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Signs That You Seem To Be An Evil Person But You’re Actually Kindhearted

Signs That You Seem To Be An Evil Person But You’re Actually Kindhearted

We live in a society where it is becoming more difficult to draw the lines between good and evil. People tend to wear a persona or cloak to show that they are strong and tough. This sort of intimidating appearance can be scary to certain persons who would have loved to come around and appreciate who you truly are. On the other hand, being kindhearted is actually an attractive quality that brings people closer to you.

It is possible to distinguish someone who is kindhearted but has this fake protective persona of being evil from the real thing. People may tell you you’re mean or evil, but you know that’s not true. Here are some signs you may identify with.

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You don’t smile often

You have a stern appearance. While this might seem cold or unattractive, it is not who you are. You simply don’t want to be taken advantage of or you are trying to know who you are dealing with before you open up with a cheerful outlook. Yes, others may consider this awkward, but you have understood that your appearance has helped you in the past to make better judgment of those around you.

You don’t ask others for help, claiming independence instead

You don’t want to be a burden on other people’s time or resources, so you quietly attain independence and live in a cocoon that establishes that image of defensiveness. You can give, but since people see that you are always doing things yourself, they feel that you do not need them around you. It is not as if you would not love the support of others or offer yours, it’s just that you are more meticulous in your dealings with others. At the end of the day, this could imply that you only give to others when it is necessary.

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You make no promises or commitments, but you always give a piece of yourself

You are not accustomed to making promises and offering false assurances. This may seem as if you do not care about what the other person is proposing or requesting, but you would rather take action instead of making promises. This action can be very selective.

You hope for the best, but you know that life is unfair

There is nothing interesting or fascinating about certain compromises we have to make or the losses we have to bear. You look at life from a very realistic angle and see it for what it is. This does not mean that you do not hope, expect the best, or are not willing to contribute to the world around you.

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You follow your guts rather than try to please others

You do things spontaneously. You are not conventional. Instead, you love to apply principles your own way and chart a course that is pleasant with you. Sometimes, such actions do not go down well with others, it is just your way of getting things done.

You have few friends, but only those that matter

You are not caught up in other people’s affairs because you are only interested in quality relationships. It is not as if you don’t care, it’s just that you simply respect people’s private lives and do not want to get involved in their struggles.

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You would rather tell the truth and hurt others, than tell a lie to protect them

The truth may hurt but you are authentic to the core. You would rather play by the rules simply to make sure others follow what applies, than lie to protect them. You want the best for others, even if it is not personally rewarding because others consider you out of place for being so authentic, you just would do what is right.

You forgive, but you don’t forget

People think that after a mistake has been made or after they have wronged you, they can simply continue repeating the same process and earning your sympathy. While you can forgive and let go of past mistakes, you make sure that you use such knowledge for future judgment of such persons. You can forgive, but you always remember the hurt and why you should be more cautious in the future.

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Last Updated on June 19, 2019

6 Ways to Be a Successful Risk Taker and Take More Chances

6 Ways to Be a Successful Risk Taker and Take More Chances

I’ve stood on the edge of my own personal cliffs many times. Each time I jumped, something different happened. There were risks that started off great, but eventually faded. There were risks that left me falling until I hit the ground. There were risks that started slow, but built into massive successes.

Every risk is different, but every risk is the same. You need to have some fundamentals ready before you jump, but not too many.

It wouldn’t be a risk if you knew everything that was about to happen, would it? Here’re 6 ways to be a successful risk taker.

1. Understand That Failure Is Going to Happen a Lot

It’s part of life. Everything we do has failure attached to it. All successful people have stories of massive failure attached to them. Thinking that your risk is going to be pain free and run as smooth as silk is insane.

Expect some pain and failure. Actually, expect a lot of it. Expect the sleepless nights with crazy thoughts of insecurity that leave you trembling under the covers. It’s going to happen, no matter how positive you are about the risk you are about to take.

When failure hits, the only options are to keep going or quit. If you expect falling into a meadow of flowers and frolicking unicorns, then you’re going to immediately quit once you realize that getting to that meadow requires you to go through a rock filled cave filled with hungry bats.

