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Why Complainers Are The Most Miserable Ones In The World

Why Complainers Are The Most Miserable Ones In The World

Maybe it was someone you worked with at a previous employer. Maybe it is someone you work with currently. Being around someone who always complains about everything in life can be exhausting. In fact, it is exhausting. Have you ever thought, “They have to be the most miserable person in the world?” Complainers are often very miserable, so here is why they are often the most miserable people in the world.

1. “I deserve more.”

This is often in the mindset of a complainer. They deserve more pay, more time, more this, more that. When you deal with a chronic complainer, you can bet you owe them something. You owe them stuff you never knew you owed them. They will often lack rationality and understanding of a situation. The Bottom Line: Don’t expect a complainer to be easy to please.

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2. “I deserve better.”

It may be better working conditions, better working schedules, better relationships, there is always something in the complainer’s mind that they deserve better. You could provide them with the best equipment, best cars, the best pay, the best homes, the best clothing, the best of everything, but they will always complain because they believe “they deserve better.” The Bottom Line: Don’t expect the complainers to be impressed with whatever you give them.

3. “It wasn’t my fault.”

It rarely is. In fact, it is rarely the complainers’ who have caused the issue at hand, in their minds. More times than not, the complainer never accepts responsibility for their actions or the consequences for their actions. So the copier at work suddenly quit working? Maybe the car is out of fuel. Either way, regardless of the circumstances, they will not see how it is their problem, or further more, their responsibility. The bottom line: Don’t expect a complainer to accept responsibility or own up to their mistakes.

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4. “I could have done it better.”

There are so many things to say about a chronic complainer. Can you imagine living a life with this mindset? Miserable is an understatement. Most of the time if you were to approach a complainer, you would hear them say how much better their ideas were. This may be the case, sometimes. The issue here is, they always see their ideas as the better alternatives. The Bottom Line: Don’t expect a complainer to accept the ideas of others. Their way is the only way, in their minds.

5. “If I can’t be happy, no one can be happy.”

A complainer, if not addressed promptly, can become a poisonous part of your team. Use caution and wisdom when dealing with them. The worst thing that could happen for your team, if a complainer is present, is if they infect other team members with their attitudes.

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6. “I don’t have to do that…” 

A complainer will often dictate what he/she will/will not do. They don’t abide by the rules, in their minds. When you approach someone on your staff who is constantly complaining, expect a hard, brick wall. Leadership will certainly be faced with challenges when dealing with someone who is a chronic complainer.

Did this sound negative? Maybe it sounded negative because of the mindset of those who are chronic complainers. Imagine living a life this miserable. I, as a former complainer, have found the solution to solving this major problem. Let’s face it: Complaining takes away a lot of the goodness in our lives. Grateful attitudes, contentment, and a positive outlook on life can change a complainer into a person with a great attitude.

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When dealing with a complainer, know they are miserable, first and foremost. Understand their may be some underlying issues leading up to their constant complaining.

Your attitude is contagious. Have a good attitude, display gratitude, and be positive!

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10 Ways To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone And Enjoy Taking Risks

10 Ways To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone And Enjoy Taking Risks

The ability to take risks by stepping outside your comfort zone is the primary way by which we grow. But we are often afraid to take that first step.

In truth, comfort zones are not really about comfort, they are about fear. Break the chains of fear to get outside. Once you do, you will learn to enjoy the process of taking risks and growing in the process.

Here are 10 ways to help you step out of your comfort zone and get closer to success:

1. Become aware of what’s outside of your comfort zone

What are the things that you believe are worth doing but are afraid of doing yourself because of the potential for disappointment or failure?

Draw a circle and write those things down outside the circle. This process will not only allow you to clearly identify your discomforts, but your comforts. Write identified comforts inside the circle.

2. Become clear about what you are aiming to overcome

Take the list of discomforts and go deeper. Remember, the primary emotion you are trying to overcome is fear.

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How does this fear apply uniquely to each situation? Be very specific.

Are you afraid of walking up to people and introducing yourself in social situations? Why? Is it because you are insecure about the sound of your voice? Are you insecure about your looks?

Or, are you afraid of being ignored?

3. Get comfortable with discomfort

One way to get outside of your comfort zone is to literally expand it. Make it a goal to avoid running away from discomfort.

Let’s stay with the theme of meeting people in social settings. If you start feeling a little panicked when talking to someone you’ve just met, try to stay with it a little longer than you normally would before retreating to comfort. If you stay long enough and practice often enough, it will start to become less uncomfortable.

4. See failure as a teacher

Many of us are so afraid of failure that we would rather do nothing than take a shot at our dreams.

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Begin to treat failure as a teacher. What did you learn from the experience? How can you take that lesson to your next adventure to increase your chance of success?

Many highly successful people failed plenty of times before they succeeded. Here’re some examples:

10 Famous Failures to Success Stories That Will Inspire You to Carry On

5. Take baby steps

Don’t try to jump outside your comfort zone, you will likely become overwhelmed and jump right back in.

Take small steps toward the fear you are trying to overcome. If you want to do public speaking, start by taking every opportunity to speak to small groups of people. You can even practice with family and friends.

Take a look at this article on how you can start taking baby steps:

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The Number One Secret to Life Success: Baby Steps

6. Hang out with risk takers

There is no substitute for this step. If you want to become better at something, you must start hanging out with the people who are doing what you want to do and start emulating them. (Here’re 8 Reasons Why Risk Takers Are More Likely To Be Successful).

Almost inevitably, their influence will start have an effect on your behavior.

7. Be honest with yourself when you are trying to make excuses

Don’t say “Oh, I just don’t have the time for this right now.” Instead, be honest and say “I am afraid to do this.”

Don’t make excuses, just be honest. You will be in a better place to confront what is truly bothering you and increase your chance of moving forward.

8. Identify how stepping out will benefit you

What will the ability to engage in public speaking do for your personal and professional growth? Keep these potential benefits in mind as motivations to push through fear.

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9. Don’t take yourself too seriously

Learn to laugh at yourself when you make mistakes. Risk taking will inevitably involve failure and setbacks that will sometimes make you look foolish to others. Be happy to roll with the punches when others poke fun.

If you aren’t convinced yet, check out these 6 Reasons Not to Take Life So Seriously.

10. Focus on the fun

Enjoy the process of stepping outside your safe boundaries. Enjoy the fun of discovering things about yourself that you may not have been aware of previously.

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