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5 Ways To Keep Passion Alive In Relationships

5 Ways To Keep Passion Alive In Relationships

Why does it seem like as the years go by, the stress of life seems to just take over? We all face the stress of life and with this stress, our relationships can be affected . We are constantly making choices every single day. Some choices bring us closer to our partner while other choices bring us further apart. Before I share with you the top 5 ways to keeping passion alive in your relationship, I want to share with you my definition of passion: a deep and driving desire to fulfill a purpose that is caused by reason. In this case, we are talking about passion in your relationship. You must experience a deep and driving desire to fulfill a purpose that is caused by reason. Your purpose is to have a passionate relationship. Now, the question that I have for you is this: what is your reason?

1. Find your reason

When it comes to finding a reason to keep passion alive in your relationship, it all starts with how you feel about your partner. What are the positive traits that you most admire and respect about your partner? What attracted you to them in the first place? When a relationship develops and grows, it’s important for you to always keep in mind what brought you two together. When you are able to find out the reason behind keeping the passion alive in your relationship, you will always keep this reason in mind. When it comes to building a strong foundation in your relationship, it starts from the bottom up. Finding out your reason is where it all begins!

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2. Goals!

Have short and long term goals that the both of you can work on together. A lot of couples get into a rut of just doing their own thing. When you are able to work together towards a common goal, not only will you be spending quality of time together but also establishing a solid foundation for your relationship. Take the time with your partner and create goals that you want to accomplish together. This may be publishing a book or running a marathon. The importance of having and accomplishing goals together is that it allows you to spend time developing your relationship. Have goals that you are both passionate about. My husband and I are very passionate about our marriage. So one of our goals is to write and publish a book about what it takes to have a happy and long-lasting marriage. Find out what you two are passionate about and make goals to accomplish your passions!

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3. Know when to “turn off” work mode

After coming home from a long day of work, a lot of us just plop in front of the television. This will definitely not do you or your relationship any good.  One way to keep passion alive in your relationship is to be able to turn “off” work mode and be with your partner. When it comes having a stressful job, it’s easy to just get into this cycle of constantly thinking about work and getting burnt out. If you want to keep passion alive in your relationship, you need to make sure that when you are at home with your partner, you are with your partnerWhen you are at work, be at work. When you are at home, be at home. We tend to miss out on spending quality of time with our partner because our mind is still at work. Make sure that your mind is with your partner when you are at home.

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4. Go the extra mile

Men and women are different. When you have a clear understanding of these differences, make sure you go the extra mile in expressing your love. Find out the love language of your partner and express their love language every single day. If you want to keep the passion alive in your relationship, it takes work. It takes planning and going the extra mile when it comes to loving your partner. Find out how your partner feels most loved and make sure you express your love every day. When we get into the “rat race” it seems like going the extra mile takes effort and time. This effort and time will be what makes all the difference. When you take the time and effort of going the extra mile of loving your partner, you are establishing that strong foundation. You are expressing to your partner that you care and that you want to be connected with them. Going the extra mile is a great way to keep passion alive in your relationship.

5. Commitment

Commit to keeping the passion alive in your relationship. Make the mental decision that no matter what happens in life, you are 100% committed to keeping the passion alive. Having this commitment will be important during the rough times especially when life throws you curve balls. No matter what type of stress or frustration you experience, be committed to always expressing your love and affection to your partner.

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Tiffany is a life coach empowering women to unleash their feminine essence & design a meaningful life & marriage.

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Last Updated on February 11, 2021

Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

How often have you said something simple, only to have the person who you said this to misunderstand it or twist the meaning completely around? Nodding your head in affirmative? Then this means that you are being unclear in your communication.

Communication should be simple, right? It’s all about two people or more talking and explaining something to the other. The problem lies in the talking itself, somehow we end up being unclear, and our words, attitude or even the way of talking becomes a barrier in communication, most of the times unknowingly. We give you six common barriers to communication, and how to get past them; for you to actually say what you mean, and or the other person to understand it as well…

The 6 Walls You Need to Break Down to Make Communication Effective

Think about it this way, a simple phrase like “what do you mean” can be said in many different ways and each different way would end up “communicating” something else entirely. Scream it at the other person, and the perception would be anger. Whisper this is someone’s ear and others may take it as if you were plotting something. Say it in another language, and no one gets what you mean at all, if they don’t speak it… This is what we mean when we say that talking or saying something that’s clear in your head, many not mean that you have successfully communicated it across to your intended audience – thus what you say and how, where and why you said it – at times become barriers to communication.[1]

Perceptual Barrier

The moment you say something in a confrontational, sarcastic, angry or emotional tone, you have set up perceptual barriers to communication. The other person or people to whom you are trying to communicate your point get the message that you are disinterested in what you are saying and sort of turn a deaf ear. In effect, you are yelling your point across to person who might as well be deaf![2]

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The problem: When you have a tone that’s not particularly positive, a body language that denotes your own disinterest in the situation and let your own stereotypes and misgivings enter the conversation via the way you talk and gesture, the other person perceives what you saying an entirely different manner than say if you said the same while smiling and catching their gaze.

