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9 Ways To Enhance Love And Intimacy With Your Loved One

9 Ways To Enhance Love And Intimacy With Your Loved One

Your relationship is only as good as you make it. For a happy and successful relationship, apply these nine ways to enhance love and intimacy today.

1. Be thankful for all things, big and small.

It is easy to forget about the little things that make your relationship special as the months and years go by. If your partner is thoughtful enough to surprise you with a hot cup of coffee on every cold winter morning, express your gratitude as if it were the first time they ever did it, even if it is the hundredth time.

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2. Focus on what brings you together.

No matter how much you might love your partner, there are always going to be things about your relationship that drive you crazy. Instead of agonizing over your differences and disagreements, shift your attention to your partner’s qualities that you find most attractive, handsome, gorgeous or inspiring.

3. Become aware of your need to nag and control.

Don’t even think about trying to mold your partner into anyone but who they are. If you find yourself trying to control your partner’s every action and behavior, or feel the need to change them into another person who doesn’t even remotely resemble who they really are, you might be dating the wrong person. Please understand that I’m not saying you shouldn’t challenge your partner to grow and develop into a better version of themselves, because this is a healthy habit that any happy couple can get behind. There is beauty in imperfection, and there is no greater expression of true love than accepting a person (and all of the quirks that just so happen to come along with them).

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4. Tell your partner a personal story or private secret.

The more secrets you keep from the partner, the fewer opportunities you will have to enhance love and intimacy. This isn’t to say you should confess your religious beliefs, political opinions, high (or low) sex drive, desire to have ten beautiful children or anything like that before you trust a person; however, as time goes on and your relationship blossoms, it becomes more and more important to be 100% upfront with your partner. It is okay to reveal one thing at a time, and it is wise to save the biggest revelations until you feel more comfortable with the disclosure, but understand that hiding important truths (no matter how much you might wish you could just avoid the conversation) can only end badly.

5. Do something new and exciting together as a couple.

Going on the same date over and over again could get boring in a hurry. The more fresh experiences you have with your loved one, the more positive memories you will have of your time together and the more exciting your relationship will be. Below are a few resources where you can find new adventures to take with your partner:

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6. Surprise your partner with acts of kindness.

It isn’t how much money you spend, how much time you invest or how much effort you expend that matters; the important thing is performing actions, no matter how big or small, with an attitude of love and kindness. Don’t underestimate the power of your words, romantic gestures, or acts of kindness; something as simple as surprising your partner with a hot cup of herbal tea if they’re sick at the office, or sneaking a love letter in their purse or gym bag when they’re not looking, will make them feel happy and appreciated.

7. Start every morning with a hug, kiss or cuddle.

Fun FactDid you know that touch is so powerful that it can soothe existential fears in people with low self-esteem? Starting every morning with a hug and kiss will also release feel-good hormones that make you feel excited to start your day.

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8. Support your partner during their life adventure.

There is nothing more hurtful than having a partner who shows no interest in your goals, hopes and dreams. Showing disinterest in your partner’s ambitions will make them feel like they are all alone in the world, so if you can’t support them during their struggles and successes, don’t be surprised if they find someone who will.

9. Express your love in your own creative, unique way.

If you are a partner worth having, then you should know more about your loved one than I ever would. Don’t look at this article like it’s a strict how-to guide, but rather use it as inspiration to think of your own ways to enhance love and intimacy with your partner. What are you going to do to make your partner smile today? Tell us in the comments and please share with your friends if you found it helpful.

Featured photo credit: She is my drug/Bryan Brenneman via Flickr

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Daniel is a writer who focuses on blogging about happiness and motivation at Lifehack.

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Last Updated on June 13, 2019

How to Quit Your Boring Life and Start Living an Interesting One

How to Quit Your Boring Life and Start Living an Interesting One

Think you have a boring life?

The definition of boring is dull or not interesting. Maybe you’ve been doing the same thing and living the same life for too long, or maybe your daily routine is limiting your growth and happiness. Whatever your reason is, the following list of 20 things can definitely make any day more interesting. Some of them are silly, while some are more meaningful, so hopefully just reading the list makes your life less boring and sparks your creativity.

Let’s dive in the list to quit your boring life and start living an interesting (and meaning) one!

