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Cry Decoder: Why Exactly Is Your Baby Crying?

Cry Decoder: Why Exactly Is Your Baby Crying?

Why is your baby crying? This has to be the most frequently asked question amongst new parents. Although I’ve never had to take full-time care of an infant, as the eldest of three I am all too aware of how confusing a babies’ cries can be. It’d be incredible if they could simply tell you what’s wrong or hold up a cue card, but unfortunately that isn’t possible, as far as I’m aware. Thankfully, there is another way you can decipher what exactly your crying baby is trying to tell you: Baby Center’s Cry Decoder.

All you have to do is fill in the Cry Decoder test to gain a little extra perspective on what your baby could be crying over, and to give you an extra helping hand, we’ve collected everything you need to know in one handy guide:

Your Baby Is Hungry

Baby’s Cry is: Repetitive, loud and bordering on frantic.

“Your baby’s hunger cries are repetitive and don’t let up until he gets what he wants – the breast or a bottle. Then they’ll stop completely,” Seattle pediatrician Wendy Sue Swanson tells Baby Center. “Parents get to know what this cry sounds like pretty quick.”

Occasionally, a crying baby can become so overwhelmed that when they attempt to nurse or take a bottle they take in air, which can lead to additional crying. Over time, you will be able to recognise your baby’s ‘hungry’ cry early on so they don’t get too irritable.

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Other Clues Your Baby Is Hungry:

  • Smacking lips
  • Rooting
  • Putting their hands up to their mouth

Your Baby Needs To Be Burped

Baby’s Cry: Piercing, intense screams after eating.

This one’s a little easier to decode. After eating, your baby may suffer from tummy pains, which will probably cause them – and you – some fuss. To burp your baby, simply give them small, repeated pats on the back but remember to place a cloth on your shoulder in case there’s spit-up.

If your baby is particularly difficult to burp or has frequent episodes, you may want to try some over-the-counter anti-gas drops. “There isn’t much data to support their use, but there’s no harm in using them as directed,” says Swanson. However, we recommend you check with your doctor beforehand.

Other Clues Your Baby Needs To Be Burped:

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  • Bringing their knees up to their chest

Your Baby Is Overstimulated

Baby’s Cry: Inconsistent, may include laughter.

Everything is a little overwhelming when we first come into the world. Noises, lights, and new people: they’re all enjoyable for a little while, but after a prolonged amount of time your baby may become overstimulated. Alternating between laughter and crying may be your babies’ way of telling you they’re having difficulty processing all these new things, and they’ve had enough for now.

Most babies enjoy being swaddled, however if your babies too old or isn’t keen on the idea taking them to a calm place will allow them to calm down.

Other Clues Your Baby Is Overstimulated:

  • Turning their head away from interesting sights and sounds

Your Baby Is Tired And Needs To Go Back To Sleep

Baby’s Cry: Soft, inconsistent.

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“Some babies have sleepy days,” says Swanson. “They may be growing or just extra tired.” Due to the fact you can’t really prepare for a sleepy cry, many parents don’t expect it. Regardless of when your baby last slept, if their cry is soft and inconsistent they may be in need of a rest.

Other Clues Your Baby Is Tired And Needs To Go Back To Sleep:

  • Rubbing their eyes
  • Crying whilst their eyes close
  • Yawning

Your Baby Doesn’t Feel Well

Baby’s Cry: Different from regular crying, unusual.

Your babies’ cry will probably be very different to their regular cry when they’re ill, so if they don’t sound right or they’re inconsolable it may be time to visit the doctor.

Other Clues Your Baby Doesn’t Feel Well:

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  • Has a fever
  • Isn’t hungry
  • Difficult To Wake
  • Isn’t using the usual amount of diapers
  • Isn’t behaving as he normally would

Your Baby Has Colic

Baby’s Cry: Strong and steady, reoccurs every day and continues for hours.

Colic refers to excessive crying in healthy babies. If your baby is younger than five months old and can cry for extended periods of time, usually around the same time of day, chances are they’re colicky. It isn’t a disease and won’t harm your baby, but it’s difficult. Colic can cause your babies’ stomach to appear enlarged and they extend or pull up their legs to pass gas whilst they cry.

