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We Must All Face The Choice Between What Is Right And What Is Easy

We Must All Face The Choice Between What Is Right And What Is Easy

You have always had a dream to have your own business. You are passionate about showing people that your ideas can really make an impact on this world. In your spare time, you find yourself vividly imagining what it’d be like having your own little store. You even imagine painting the walls your favorite color. Yet, each day you wake up and find yourself in the same job you started after college. Were you ever even interested in this 9-to-5 job, doing the routine work every single day? Your friends keep telling you what a great and stable job you have. After all, you make a decent income, your co-workers are easy to work with, and the hours aren’t too bad. Still, you can’t shake the nagging suspicion that writing the same kind of reports all day isn’t really what you were meant to do with your life.

Watch out for what-ifs and to-dos.

As soon as you start to dream again, a list of what-ifs and to-dos rushes in. What if I quit my job and pursue my dream and it doesn’t work out? What if I’m not as good of a business person as I think I am? What if there are too many nice businesses out there already? As soon as there is a break in what-ifs, to-dos hurry to take their place. I probably have to go back to school. Would anyone take me seriously without any specific certificates? I definitely didn’t take any related classes in college. I’ve never even run my own business. I’d probably need to learn how to do that too! By the time you run through your list of uncertainties, that desk and computer screen are looking more and more comfortable. Safer. But will settling for the easiest path ever lead you to the life you truly want?

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Giving up when it’s difficult is not an option. Do what is right.

If you have read this far and started to feel guilty about putting your dreams on hold and taking the easiest path, consider this. In order to take risks and pursue your dreams, you must encourage yourself. Guilt will likely hold you back from pursuing what matters most to you. Instead of feeling guilty, see this article as a call to action. We all choose the easiest path instead of the right one from time to time. We all drift away from what matters most to us. What’s important is getting back on track as soon as we notice ourselves drifting.

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Every simple step leads to great success.

If your dream is to have your own business, consider taking some related courses online or at your local community college. Being around others who are passionate about expressing their own ideas will help fuel your dreams and keep you focused on your goal. Also, gaining momentum toward a goal is the hardest part. Once you’ve gained some confidence in your new field and met others who believe in your dream, the next steps will be easier. If you don’t have time to take a class right now, consider interviewing others who already have success in the field you’d like to enter. For instance, email some young entrepreneurs and ask if you can interview them about how they got started. Learning from others who have accomplished similar goals can save you time and energy, allowing you to learn from their mistakes without having to make the same ones yourself.

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Your dreams worth all the risks and effort.

Above all, remind yourself daily that your dreams, desires, and intuition matter. Do not let others be the deciding factor on whether you stay in a safe but unfulfilling job. Taking the path of least resistance will never lead to the life of your dreams. Realizing a dream involves risk and adventure, but that’s what makes it so worthwhile.

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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