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How To Feel Love: 10 Tips For a Deeper Connection In Your Relationship

How To Feel Love: 10 Tips For a Deeper Connection In Your Relationship

After a long day at work, it’s too easy to come home and plop down in front of the television and space out. Don’t forget about your relationship, though, and don’t let your relationship get stale! These tips will help you feel love even if you’re worn out from a long day. You’ll establish a deeper connection in your relationship in no time flat!

1. Have meaningful conversations.

You can’t feel a connection with someone if you can’t really talk to them. Do you feel a strong tie to the neighbor you chit chat about the weather with? It’s doubtful. But if you stopped and learned about their personal life or beliefs, you’d be forging a relationship with them. It’s true—some relationships are casual, and just require small talk. But for the relationships you value, make sure you take time to have a meaningful conversation and really get to know the person.

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2. Be present.

When you’re with someone, actually be with them. Be present. Don’t be texting on your phone or paying attention to something going on around you. Focus on who you’re with and what they’re saying. They’ll notice you’re paying attention and reciprocate, which makes the relationship better for both of you.

3. Show you care.

When you’re having these conversations, make sure it’s clear you really care. It’s easy to pretend to listen and nod in the right places, but relationships based on a connection like this will feel hollow and fake. Make sure you’re invested in the person’s life. They’ll be able to tell that you actually care, and you’ll feel more invested and more loving towards them as well.

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4. Learn from your problems.

Don’t let a disagreement in a relationship progress into a destructive argument. If you allow your emotions to run wild and let an argument blow up, it could end a relationship. Instead, keep your head level and talk it out so there’s a logical compromise and all parties involved want to continue on with the relationship.

5. Be open to different views of love.

Your partner might show love by doing small chores around the house for you, while you might wish they made grand gestures. Don’t scold them for not showing love the way you want them to show love. Be open to different displays of love. Finding love in smaller gestures will help you see warmth and happiness in more things in life. In no time, you’ll find that you show your love in a variety of ways, too.

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6. Give love.

Don’t expect to receive love from everyone if you’re not giving it out in equal measures. The more you show love and kindness to people around you—friends, family, partners, co-workers, even strangers in public—the more love and happiness you’ll get back in return.

7. Pay attention to others’ needs.

If you expect others to do everything for you, you’ll never feel any love. It’s important to sometimes forget about getting your needs met and see what people around you may need. Be kind and charitable to others, and you’ll get it back when you need it most.

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    8. Change your beliefs about love and the world.

    Don’t have a closed mind when it comes to love and the world. If you’re closed off, it will be harder for love to find you. Keep an open mind and an open heart. Love people regardless of what they do or how they look. Holding back love isn’t going to make anyone change for the better; it will just change you for the worse by making you come off as selfish and stingy.

    9. Be thankful for those around you.

    Once you change your beliefs about love and the world, you’ll discover how easy it is to be thankful for those around you. Everyone you encounter in your everyday life is impacting you in some way, and you should be thankful for them. Appreciate all your co-workers do for you on the job, what your family does at home, what your friends do to make you smile.

    10. Love unconditionally.

    Don’t love someone just because they’re doing well in school, or putting in long hours at work. Don’t use love as a reward, and don’t take it away as punishment. Love your family and friends the same when they’re having a good day as when they’re having a bad day. If you love unconditionally, you’ll get that love in return and realize how much you really need it.

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    Last Updated on May 17, 2019

    This Is What Happens When You Move Out Of the Comfort Zone

    This Is What Happens When You Move Out Of the Comfort Zone

    The pursuit of worthwhile goals is a part of what makes life enjoyable. Being able to set a goal, then see yourself progress towards achieving that goal is an amazing feeling.

    But do you know the biggest obstacle for most people trying to achieve their goals, the silent dream killer that stops people before they ever even get started? That obstacle is the comfort zone, and getting stuck there is bound to derail any efforts you make towards achieving the goals you’ve set for yourself.

