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Romance Is In Small Things. What This Guy Did Would Just Melt Your Heart

Romance Is In Small Things. What This Guy Did Would Just Melt Your Heart

Most of us dream about the perfect partner: someone who loves, cherishes and understands us completely. Unfortunately there isn’t such a thing as a perfect human being, therefore, perfect partners are in short supply. That doesn’t mean that the right one isn’t out there though. Because it’s not about whether someone understands you completely; it’s about whether or not they want to. Does your partner try to make you happy? Does he try to unerstand every aspect of you? Do you return the favor? Do you smile at each other each day, bring each other coffee without being asked? What little, everyday things enrich your relationship?

The woman in the story below is truly blessed to be in such an obviously warm and loving relationship.

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“One night my then boyfriend, now fiance, and I were watching a movie. It was a romantic one – not his preferred genre and he fell asleep midway into the movie. I continued watching. The 2nd half turned out to be quite emotional. Near the end I started crying softly. He woke up to my tears and immediately wrapped his arms around me to sooth me. He asked if it was the movie and I nodded. Since it was already late, we went to bed shortly afterwards. The next morning I woke up, readied myself for the day and headed downstairs. He was eating breakfast in front of the TV – his usual routine before work. As I rounded the corner, I saw he was watching the movie from the night before. I was surprised as he was clearly not that interested then. “Why are you watching this?” I asked. He gave me a sweet, sincere look and said, “I wanted to see what made you cry.” My fiance is not one for grand, sweeping gestures but it’s the every day small things that he does that melts me.”

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Romance is indeed in small things. Sure, you can take her out for an expensive dinner, buy her a fancy diamond ring, or even write her name in the sky with a stunt plane. Those things are all awesome, but that’s not what she’ll remember the most about you and love about you. The things we do every day, the little things, are the secret to building a lasting and happy relationship. A warm smile, a kiss, and “I love you” can go a long way in a relationship. Too often, couples neglect each other’s needs as a relationship settles into a more comfortable stage. This leaves one or both partners feeling lonely and unloved. And the good thing is, it’s so easy to avoid! Bring her coffee in the morning so she doesn’t have to get up, rub his shoulders if he feels tense. Show your partner how much you care every day. One of the most common complaints both men and women express in a relationship is that their partner just doesn’t seem to care anymore or that the “magic” is gone. Many view this as an inevitable stage in a relationship when the excitement and novelty just wear off. Maybe they do. But then maybe, the solution is easier than you think.

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In a relationship, it’s the little gestures that tend to stick with us the most. Small acts of kindess and love remind us why we’re with who we’re with. So, if you love someone, then show them. Odds are that they’ll want to show you too. Because let’s face it: we’re all a little needy sometimes.

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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