2. Trust the Muse

Writing a story isn’t a big risk. It’s really just a risk on my time. So when I start writing a story, I’m scared it will be time wasted. Of course, it never really is. Even if the story doesn’t turn out fabulous, I still practiced.

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When I’ve taken risks in my life, the successful ones always seemed to happen when I followed the muse. Steven Pressfield describes the muse,

“The Muse demands depth. Shallow does not work for her. If we’re seeking her help, we can’t stay in the kiddie end. When we work, we have to go hard and go deep.”

The muse is a goddess who wants our attention and wants us to work on our passion.

If you’re taking a risk in anything, it’s assumed that there is some passion built up behind that risk. That passion, deep inside you, is the muse. Trust it, focus on it, listen to it.

The most successful articles and stories I write are the ones I’ve focused all my attention on. There were no interruptions during their creative development. I didn’t check my phone or go watch my Twitter feed. I was fully engaged in my work.

Trust the muse, focus your attention on your risk, let the ideas and path develop themselves, and leave the distractions at the side of the road.

3. Remember to Be Authentic

Taking a risk and then turning into something you’re not, is only going to lead to disaster. Whether you are risking a new relationship or new opportunity, you must be yourself throughout the entire process.

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How many times have you acted like you loved something just because the men or woman you just started going out with loved it?

For example, I’m not an office worker. I have an incredibly hard time working in a confined timeline (ie. 9-5). That’s why I write. I can do it whenever the mood strikes, I don’t have somebody breathing down my neck, telling me that I’m five minutes late, or missed a comma somewhere. I don’t have to walk on eggshells wondering if what I’m writing will get me fired or make me lose a promotion. I can just be myself, period.

One girlfriend didn’t understand that. She believed solely in the 9-5 motto, specifically something in human resources because that was a very stable job. I was scared for my future, but I stuck with the relationship because of my own insecurities and acted like I would do it to make her happy.

Here’s a tip: NEVER take away from your happiness to make somebody else satisfied (note I didn’t say happy).

Making somebody else happy will make you happy. Doing something to satisfy somebody is murder on your soul.

4. Don’t Take Any Risks While You’re Not Clearheaded

I’d been considering the risk for a couple weeks. It all sounded good. I was 22 and I could be rich in a couple of years. That’s what they were selling me, anyways.

One night, while at a house party with some friends, I found myself at a computer. A couple of my friends were standing nearby and asked me what I was doing. I told them I was considering starting my own business and it was only going to cost me $1,500.

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Of course, when a bunch of drunk people are surrounded by more drunk people, things get enthusiastic. It sounded like the best business venture in the world to everybody, including me. So I signed up and gave them my credit card number.

A few painful months and close to $4,000 dollars lost later, I quit the business. I was young and fell into the pyramid scheme trap. It was an expensive drunk decision.

Drinking heavily and making decisions has a proven track record of failure. So when you have something important to decide, don’t let your emotions take over your brain.

5. Fully Understand What You’re Risking

It was the start of my baseball comeback. I got a tryout with a professional scout and killed it. After the tryout, he talked to my girlfriend and myself, making sure we understood I would be gone for up to 6 months at a time. That strain on the relationship could be tough.

We understood. I left to play ball, chose to stay in the city I played in, and a year later we broke up. Not because of baseball, see point 3 above. Taking big risks can have massive impacts on everything in your life from relationships to money. Know what you’re risking before you take the risk.

If you believe the risk will be worth it or you have the support you need from your family, then go ahead and make the leap.

You can get more guidance on how to take calculated risks from this article: How to Take Calculated Risk to Achieve More and Become Successful

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6. Remember This Is Your One Shot Only

As far as we know officially, this is our one shot at life, so why not take some risks?

The top thing people are saddened by on their deathbeds are these regrets. They wish they did more, asked that girl in the coffee shop out, spoke out when they should have, or did what they were passionate about.

Don’t regret. Learn and experience. Live. Take the risks you believe in. Be yourself and make the world a better place.

Now go ahead, take that risk and be successful at it!

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