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Romance Is In Small Things. What This Guy Did Would Just Melt Your Heart

Romance Is In Small Things. What This Guy Did Would Just Melt Your Heart

Most of us dream about the perfect partner: someone who loves, cherishes and understands us completely. Unfortunately there isn’t such a thing as a perfect human being, therefore, perfect partners are in short supply. That doesn’t mean that the right one isn’t out there though. Because it’s not about whether someone understands you completely; it’s about whether or not they want to. Does your partner try to make you happy? Does he try to unerstand every aspect of you? Do you return the favor? Do you smile at each other each day, bring each other coffee without being asked? What little, everyday things enrich your relationship?

The woman in the story below is truly blessed to be in such an obviously warm and loving relationship.

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“One night my then boyfriend, now fiance, and I were watching a movie. It was a romantic one – not his preferred genre and he fell asleep midway into the movie. I continued watching. The 2nd half turned out to be quite emotional. Near the end I started crying softly. He woke up to my tears and immediately wrapped his arms around me to sooth me. He asked if it was the movie and I nodded. Since it was already late, we went to bed shortly afterwards. The next morning I woke up, readied myself for the day and headed downstairs. He was eating breakfast in front of the TV – his usual routine before work. As I rounded the corner, I saw he was watching the movie from the night before. I was surprised as he was clearly not that interested then. “Why are you watching this?” I asked. He gave me a sweet, sincere look and said, “I wanted to see what made you cry.” My fiance is not one for grand, sweeping gestures but it’s the every day small things that he does that melts me.”

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Romance is indeed in small things. Sure, you can take her out for an expensive dinner, buy her a fancy diamond ring, or even write her name in the sky with a stunt plane. Those things are all awesome, but that’s not what she’ll remember the most about you and love about you. The things we do every day, the little things, are the secret to building a lasting and happy relationship. A warm smile, a kiss, and “I love you” can go a long way in a relationship. Too often, couples neglect each other’s needs as a relationship settles into a more comfortable stage. This leaves one or both partners feeling lonely and unloved. And the good thing is, it’s so easy to avoid! Bring her coffee in the morning so she doesn’t have to get up, rub his shoulders if he feels tense. Show your partner how much you care every day. One of the most common complaints both men and women express in a relationship is that their partner just doesn’t seem to care anymore or that the “magic” is gone. Many view this as an inevitable stage in a relationship when the excitement and novelty just wear off. Maybe they do. But then maybe, the solution is easier than you think.

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In a relationship, it’s the little gestures that tend to stick with us the most. Small acts of kindess and love remind us why we’re with who we’re with. So, if you love someone, then show them. Odds are that they’ll want to show you too. Because let’s face it: we’re all a little needy sometimes.

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Last Updated on December 2, 2018

7 Public Speaking Techniques To Help Connect With Your Audience

7 Public Speaking Techniques To Help Connect With Your Audience

When giving a presentation or speech, you have to engage your audience effectively in order to truly get your point across. Unlike a written editorial or newsletter, your speech is fleeting; once you’ve said everything you set out to say, you don’t get a second chance to have your voice heard in that specific arena.

You need to make sure your audience hangs on to every word you say, from your introduction to your wrap-up. You can do so by:

1. Connecting them with each other

Picture your typical rock concert. What’s the first thing the singer says to the crowd after jumping out on stage? “Hello (insert city name here)!” Just acknowledging that he’s coherent enough to know where he is is enough for the audience to go wild and get into the show.

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It makes each individual feel as if they’re a part of something bigger. The same goes for any public speaking event. When an audience hears, “You’re all here because you care deeply about wildlife preservation,” it gives them a sense that they’re not just there to listen, but they’re there to connect with the like-minded people all around them.

2. Connect with their emotions

Speakers always try to get their audience emotionally involved in whatever topic they’re discussing. There are a variety of ways in which to do this, such as using statistics, stories, pictures or videos that really show the importance of the topic at hand.

For example, showing pictures of the aftermath of an accident related to drunk driving will certainly send a specific message to an audience of teenagers and young adults. While doing so might be emotionally nerve-racking to the crowd, it may be necessary to get your point across and engage them fully.

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3. Keep going back to the beginning

Revisit your theme throughout your presentation. Although you should give your audience the credit they deserve and know that they can follow along, linking back to your initial thesis can act as a subconscious reminder of why what you’re currently telling them is important.

On the other hand, if you simply mention your theme or the point of your speech at the beginning and never mention it again, it gives your audience the impression that it’s not really that important.

4. Link to your audience’s motivation

After you’ve acknowledged your audience’s common interests in being present, discuss their motivation for being there. Be specific. Using the previous example, if your audience clearly cares about wildlife preservation, discuss what can be done to help save endangered species’ from extinction.

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Don’t just give them cold, hard facts; use the facts to make a point that they can use to better themselves or the world in some way.

5. Entertain them

While not all speeches or presentations are meant to be entertaining in a comedic way, audiences will become thoroughly engaged in anecdotes that relate to the overall theme of the speech. We discussed appealing to emotions, and that’s exactly what a speaker sets out to do when he tells a story from his past or that of a well-known historical figure.

Speakers usually tell more than one story in order to show that the first one they told isn’t simply an anomaly, and that whatever outcome they’re attempting to prove will consistently reoccur, given certain circumstances.

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6. Appeal to loyalty

Just like the musician mentioning the town he’s playing in will get the audience ready to rock, speakers need to appeal to their audience’s loyalty to their country, company, product or cause. Show them how important it is that they’re present and listening to your speech by making your words hit home to each individual.

In doing so, the members of your audience will feel as if you’re speaking directly to them while you’re addressing the entire crowd.

7. Tell them the benefits of the presentation

Early on in your presentation, you should tell your audience exactly what they’ll learn, and exactly how they’ll learn it. Don’t expect them to listen if they don’t have clear-cut information to listen for. On the other hand, if they know what to listen for, they’ll be more apt to stay engaged throughout your entire presentation so they don’t miss anything.

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