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We Must All Face The Choice Between What Is Right And What Is Easy

We Must All Face The Choice Between What Is Right And What Is Easy

You have always had a dream to have your own business. You are passionate about showing people that your ideas can really make an impact on this world. In your spare time, you find yourself vividly imagining what it’d be like having your own little store. You even imagine painting the walls your favorite color. Yet, each day you wake up and find yourself in the same job you started after college. Were you ever even interested in this 9-to-5 job, doing the routine work every single day? Your friends keep telling you what a great and stable job you have. After all, you make a decent income, your co-workers are easy to work with, and the hours aren’t too bad. Still, you can’t shake the nagging suspicion that writing the same kind of reports all day isn’t really what you were meant to do with your life.

Watch out for what-ifs and to-dos.

As soon as you start to dream again, a list of what-ifs and to-dos rushes in. What if I quit my job and pursue my dream and it doesn’t work out? What if I’m not as good of a business person as I think I am? What if there are too many nice businesses out there already? As soon as there is a break in what-ifs, to-dos hurry to take their place. I probably have to go back to school. Would anyone take me seriously without any specific certificates? I definitely didn’t take any related classes in college. I’ve never even run my own business. I’d probably need to learn how to do that too! By the time you run through your list of uncertainties, that desk and computer screen are looking more and more comfortable. Safer. But will settling for the easiest path ever lead you to the life you truly want?

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Giving up when it’s difficult is not an option. Do what is right.

If you have read this far and started to feel guilty about putting your dreams on hold and taking the easiest path, consider this. In order to take risks and pursue your dreams, you must encourage yourself. Guilt will likely hold you back from pursuing what matters most to you. Instead of feeling guilty, see this article as a call to action. We all choose the easiest path instead of the right one from time to time. We all drift away from what matters most to us. What’s important is getting back on track as soon as we notice ourselves drifting.

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Every simple step leads to great success.

If your dream is to have your own business, consider taking some related courses online or at your local community college. Being around others who are passionate about expressing their own ideas will help fuel your dreams and keep you focused on your goal. Also, gaining momentum toward a goal is the hardest part. Once you’ve gained some confidence in your new field and met others who believe in your dream, the next steps will be easier. If you don’t have time to take a class right now, consider interviewing others who already have success in the field you’d like to enter. For instance, email some young entrepreneurs and ask if you can interview them about how they got started. Learning from others who have accomplished similar goals can save you time and energy, allowing you to learn from their mistakes without having to make the same ones yourself.

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Your dreams worth all the risks and effort.

Above all, remind yourself daily that your dreams, desires, and intuition matter. Do not let others be the deciding factor on whether you stay in a safe but unfulfilling job. Taking the path of least resistance will never lead to the life of your dreams. Realizing a dream involves risk and adventure, but that’s what makes it so worthwhile.

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Last Updated on September 12, 2019

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

Even the most charismatic people you know, whether in person or celebrities of some sort, experience days where they feel lost in life and isolated from everyone else.

While it’s good to know we aren’t alone in this feeling, the question still remains:

What should we do when we feel lost and lonely?

Here are 12 things to remember:

1. Recognize That It’s Okay!

The truth is, there are times you need to be alone. If you’ve always been accustomed to being in contact with people, this may prove difficult.

However, learning how to be alone and comfortable in your own skin will give you confidence and a sense of self reliance.

We cheat ourselves out of the opportunity to become self reliant when we look for constant companionship.

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2. Use Your Lost and Loneliness as a Self-Directing Guide

You’ve most likely heard the expression: “You have to know where you’ve been to know where you’re going.”

Loneliness also serves as a life signal to indicate you’re in search of something. It’s when we’re in the midst of solitude that answers come from true soul searching.

Remember, there is more to life than what you’re feeling.

3. Realize Loneliness Helps You Face the Truth

Being in the constant company of others, although comforting sometimes, can often serve as a distraction when we need to face the reality of a situation.

Solitude cuts straight to the chase and forces you to deal with the problem at hand. See it as a blessing that can serve as a catalyst to set things right!

4. Be Aware That You Have More Control Than You Think

Typically, when we see ourselves as being lost or lonely, it gives us an excuse to view everything we come in contact with in a negative light. It lends itself to putting ourselves in the victim mode, when the truth of the matter is that you choose your attitude in every situation.

No one can force a feeling upon you! It is YOU who has the ultimate say as to how you choose to react.

5. Embrace the Freedom That the Feeling of Being Alone Can Offer

Instead of wallowing in self pity, which many are prone to do because of loneliness, try looking at your circumstance as a new-found freedom.

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Most people are in constant need of approval of their viewpoints. Try enjoying the fact that  you don’t need everyone you care about to support your decisions.

6. Acknowledge the Person You Are Now

Perhaps you feel a sense of loneliness and confusion because your life circumstances have taken you away from the persona that others know to be you.

Perhaps the new you differs radically from the old. Realize that life is about change and how we react to that change. It’s okay that you’re not who you used to be.

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7. Keep Striving to Do Your Best

Often those who are feeling isolated and unto themselves will develop a defeatist attitude. They’ll do substandard work because their self esteem is low and they don’t care.

Never let this feeling take away your sense of worth! Do your best always and when you come through this dark time, others will admire how you stayed determined in spite of the obstacles you had to overcome.

And to live your best life, you must do this ONE thing: step out of your comfort zone.

8. Don’t Forget That Time Is Precious

When we’re lost in a sea of loneliness and depression, it’s all too easy to reflect on regrets of past life events. This does nothing but feed negativity and perpetuate the situation.

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Instead of falling prey to this common pitfall, put one foot in front of the other and acknowledge every positive step you take. By doing this, you can celebrate the struggles you overcome at the end of the day.

9. Remember, Things Happen for a Reason

Every circumstance we encounter in our life is designed to teach us and that lesson is in turn passed on to others.

Sometimes we’re fortunate enough to figure out the lesson to be learned, while other times, we simply need to have faith that if the lesson wasn’t meant directly for us to learn from, how we handled it was observed by someone who needed to learn.

Your solitude and feeling of lost, in this instance, although painful possibly, may be teaching someone else.

10. Journal During This Time

Record your thoughts when you’re at the height of loneliness and feeling lost. You’ll be amazed when you reflect back at how you viewed things at the time and how far you’ve come later.

This time (if recorded) can give you a keen insight into who you are and what makes you feel the way you feel.

11. Remember You Aren’t the First to Feel This Way

It’s quite common to feel as if we’re alone and no one else has ever felt this way before. We think this because at the time of our distress, we’re silently observing others around us who are seemingly fine in every way.

The truth is, we can’t possibly know the struggles of those around us unless they elect to share them. We ALL have known this pain!

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Try confiding in someone you trust and ask them how they deal with these feelings when they experienced it. You may be surprised at what you learn.

12. Ask for Help If the Problem Persists

The feeling of being lost and lonely is common to everyone, but typically it will last for a relatively short period of time.

Most people will confess to, at one time or another, being in a “funk.” But if the problem persists longer than you feel it should, don’t ignore it.

When your ability to reason and consider things rationally becomes impaired, do not poo poo the problem away and think it isn’t worthy of attention. Seek medical help.

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Final Thoughts

Loneliness and a sense of feeling lost can in many ways be extremely painful and difficult to deal with at best. However, these feelings can also serve as a catalyst for change in our lives if we acknowledge them and act.

Above anything, cherish your mental well being and don’t underestimate its worth. Seek professional guidance if you’re unable to distinguish between a sense of freedom for yourself and a sense of despair.

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