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Unexpected Ways to Take Your Love Life to Another Level

Unexpected Ways to Take Your Love Life to Another Level

As our lives become more dependent on technology we begin to suffer from lack of human interaction. Romance is gone, replaced by blue monitors and gadgets where men and women try to seal the deal for a date. Or something similar: most millennials don’t put down the smart devices on dates, so they keep browsing the internet and talk to their friends on WhatsApp during what was supposed to be a romantic date. Bottom line: our love life is suffering. When you do manage to take your new relationship to intimacy, you notice there is no love involved at all. Auch!

Thankfully, science can help you retrieve the lost romance and take your love life to another level. This is possible because love comes from the brain, not from the heart. What we take as matters of the soul are actually matters of the brain, which controls the production of hormones, which in turn control our emotions.

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Each time you feel the “butterflies” — or you feel like kicking someone — your brain is to blame. To dive into Jane Austen-style romance, you need to convince your brain to boost the production of endorphins, the happiness hormones, and decrease the production of cortisol, the stress hormone. This can be done by tweaking your lifestyle and embracing these simple tips and tricks.

Hydrate to boost your mood.

Coffee and soda promote dehydration, which leads to a lot of health issues, from headaches to an irritable mood. Your partner is not going to like the angry version of yourself, so you need to hydrate in order to be yourself. This can be done by switching to tea instead of coffee and replacing soda with water. Your body will thank you for this change, as well as your partner.

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Cut down the dairy intake.

Testosterone increases passion, but dairies decrease the level of this hormone in your body. For a memorable night, cut down on the cheese and other dairy foods. There are many ways to replace dairy in your diet, so don’t worry about this change.

The biggest enemies of testosterone are cheese and yoghurt, so aim to cut them from your meals. There are other foods which decrease passion, so make sure you skip them when you want to enjoy a romantic night, walking under the stars.

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Exercise to increase endorphin levels.

Endorphins are the hormones which make you feel good, so you need to boost their level as much as possible to get more from your love life. Exercising is one of the activities which boosts your endophins, as well as improves your overall health. The type of exercising advised for increasing romance is cycling: a study showed that 20 minutes of cycling increases sexual desire in women. So, go cycling before a date!

A massage increases oxytocin levels.

Touching another human increases the level of oxytocin in the body, which makes a massage the perfect trick to boost pleasure. To get the best results from your massage, pay attention to the essential oils you use. Lavender promotes relaxation; cinnamon, ginger, and jasmine are known as aphrodisiac essential oils. However, you need to find your own mix of fragrances for your massage oils, because each person responds differently to smells.

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Improve your mood with music.

Music and dance had been linked to love since the beginning of times, and the modern days are no different. Studies proved that listening to music can set you in the right mood for love. Use a high quality speaker and put on a sensual playlist, then carry on with your regular routine. The music is going to increase the romantic feel and will make everything a lot more exciting. If you and your partner have a taste for dance, start the evening with a tango, which is going to increase your endorphins level, decrease the cortisol, and promote touching.

More sleep for more love.

Your love life is altered by your sleep patterns — to be more specific, by the lack of sleep. When you are sleep deprived, your cortisol level increases and testosterone level drops. This decreases your mood for love, so it messes with your relationships. To get a good night sleep, make sure your bedroom is dark and cool. Draw the curtains and invest in silk bedding, which ensures a cool bed and a deep sleep.

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Last Updated on December 2, 2018

7 Public Speaking Techniques To Help Connect With Your Audience

7 Public Speaking Techniques To Help Connect With Your Audience

When giving a presentation or speech, you have to engage your audience effectively in order to truly get your point across. Unlike a written editorial or newsletter, your speech is fleeting; once you’ve said everything you set out to say, you don’t get a second chance to have your voice heard in that specific arena.

You need to make sure your audience hangs on to every word you say, from your introduction to your wrap-up. You can do so by:

1. Connecting them with each other

Picture your typical rock concert. What’s the first thing the singer says to the crowd after jumping out on stage? “Hello (insert city name here)!” Just acknowledging that he’s coherent enough to know where he is is enough for the audience to go wild and get into the show.

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It makes each individual feel as if they’re a part of something bigger. The same goes for any public speaking event. When an audience hears, “You’re all here because you care deeply about wildlife preservation,” it gives them a sense that they’re not just there to listen, but they’re there to connect with the like-minded people all around them.

2. Connect with their emotions

Speakers always try to get their audience emotionally involved in whatever topic they’re discussing. There are a variety of ways in which to do this, such as using statistics, stories, pictures or videos that really show the importance of the topic at hand.

For example, showing pictures of the aftermath of an accident related to drunk driving will certainly send a specific message to an audience of teenagers and young adults. While doing so might be emotionally nerve-racking to the crowd, it may be necessary to get your point across and engage them fully.

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3. Keep going back to the beginning

Revisit your theme throughout your presentation. Although you should give your audience the credit they deserve and know that they can follow along, linking back to your initial thesis can act as a subconscious reminder of why what you’re currently telling them is important.

On the other hand, if you simply mention your theme or the point of your speech at the beginning and never mention it again, it gives your audience the impression that it’s not really that important.

4. Link to your audience’s motivation

After you’ve acknowledged your audience’s common interests in being present, discuss their motivation for being there. Be specific. Using the previous example, if your audience clearly cares about wildlife preservation, discuss what can be done to help save endangered species’ from extinction.

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Don’t just give them cold, hard facts; use the facts to make a point that they can use to better themselves or the world in some way.

5. Entertain them

While not all speeches or presentations are meant to be entertaining in a comedic way, audiences will become thoroughly engaged in anecdotes that relate to the overall theme of the speech. We discussed appealing to emotions, and that’s exactly what a speaker sets out to do when he tells a story from his past or that of a well-known historical figure.

Speakers usually tell more than one story in order to show that the first one they told isn’t simply an anomaly, and that whatever outcome they’re attempting to prove will consistently reoccur, given certain circumstances.

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6. Appeal to loyalty

Just like the musician mentioning the town he’s playing in will get the audience ready to rock, speakers need to appeal to their audience’s loyalty to their country, company, product or cause. Show them how important it is that they’re present and listening to your speech by making your words hit home to each individual.

In doing so, the members of your audience will feel as if you’re speaking directly to them while you’re addressing the entire crowd.

7. Tell them the benefits of the presentation

Early on in your presentation, you should tell your audience exactly what they’ll learn, and exactly how they’ll learn it. Don’t expect them to listen if they don’t have clear-cut information to listen for. On the other hand, if they know what to listen for, they’ll be more apt to stay engaged throughout your entire presentation so they don’t miss anything.

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