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If You Want Good Things to Happen in Your Life, Read This

If You Want Good Things to Happen in Your Life, Read This

We all want to live the best life we possibly can. Some of us feel tied down by our circumstances, and most of us have resigned to the fact that we’ll never be multimillionaires. But that doesn’t mean each of us as individuals can’t make the absolute most out of what we were given. Nothing will ever come to you if you only wish it to be true. If we want to live fulfilled lives, we have to know that we deserve it, then go earn it.

1. Think positive.

Before you can even get yourself motivated to start working toward a goal, you have to begin with a positive mindset. Know that you can accomplish what you’re setting out to do, regardless of how long it takes or how difficult the task is. Remind yourself that you’re doing what you’re doing for a reason. Whether it be a monetary reward, personal growth, or simply to prove to yourself and others you could accomplish the task, begin with the end in mind to keep yourself thinking of where you’re headed, and where you will eventually end up.

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2. Treat others well.

We’ve all heard the saying “Nice guys finish last,” and we’ve all seen the stereotypical CEO millionaire who acts like a jerk to everyone around them. But in truth, that CEO probably goes home to a giant mansion that’s either completely empty, or filled with a family he never has time to enjoy. Treating others kindly along your path to success is of utmost importance. You don’t want to get to the top of the mountain and realize you’re the only one there. Make sure to give others a boost on your way to the top, and you’ll find the climb much more enjoyable.

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3. Put your all into everything you do.

You’ll never get anywhere by putting anything less than your full effort into all you set out to accomplish. Dedicate yourself wholeheartedly to your goals. In today’s busy and competitive world, not putting forth your best effort can be disastrous. Think of the story of the Tortoise and the Hare: If you stop along your path to success, someone will come from behind and snatch it right away from you. It may be difficult at times to forge ahead, but again, keep the end in mind, and you’ll find the drive you need to keep moving.

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4. Keep climbing.

The thing with success is, you’ll only be satisfied for a short period of time after reaching your initial goal. When you finally get there, you’ll realize you want to keep going even farther. Think of Olympic runner Usain Bolt. I’m sure he felt accomplished after setting world record after world record. But he didn’t stop running, and certainly didn’t stop trying to beat his own previous best times. Once you hit your first goal, take stock of what you’ve accomplished, and set the bar even higher. The only limit to the amount of success you can accomplish is the one you set for yourself.

5. Follow your heart and dreams.

If the path you’re on isn’t your own path, you’ll never find success. Don’t just follow in your parents’ footsteps because you think you have to. Don’t take a job that’s meaningless to you and expect meaning to one day come to it. Do what makes you happy. Circumstances may get in the way of you finding the perfect job right now, but that doesn’t mean you can’t hone your skills in your free time to make yourself a better candidate for when that position does open up. If your idea of success is raising a loving, caring family, don’t think that working 12 hour days to support them will help; chances are, it will just drag you further away from what you really want. When you figure out what you really want in life, you’ll find ways to make your circumstances work for you, instead of the other way around.

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Last Updated on October 22, 2020

11 Tips for Maintaining a Positive Attitude Every Day

11 Tips for Maintaining a Positive Attitude Every Day

Maintaining a positive attitude is critical when you want to achieve anything or simply improve the quality of your life. Most success literature will talk about the power of positive thinking and how important it is, but it’s often easier said than done.

In this article, you’ll find 11 tips for maintaining your positive attitude no matter what’s going on in your life.

1. You Determine Your Reality

It’s important to realize that you determine your reality by the way you react to the outside world. When something happens, you get to choose whether it’s a positive or negative situation and react accordingly.

For example, if you lose your job, your first reaction will likely be one of anger, frustration, and hopelessness. However, what if you were able to turn those emotions around and look at that experience as an opportunity.

You now have the chance to find a job where you will be able to learn new skills and perhaps even be happier. And in the meantime, you have some free time to analyze what direction you want the next stage of your life to go in.

2. Start Your Day Strong

Most people have to drag themselves out of bed, and this sets a negative state of mind for their entire day. Positive people create a long-term morning ritual that reinforces how great life is and how happy they are to be alive.

I used to wake up and immediately turn on Bon Jovi’s “It’s My Life to get me into a positive mood. Now I start my day by reading or listening to something positive. Whether you have 1 minute, 15 minutes, or an hour to dedicate to your ritual, you can start the day in a way that helps you feel relaxed and ready for the day ahead.

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Cultivate a positive attitude with a great morning routine.

    3. Exercise Is the Natural Feel-Good Drug

    Exercise is a great way to maintain a good attitude because of all the positive chemicals it releases into the bloodstream.

