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10 Reasons The Youngest Child Is Always Likeable

10 Reasons The Youngest Child Is Always Likeable

Everybody who has siblings knows that the oldest one always makes the rules, the middle one is the reason why there are rules in the first place, and that the rules do not apply to the youngest. Being the youngest of three, I can’t agree with this more. While every sibling has traits that make them stand out, the youngest child is almost always a fan favorite.

1. They are quirky

Being the youngest of the bunch usually comes with the “privilege” of getting hand-me-downs, which usually throws all chances of having a fashion sense out the window. While this may seem like such a downer, it helps the youngest not worry too much about appearances. They may develop a quirky fashion sense that makes them their own person.

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2. They are trustworthy

As much as siblings like to argue and fight, they share an inseparable bond that you simply can not have with any other person. With this bond comes great responsibility. You may be the bearer of a few secrets that your siblings may have entrusted you with. You would not let those secrets out, even if it meant the end of the world. Being trusted like this by older siblings at a young age will carry into adulthood.

3. They tend to be funnier

…and there is research to prove it. The older sibling is said to feel more responsibility than their younger counterparts. With the responsibility not falling on them, the younger sibling tends to feel more relaxed, lighthearted, and able to see the humor in situations that the older sibling(s) may overlook.

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4. They learn how to keep to themselves

While the older sibling(s) may feel the need to compete for attention, the younger sibling is simply okay with blending into the crowd when the time calls for it. Younger siblings have become so familiar with being brushed off by older siblings, and sometimes parents, that they learn to keep to themselves and to be content with this.

5. They are naturally good listeners

Throughout the course of their life, the younger sibling has numerous parents, siblings, family members, teachers, and other various elders wanting to share wisdom, advice, and stories, whether they want to hear them or not. For the sake of not coming across as rude, they learn to listen to what everybody has to say to them, and as they get older they look forward to this because they don’t want to miss out on anything good!

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6. They are usually more outgoing than their older siblings

This is another good point that is backed by research. It goes back to the feeling of responsibility that the older sibling(s) may feel. With less to worry about around the house, the younger sibling can appear to be more outgoing than the older ones.

7. They are more creative than their older siblings

While studies show that older siblings tend to have higher IQ’s, the younger ones are usually more creative.The reason behind this is that the parents may be less likely to give the youngest as much attention towards their education as they did to their first or even second-born. While this may sound negative, it has its advantages in the creativity department. This gives the youngest the opportunity to think outside of the box. Also, if you remember from the beginning, the rules don’t apply to the youngest sibling. They have a healthy disregard for the rules. This sense of freedom is what helps mold the creative minds of the younger sibling.

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8. They learn from other people’s mistakes more than from their own

Younger siblings always look up to their older brothers and sisters, whether the example set be good or bad. When the times are bad, the youngest finds the opportunity to learn from this so they don’t find themselves in the same situation later on.

9. They don’t require as many rules as their siblings did

After trying to enforce so many rules on older siblings, parents tend to be a little more lenient on the last one. They are at the point in their parenting career where they know what works best and what doesn’t, requiring less trial and error.

10. They will always be the baby!

The youngest sibling will always be seen as the baby by parents, older siblings, and family. What’s not to like about that? They are the last child to rock to sleep, to wake up in the middle of the night to comfort, and the last to watch graduate high school and college. While parents will always hold those memories for all of their kids, there will always be a special place for their youngest.

Featured photo credit: happy little girl hugging kissing his brother via shutterstock.com

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How To Spot Fake People (And Ways To Deal With Them)

How To Spot Fake People (And Ways To Deal With Them)

They say we are the average of the five persons we spend the most time with. For a minute, consider the people around you. Are they truly who your “tribe” should be or who you aspire to become in the future? Are they really genuine people who want to see you succeed? Or are they fake people who don’t really want to see you happy?

In this article, I’ll review why it is important to surround yourself with genuine individuals—the ones who care, bring something to our table, and first and foremost, who leave all fakeness behind.

How to Spot Fake People?

When you’ve been working in the helping professions for a while, spotting fake people gets a bit easier. There are some very clear signs that the person you are looking at is hiding something, acting somehow, or simply wanting to get somewhere. Most often, there is a secondary gain—perhaps attention, sympathy, or even a promotion.

Whatever it is, you’re better off working their true agenda and staying the hell away. Here are some things you should look out for to help spot fake people.

1. Full of Themselves

Fake people like to show off. They love looking at themselves in the mirror. They collect photos and videos of every single achievement they had and every part of their body and claim to be the “best at what they do.”

Most of these people are actually not that good in real life. But they act like they are and ensure that they appear better than the next person. The issue for you is that you may find yourself always feeling “beneath” them and irritated at their constant need to be in the spotlight.

2. Murky in Expressing Their Emotions

Have you ever tried having a deep and meaningful conversation with a fake person? It’s almost impossible. It’s because they have limited emotional intelligence and don’t know how they truly feel deep down—and partly because they don’t want to have their true emotions exposed, no matter how normal these might be.

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It’s much harder to say “I’m the best at what I do” while simultaneously sharing “average” emotions with “equal” people.

3. Zero Self-Reflection

To grow, we must accept feedback from others. We must be open to our strengths and to our weaknesses. We must accept that we all come in different shapes and can always improve.