1. Channel Your 7-Year-Old Self

What would he or she want to do right now? Color? Paint? Run around outside? Play dress up? Eat with your hands? Play that instrument hiding in the back of your closet that you haven’t touched in years?

Just because you’re a grown up doesn’t mean any of this stuff will be less enjoyable than you remember it. Give yourself permission to play.

2. Go Play with Kids

Speaking of little kids, if you have your own or access to any (in a non-creepy way, like they’re your niece or your best friend’s kid, you get the idea) go play with them!

They didn’t create an entire show called Kids Say The Darndest Things because kids aren’t hilarious. They also keep things so simple, and we can really stand to be reminded of this and stop allowing ourselves to get bogged down in boring details.

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3. Order a Hot Dog

While you’re eating it, Google: “What’s in a hot dog?” You decide whether or not you want to finish it.

4. For the Ladies: Wear Your Sexiest Lingerie Under Your Work Clothes

Your “little secret” will leave you feeling anything but boring all day!

5. Play Cell Phone Roulette

You’ll need at least one buddy for this. Scroll through the contacts in your phone, stop on a random one and call the person.

You could spark an incredible catch up session or be incredibly awkward. Neither are boring.

6. Fill out a Pack of Thank-You Cards

Give them to random people who probably don’t get thanked too often for doing what they do ever day.

Ideas: police officers, librarians, servers, baristas, cab drivers, sanitation workers, teachers, people behind any check out counter, receptionists, your friends, the guy at the falafel stand, etc.

7. Sign up for a Class in Something You’ve “Always Wanted to Do”, or Something That Makes You Really Uncomfortable

Ideas: pole dancing, salsa lessons, improv, pottery, cooking, knitting (yup, there are classes for this, too!), karate, boxing, something techy like the workshops they run in Apple stores, get Rosetta Stone and learn that language you’ve always wanted to speak, etc.

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What’s good about joining an interest class is that you will also meet new people!

8. Interview Your Grandparents About Their Lives

You can bet they’ve had some crazy experiences you probably never knew about.

9. Get up on Stage at an Open Mic Night

Whether you’re funny or not, get up on stage and just talk funny. And if you’re not, memorize a few of your favorite jokes and tell those!

10. Do Something for Someone Else That You Wish Someone Would Do for You

We all have a few ideas on this list. I promise you will feel amazing after and anything but bored.

11. Start a DIY Project in Your Home

It doesn’t have to be super complicated. If you need ideas, there’re plenty on Pinterest. Or you can also check out these 30 Awesome DIY Projects that You’ve Never Heard of.

12. Plan a Weekend Trip or an All-Out Vacation

This will give you something to look forward to.

Even if you don’t have the time or money to go on a vacation, plan for a staycation, which is same fun and relaxing!

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13. People Watch

Find a bench in a crowded area (centers of transportation like airports, bus stops and train stations are great for this!) and just observe.

People are infinitely interesting.

14. Eat Something You’ve Never Eaten Before

Bonus points if it’s a random fruit or veggie.

15. Dance

You can get your friends together for a night on the town or just pull up a video on YouTube and bust a move from your own living room.

If you’re feeling extra brave, you can even dance in public and get other people involved.

16. Go to YOUTUBE and Search “Funny Pets” or “Funny Babies”

This is also a great quickie ab workout as you will be laughing hysterically.

17. Pick up a Book and Start Reading

Check out the NY Times Best Sellers lists and grab a new book you can get lost in.

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18. Step Away from the Computer and Go Get Some Time with People You Care About in Real Life

Facebook stalking doesn’t count as real social interaction. You can even share this post with your friends and vote on which one you’d like to do together!

19. Check out a Museum You’ve Never Been to Before

OK, depending on your interests, this one might actually be boring. If you love learning, art or different cultures though, this one is for you!

20. Write a List of Things You Desire and Truly Want

This is a great way to help you figure out the real reason why you’re feeling bored about your life. Maybe you haven’t really done things that you truly enjoy? Maybe what you’ve wanted to do all the time has been left behind?

Think about the list of things you really want to do, and ask yourself why you aren’t doing these things (yet). Then start taking your first step to make what you want happen.

Now go make your life interesting and live your dream life!

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