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Unexpected Ways to Take Your Love Life to Another Level

Unexpected Ways to Take Your Love Life to Another Level

As our lives become more dependent on technology we begin to suffer from lack of human interaction. Romance is gone, replaced by blue monitors and gadgets where men and women try to seal the deal for a date. Or something similar: most millennials don’t put down the smart devices on dates, so they keep browsing the internet and talk to their friends on WhatsApp during what was supposed to be a romantic date. Bottom line: our love life is suffering. When you do manage to take your new relationship to intimacy, you notice there is no love involved at all. Auch!

Thankfully, science can help you retrieve the lost romance and take your love life to another level. This is possible because love comes from the brain, not from the heart. What we take as matters of the soul are actually matters of the brain, which controls the production of hormones, which in turn control our emotions.

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Each time you feel the “butterflies” — or you feel like kicking someone — your brain is to blame. To dive into Jane Austen-style romance, you need to convince your brain to boost the production of endorphins, the happiness hormones, and decrease the production of cortisol, the stress hormone. This can be done by tweaking your lifestyle and embracing these simple tips and tricks.

Hydrate to boost your mood.

Coffee and soda promote dehydration, which leads to a lot of health issues, from headaches to an irritable mood. Your partner is not going to like the angry version of yourself, so you need to hydrate in order to be yourself. This can be done by switching to tea instead of coffee and replacing soda with water. Your body will thank you for this change, as well as your partner.

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Cut down the dairy intake.

Testosterone increases passion, but dairies decrease the level of this hormone in your body. For a memorable night, cut down on the cheese and other dairy foods. There are many ways to replace dairy in your diet, so don’t worry about this change.

The biggest enemies of testosterone are cheese and yoghurt, so aim to cut them from your meals. There are other foods which decrease passion, so make sure you skip them when you want to enjoy a romantic night, walking under the stars.

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Exercise to increase endorphin levels.

Endorphins are the hormones which make you feel good, so you need to boost their level as much as possible to get more from your love life. Exercising is one of the activities which boosts your endophins, as well as improves your overall health. The type of exercising advised for increasing romance is cycling: a study showed that 20 minutes of cycling increases sexual desire in women. So, go cycling before a date!

A massage increases oxytocin levels.

Touching another human increases the level of oxytocin in the body, which makes a massage the perfect trick to boost pleasure. To get the best results from your massage, pay attention to the essential oils you use. Lavender promotes relaxation; cinnamon, ginger, and jasmine are known as aphrodisiac essential oils. However, you need to find your own mix of fragrances for your massage oils, because each person responds differently to smells.

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Improve your mood with music.

Music and dance had been linked to love since the beginning of times, and the modern days are no different. Studies proved that listening to music can set you in the right mood for love. Use a high quality speaker and put on a sensual playlist, then carry on with your regular routine. The music is going to increase the romantic feel and will make everything a lot more exciting. If you and your partner have a taste for dance, start the evening with a tango, which is going to increase your endorphins level, decrease the cortisol, and promote touching.

More sleep for more love.

Your love life is altered by your sleep patterns — to be more specific, by the lack of sleep. When you are sleep deprived, your cortisol level increases and testosterone level drops. This decreases your mood for love, so it messes with your relationships. To get a good night sleep, make sure your bedroom is dark and cool. Draw the curtains and invest in silk bedding, which ensures a cool bed and a deep sleep.

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Last Updated on June 19, 2019

6 Ways to Be a Successful Risk Taker and Take More Chances

6 Ways to Be a Successful Risk Taker and Take More Chances

I’ve stood on the edge of my own personal cliffs many times. Each time I jumped, something different happened. There were risks that started off great, but eventually faded. There were risks that left me falling until I hit the ground. There were risks that started slow, but built into massive successes.

Every risk is different, but every risk is the same. You need to have some fundamentals ready before you jump, but not too many.

It wouldn’t be a risk if you knew everything that was about to happen, would it? Here’re 6 ways to be a successful risk taker.

1. Understand That Failure Is Going to Happen a Lot

It’s part of life. Everything we do has failure attached to it. All successful people have stories of massive failure attached to them. Thinking that your risk is going to be pain free and run as smooth as silk is insane.

Expect some pain and failure. Actually, expect a lot of it. Expect the sleepless nights with crazy thoughts of insecurity that leave you trembling under the covers. It’s going to happen, no matter how positive you are about the risk you are about to take.

