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Signs That You Seem To Be An Evil Person But You’re Actually Kindhearted

Signs That You Seem To Be An Evil Person But You’re Actually Kindhearted

We live in a society where it is becoming more difficult to draw the lines between good and evil. People tend to wear a persona or cloak to show that they are strong and tough. This sort of intimidating appearance can be scary to certain persons who would have loved to come around and appreciate who you truly are. On the other hand, being kindhearted is actually an attractive quality that brings people closer to you.

It is possible to distinguish someone who is kindhearted but has this fake protective persona of being evil from the real thing. People may tell you you’re mean or evil, but you know that’s not true. Here are some signs you may identify with.

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You don’t smile often

You have a stern appearance. While this might seem cold or unattractive, it is not who you are. You simply don’t want to be taken advantage of or you are trying to know who you are dealing with before you open up with a cheerful outlook. Yes, others may consider this awkward, but you have understood that your appearance has helped you in the past to make better judgment of those around you.

You don’t ask others for help, claiming independence instead

You don’t want to be a burden on other people’s time or resources, so you quietly attain independence and live in a cocoon that establishes that image of defensiveness. You can give, but since people see that you are always doing things yourself, they feel that you do not need them around you. It is not as if you would not love the support of others or offer yours, it’s just that you are more meticulous in your dealings with others. At the end of the day, this could imply that you only give to others when it is necessary.

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You make no promises or commitments, but you always give a piece of yourself

You are not accustomed to making promises and offering false assurances. This may seem as if you do not care about what the other person is proposing or requesting, but you would rather take action instead of making promises. This action can be very selective.

You hope for the best, but you know that life is unfair

There is nothing interesting or fascinating about certain compromises we have to make or the losses we have to bear. You look at life from a very realistic angle and see it for what it is. This does not mean that you do not hope, expect the best, or are not willing to contribute to the world around you.

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You follow your guts rather than try to please others

You do things spontaneously. You are not conventional. Instead, you love to apply principles your own way and chart a course that is pleasant with you. Sometimes, such actions do not go down well with others, it is just your way of getting things done.

You have few friends, but only those that matter

You are not caught up in other people’s affairs because you are only interested in quality relationships. It is not as if you don’t care, it’s just that you simply respect people’s private lives and do not want to get involved in their struggles.

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You would rather tell the truth and hurt others, than tell a lie to protect them

The truth may hurt but you are authentic to the core. You would rather play by the rules simply to make sure others follow what applies, than lie to protect them. You want the best for others, even if it is not personally rewarding because others consider you out of place for being so authentic, you just would do what is right.

You forgive, but you don’t forget

People think that after a mistake has been made or after they have wronged you, they can simply continue repeating the same process and earning your sympathy. While you can forgive and let go of past mistakes, you make sure that you use such knowledge for future judgment of such persons. You can forgive, but you always remember the hurt and why you should be more cautious in the future.

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Last Updated on March 30, 2020

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

Even the most charismatic people you know, whether in person or celebrities of some sort, experience days where they are feeling lost in life and isolated from everyone else.

While it’s good to know we aren’t alone in this feeling, the question still remains:

What should we do when we feel lost and lonely?

Here are 12 things to remember when you’re feeling lost in life:

1. Recognize That It’s Okay!

The truth is, there are times you need to be alone. If you’ve always been accustomed to being in contact with people, this may prove difficult.

However, learning how to be alone and comfortable in your own skin will give you confidence and a sense of self reliance.

We cheat ourselves out of the opportunity to become self reliant when we look for constant companionship.

Learn how to embrace your me time: What Your Fear of Being Alone Is Really About and How to Get over It

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2. Use Your Lost and Loneliness as a Self-Directing Guide

You’ve most likely heard the expression: “You have to know where you’ve been to know where you’re going.”

Loneliness also serves as a life signal to indicate you’re in search of something. It’s when we’re in the midst of solitude that answers come from true soul searching.

Remember, there is more to life than what you’re feeling.

3. Realize Loneliness Helps You Face the Truth

Being in the constant company of others, although comforting sometimes, can often serve as a distraction when we need to face the reality of a situation.

