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What To Do When Your Teenager Doesn’t Want To Talk

What To Do When Your Teenager Doesn’t Want To Talk

If you are a parent of a teenager or have a teenager in your life, chances are there are many times your teenager does not want to talk. This can be really hard on you — believe me, I understand. When my daughter started middle school, I wanted to know everything: how her day was, how her friends were, what her sports practices were like. It didn’t take me long to realize that she didn’t want to share every aspect of her life with me. Sometimes, she just didn’t want to talk.

This was really hard on me. Sometimes I would ask her a question and she would point blankly say, “I don’t want to talk about it.” So, I’d tried rewording it. That didn’t work. It usually took about three times of her saying she didn’t want to talk about it for me to give up. Giving up doesn’t always seem like the best solution, so what can we do?

According to Holly Brown, LMFT, in an article titled Why Your Teen Doesn’t Talk to You, “If you can realize some of the things you’re doing that are accidentally off-putting to your child, you’ll be better able to connect with him or her.” She goes on to say that as a therapist, she meets with teenagers who normally don’t talk a lot with their parents but open right up with her. She is not doing anything magical; it’s more what she is not doing. Here is her list:

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1. I’m not doing anything other than talking to them.

2. I’m not telling them the “right” way to do things.  

3. Mostly, I’m not commenting; I’m asking questions. And not questions that I already know the answer to, or where I’m trying to get them to give a certain answer I’ll find pleasing.

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4. I don’t interrupt, even when I can guess where something is going. 

5. I don’t tell them that I’m the parent, and they just have to do as I say. 

In her last paragraph, Brown says, “You can ask your kids for feedback on how you’re doing as a parent. You can show that you care what they think and feel. Then you can incorporate that into how you do things in the future. An open dialogue doesn’t undermine your authority. It actually enhances it.”

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In my own personal experience, I just had to give my daughter the space she needed. Often, I would tell her I was there for her if she ever wanted to talk about anything. I didn’t stop asking questions and caring about her life, but I did show more respect when she didn’t want to talk. I also worked at just being with her and not talking all the time. For instance, one time we drove from one town to another in complete silence. It was about a 30-minute drive. It about killed me. It took a lot of self discipline not to talk. I just thought I would be quiet and see if she wanted to talk. She didn’t and I believe it was a nice experience for her to just ride with her mom in a car without having to talk about a thing.

This daughter is now in high school and she is much more open than she used to be. I think she knows I respect her and I am here for her. I love it when she shares things about her life with me. I think when I started respecting her, believing in her, and giving her a little more space, she felt it and grew on her own.

As my wise grandma told me, “This too shall pass.” Sometimes, we just need to be patient and realize the teenage years will pass, and we will just do our best while getting through them.

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Featured photo credit: Emma Craig/Aren’t teenagers pleasant? via flickr.com

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Published on April 30, 2021

35 Easy And Healthy Dinner Ideas For Kids

35 Easy And Healthy Dinner Ideas For Kids

Parents jokingly say that the most challenging part about raising kids is deciding what’s for dinner. While it’s funny, there’s also a lot of truth to it. Kids can be picky. They love something one day and despise it the next. They also don’t care if something is healthy or not. And good luck ever getting dinner “right” if you have more than one kid. More kids equal more opinions.

What can busy parents do to get their kids to eat healthy meals? How can mealtime be easier?

First, you might be wondering if new recipes will even help. Picky eaters are good at refusing anything and everything. Kid-friendly meals won’t be beneficial if your child isn’t open to new things. Even kids that aren’t overly picky tend to shy away from new foods. Ironically, they also hate eating the same things over and over.

So, what’s the best way to overcome meal-time frustration? Make it fun! Distract kids with a bit of creativity. They’ll be more likely to eat if everyone is relaxed and enjoying the meal.[1]

Before I dive into the 35 dinner ideas for kids, here are some tips for getting young kids to eat and break out of that dinner rut.(Mayo Clinic: Children’s Nutrition: 10 Tips For Picky Eaters))

  1. Make Breakfast for Dinner – Switch things up by serving breakfast for dinner. Kids will love the surprise. Use fruit, bacon, and sausage to make it more filling. Some days can be exceedingly rough, so oatmeal and fruit can even be an option.
  2. Involve Them – Kids love to help and will be more excited to try the food they helped make. Touching and seeing the ingredients during the process can help your child become more familiar with them and ease their uncertainty. The biggest benefit is you’ll be spending time together, not to mention the value of learning to cook.
  3. Do Dinner Buffet-Style – Set food and toppings out on the table buffet-style and allow kids to dish up their plates. What works well for a buffet?[2] Tacos, pancakes, pizza, nachos, finger foods and chili are just a few of the many ideas out there. Don’t be afraid to come up with your own.
  4. Creative Presentation – Turning a meal into art is another way to get kids interested. Nothing makes food more interesting than when it looks like a face, flower, or boat. Get creative with how you present the food!
  5. Have Fun With Themes – The options here are endless. You could base it on your child’s favorite characters or focus on a different culture, region, or even history. This is a great way to introduce your child to how and what others around the world eat.
  6. Bribery – Sometimes, parents have to resort to shameless bribery to get kids to eat. It’s okay to use a little extra motivation to get kids to try something new.[3] We all need a boost now and then. Avoid using dessert as a motive to eat dinner, but what are some harmless bribes to try? For instance, stickers, temporary tattoos, extra screen time or bedtime book.

