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When You’re Made To Feel Unwanted, Leave And Never Turn Back

When You’re Made To Feel Unwanted, Leave And Never Turn Back

Feeling unwanted is a terrible feeling. It gives you that sinking feeling in your gut and frankly runs you down. When you feel unwanted, you do have a few choices to make: stay and continue to feel unwanted, or leave and never turn back. The choice is up to you.

If you choose to leave because you feel unwanted, you have taken the first step in reclaiming your value and your self-worth. But let’s be honest here, it is easier said than done. However, it can be done. Leaving someone, no matter how much you love them, is a difficult thing to do. When you feel unwanted, it can even be mind boggling when you’re deciding it’s time to leave. Here are a few things to consider.

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What To Do When You Feel Unwanted

When you feel unwanted and you know you’re unwanted, you have two choices: you can either remain in a suffering state or you can choose to move towards living in a beautiful state. Feeling unwanted hurts. It’s painful, depressing, and disappointing. It only leads to you to feel worse off. There is no benefit in remaining in a relationship that makes you feel unwanted. We all aim for and strive to feel a deep human connection, but when you don’t get it from the person you most want it from, it’s time to throw in the towel.

I’m not insisting on getting rid of everyone in your life that makes you feel unwanted, but I want to insist that you can’t make someone love you, you can’t make someone like you, and you can’t make someone want to be with you.

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However, what you can do is choose to love and appreciate yourself. Reaffirm your own value on your own self-worth and believe in all the good you have to offer. Self-love is worth fighting for.

The Struggle When You Feel Unwanted

The struggle of feeling unwanted is overwhelming and can be downright depressing. It’s difficult when all you really want is to be wanted or even loved. Knowing you cannot change someone is the first step. You are not in control of the other person who does not want you. You cannot control how they choose to give you affection, how they choose to communicate with you, and they choose to interact with you. However, you are in charge of how you interact with them and how you respond to them. If you’re unwanted, put yourself first and find your own worth by moving on.

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Feeling Uneasy Is Completely Normal

Should you make the move to invest in yourself and ditch the person that does not want you, you most likely will feel uneasy and anxious. This is not going to be easy, but you can do it! Know that these feelings of uneasiness are completely normal. They really are. Think of how long it took you to get comfortable with the person who made you feel unwanted. Time is our only commodity; you deserve to feel wanted.

Conclusion

Feeling unwanted is never a desirable feeling to have. We all long to be wanted, to be loved, and to be appreciated — these are some of the very basic needs of being human. We long for connection, and when you don’t receive that connection in turn, it’s time to do some soul searching and gather your self-worth.

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We all deserve to feel wanted and loved. Sometimes, it just doesn’t happen — and that’s more than okay. Choose to love yourself and take a chance on you. You’re worth it, and you deserve the bright future ahead of you.

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Founder of Be Moved, Life Coach and Writer.

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Last Updated on June 13, 2019

How to Quit Your Boring Life and Start Living an Interesting One

How to Quit Your Boring Life and Start Living an Interesting One

Think you have a boring life?

The definition of boring is dull or not interesting. Maybe you’ve been doing the same thing and living the same life for too long, or maybe your daily routine is limiting your growth and happiness. Whatever your reason is, the following list of 20 things can definitely make any day more interesting. Some of them are silly, while some are more meaningful, so hopefully just reading the list makes your life less boring and sparks your creativity.

Let’s dive in the list to quit your boring life and start living an interesting (and meaning) one!

1. Channel Your 7-Year-Old Self

What would he or she want to do right now? Color? Paint? Run around outside? Play dress up? Eat with your hands? Play that instrument hiding in the back of your closet that you haven’t touched in years?

Just because you’re a grown up doesn’t mean any of this stuff will be less enjoyable than you remember it. Give yourself permission to play.

2. Go Play with Kids

Speaking of little kids, if you have your own or access to any (in a non-creepy way, like they’re your niece or your best friend’s kid, you get the idea) go play with them!

They didn’t create an entire show called Kids Say The Darndest Things because kids aren’t hilarious. They also keep things so simple, and we can really stand to be reminded of this and stop allowing ourselves to get bogged down in boring details.

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3. Order a Hot Dog

While you’re eating it, Google: “What’s in a hot dog?” You decide whether or not you want to finish it.

4. For the Ladies: Wear Your Sexiest Lingerie Under Your Work Clothes

Your “little secret” will leave you feeling anything but boring all day!

5. Play Cell Phone Roulette

You’ll need at least one buddy for this. Scroll through the contacts in your phone, stop on a random one and call the person.

You could spark an incredible catch up session or be incredibly awkward. Neither are boring.

6. Fill out a Pack of Thank-You Cards

Give them to random people who probably don’t get thanked too often for doing what they do ever day.

Ideas: police officers, librarians, servers, baristas, cab drivers, sanitation workers, teachers, people behind any check out counter, receptionists, your friends, the guy at the falafel stand, etc.

7. Sign up for a Class in Something You’ve “Always Wanted to Do”, or Something That Makes You Really Uncomfortable

Ideas: pole dancing, salsa lessons, improv, pottery, cooking, knitting (yup, there are classes for this, too!), karate, boxing, something techy like the workshops they run in Apple stores, get Rosetta Stone and learn that language you’ve always wanted to speak, etc.

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What’s good about joining an interest class is that you will also meet new people!

8. Interview Your Grandparents About Their Lives

You can bet they’ve had some crazy experiences you probably never knew about.

9. Get up on Stage at an Open Mic Night

Whether you’re funny or not, get up on stage and just talk funny. And if you’re not, memorize a few of your favorite jokes and tell those!

10. Do Something for Someone Else That You Wish Someone Would Do for You

We all have a few ideas on this list. I promise you will feel amazing after and anything but bored.

11. Start a DIY Project in Your Home

It doesn’t have to be super complicated. If you need ideas, there’re plenty on Pinterest. Or you can also check out these 30 Awesome DIY Projects that You’ve Never Heard of.

12. Plan a Weekend Trip or an All-Out Vacation

This will give you something to look forward to.

Even if you don’t have the time or money to go on a vacation, plan for a staycation, which is same fun and relaxing!

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13. People Watch

Find a bench in a crowded area (centers of transportation like airports, bus stops and train stations are great for this!) and just observe.

People are infinitely interesting.

14. Eat Something You’ve Never Eaten Before

Bonus points if it’s a random fruit or veggie.

15. Dance

You can get your friends together for a night on the town or just pull up a video on YouTube and bust a move from your own living room.

If you’re feeling extra brave, you can even dance in public and get other people involved.

16. Go to YOUTUBE and Search “Funny Pets” or “Funny Babies”

This is also a great quickie ab workout as you will be laughing hysterically.

17. Pick up a Book and Start Reading

Check out the NY Times Best Sellers lists and grab a new book you can get lost in.

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18. Step Away from the Computer and Go Get Some Time with People You Care About in Real Life

Facebook stalking doesn’t count as real social interaction. You can even share this post with your friends and vote on which one you’d like to do together!

19. Check out a Museum You’ve Never Been to Before

OK, depending on your interests, this one might actually be boring. If you love learning, art or different cultures though, this one is for you!

20. Write a List of Things You Desire and Truly Want

This is a great way to help you figure out the real reason why you’re feeling bored about your life. Maybe you haven’t really done things that you truly enjoy? Maybe what you’ve wanted to do all the time has been left behind?

Think about the list of things you really want to do, and ask yourself why you aren’t doing these things (yet). Then start taking your first step to make what you want happen.

Now go make your life interesting and live your dream life!

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