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Why Complainers Are The Most Miserable Ones In The World

Why Complainers Are The Most Miserable Ones In The World

Maybe it was someone you worked with at a previous employer. Maybe it is someone you work with currently. Being around someone who always complains about everything in life can be exhausting. In fact, it is exhausting. Have you ever thought, “They have to be the most miserable person in the world?” Complainers are often very miserable, so here is why they are often the most miserable people in the world.

1. “I deserve more.”

This is often in the mindset of a complainer. They deserve more pay, more time, more this, more that. When you deal with a chronic complainer, you can bet you owe them something. You owe them stuff you never knew you owed them. They will often lack rationality and understanding of a situation. The Bottom Line: Don’t expect a complainer to be easy to please.

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2. “I deserve better.”

It may be better working conditions, better working schedules, better relationships, there is always something in the complainer’s mind that they deserve better. You could provide them with the best equipment, best cars, the best pay, the best homes, the best clothing, the best of everything, but they will always complain because they believe “they deserve better.” The Bottom Line: Don’t expect the complainers to be impressed with whatever you give them.

3. “It wasn’t my fault.”

It rarely is. In fact, it is rarely the complainers’ who have caused the issue at hand, in their minds. More times than not, the complainer never accepts responsibility for their actions or the consequences for their actions. So the copier at work suddenly quit working? Maybe the car is out of fuel. Either way, regardless of the circumstances, they will not see how it is their problem, or further more, their responsibility. The bottom line: Don’t expect a complainer to accept responsibility or own up to their mistakes.

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4. “I could have done it better.”

There are so many things to say about a chronic complainer. Can you imagine living a life with this mindset? Miserable is an understatement. Most of the time if you were to approach a complainer, you would hear them say how much better their ideas were. This may be the case, sometimes. The issue here is, they always see their ideas as the better alternatives. The Bottom Line: Don’t expect a complainer to accept the ideas of others. Their way is the only way, in their minds.

5. “If I can’t be happy, no one can be happy.”

A complainer, if not addressed promptly, can become a poisonous part of your team. Use caution and wisdom when dealing with them. The worst thing that could happen for your team, if a complainer is present, is if they infect other team members with their attitudes.

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6. “I don’t have to do that…” 

A complainer will often dictate what he/she will/will not do. They don’t abide by the rules, in their minds. When you approach someone on your staff who is constantly complaining, expect a hard, brick wall. Leadership will certainly be faced with challenges when dealing with someone who is a chronic complainer.

Did this sound negative? Maybe it sounded negative because of the mindset of those who are chronic complainers. Imagine living a life this miserable. I, as a former complainer, have found the solution to solving this major problem. Let’s face it: Complaining takes away a lot of the goodness in our lives. Grateful attitudes, contentment, and a positive outlook on life can change a complainer into a person with a great attitude.

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When dealing with a complainer, know they are miserable, first and foremost. Understand their may be some underlying issues leading up to their constant complaining.

Your attitude is contagious. Have a good attitude, display gratitude, and be positive!

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Last Updated on December 10, 2019

5 Smart Reasons to Start Journal Writing Today

5 Smart Reasons to Start Journal Writing Today

Here’s the truth: your effectiveness at life is not what it could be. You’re missing out.

Each day passes by and you have nothing to prove that it even happened. Did you achieve something? Go on a date? Have an emotional breakthrough? Who knows?

But what you do know is that you don’t want to make the same mistakes that you’ve made in the past.

Our lives are full of hidden gems of knowledge and insight, and the most recent events in our lives contain the most useful gems of all. Do you know why? It’s simple, those hidden lessons are the most up to date, meaning they have the largest impact on what we’re doing right now.

But the question is, how do you get those lessons? There’s a simple way to do it, and it doesn’t involve time machines:

Journal writing.

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Improved mental clarity, the ability to see our lives in the big picture, as well as serving as a piece of evidence cataloguing every success we’ve ever had; we are provided all of the above and more by doing some journal writing.