Solitude cuts straight to the chase and forces you to deal with the problem at hand. See it as a blessing that can serve as a catalyst to set things right!

Take a look at the 10 Things That Happen When You Start to Enjoy Being Alone.

4. Be Aware That You Have More Control Than You Think

Typically, when we see ourselves as being lost or lonely, it gives us an excuse to view everything we come in contact with in a negative light. It lends itself to putting ourselves in the victim mode, when the truth of the matter is that you choose your attitude in every situation.

No one can force a feeling upon you! It is YOU who has the ultimate say as to how you choose to react: How to Control Your Thoughts and Be the Master of Your Mind

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5. Embrace the Freedom That the Feeling of Being Alone Can Offer

Instead of wallowing in self pity, which many are prone to do because of loneliness, try looking at your circumstance as a new-found freedom.

Most people are in constant need of approval of their viewpoints. Try enjoying the fact that  you don’t need everyone you care about to support your decisions.

6. Acknowledge the Person You Are Now

Perhaps you feel a sense of loneliness and confusion because your life circumstances have taken you away from the persona that others know to be you.

Perhaps the new you differs radically from the old. Realize that life is about change and how we react to that change. It’s okay that you’re not who you used to be.

Take a look at this article and learn to accept your imperfect self: Accept Yourself (Flaws and All): 7 Benefits of Being Vulnerable

7. Keep Striving to Do Your Best

Often those who are feeling isolated and unto themselves will develop a defeatist attitude. They’ll do substandard work because their self esteem is low and they don’t care.

Never let this feeling take away your sense of worth! Do your best always and when you come through this dark time, others will admire how you stayed determined in spite of the obstacles you had to overcome.

And to live your best life, you must do this ONE thing: step out of your comfort zone.

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8. Don’t Forget That Time Is Precious

When we’re lost in a sea of loneliness and depression, it’s all too easy to reflect on regrets of past life events. This does nothing but feed negativity and perpetuate the situation.

Instead of falling prey to this common pitfall, put one foot in front of the other and acknowledge every positive step you take. By doing this, you can celebrate the struggles you overcome at the end of the day.

9. Remember, Things Happen for a Reason

Every circumstance we encounter in our life is designed to teach us and that lesson is in turn passed on to others.

Sometimes we’re fortunate enough to figure out the lesson to be learned, while other times, we simply need to have faith that if the lesson wasn’t meant directly for us to learn from, how we handled it was observed by someone who needed to learn.

Your solitude and feeling of lost, in this instance, although painful possibly, may be teaching someone else.

10. Journal During This Time

Record your thoughts when you’re at the height of loneliness and feeling lost. You’ll be amazed when you reflect back at how you viewed things at the time and how far you’ve come later.

This time (if recorded) can give you a keen insight into who you are and what makes you feel the way you feel.

11. Remember You Aren’t the First to Feel This Way

It’s quite common to feel as if we’re alone and no one else has ever felt this way before. We think this because at the time of our distress, we’re silently observing others around us who are seemingly fine in every way.

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The truth is, we can’t possibly know the struggles of those around us unless they elect to share them. We ALL have known this pain!

Try confiding in someone you trust and ask them how they deal with these feelings when they experienced it. You may be surprised at what you learn.

12. Ask for Help If the Problem Persists

The feeling of being lost and lonely is common to everyone, but typically it will last for a relatively short period of time.

Most people will confess to, at one time or another, being in a “funk.” But if the problem persists longer than you feel it should, don’t ignore it.

When your ability to reason and consider things rationally becomes impaired, do not poo poo the problem away and think it isn’t worthy of attention. Seek medical help.

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Final Thoughts

Loneliness and a sense of feeling lost can in many ways be extremely painful and difficult to deal with at best. However, these feelings can also serve as a catalyst for change in our lives if we acknowledge them and act.

Above anything, cherish your mental well being and don’t underestimate its worth. Seek professional guidance if you’re unable to distinguish between a sense of freedom for yourself and a sense of despair.

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