“These cries can be intense for babies as well as parents,” says Swanson. “Remember that when you get tired or frustrated from your baby’s cries, it’s perfectly okay to put your baby down in a safe place and walk away for a few minutes to get a break.”

Fortunately, colic isn’t permanent and tends to last around six weeks before improving.

Featured photo credit: Baby Boy Pixabay via pixabay.com

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Published on December 14, 2018

14 Helpful Tips for Single Parents: How to Stay Sane While Doing it All

14 Helpful Tips for Single Parents: How to Stay Sane While Doing it All

According to the U.S. Census Bureau, over 27% of children under the age of 18 are living with a single parent.[1] That’s over 1/4th of the U.S. population.There is a common misconception that children who grow up in single parent homes are not as successful as children living in two-parent homes.

One crucial detail that was often left out of studies when comparing single and two-parent homes was the stability of the household. There is a correlation between family structure and family stability, but this study shows that children who grow up in stable single-parent homes do as well as those in married households in terms of academic abilities and behavior.

But providing stability is easier said than done. With only one adult to act as a parent, some tasks are inherently more challenging. However, there are a few helpful things you can do to make the parenting journey a little easier for yourself and stay sane while doing it.

1. Don’t Neglect Self-Care

Before anything else can be done, you must be caring for your own needs adequately. Only when you are feeling well-rested and healthy can you be at your best for your children.

Many parents tend to put their kids’ needs first and their owns last, but that will result in a never-ending cycle of exhaustion and feelings of inadequacy. Make time to eat regularly and healthfully, get plenty of rest, and squeeze in exercise whenever you can. Even a short walk around the neighborhood will help your body get much-needed movement and fresh air.

Your children depend on you, and it’s up to you to make sure that you are well-equipped and ready to take on that responsibility.

2. Join Forces with Other Single Parents

At times, it may seem like you’re the only person who knows what it’s like to be a single parent. However, the statistics say that there are many others who know exactly what you’re going through.

Find single parents locally, through your kid’s school, extracurricular activities, or even an app. There are also numerous online communities that can offer support and advice, through Facebook or sites like Single Mom Nation.

Although single moms make up the majority of single parents, there are more than 2.6 million single dads in the U.S. A great way to connect is through Meetup. Other single parents will more than happy to arrange babysitting swaps, playdates, and carpools.

Join forces in order to form mutually beneficial relationships.

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3. Build a Community

In addition to finding support with other single parents, also build a community comprised of families of all different types. Rather than focus solely on the single parent aspect of your identity, look for parents and kids who share other things in common.

Join a playgroup, get plugged in at a church, or get to know the parents of the kids involved in the same extracurricular activities. Having a community of a variety of people and families will bring diversity and excitement into your and your kids’ lives.

4. Accept Help

Don’t try to be a superhero and do it all yourself. There are probably people in your life who care about you and your kids and want to help you. Let them know what types of things would be most appreciated, whether it’s bringing meals once a week, helping with rides to school, or giving you time to yourself.

There is no shame in asking for help and accepting assistance from loved ones. You will not be perceived as weak or incompetent. You are being a good parent by being resourceful and allowing others to give you a much-needed break.

5. Get Creative with Childcare

Raising a child on a single income is a challenge, with the high cost of daycares, nannies, and other conventional childcare services. More affordable options are possible if you go a less traditional route.

If you have space and live in a college town, offer a college student housing in exchange for regular childcare. Or swap kids with other single parents so that your kids have friends to play with while the parents get time to themselves.

When I was younger, my parents had a group of five family friends, and all of the children would rotate to a different house each day of the week, during the summer months. The kids would have a great time playing with each other, and the parents’ job becomes a lot easier. That’s what you would call a win-win situation.

6. Plan Ahead for Emergencies

As a single parent, a backup plan or two is a must in emergency situations. Make a list of people you know you can call in a moment’s notice. There will be times in which you need help, and it’s important to know ahead of time who you can rely on.

Look into whether or not your area offers emergency babysitting services or a drop-in daycare. Knowing who will be able to care for your child in the event of an emergency can relieve one potential source of anxiety in stressful situations.

