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If You Want Good Things to Happen in Your Life, Read This

If You Want Good Things to Happen in Your Life, Read This

We all want to live the best life we possibly can. Some of us feel tied down by our circumstances, and most of us have resigned to the fact that we’ll never be multimillionaires. But that doesn’t mean each of us as individuals can’t make the absolute most out of what we were given. Nothing will ever come to you if you only wish it to be true. If we want to live fulfilled lives, we have to know that we deserve it, then go earn it.

1. Think positive.

Before you can even get yourself motivated to start working toward a goal, you have to begin with a positive mindset. Know that you can accomplish what you’re setting out to do, regardless of how long it takes or how difficult the task is. Remind yourself that you’re doing what you’re doing for a reason. Whether it be a monetary reward, personal growth, or simply to prove to yourself and others you could accomplish the task, begin with the end in mind to keep yourself thinking of where you’re headed, and where you will eventually end up.

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2. Treat others well.

We’ve all heard the saying “Nice guys finish last,” and we’ve all seen the stereotypical CEO millionaire who acts like a jerk to everyone around them. But in truth, that CEO probably goes home to a giant mansion that’s either completely empty, or filled with a family he never has time to enjoy. Treating others kindly along your path to success is of utmost importance. You don’t want to get to the top of the mountain and realize you’re the only one there. Make sure to give others a boost on your way to the top, and you’ll find the climb much more enjoyable.

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3. Put your all into everything you do.

You’ll never get anywhere by putting anything less than your full effort into all you set out to accomplish. Dedicate yourself wholeheartedly to your goals. In today’s busy and competitive world, not putting forth your best effort can be disastrous. Think of the story of the Tortoise and the Hare: If you stop along your path to success, someone will come from behind and snatch it right away from you. It may be difficult at times to forge ahead, but again, keep the end in mind, and you’ll find the drive you need to keep moving.

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4. Keep climbing.

The thing with success is, you’ll only be satisfied for a short period of time after reaching your initial goal. When you finally get there, you’ll realize you want to keep going even farther. Think of Olympic runner Usain Bolt. I’m sure he felt accomplished after setting world record after world record. But he didn’t stop running, and certainly didn’t stop trying to beat his own previous best times. Once you hit your first goal, take stock of what you’ve accomplished, and set the bar even higher. The only limit to the amount of success you can accomplish is the one you set for yourself.

5. Follow your heart and dreams.

If the path you’re on isn’t your own path, you’ll never find success. Don’t just follow in your parents’ footsteps because you think you have to. Don’t take a job that’s meaningless to you and expect meaning to one day come to it. Do what makes you happy. Circumstances may get in the way of you finding the perfect job right now, but that doesn’t mean you can’t hone your skills in your free time to make yourself a better candidate for when that position does open up. If your idea of success is raising a loving, caring family, don’t think that working 12 hour days to support them will help; chances are, it will just drag you further away from what you really want. When you figure out what you really want in life, you’ll find ways to make your circumstances work for you, instead of the other way around.

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Last Updated on July 16, 2019

7 Ways to Get Rid of Negative Energy and Become Positive

7 Ways to Get Rid of Negative Energy and Become Positive

Negativity affects ourselves and everyone around us. It limits our potential to become something great and live a fulfilling, purposeful life. Negativity has a tangible effect on our health, too. Research has shown that people who cultivate negative energy experience more stress, more sickness, and less opportunity over the course of their lives than those who choose to live positively.

When we make a decision to become positive, and follow that decision up with action, we will begin to encounter situations and people that are also positive. The negative energy gets edged out by all positive experiences. It’s a snowball effect.

Although negative and positive thoughts will always exist, the key to becoming positive is to limit the amount of negativity that we experience by filling ourselves up with more positivity.

Here are some ways to get rid of negativity and become more positive.

1. Become Grateful for Everything

When life is all about us, it’s easy to believe that we deserve what we have. An attitude of entitlement puts us at the center of the universe and sets up the unrealistic expectation that others should cater to us, our needs, and our wants. This vain state of existence is a surefire way to set yourself up for an unfulfilled life of negativity.

People living in this sort of entitlement are “energy suckers”–they are always searching for what they can get out of a situation. People that don’t appreciate the nuances of their lives live in a constant state of lacking. And it’s really difficult to live a positive life this way.