Journal writing is a useful and flexible tool to help shed light on achieving your goals.

Here’s 5 smart reasons why you should do journal writing:

1. Journals Help You Have a Better Connection with Your Values, Emotions, and Goals

By journaling about what you believe in, why you believe it, how you feel, and what your goals are, you understand your relationships with these things better. This is because you must sort through the mental clutter and provide details on why you do what you do and feel what you feel.

Consider this:

Perhaps you’ve spent the last year or so working at a job you don’t like. It would be easy to just suck it up and keep working with your head down, going on as if it’s supposed to be normal to not like your job. Nobody else is complaining, so why should you, right?

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But a little journal writing will set things straight for you. You don’t like your job. You feel like it’s robbing you of happiness and satisfaction, and you don’t see yourself better there in the future.

The other workers? Maybe they don’t know, maybe they don’t care. But you do, you know and care enough to do something about it. And you’re capable of fixing this problem because your journal writing allows you to finally be honest with yourself about it.

2. Journals Improve Mental Clarity and Help Improve Your Focus

If there’s one thing journal writing is good for, it’s clearing the mental clutter.

How does it work? Simply, whenever you have a problem and write about it in a journal, you transfer the problem from your head to the paper. This empties the mind, allowing allocation of precious resources to problem-solving rather than problem-storing.

Let’s say you’ve been juggling several tasks at work. You’ve got data entry, testing, e-mails, problems with the boss, and so on—enough to overwhelm you—but as you start journal writing, things become clearer and easier to understand: Data entry can actually wait till Thursday; Bill kindly offered earlier to do my testing; For e-mails, I can check them now; the boss is just upset because Becky called in sick, etc.

You become better able to focus and reason your tasks out, and this is an indispensable and useful skill to have.

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3. Journals Improve Insight and Understanding

As a positive consequence of improving your mental clarity, you become more open to insights you may have missed before. As you write your notes out, you’re essentially having a dialogue with yourself. This draws out insights that you would have missed otherwise; it’s almost as if two people are working together to better understand each other. This kind of insight is only available to the person who has taken the time to connect with and understand themselves in the form of writing.

Once you’ve gotten a few entries written down, new insights can be gleaned from reading over them. What themes do you see in your life? Do you keep switching goals halfway through? Are you constantly dating the same type of people who aren’t good for you? Have you slowly but surely pushed people out of your life for fear of being hurt?

All of these questions can be answered by simply self-reflecting, but you can only discover the answers if you’ve captured them in writing. These questions are going to be tough to answer without a journal of your actions and experiences.

4. Journals Track Your Overall Development

Life happens, and it can happen fast. Sometimes we don’t take the time to stop and look around at what’s happening to us at each moment. We don’t get to see the step-by-step progress that we’re making in our own lives. So what happens? One day it’s the future, and you have no idea how you’ve gotten there.

Journal writing allows you to see how you’ve changed over time, so you can see where you did things right, and you can see where you took a misstep and fell.

The great thing about journals is that you’ll know what that misstep was, and you can make sure it doesn’t happen again—all because you made sure to log it, allowing yourself to learn from your mistakes.

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5. Journals Facilitate Personal Growth

The best thing about journal writing is that no matter what you end up writing about, it’s hard to not grow from it. You can’t just look at a past entry in which you acted shamefully and say “that was dumb, anyway!” No, we say “I will never make a dumb choice like that again!”

It’s impossible not to grow when it comes to journal writing. That’s what makes journal writing such a powerful tool, whether it’s about achieving goals, becoming a better person, or just general personal-development. No matter what you use it for, you’ll eventually see yourself growing as a person.

Kickstart Journaling

How can journaling best be of use to you? To vent your emotions? To help achieve your goals? To help clear your mind? What do you think makes journaling such a useful life skill?

Know the answer? Then it’s about time you reap the benefits of journal writing and start putting pen to paper.

Here’s what you can do to start journaling:

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