Now, let’s get to the dinner ideas. Meal planning is just one more thing to do in an already busy day. This list of dinner recipes for kids can help. Remember, you can always make modifications to fit any dietary needs. These recipes are a good starting point and can give your tired brain a boost of creativity.

1. Cheeseburger Pasta

    Children love pasta and cheeseburgers, so mix the two for an irresistible dinner for kids. Make it even better by using fun pasta shapes like shells or rotini twists.

    Get the recipe for this instant classic here.

    2. Tacos on a Stick

      Sticks make everything better when you’re a kid—so, why would dinner be any different? This meal doesn’t get any easier, either, scoring major points with parents. All you need are bamboo skewers and a few simple ingredients.

      Get the recipe here.

      3. Nacho Pizza

        This is another creative twist on two classic meals most kids will quickly devour. Go as crazy or as simple as you want with this quick dinner.

        Find the recipe here.

        4. Gnocchi Chicken Skillet

          Pasta with a unique twist makes for a meal that kids will be curious to try. This one is so good, it might become a favorite for parents, too.

          Check out the recipe here.

          5. Hamburger Pizza

            Another mashup and more burgers, the hamburger pizza is just too good to pass up—all the flavors of a burger in the form of a childhood favorite.

            Go here for the recipe.

            6. Chicken Noodle Soup

              No list would be complete without this classic. Cheat a little by using rotisserie chicken, and have this soup done in under 30 minutes. Say goodbye to the canned version.

              Find the recipe here.

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              7. Hot Dog Roll-Ups

                Refrigerated crescent rolls, hot dogs, cheese, and bacon come together for a dinner for kids that can’t get much quicker.

                Find out how to make this fun hot dog dinner here.

                8. Tater Tot Nachos

                  Not your every day nachos, this recipe uses tater tots as a base. You can use whatever toppings you know that your kid loves to improve it.

                  Check the recipe out here.

                  9. Muffin Tin Lasagna

                    Muffin tin lasagna is just like lasagna but smaller. It’s perfect for little fingers and faster to make than the original.

                    Get the recipe here.

                    10. Frito Pie Casserole

                      Frito chips add crunch to this quick Tex-Mex meal. To make it extra special, turn it into Tacos in a Bag by mixing everything into individual bags of chips.

                      Find the recipe for this delicious meal here.

                      11. Cheeseburger and Fries Casserole

                        Cheeseburger and rise casserole—two fast-food favorites combined into one flavorful casserole. Why eat out when you can have a quick, hot meal at home?

                        The recipe can be found here.

                        12. Meatball Submarine Casserole

                          This dinner for kids may be a little less messy than the sandwich, but they will still love the meatballs, melted cheese, and warm bread.

                          For a quick midweek meal, check out the recipe here.

                          13. White Cheddar Mac and Cheese

                            The best of comfort foods gets a quick upgrade. Kids will still enjoy this favorite while parents can appreciate the grown-up flavor of white cheddar.

                            Get the recipe here.

                            14. Turkey Ranch Wraps

                              Easy, delicious, fun, and fast—what could be better? This meal is also easy to pack, making it great for those hectic nights when you’re on the go.

                              Find the recipe here, and give it a try.

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                              15. Big Mac Pizza

                                Just saying the words “Big Mac” will get little ears to perk up. A pre-made crust makes this dinner a fast answer to those mealtime frustrations.

                                Go here to find out how to make it.

                                16. Buttermilk Chicken Tenders

                                  Homemade yet easy to make chicken tenders—what gets better than that? Add a side of vegetables and fruit and you have a complete meal that kids will happily gobble up.

                                  Get this easy recipe here.

                                  17. Meatball Sliders

                                    Sliders are a great snack or dinner for kids—small hands, small sandwiches. Plus, the tiny size makes them more fun than the original.

                                    Try this recipe here.

                                    18. Ham and Cheese Pockets

                                      Don’t let the idea of making homemade dough keep you from trying this recipe. You’ll be glad you did when you see how simple it is. Everyone will love biting into a ham and cheese pocket made with fresh bread.

                                      The recipe can be found here.

                                      19. Dorito Taco Salad

                                        Swap out tortilla chips for Doritos and watch kids find a new interest in taco salad. Use single-serving bags as the bowl, add the toppings inside, and enjoy having to do fewer dishes.

                                        Get the recipe here.

                                        20. Spaghetti Nests

                                          Kids love spaghetti, but they’ll be surprised to see it as little “nests” they can eat with their fingers.