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When we begin to be grateful and appreciate everything in our lives–from the small struggles that make us better, to the car that gets us from A to B every day–we shift our attitude from one of selfishness, to one of appreciation. This appreciation gets noticed by others, and a positive harmony begins to form in our relationships.

We begin to receive more of that which we are grateful for, because we’ve opened ourselves up to the idea of receiving, instead of taking. This will make your life more fulfilling, and more positive.

2. Laugh More, Especially at Yourself

Life gets busy, our schedules fill up, we get into relationships, and work can feel task oriented and routine-driven at times. Being human can feel more like being a robot. But having this work-driven, serious attitude often results in negative and performance oriented thinking.

Becoming positive means taking life less seriously and letting yourself off the hook. This is the only life that you get to live, why not lighten up your mood?

Laughter helps us become positive by lightening our mood and reminding us not to take life so seriously. Are you sensitive to light sarcasm? Do you have trouble laughing at jokes? Usually, people who are stressed out and overly serious get most offended by sarcasm because their life is all work and no play.

If we can learn to laugh at ourselves and our mistakes, life will become more of an experiment in finding out what makes us happy. And finding happiness means finding positivity.

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3. Help Others

Negativity goes hand in hand with selfishness. People that live only for themselves have no higher purpose in their lives. If the whole point of this world is only to take care of yourself and no one else, the road to a long-term fulfillment and purpose is going to be a long one.

Positivity accompanies purpose. The most basic way to create purpose and positivity in your life is to begin doing things for others. Start small; open the door for the person in front of you at Starbucks or ask someone how their day was before telling them about yours.

Helping others will give you an intangible sense of value that will translate into positivity. And people might just appreciate you in the process.

4. Change Your Thinking

We can either be our best coach or our best enemy. Change starts from within. If you want to become more positive, change the wording of your thoughts. We are the hardest on ourselves, and a stream of negative self talk is corrosive to a positive life.

The next time you have a negative thought, write it down and rephrase it with a positive spin. For example, change a thought like, “I can’t believe I did so horribly on the test–I suck.” to “I didn’t do as well as I hoped to on this test. But I know I’m capable and I’ll do better next time.”

Changing our self-talk is powerful.

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5. Surround Yourself with Positive People

We become most like the people that we surround ourselves with. If our friend group is full of negative energy-suckers and drama queens, we will emulate that behavior and become like them. It is very difficult to become more positive when the people around us don’t support or demonstrate positive behavior.

As you become more positive, you’ll find that your existing friends will either appreciate the new you or they will become resistant to your positive changes. This is a natural response.

Change is scary; but cutting out the negative people in your life is a huge step to becoming more positive. Positive people reflect and bounce their perspectives onto one another. Positivity is a step-by-step process when you do it solo, but a positive group of friends can be an escalator.

6. Get into Action

Negative thoughts can be overwhelming and challenging to navigate. Negativity is usually accompanied by a “freak-out” response, especially when tied to relationships, people and to worrying about the future. This is debilitating to becoming positive and usually snowballs into more worry, more stress and more freak-outs.

Turn the negative stress into positive action. The next time you’re in one of these situations, walk away and take a break. With your eyes closed, take a few deep breaths. Once you’re calm, approach the situation or problem with a pen and pad of paper. Write out four or five actions or solutions to begin solving the problem.

Taking yourself out of the emotionally charged negative by moving into the action-oriented positive will help you solve more problems rationally and live in positivity

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7. Take Full Responsibility, Stop Being the Victim

You are responsible for your thoughts.

People that consistently believe that things happen to them handicap themselves to a victim mentality. This is a subtle and deceptive negative thought pattern. Phrases like “I have to work” or “I can’t believe he did that to me” are indicators of a victim mentality. Blaming circumstances and blaming others only handicaps our decision to change something negative into something positive.

Taking full responsibility for your life, your thoughts and your actions is one of the biggest steps in creating a more positive life. We have unlimited potential within to create our own reality, change our life, and change our thoughts. When we begin to really internalize this, we discover that no one can make us feel or do anything. We choose our emotional and behavioral response to people and circumstances.

Make positive choices in favor of yourself.

“Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habit. Watch your habits; they become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny” ― Lao Tzu

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