Self-reflection requires us to think, forgive, admit fault, and learn from our mistakes. But to do that, we have to be able to adopt a level of genuineness and depth that fake people don’t routinely have. A fake person generally never apologizes, but when they do, it is often followed with a “but” in the next breath.

4. Unrealistic Perceptions

Fake people most often have an unrealistic perception of the world—things that they want to portray to others (pseudo achievements, materialistic gains, or a made-up sense of happiness) or simply how they genuinely regard life outside themselves.

A lot of fake people hide pain, shame, and other underlying reasons in their behavior. This could explain why they can’t be authentic and/or have difficulties seeing their environment for the way it objectively is (both good and bad).

5. Love Attention

As I mentioned earlier, the biggest sign that something isn’t quite right with someone’s behavior can be established by how much they love attention. Are you being interrupted every time you speak by someone who wants to make sure that the spotlight gets reverted back to them? Is the focus always on them, no matter the topic? If yes, you’re probably dealing with a fake person.

6. People Pleaser

Appreciation feels nice but having everyone like you is even better. While it is completely unrealistic for most people to please everyone all the time, fake people seem to always say yes in pursuit of constant approval.

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Now, this is a problem for two reasons. Firstly, these people are simply saying yes to things for their own satisfaction. Secondly, they often end up changing their minds or retracting their offer for one reason or another (“I would have loved to, but my grandmother suddenly fell ill.”), leaving you in the lurch for the 100th time this year.

7. Sarcasm and Cynicism

Behind the chronic pasted smile, fake people are well known for brewing resentment, jealousy, or anger. This is because, behind the postcard life, they are often unhappy. Sarcasm and cynicism are well known to act as a defense mechanism, sometimes even a diversion—anything so they can remain feeling on top of the world, whether it is through boosting themselves or bringing people down.

8. Crappy friend

Fake people are bad friends. They don’t listen to you, your feelings, and whatever news you might have to share. In fact, you might find yourself migrating away from them when you have exciting or bad news to share, knowing that it will always end up one way—their way. In addition, you might find that they’re not available when you truly need them or worse, cancel plans at the last minute.

It’s not unusual to hear that a fake person talks constantly behind people’s backs. Let’s be honest, if they do it to others, they’re doing it to you too. If your “friend” makes you feel bad constantly, trust me, they’re not achieving their purpose, and they’re simply not a good person to have around.

The sooner you learn to spot these fake people, the sooner you can meet meaningful individuals again.

How to Cope With Fake People Moving Forward?

It is important to remind yourself that you deserve more than what you’re getting. You are worthy, valuable, precious, and just as important as the next person.

There are many ways to manage fake people. Here are some tips on how to deal with them.

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1. Boundaries

Keep your boundaries very clear. As explained in the book Unlock Your Resilience, boundaries are what keep you sane when the world tries to suffocate you. When fake people become emotional vampires, make sure to keep your distances, limit contact, and simply replace them with more valuable interactions.

2. Don’t Take Their Behavior Personally

Sadly, they most likely have behaved this way before they knew you and will continue much longer after you have moved on. It isn’t about you. It is about their inner need to meet a void that you are not responsible for. And in all honesty, unless you are a trained professional, you are unlikely to improve it anyway.

3. Be Upfront and Honest About How You Feel

If your “friend” has been hurtful or engaged in behaviors you struggle with, let them know—nicely, firmly, however you want, but let them know that they are affecting you. If it works, great. If it doesn’t, you’ll feel better and when you’re ready to move on, you’ll know you tried to reach out. Your conscience is clear.

4. Ask for Advice

If you’re unsure about what you’re seeing or feeling, ask for advice. Perhaps a relative, a good friend, or a colleague might have some input as to whether you are overreacting or seeing some genuine concerns.

Now, don’t confuse asking for advice with gossiping behind the fake person’s back because, in the end, you don’t want to stoop down to their level. However, a little reminder as to how to stay on your own wellness track can never hurt.

5. Dig Deeper

Now, this one, I offer with caution. If you are emotionally strong, up to it, guaranteed you won’t get sucked into it, and have the skills to manage, perhaps you could dig into the reasons a fake person is acting the way they do.

Have they suffered recent trauma? Have they been rejected all their lives? Is their self-esteem so low that they must resort to making themselves feel good in any way they can? Sometimes, having an understanding of a person’s behavior can help in processing it.

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6. Practice Self-Care!

Clearly, putting some distance between the fake person and yourself is probably the way to go. However, sometimes, it takes time to get there. In the meantime, make sure to practice self-care, be gentle with yourself, and compensate with lots of positives!

Self-care can be as simple as taking a hot shower after talking to them or declining an invitation when you’re not feeling up to the challenge.

Spotting fake people isn’t too hard. They generally glow with wanna-be vibes. However, most often, there are reasons as to why they are like this. Calling their behavior might be the first step. Providing them with support might be the second. But if these don’t work, it’s time to stay away and surround yourself with the positivity that you deserve.

Final Thoughts

Remember that life is a rollercoaster. It has good moments, tough moments, and moments you wouldn’t change for the world. So, look around and make sure that you take the time to choose the right people to share it all with.

We are the average of the five people we spend the most time with, so take a good look around and choose wisely!

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