                                          Find out how to make them here.

                                          21. Mini Chicken Pot Pies

                                            With only four ingredients and done in half an hour, what’s not to love about this dinner idea for kids? Homemade doesn’t have to mean difficult.

                                            Get the recipe for this comfort food favorite here.

                                            22. Sandwich on a Stick

                                              Save the time slicing, spreading, and piling and instead, put everything onto a stick. Kids will love pulling each item off, and you’ll love the easy clean-up.

                                              Find the recipe here.

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                                              23. Tornado Dogs

                                                The name alone might be enough to make kids eat these. Hot dogs on a skewer are wrapped in a swirl of bread dough, making this a fun new way to eat an old favorite.

                                                The recipe can be found here.

                                                24. Homemade Spaghettios

                                                 

                                                  Make your own healthy version of Spaghettios at home with this simple recipe. It’s cheap, simple, and you have control over the ingredients. You might never buy the canned version again.

                                                  Find the recipe for this childhood classic here.

                                                  25. Kitchen BBQ Chicken

                                                    You don’t need anything fancy for this meal, though it will taste like you put a lot of effort into it.

                                                    Find out how to make this quick version here.

                                                    26. Puka Dogs

                                                      Polish sausages or hot dogs are used in this Hawaiian recipe. Pineapple relish and mango mustard add tropical flavors, and Hawaiian rolls are used for the bread.

                                                      Get the recipe here.

                                                      27. Instant Pot Chicken and Dumplings

                                                        Almost everyone loves dumplings, and it’s a nice side dish or dinner for your kids. Add chunks of chicken and creamy gravy—what’s there to complain about?

                                                        Get the quick version of this all-time favorite here.

                                                        28. Chicken Alfredo Casserole

                                                          Casseroles make for an easy dinner for kids, and this is one you might find making over and over. Pair it with a salad and you have a delicious Italian meal without the fuss.

                                                          Get the recipe here.

                                                          29. Pizza on a Stick

                                                            Bamboo skewers switch up yet another meal. This time, pizza gets a makeover in this creative twist.

                                                            Find out how to make these here.

                                                            30. Pita Tacos

                                                              Instead of taco shells, this recipe uses pita bread. Kids will have fun filling the “pockets” with taco ingredients.

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                                                              Go here for this delicious recipe.

                                                              31. Copycat Instant Pot Hamburger Helper

                                                                There’s something classic about Hamburger Helper, but now you can make it just as quickly from scratch. Noodles, ground beef, and sauce come together in this delicious instant pot meal.

                                                                Get the recipe here.

                                                                32. Cheese Fondue

                                                                  Fondues open up the door for creativity. Children might even have a few ideas for foods to dip into the cheese sauce. Pretzel bites, bread, vegetables, and meat make good options.

                                                                  Find more ideas and the recipe here.

                                                                  33. Egg in the Hole

                                                                    This recipe is one of those quick breakfasts that would make a great dinner for kids when you’re in a rush. Make it even better by using a cookie cutter to make a fun shape in the bread.

                                                                    The recipe can be found here.

                                                                    34. Instant Pot Egg Casserole Bites

                                                                      These casserole bites are filling and quick. The small size makes them easy to eat and their clean-up a breeze. Kids can add their favorite toppings, too. Cheese, peppers, sausage, and bacon are just a few options.

                                                                      Find out how to make this recipe here.

                                                                      35. French Toast Roll-Ups

                                                                        Sometimes, it’s the simple things that grab a kid’s attention. This french toast recipe is sure to be a dinner they love and one you don’t have to feel bad about making.

                                                                        Find the recipe here.

                                                                        My Kid Still Won’t Eat—Is This Normal?

                                                                        Remember that kids go through stages. There will be days when your child barely eats, and there will be days when the hunger seems nonstop.

                                                                        Focus on the big picture and ask yourself these questions:[4]

                                                                        • Is my child eating a variety of healthy foods over the course of the week?
                                                                        • Is my child undernourished or growing normally?
                                                                        • Is food (or lack of) interfering with my child’s quality of life?

                                                                        It might be time to see a doctor if you see signs of health problems due to pickiness or lack of eating. The problem may go beyond stubbornness and be a symptom of a medical issue.[5]

                                                                        Keeping Family Mealtime Stress-free

                                                                        The less stressed you are, the less stressed your child will be. Forcing food will make the experience negative, leaving kids less likely to experiment.

                                                                        Here are a few final tips on how to encourage positive eating habits that will follow your child through life:

                                                                        • Keep meals stress-free
                                                                        • Offer a wide variety of foods
                                                                        • Don’t force eating
                                                                        • Encourage older children to try new food at least three times
                                                                        • Set a good example by eating healthy, and being open to new foods yourself

                                                                        With a positive attitude, fun ideas, and new recipes, you can help your child learn to love new foods. You can start with these 35 dinner ideas for kids to help you out.

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                                                                        Featured photo credit: Karo Kujanpaa via unsplash.com

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