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Romance Is In Small Things. What This Guy Did Would Just Melt Your Heart

Romance Is In Small Things. What This Guy Did Would Just Melt Your Heart

Most of us dream about the perfect partner: someone who loves, cherishes and understands us completely. Unfortunately there isn’t such a thing as a perfect human being, therefore, perfect partners are in short supply. That doesn’t mean that the right one isn’t out there though. Because it’s not about whether someone understands you completely; it’s about whether or not they want to. Does your partner try to make you happy? Does he try to unerstand every aspect of you? Do you return the favor? Do you smile at each other each day, bring each other coffee without being asked? What little, everyday things enrich your relationship?

The woman in the story below is truly blessed to be in such an obviously warm and loving relationship.

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“One night my then boyfriend, now fiance, and I were watching a movie. It was a romantic one – not his preferred genre and he fell asleep midway into the movie. I continued watching. The 2nd half turned out to be quite emotional. Near the end I started crying softly. He woke up to my tears and immediately wrapped his arms around me to sooth me. He asked if it was the movie and I nodded. Since it was already late, we went to bed shortly afterwards. The next morning I woke up, readied myself for the day and headed downstairs. He was eating breakfast in front of the TV – his usual routine before work. As I rounded the corner, I saw he was watching the movie from the night before. I was surprised as he was clearly not that interested then. “Why are you watching this?” I asked. He gave me a sweet, sincere look and said, “I wanted to see what made you cry.” My fiance is not one for grand, sweeping gestures but it’s the every day small things that he does that melts me.”

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Romance is indeed in small things. Sure, you can take her out for an expensive dinner, buy her a fancy diamond ring, or even write her name in the sky with a stunt plane. Those things are all awesome, but that’s not what she’ll remember the most about you and love about you. The things we do every day, the little things, are the secret to building a lasting and happy relationship. A warm smile, a kiss, and “I love you” can go a long way in a relationship. Too often, couples neglect each other’s needs as a relationship settles into a more comfortable stage. This leaves one or both partners feeling lonely and unloved. And the good thing is, it’s so easy to avoid! Bring her coffee in the morning so she doesn’t have to get up, rub his shoulders if he feels tense. Show your partner how much you care every day. One of the most common complaints both men and women express in a relationship is that their partner just doesn’t seem to care anymore or that the “magic” is gone. Many view this as an inevitable stage in a relationship when the excitement and novelty just wear off. Maybe they do. But then maybe, the solution is easier than you think.

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In a relationship, it’s the little gestures that tend to stick with us the most. Small acts of kindess and love remind us why we’re with who we’re with. So, if you love someone, then show them. Odds are that they’ll want to show you too. Because let’s face it: we’re all a little needy sometimes.

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Last Updated on October 17, 2018

10 Ways To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone And Overcome Your Fear

10 Ways To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone And Overcome Your Fear

The ability to take risks by stepping outside your comfort zone is the primary way by which we grow. But we are often afraid to take that first step.

In truth, comfort zones are not really about comfort, they are about fear. Break the chains of fear to get outside. Once you do, you will learn to enjoy the process of taking risks and growing in the process.

Here are 10 ways to help you step out of your comfort zone and get closer to success:

1. Become aware of what’s outside of your comfort zone

What are the things that you believe are worth doing but are afraid of doing yourself because of the potential for disappointment or failure?

Draw a circle and write those things down outside the circle. This process will not only allow you to clearly identify your discomforts, but your comforts. Write identified comforts inside the circle.

2. Become clear about what you are aiming to overcome

Take the list of discomforts and go deeper. Remember, the primary emotion you are trying to overcome is fear.

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How does this fear apply uniquely to each situation? Be very specific.

Are you afraid of walking up to people and introducing yourself in social situations? Why? Is it because you are insecure about the sound of your voice? Are you insecure about your looks?

Or, are you afraid of being ignored?

3. Get comfortable with discomfort

One way to get outside of your comfort zone is to literally expand it. Make it a goal to avoid running away from discomfort.

Let’s stay with the theme of meeting people in social settings. If you start feeling a little panicked when talking to someone you’ve just met, try to stay with it a little longer than you normally would before retreating to comfort. If you stay long enough and practice often enough, it will start to become less uncomfortable.

4. See failure as a teacher

Many of us are so afraid of failure that we would rather do nothing than take a shot at our dreams.

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Begin to treat failure as a teacher. What did you learn from the experience? How can you take that lesson to your next adventure to increase your chance of success?

Many highly successful people failed plenty of times before they succeeded. Here’re some examples:

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5. Take baby steps

Don’t try to jump outside your comfort zone, you will likely become overwhelmed and jump right back in.

Take small steps toward the fear you are trying to overcome. If you want to do public speaking, start by taking every opportunity to speak to small groups of people. You can even practice with family and friends.

Take a look at this article on how you can start taking baby steps:

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The Number One Secret to Life Success: Baby Steps

6. Hang out with risk takers

There is no substitute for this step. If you want to become better at something, you must start hanging out with the people who are doing what you want to do and start emulating them. (Here’re 8 Reasons Why Risk Takers Are More Likely To Be Successful).

Almost inevitably, their influence will start have an effect on your behavior.

7. Be honest with yourself when you are trying to make excuses

Don’t say “Oh, I just don’t have the time for this right now.” Instead, be honest and say “I am afraid to do this.”

Don’t make excuses, just be honest. You will be in a better place to confront what is truly bothering you and increase your chance of moving forward.

8. Identify how stepping out will benefit you

What will the ability to engage in public speaking do for your personal and professional growth? Keep these potential benefits in mind as motivations to push through fear.

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9. Don’t take yourself too seriously

Learn to laugh at yourself when you make mistakes. Risk taking will inevitably involve failure and setbacks that will sometimes make you look foolish to others. Be happy to roll with the punches when others poke fun.

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10. Focus on the fun

Enjoy the process of stepping outside your safe boundaries. Enjoy the fun of discovering things about yourself that you may not have been aware of previously.

Final thoughts

It will probably seem really scary at first to get out of your comfort zone. But as I said, you don’t need to jump right out of your comfort zone at once, you can take baby steps gradually. As you slowly push past your comfort zone, you’ll feel more and more at ease about the new stuff which seems so dangerous to you.

Take the first step and I’m sure you’ll make it!

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