The solution: Start the conversation on a positive note, and don’t let what you think color your tone, gestures of body language. Maintain eye contact with your audience, and smile openly and wholeheartedly…

Attitudinal Barrier

Some people, if you would excuse the language, are simply badass and in general are unable to form relationships or even a common point of communication with others, due to their habit of thinking to highly or too lowly of them. They basically have an attitude problem – since they hold themselves in high esteem, they are unable to form genuine lines of communication with anyone. The same is true if they think too little of themselves as well.[3]

The problem: If anyone at work, or even in your family, tends to roam around with a superior air – anything they say is likely to be taken by you and the others with a pinch, or even a bag of salt. Simply because whenever they talk, the first thing to come out of it is their condescending attitude. And in case there’s someone with an inferiority complex, their incessant self-pity forms barriers to communication.

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The solution: Use simple words and an encouraging smile to communicate effectively – and stick to constructive criticism, and not criticism because you are a perfectionist. If you see someone doing a good job, let them know, and disregard the thought that you could have done it better. It’s their job so measure them by industry standards and not your own.

Language Barrier

This is perhaps the commonest and the most inadvertent of barriers to communication. Using big words, too much of technical jargon or even using just the wrong language at the incorrect or inopportune time can lead to a loss or misinterpretation of communication. It may have sounded right in your head and to your ears as well, but if sounded gobbledygook to the others, the purpose is lost.

The problem: Say you are trying to explain a process to the newbies and end up using every technical word and industry jargon that you knew – your communication has failed if the newbie understood zilch. You have to, without sounding patronizing, explain things to someone in the simplest language they understand instead of the most complex that you do.

The solution: Simplify things for the other person to understand you, and understand it well. Think about it this way: if you are trying to explain something scientific to a child, you tone it down to their thinking capacity, without “dumbing” anything down in the process.[4]

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Emotional Barrier

Sometimes, we hesitate in opening our mouths, for fear of putting our foot in it! Other times, our emotional state is so fragile that we keep it and our lips zipped tightly together lest we explode. This is the time that our emotions become barriers to communication.[5]

The problem: Say you had a fight at home and are on a slow boil, muttering, in your head, about the injustice of it all. At this time, you have to give someone a dressing down over their work performance. You are likely to transfer at least part of your angst to the conversation then, and talk about unfairness in general, leaving the other person stymied about what you actually meant!

The solution: Remove your emotions and feelings to a personal space, and talk to the other person as you normally would. Treat any phobias or fears that you have and nip them in the bud so that they don’t become a problem. And remember, no one is perfect.

Cultural Barrier

Sometimes, being in an ever-shrinking world means that inadvertently, rules can make cultures clash and cultural clashes can turn into barriers to communication. The idea is to make your point across without hurting anyone’s cultural or religious sentiments.

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The problem: There are so many ways culture clashes can happen during communication and with cultural clashes; it’s not always about ethnicity. A non-smoker may have problems with smokers taking breaks; an older boss may have issues with younger staff using the Internet too much.

The solution: Communicate only what is necessary to get the point across – and eave your personal sentiments or feelings out of it. Try to be accommodative of the other’s viewpoint, and in case you still need to work it out, do it one to one, to avoid making a spectacle of the other person’s beliefs.[6]

Gender Barrier

Finally, it’s about Men from Mars and Women from Venus. Sometimes, men don’t understand women and women don’t get men – and this gender gap throws barriers in communication. Women tend to take conflict to their graves, literally, while men can move on instantly. Women rely on intuition, men on logic – so inherently, gender becomes a big block in successful communication.[7]

The problem: A male boss may inadvertently rub his female subordinates the wrong way with anti-feminism innuendoes, or even have problems with women taking too many family leaves. Similarly, women sometimes let their emotions get the better of them, something a male audience can’t relate to.

The solution: Talk to people like people – don’t think or classify them into genders and then talk accordingly. Don’t make comments or innuendos that are gender biased – you don’t have to come across as an MCP or as a bra-burning feminist either. Keep gender out of it.

And remember, the key to successful communication is simply being open, making eye contact and smiling intermittently. The battle is usually half won when you say what you mean in simple, straightforward words and keep your emotions out of it.

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