    If you want to achieve those goals, you’ll have to break free from your comfort zone. Let’s take a look at how your life will change once you build up the courage to leave your comfort zone.

    What Is the Comfort Zone?

    The comfort zone is defined as “a behavioural state within which a person operates in an anxiety-neutral condition, using a limited set of behaviours to deliver a steady level of performance.”

    What stands out to me the most about that definition is the last part: “using a limited set of behaviours to deliver a steady level of performance.” How many successful people do you know who deliver a steady level of performance?

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    The goal in life is to continually challenge yourself, and continually improve yourself. And in order to do that, you have move out of your comfort zone. But once you do, your life will start to change in ways you could never have imagined. I know because it’s happening right now in my own life.

    Here’s what I’ve learned.

    1. You will be scared

    Leaving your comfort zone isn’t easy. In fact, in can be downright terrifying at times, and that’s okay. It’s perfectly normal to feel a little trepidation when you’re embarking on a journey that forces you to try new things.

    So don’t freak out or get overwhelmed when you feel yourself getting a little scared. It’s perfectly normal and all part of the process. What’s important is that you don’t let that fear hold you back. You must continue to take action in the face of fear.

    That’s what separates winners from losers.

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    2. You will fail

    Stepping out of your comfort zone means you’re moving into uncharted territory. You’re trying things that you’ve never tried before, and learning things you’ve never learned before.

    That steep learning curve means you’re not going to get everything right the first time, and you will eventually fail when you move out of your comfort zone. But as long as the failures aren’t catastrophic, it can actually be a good thing to fail because …

    3. You will learn

    Failure is the best teacher. I’ve learned more from each one of my failures than I have from each one of my successes. When you fail small, and fail often, you rapidly increase the rate at which you learn new insights and skills. And that new knowledge, if applied correctly, will eventually lead to your success.

    4. You will see yourself in a different way

    Once you move out of your comfort zone, you immediately prove to yourself that you’re capable of achieving more than you thought was possible. And that will change the way you see yourself.

    Moving forward, you’ll have more confidence in yourself whenever you step out of your comfort zone, and that increased confidence will make it more likely that you continue to step outside your comfort zone. And each time you do, you’ll prove to yourself again and again what you’re really capable of.

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    5. Your peers will see you in a different way

    Whether we want to admit or not, people judge other people. And right now, people view you in a certain way, and they have a certain idea of what you’re capable of. That’s because they’ve become accustomed to seeing you operate in your comfort zone.

    But once you move out of your comfort zone, you’ll prove to other people, as well, that you’re capable of much more than you’ve shown in the past.

    The increased confidence other people place in you will bring about more opportunities than ever before.

    6. Your comfort zone will expand

    The good thing about the comfort zone is that it’s flexible and malleable. With each action you take outside of your comfort zone, it expands. And once you master that new skill or action, it eventually becomes part of your comfort zone.

    This is great news for you because it means that you can constantly increase and improve upon the behaviors that you’re comfortable with. And the more tools and skills you have at your disposal, the easier it will be to achieve your goals.

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    7. You will increase your concentration and focus

    When you’re living inside of your comfort zone, the bulk of your actions are habitual: automatic, subconscious, and requiring limited focus.

    But once you move out of your comfort zone, you no longer rely on those habitual responses. You’re forced to concentrate and focus on the new action in a way you never do in your comfort zone.

    8. You will develop new skills

    Moving out of your comfort zone requires that you develop new skills. One of the many benefits you’ll experience is that you’ll be stepping away from the “limited set of behaviors” and start to develop your ability and expertise in new areas.

    Living inside of your comfort zone only requires a limited skill set, and those skills won’t contribute much to your success. Once you can confidently step outside of your comfort zone and learn a new skill, there’s no limit to how much you can achieve.

    9. You will achieve more than before

    With everything that happens once you move out of your comfort zone, you’re naturally going to achieve more than ever before.

    Your increased concentration and focus will help you develop new skills. Those new skills will change the way you see yourself, encouraging you to step even further out of your comfort zone.

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