    One study found that between groups who participated in high-intensity interval training, moderate continuous training, and no exercise, those in the second group experienced the greatest drop in depressive symptoms and stress[1]. Therefore, if you’re looking to exercise to help you feel good, get your heart rate up, but don’t push too hard or you may increase overall stress.

    Also, remember that exercise can include many activities. If you don’t like running, try dancing or kickboxing instead. Put on some upbeat music to kick up the positive vibes even more.

    4. Use Books, Audio and Videos to Overload Your Brain with Positivity

    There are millions of amazing books, podcasts, and videos for you to absorb from people who are inspiring and living the life of their dreams. Tap into their positive emotions and their experience by learning how they think and what they do to create the lives they want.

    You can do this in the morning or while exercising, eating, commuting, cooking, cleaning… there’s always time for positivity.

    5. Your Language Shapes Your Thoughts

    Little changes in your language can change the way you think and how you act. Whenever someone greets you and asks how you’re doing, do you answer with “fine” or “not too bad”? Think about just what this language is communicating to others… and yourself.

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    I always answer with “great,” “fantastic,” or “amazing.” Not only does this remind me that life really is great, but it usually helps the other person shift toward a positive attitude as well.

    Also, take some time to look at the way your inner voice talks to you. Is that language positive or negative? If it’s overly critical or negative, it may be time to tap into some mindfulness meditation in order to shift your inner critic to an inner cheerleader.

    6. Hang out With Positive People

    It is often said that you will have a similar level of health, income and lifestyle as the five people you spend the most time with.

    So if you want to be fit, then start to hang out with fit people. Want to start a business? Then hang out with business owners. And if you want to be positive, make sure you’re hanging out with positive people[2].

    7. Show Your Appreciation for Others

    By appreciating others for a job well done, their outfit, or their smile, you start to cause a positive chain reaction. Stop complaining and focus on all the good others are doing around you.

    Don’t you feel great when you receive a compliment from someone else? Well, if you want to receive more, then start giving them out and watch what happens to the people around you.

    One particular study found that people who sent letters of gratitude experienced significant increases in happiness scores[3]. If you don’t feel like writing a letter, send a nice text to someone who recently helped you out, or send an email thanking your coworker for always helping pick up the slack around the office. Whatever it is, take some time to show gratitude.

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    8. Garbage In, Garbage Out

    This is an expression from programming where the result is only as good as the input. If you’re feeding yourself with negativity all day long, then it’s pretty obvious you’re going to be feeling negative as well.

    A great deal of the media thrives on negativity. Put yourself on a negativity diet (including people) and watch how much easier it is to maintain your positive attitude.

    9. Stop Negative Thoughts in Their Tracks

    It’s hard to be a constantly positive person, and negative thoughts are going to bubble up from time to time. These will be more frequent in the beginning but can decrease as you practice the tips we’re talking about. When you start to notice negative thoughts, you can use a pattern interrupt to stop them in their tracks.

    The idea is to interrupt your current thought pattern and shift to a more positive outlook. One way to do this is to set a visual or auditory cue. It can be something as simple as a bracelet you wear each day or the sound of a car passing outside your window. Whenever you see or hear the cue, use it to shift your thoughts to something positive.

    You can learn more on how to shift your mindset and negative attitudes in the following video:

    10. Live With Gratitude

    So many positive things happen during our day, and we often ignore them while letting one negative comment or event ruin our mood. It can help to keep a gratitude journal where you jot down things you are grateful for each night or during the day.

    If you’re reading this, then you probably live with a roof over your head and food in your belly, which is a daily struggle for a large portion of the world. However, we often take these things for granted and don’t realize just how great we have it.

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    Try refocusing your thoughts towards everything you do have instead of what you don’t. One study found that reflecting on past experiences with a sense of gratitude can lead to increases in both hope and happiness[4]. That’s a great reason to give it a go today.

    You can find more ways to practice gratitude in this article.

    11. Recharge Your Batteries

    One key to adopting a positive attitude is taking the time to recharge your batteries. This might mean taking a few hours on the weekend to read a positive book or taking a few weeks for a holiday.

    If you’re not in the position to travel, you can take a staycation, or have a “home holiday” where you simply switch off from the outside world and spend time doing things you love.

    Final Thoughts

    You now have 11 tips for maintaining your positive attitude, but they are no use to you unless you implement them into your life.

    Start small, and pick the easiest tip or the one that you really love and introduce it into your life starting right now. Then, over time, start implementing the other tips and watch your positivity soar.

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