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20 Signs Your Sister Is Your Real Keeper

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20 Signs Your Sister Is Your Real Keeper

Is your sister your real keeper? Having a sister who you are close with is like having a lifelong supporter who is also your best friend. From liking each other’s posts on social media to speaking in facial expressions, check out 20 signs that your sister is your true keeper.

1. You Mainly Fight About Clothes

Generally, your sister doesn’t annoy you and you always end up laughing until it hurts when you hang out. The only thing you really fight about is borrowing each other’s clothes — and when you do, it’s like World War 3.

2. You Are Incredibly Proud Of Each Other

You’re so proud of everything your sister has achieved, and sometimes you are blown away by just how smart, funny, and beautiful she is.

3. You Know Each Other’s Deepest, Darkest Secrets

She knows all of your shameful secrets and all about your gross habits. Luckily, she would never tell a soul. That’s mainly because you know all of her shameful secrets too.

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4. You Bond With Each Other Over Your Annoying Family

Only she understands how annoying it is when your dad talks about golf for hours, or how funny it is when your mom gets tipsy.

5. You Are Totally Honest With Each Other

She will tell you straight away if she doesn’t like your outfit/boyfriend/hairstyle, and you do the same for her. That’s because you both know that true friendship is built on honesty.

6. You Embrace The Differences In Your Personalities

One of you is tidy, one of you is messy. You both like to dress differently and you hate the taste of her favorite food. None of this actually matters though, because she understands you more than anyone else you know.

7. You Drunk Text Each Other On Nights Out

If her favorite song comes on while you’re at a club, you will always send her a drunken text. It works both ways — she always sends you pictures of her cocktails so you can pretend you’re there.

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8. If Someone Messes With Your Sister, They Have To Answer To You

You feel protective towards your sister like she is your child, and she feels the same way about you. This spells trouble for anyone who messes with either of you, because they will have to deal with the both of you.

9. You Don’t Need To Use Words To Communicate

You and your sister can have an entire conversation with facial movements. At this point, you’re basically telepathic.

10. She Always Knows When You’re Upset

You only have to say “Hi” for her to know when you’re upset or angry, and you love that she can almost read your mood. You never have to pretend with her. You are free to rant to her for as long as you want.

11. You Both “Like” Everything The Other Posts Online

If you post a picture on Instagram or a status update on Facebook, you can guarantee your sister will like it. She supports you, and one of the easiest ways to show that is to make you look popular online.

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12. You Have The Same Values

As you were raised together, you have pretty similar beliefs on the importance of family, animals, and how to treat other people. Even though you are totally different people, you follow the same moral code.

13. You Need Each Other’s Approval

You need your sister’s approval for everything, from outfits to future dates. What can you say — your sister knows you better than anyone else, so she is the perfect person to check with.

14. You’re Silly When You’re Together

You both bring out each other’s silly sides, and sometimes when you are together, you revert to a child-like state of humor — and it is always totally hilarious.

15. You Don’t Have To Make An Effort When You Hang Out Together

You don’t have to go places to have fun together — you have just as much fun sat inside on the sofa, watching funny kids movies while pigging out.

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16. She Brings Out Your Maternal Instinct

If your place is cold and moldy, it’s fine — you’re an adult and you can deal with it. But, if you found out your sister’s home was horrible, you would help her financially so she could get a nicer place. It may seem strange, but it is more important to you that your sister has a nice life, rather than yourself.

17. You Love To Reminisce Together

You regularly spend hours together reminiscing on your childhood together — after all, who could forget the trip your family took to Spain when you were 10?

18. You Like To Judge Other People Together

It may be mean, but your sister is the only person who will understand your struggles with your lazy coworker.

19. But, You Would Never Judge Each Other

After all, how could you? She may make mistakes, but you know she is a great person – you’ve known it for decades.

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20. Your Love Is Unconditional

There is nothing your sister could or would ever do that would make you stop loving her. You experienced life together, and no one could ever match that bond.

What did you think of this list? Share it with your sister to see what she thinks!

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Last Updated on November 18, 2021

10 Proven Ways to Judge a Person’s Character

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10 Proven Ways to Judge a Person’s Character

We all fall into the trap of judging a person’s character by their appearance. How wrong we are! All too often, the real character of the person only appears when some negative event hits them or you. Then you may see a toxic person emerging from the ruins and it is often a shock.

A truly frightening example is revealed in the book by O’Toole in Bowman called Dangerous Instincts: How Gut Instincts Betray Us. A perfectly respectable, charming, well dressed neighbor was found to have installed a torture chamber in his garage where he was systematically abusing kidnapped women. This is an extreme example, but it does show how we can be totally deceived by a person’s physical appearance, manners and behavior.

