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10 Things Friends of Vegetarians Should Understand

10 Things Friends of Vegetarians Should Understand

So, your friend is a vegetarian, and you’ve inevitably had those awkward moments that every non-veggie experiences when it comes to eating with them. At a restaurant, you feel guilty that you can freely choose from a variety of meat dishes while they scramble to figure out what salad they can order that doesn’t include meat.

Holiday parties can be tricky as you try to accommodate what they might eat, while everyone else enjoys the roast beef. The truth is, it’s not a socially convenient way of eating. Main stream doesn’t typically cater to the non-meat eating crowd, the exceptions being L.A. or New York, and so we have learned to adapt to the meat eater’s world.

The non-meat eaters that have been living as such for awhile eventually figure out how to handle the challenges. We learn to become resourceful when it comes to food and social circumstances that would leave us irritated and hungry.

Here are 10 things you should know about your vegetarian friend and what they are thinking when you make those vegetarian faux pas.

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1. We are not judging you when you eat meat.

And we don’t want to give you a lecture because you do. Everyone has their own personal food choices and just as we want to exercise that right, we wish you the same.

It’s fine to delve into that juicy burger, but if we couldn’t handle it, we would let you know and avoid that situation.

2. It’s okay to invite us to food-related social events.

We are well versed in what to expect and how to get around the pitfalls of our diets. We can eat ahead or show up with our favorite dish or kale salad.

3. Yes, I’m getting enough protein.

I am always asked about my lack of protein and the worries about what health benefits I’m missing out on. The only thing I need to take, because it’s only found in animal products, is the vitamin B12. But not to worry, I am always in good health and my doctor checkups are fine.

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4. We can handle the jokes and the scrutiny, most of the time…

Yes, Uncle Harry is hilarious as he asks once again if I’m eating freshly mowed grass. And sure, I don’t mind your cousin staring at my plate with disgust, I’m used to it and have learned to be light-hearted and loving about the whole subject.

Just, don’t push it.

5. We don’t want to talk about it over dinner.

So…just a tip, please don’t ask why we don’t eat meat while you’re all sucking the life out of your baby back ribs. There’s a time and place to discuss my food choices, and over what should be a nice meal is not one of them.

6. We don’t want the juice from the meat either.

Please don’t offer to pick off the chicken from my Caesar salad because it was delivered to the table with the meat that I so adamantly said to leave off. And no, I don’t want you to take off the pepperoni from your leftover pizza.

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My Dad used to say, “You can eat the red sauce I made, I removed the meatballs.”  The oily remnants, just like the flesh that sat there moments before, are not something we want to eat.

7. We are not secretly starving, or craving meat, for that matter.

We don’t feel deprived, nor are we suffering, for our choices. We did it for various reasons, whether they be health, love for animals, or the environment.

8.  You don’t have to introduce us as ‘The Vegetarian.”

That’s only a small part of who we are and honestly, you wouldn’t say, “This is Bill,The Carnivore”, would you?

9We are ingredient freaks.

Sorry, but it’s a little annoying when we send the waiter back into the kitchen to find out what’s in the salad dressing, and yes Mr. Barista, can you please go fetch that box of almond milk to see if it has animal products

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Please be patient with us, but we really need to know.

10. Not eating meat is actually easier than explaining to others why we don’t.

I know there’s a certain amount of curiosity about eliminating meat from your diet, but to explain why to a meat-eater sometimes feels like a judgement on them, and it’s somewhat unavoidable.

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

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By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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