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9 Ways To Enhance Love And Intimacy With Your Loved One

9 Ways To Enhance Love And Intimacy With Your Loved One

Your relationship is only as good as you make it. For a happy and successful relationship, apply these nine ways to enhance love and intimacy today.

1. Be thankful for all things, big and small.

It is easy to forget about the little things that make your relationship special as the months and years go by. If your partner is thoughtful enough to surprise you with a hot cup of coffee on every cold winter morning, express your gratitude as if it were the first time they ever did it, even if it is the hundredth time.

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2. Focus on what brings you together.

No matter how much you might love your partner, there are always going to be things about your relationship that drive you crazy. Instead of agonizing over your differences and disagreements, shift your attention to your partner’s qualities that you find most attractive, handsome, gorgeous or inspiring.

3. Become aware of your need to nag and control.

Don’t even think about trying to mold your partner into anyone but who they are. If you find yourself trying to control your partner’s every action and behavior, or feel the need to change them into another person who doesn’t even remotely resemble who they really are, you might be dating the wrong person. Please understand that I’m not saying you shouldn’t challenge your partner to grow and develop into a better version of themselves, because this is a healthy habit that any happy couple can get behind. There is beauty in imperfection, and there is no greater expression of true love than accepting a person (and all of the quirks that just so happen to come along with them).

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4. Tell your partner a personal story or private secret.

The more secrets you keep from the partner, the fewer opportunities you will have to enhance love and intimacy. This isn’t to say you should confess your religious beliefs, political opinions, high (or low) sex drive, desire to have ten beautiful children or anything like that before you trust a person; however, as time goes on and your relationship blossoms, it becomes more and more important to be 100% upfront with your partner. It is okay to reveal one thing at a time, and it is wise to save the biggest revelations until you feel more comfortable with the disclosure, but understand that hiding important truths (no matter how much you might wish you could just avoid the conversation) can only end badly.

5. Do something new and exciting together as a couple.

Going on the same date over and over again could get boring in a hurry. The more fresh experiences you have with your loved one, the more positive memories you will have of your time together and the more exciting your relationship will be. Below are a few resources where you can find new adventures to take with your partner:

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6. Surprise your partner with acts of kindness.

It isn’t how much money you spend, how much time you invest or how much effort you expend that matters; the important thing is performing actions, no matter how big or small, with an attitude of love and kindness. Don’t underestimate the power of your words, romantic gestures, or acts of kindness; something as simple as surprising your partner with a hot cup of herbal tea if they’re sick at the office, or sneaking a love letter in their purse or gym bag when they’re not looking, will make them feel happy and appreciated.

7. Start every morning with a hug, kiss or cuddle.

Fun FactDid you know that touch is so powerful that it can soothe existential fears in people with low self-esteem? Starting every morning with a hug and kiss will also release feel-good hormones that make you feel excited to start your day.

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8. Support your partner during their life adventure.

There is nothing more hurtful than having a partner who shows no interest in your goals, hopes and dreams. Showing disinterest in your partner’s ambitions will make them feel like they are all alone in the world, so if you can’t support them during their struggles and successes, don’t be surprised if they find someone who will.

9. Express your love in your own creative, unique way.

If you are a partner worth having, then you should know more about your loved one than I ever would. Don’t look at this article like it’s a strict how-to guide, but rather use it as inspiration to think of your own ways to enhance love and intimacy with your partner. What are you going to do to make your partner smile today? Tell us in the comments and please share with your friends if you found it helpful.

Featured photo credit: She is my drug/Bryan Brenneman via Flickr

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Last Updated on December 2, 2018

7 Public Speaking Techniques To Help Connect With Your Audience

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When giving a presentation or speech, you have to engage your audience effectively in order to truly get your point across. Unlike a written editorial or newsletter, your speech is fleeting; once you’ve said everything you set out to say, you don’t get a second chance to have your voice heard in that specific arena.

You need to make sure your audience hangs on to every word you say, from your introduction to your wrap-up. You can do so by:

1. Connecting them with each other

Picture your typical rock concert. What’s the first thing the singer says to the crowd after jumping out on stage? “Hello (insert city name here)!” Just acknowledging that he’s coherent enough to know where he is is enough for the audience to go wild and get into the show.

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It makes each individual feel as if they’re a part of something bigger. The same goes for any public speaking event. When an audience hears, “You’re all here because you care deeply about wildlife preservation,” it gives them a sense that they’re not just there to listen, but they’re there to connect with the like-minded people all around them.

2. Connect with their emotions

Speakers always try to get their audience emotionally involved in whatever topic they’re discussing. There are a variety of ways in which to do this, such as using statistics, stories, pictures or videos that really show the importance of the topic at hand.

For example, showing pictures of the aftermath of an accident related to drunk driving will certainly send a specific message to an audience of teenagers and young adults. While doing so might be emotionally nerve-racking to the crowd, it may be necessary to get your point across and engage them fully.

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3. Keep going back to the beginning

Revisit your theme throughout your presentation. Although you should give your audience the credit they deserve and know that they can follow along, linking back to your initial thesis can act as a subconscious reminder of why what you’re currently telling them is important.

On the other hand, if you simply mention your theme or the point of your speech at the beginning and never mention it again, it gives your audience the impression that it’s not really that important.

4. Link to your audience’s motivation

After you’ve acknowledged your audience’s common interests in being present, discuss their motivation for being there. Be specific. Using the previous example, if your audience clearly cares about wildlife preservation, discuss what can be done to help save endangered species’ from extinction.

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Don’t just give them cold, hard facts; use the facts to make a point that they can use to better themselves or the world in some way.

5. Entertain them

While not all speeches or presentations are meant to be entertaining in a comedic way, audiences will become thoroughly engaged in anecdotes that relate to the overall theme of the speech. We discussed appealing to emotions, and that’s exactly what a speaker sets out to do when he tells a story from his past or that of a well-known historical figure.

Speakers usually tell more than one story in order to show that the first one they told isn’t simply an anomaly, and that whatever outcome they’re attempting to prove will consistently reoccur, given certain circumstances.

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6. Appeal to loyalty

Just like the musician mentioning the town he’s playing in will get the audience ready to rock, speakers need to appeal to their audience’s loyalty to their country, company, product or cause. Show them how important it is that they’re present and listening to your speech by making your words hit home to each individual.

In doing so, the members of your audience will feel as if you’re speaking directly to them while you’re addressing the entire crowd.

7. Tell them the benefits of the presentation

Early on in your presentation, you should tell your audience exactly what they’ll learn, and exactly how they’ll learn it. Don’t expect them to listen if they don’t have clear-cut information to listen for. On the other hand, if they know what to listen for, they’ll be more apt to stay engaged throughout your entire presentation so they don’t miss anything.

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