7. Create a Routine

Routines are crucial for young children because knowing what to expect gives them a semblance of control. This is even more important when in a single parent home.

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If the child travels between homes or has multiple caretakers, life can seem extremely chaotic and unpredictable. Establish a routine and schedule for your child as much as possible. This can include bedtime, before/after school, chores, meal times, and even a weekend routine.

Having a routine does not mean things cannot change. It is merely a default schedule to fall back on when no additional events or activities are going on. When your children know what to expect, they will be less resistant because they know what to expect, and days will run much more smoothly.

8. Be Consistent with Rules and Discipline

If your child has multiple caretakers, such as another parent, grandparent, or babysitter, communicate clearly on how discipline will be handled. Talk to your ex, if you are sharing custody, as well as any other caretakers about the rules and the agreed-upon approach to discipline.

When a child realizes that certain rules can be bent with certain people, he/she will use it to their advantage, causing additional issues with limits, behavior, and discipline down the road.

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9. Stay Positive

Everyone has heard the saying, “Mind over matter.” But there really is so much power behind your mentality. It can change your perspective and make a difficult situation so much better.

Your kids will be able to detect even the smallest shift in your attitude. When the responsibilities of motherhood are overwhelming, stay focused on the positive things in your life, such as your friends and family. This will produce a much more stable home environment.

Maintain your sense of humor and don’t be afraid to be silly. Look towards the future and the great things that are still to come for you and your family. Rediscover and redefine your family values.

10. Move Past the Guilt

In a single parent home, it is impossible to act as both parents, regardless of how hard you try. Let go of the things that you cannot do as a single parent, and instead, think of the great things you ARE able to provide for your children.

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Leave behind the notion that life would be easier or better with two parents. This is simply not true. There is a multitude of pros and cons to all family dynamics, and the one you are providing for your kids now is the one that they need.

Don’t get bogged down by guilt or regret. Take control of your life and be the best parent you can by being present and engaged with them on a daily basis.

11. Answer Questions Honestly

Your kids may have questions about why their home situation is different from many of their friends. When asked, don’t sugarcoat the situation or give them an answer that is not accurate.

Depending on their age, take this opportunity to explain the truth of what happened and how the current circumstances came about. Not all families have two parents, whether that is due to divorce, death, or whatever else life brings.

Don’t give more detail than necessary or talk badly about the other parent. But strive to be truthful and honest. Your children will benefit more from your candor than a made-up story.

12. Treat Kids Like Kids

In the absence of a partner, it can be tempting to rely on your children for comfort, companionship, or sympathy. But your kids are not equipped to play this role for you.

There are many details within an adult relationship that children are not able to understand or process, and it will only cause confusion and resentment.

Do not take out your anger on your kids. Separate your emotional needs from your role as a mother. If you find yourself depending on your kids too much, look for adult friends or family members that you can talk to about your issues.

13. Find Role Models

Find positive role models of the opposite sex for your child. It’s crucial that your child does not form negative associations with an entire gender of people.

Find close friends or family members that would be willing to spend one-on-one time with your kids. Encourage them to form meaningful relationships with people that you trust and that they can look up to.

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Role models can make a huge difference in the path that a child decides to take, so be intentional about the ones that you put in your kids’ lives.

14. Be Affectionate and Give Praise

Your children need your affection and praise on a daily basis. Engage with your kids as often as possible by playing with them, going on outings, and encouraging open dialogue.

Affirm them in the things that they are doing well, no matter how small. Praise their efforts, rather than their achievements. This will inspire them to continue to put forth hard work and not give up when success is not achieved.

Rather than spending money on gifts, spend time and effort in making lasting memories.

Final Thoughts

Being a single parent is a challenging responsibility to take on. Without the help of a partner to fall back on, single parents have a lot more to take on.

However, studies show that growing up in a single parent home does not have a negative effect on achievement in school. As long as the family is a stable and safe environment, kids are able to excel and do well in life.

Use these tips in order to be a reliable and capable parent for your kids, while maintaining your own well-being and sanity.

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