for some quality one to one time with no interruptions.

8. Do absolutely nothing

It’s important for couples to be able to sit and do nothing together without an awkward silence. Nothing meaning – no work or household chores. So spend a couple of evenings relaxing in front of the TV with a bottle of wine. Watch a film together, read a book or play a board game.

9. Give each other space

You don’t have to be with each other 24/7. Take some time just for you, whether that be reading a book in the sunshine or heading off separately at the shops to indulge your different interests. Don’t forget you’re an individual too.

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12 Simple Ways You Can Build A Positive Attitude

We all look for a better and happier life, but somehow we realize it’s our attitude that makes it hard to lead the life we want. How can we build a positive attitude? Grant Mathews has listed out the things (from the easiest to the hardest) we can do to cultivate this attitude on Quora:

1. Listen to good music.

Music definitely improves your mood, and it’s a really simple thing to do.

2. Don’t watch television passively.

Studies have shown that people who watch TV less are happier, which leads me to my next point…

3. Don’t do anything passively.

Whenever I do something, I like to ask myself if, at the end of the day, I would be content saying that I had spent time doing it. (This is why I block sites I find myself wasting too much time on. I enjoy them, but they’re just not worth it when I could be learning something new, or working on projects I care about.)

Time is incredibly valuable.

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4. Be aware of negativity

A community that considers itself intelligent tends to be negativity because criticizing is seen as a signaling mechanism to indicate that you’re more intelligent than the person you corrected. This was irrationally frustrating for me – it’s one of those things you’ll stay up all night to think about.

5. Make time to be alone.

I initially said “take time just to be alone.” I changed it because if you don’t ensure you can take a break, you’ll surely be interrupted.

Being with other people is something you can do to make you happy, but I don’t include it in this list because nearly everyone finds time to talk with friends. On the other hand, spending time just with yourself is almost considered a taboo.

Take some time to figure out who you are.

6. Exercise.

This is the best way to improve your immediate happiness.

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Exercise probably makes you happy. Try and go on a run. You’ll hate yourself while doing it, but the gratification that you get towards the end vastly outweighs the frustration of the first few attempts. I can’t say enough good things about exercise.

Exercising is also fantastic because it gives you time alone.

7. Have projects.

Having a goal, and moving towards it, is a key to happiness.

You have to realize though that achieving the goal is not necessarily what makes you happy – it’s the process. When I write music, I write it because writing is inherently enjoyable, not because I want to get popular (as if!).

8. Take time to do the things you enjoy.

That’s very general, so let me give you a good example.

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One of the things that has really changed my life was finding small communities centered around activities I enjoy. For instance, I like writing music, so I’m part of a community that meets up to write a song for an hour every week. I love the community. I’ve also written a song every week, 37 weeks in a row, which has gradually moved me towards larger goals and makes me feel very satisfied.

9. Change your definition of happiness.

Another reason I think I’m more happy than other people is because my definition of happiness is a lot more relaxed than most people’s. I don’t seek for some sort of constant euphoria; I don’t think it’s possible to live like that. My happiness is closer to stability.

10. Ignore things that don’t make you happy.

I get varying reactions to this one.

The argument goes “if something is making you unhappy, then you should find out why and improve it, not ignore it.” If you can do that, great. But on the other hand, there’s no reason to mope about a bad score on a test.

There’s another counterargument: perhaps you’re moping because your brain is trying to work out how to improve. In fact, this is the key purpose of depression: Depression’s Upside – NYTimes.com

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I can think of examples that go both ways. I remember, for instance, when I was debating a year or two ago and my partner and I would lose a round, I would mull over what we had done wrong for a long time. In that way, I got immensely better at debate (and public speaking in general – did you know debate has amazing effects on your public speaking ability? But now I really digress).

On the other hand, there’s no way that mulling over how dumb you were for missing that +x term on the left hand side will make you better at math. So stop worrying about it, and go practice math instead.

11. Find a way to measure your progress, and then measure it.

Video games are addictive for a reason: filling up an experience bar and making it to the next level is immensely satisfying. I think that it would be really cool if we could apply this concept to the real world.

I put this near the bottom of the list because, unfortunately, this hasn’t been done too often in the real world – startup idea, anyone? So you would have to do it yourself, which is difficult when you don’t even know how much you’ve progressed.

For a while, I kept a log of the runs I had taken, and my average speed. It was really cool to see my improvement over the weeks. (Also, I was exercising. Combining the two was fantastic for boosting happiness.)

12. Realize that happiness is an evolutionary reward, not an objective truth.

It’s easy to see that this is correct, but this is at the bottom of the list for a reason.

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