When failure hits, the only options are to keep going or quit. If you expect falling into a meadow of flowers and frolicking unicorns, then you’re going to immediately quit once you realize that getting to that meadow requires you to go through a rock filled cave filled with hungry bats.

2. Trust the Muse

Writing a story isn’t a big risk. It’s really just a risk on my time. So when I start writing a story, I’m scared it will be time wasted. Of course, it never really is. Even if the story doesn’t turn out fabulous, I still practiced.

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When I’ve taken risks in my life, the successful ones always seemed to happen when I followed the muse. Steven Pressfield describes the muse,

“The Muse demands depth. Shallow does not work for her. If we’re seeking her help, we can’t stay in the kiddie end. When we work, we have to go hard and go deep.”

The muse is a goddess who wants our attention and wants us to work on our passion.

If you’re taking a risk in anything, it’s assumed that there is some passion built up behind that risk. That passion, deep inside you, is the muse. Trust it, focus on it, listen to it.

The most successful articles and stories I write are the ones I’ve focused all my attention on. There were no interruptions during their creative development. I didn’t check my phone or go watch my Twitter feed. I was fully engaged in my work.

Trust the muse, focus your attention on your risk, let the ideas and path develop themselves, and leave the distractions at the side of the road.

3. Remember to Be Authentic

Taking a risk and then turning into something you’re not, is only going to lead to disaster. Whether you are risking a new relationship or new opportunity, you must be yourself throughout the entire process.

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How many times have you acted like you loved something just because the men or woman you just started going out with loved it?

For example, I’m not an office worker. I have an incredibly hard time working in a confined timeline (ie. 9-5). That’s why I write. I can do it whenever the mood strikes, I don’t have somebody breathing down my neck, telling me that I’m five minutes late, or missed a comma somewhere. I don’t have to walk on eggshells wondering if what I’m writing will get me fired or make me lose a promotion. I can just be myself, period.

One girlfriend didn’t understand that. She believed solely in the 9-5 motto, specifically something in human resources because that was a very stable job. I was scared for my future, but I stuck with the relationship because of my own insecurities and acted like I would do it to make her happy.

Here’s a tip: NEVER take away from your happiness to make somebody else satisfied (note I didn’t say happy).

Making somebody else happy will make you happy. Doing something to satisfy somebody is murder on your soul.

4. Don’t Take Any Risks While You’re Not Clearheaded

I’d been considering the risk for a couple weeks. It all sounded good. I was 22 and I could be rich in a couple of years. That’s what they were selling me, anyways.

One night, while at a house party with some friends, I found myself at a computer. A couple of my friends were standing nearby and asked me what I was doing. I told them I was considering starting my own business and it was only going to cost me $1,500.

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Of course, when a bunch of drunk people are surrounded by more drunk people, things get enthusiastic. It sounded like the best business venture in the world to everybody, including me. So I signed up and gave them my credit card number.

A few painful months and close to $4,000 dollars lost later, I quit the business. I was young and fell into the pyramid scheme trap. It was an expensive drunk decision.

Drinking heavily and making decisions has a proven track record of failure. So when you have something important to decide, don’t let your emotions take over your brain.

5. Fully Understand What You’re Risking

It was the start of my baseball comeback. I got a tryout with a professional scout and killed it. After the tryout, he talked to my girlfriend and myself, making sure we understood I would be gone for up to 6 months at a time. That strain on the relationship could be tough.

We understood. I left to play ball, chose to stay in the city I played in, and a year later we broke up. Not because of baseball, see point 3 above. Taking big risks can have massive impacts on everything in your life from relationships to money. Know what you’re risking before you take the risk.

If you believe the risk will be worth it or you have the support you need from your family, then go ahead and make the leap.

You can get more guidance on how to take calculated risks from this article: How to Take Calculated Risk to Achieve More and Become Successful

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6. Remember This Is Your One Shot Only

As far as we know officially, this is our one shot at life, so why not take some risks?

The top thing people are saddened by on their deathbeds are these regrets. They wish they did more, asked that girl in the coffee shop out, spoke out when they should have, or did what they were passionate about.

Don’t regret. Learn and experience. Live. Take the risks you believe in. Be yourself and make the world a better place.

Now go ahead, take that risk and be successful at it!

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