So, what can you do? You want to be able to assess personal qualities when you come into contact with colleagues, fresh acquaintances and new friends who might even become lifelong partners. You want to know if they are:

  • honest
  • reliable
  • competent
  • kind and compassionate
  • capable of taking the blame
  • able to persevere
  • modest and humble
  • pacific and can control anger.

The secret is to reserve judgment and take your time. Observe them in certain situations; look at how they react. Listen to them talking, joking, laughing, explaining, complaining, blaming, praising, ranting, and preaching. Only then will you be able to judge their character. This is not foolproof, but if you follow the 10 ways below, you have a pretty good chance of not ending up in an abusive relationship.

1. Is anger a frequent occurrence?

All too often, angry reactions which may seem to be excessive are a sign that there are underlying issues. Do not think that every person who just snaps and throws his/her weight around mentally and physically is just reacting normally. Everyone has an occasional angry outburst when driving or when things go pear-shaped.

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But if this is almost a daily occurrence, then you need to discover why and maybe avoid that person. Too often, anger will escalate to violent and aggressive behavior. You do not want to be near someone who thinks violence can solve personal or global problems.

2. Can you witness acts of kindness?

How often do you see this person being kind and considerate? Do they give money to beggars, donate to charity, do voluntary work or in some simple way show that they are willing to share the planet with about 7 billion other people?

I was shocked when a guest of mine never showed any kindness to the weak and disadvantaged people in our town. She was ostensibly a religious person, but I began to doubt the sincerity of her beliefs.

“The best index to a person’s character is how he treats people who can’t do him any good, and how he treats people who can’t fight back.”

Abigail Van Buren

3. How does this person take the blame?

Maybe you know that s/he is responsible for a screw-up in the office or even in not turning up on time for a date. Look at their reaction. If they start blaming other colleagues or the traffic, well, this is an indication that they are not willing to take responsibility for their mistakes.

4. Don’t use Facebook as an indicator.

You will be relieved to know that graphology (the study of that forgotten skill of handwriting) is no longer considered a reliable test of a person’s character. Neither is Facebook stalking, fortunately. A study showed that Facebook use of foul language, sexual innuendo and gossip were not reliable indicators of a candidate’s character or future performance in the workplace.

5. Read their emails.

Now a much better idea is to read the person’s emails. Studies show that the use of the following can indicate certain personality traits:

  • Too many exclamation points may reveal a sunny disposition
  • Frequent errors may indicate apathy
  • Use of smileys is the only way a person can smile at you
  • Use of the third person may reveal a certain formality
  • Too many question marks can show anger
  • Overuse of capital letters is regarded as shouting. They are a definite no-no in netiquette, yet a surprising number of  people still use them.

6. Watch out for the show offs.

Listen to people as they talk. How often do they mention their achievements, promotions, awards and successes? If this happens a lot, it is a sure indication that this person has an over-inflated view of his/her achievements. They are unlikely to be modest or show humility. What a pity!  Another person to avoid.

7. Look for evidence of perseverance.

A powerful indicator of grit and tenacity is when a person persists and never gives up when they really want to achieve a life goal. Look for evidence of them keeping going in spite of enormous difficulties.

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Great achievements by scientists and inventors all bear the hallmark of perseverance. We only have to think of Einstein, Edison (who failed thousands of times) and Nelson Mandela to get inspiration. The US Department of Education is in no doubt about how grit, tenacity and perseverance will be key success factors for youth in the 21st century.

8. Their empathy score is high.

Listen to how they talk about the less fortunate members of our society such as the poor, immigrants and the disabled. Do you notice that they talk in a compassionate way about these people? The fact that they even mention them is a strong indicator of empathy.

People with zero empathy will never talk about the disadvantaged. They will rarely ask you a question about a difficult time or relationship. They will usually steer the conversation back to themselves. These people have zero empathy and in extreme cases, they are psychopaths who never show any feelings towards their victims.

9. Learn how to be socially interactive.

We are social animals and this is what makes us so uniquely human. If a person is isolated or a loner, this may be a negative indicator of their character. You want to meet a person who knows about trust, honesty and loyalty. The only way to practice these great qualities is to actually interact socially. The great advantage is that you can share problems and celebrate success and joy together.

“One can acquire everything in solitude, except character.”

Stendhal

 10. Avoid toxic people.

These people are trying to control others and often are failing to come to terms with their own failures. Typical behavior and conversations may concern:

  • Envy or jealousy
  • Criticism of partners, colleagues and friends
  • Complaining about their own lack of success
  • Blaming others for their own bad luck or failure
  • Obsession with themselves and their problems

Listen to these people talk and you will quickly discover that you need to avoid them at all costs because their negativity will drag you down. In addition, as much as you would like to help them, you are not qualified to do so.

Now, having looked at some of the best ways to judge a person, what about yourself? How do others see you? Why not take Dr. Phil’s quiz and find out. Can you bear it?

Featured photo credit: Jacek Dylag via unsplash.com

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