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20 Signs Your Sister Is Your Real Keeper

20 Signs Your Sister Is Your Real Keeper

Is your sister your real keeper? Having a sister who you are close with is like having a lifelong supporter who is also your best friend. From liking each other’s posts on social media to speaking in facial expressions, check out 20 signs that your sister is your true keeper.

1. You Mainly Fight About Clothes

Generally, your sister doesn’t annoy you and you always end up laughing until it hurts when you hang out. The only thing you really fight about is borrowing each other’s clothes — and when you do, it’s like World War 3.

2. You Are Incredibly Proud Of Each Other

You’re so proud of everything your sister has achieved, and sometimes you are blown away by just how smart, funny, and beautiful she is.

3. You Know Each Other’s Deepest, Darkest Secrets

She knows all of your shameful secrets and all about your gross habits. Luckily, she would never tell a soul. That’s mainly because you know all of her shameful secrets too.

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4. You Bond With Each Other Over Your Annoying Family

Only she understands how annoying it is when your dad talks about golf for hours, or how funny it is when your mom gets tipsy.

5. You Are Totally Honest With Each Other

She will tell you straight away if she doesn’t like your outfit/boyfriend/hairstyle, and you do the same for her. That’s because you both know that true friendship is built on honesty.

6. You Embrace The Differences In Your Personalities

One of you is tidy, one of you is messy. You both like to dress differently and you hate the taste of her favorite food. None of this actually matters though, because she understands you more than anyone else you know.

7. You Drunk Text Each Other On Nights Out

If her favorite song comes on while you’re at a club, you will always send her a drunken text. It works both ways — she always sends you pictures of her cocktails so you can pretend you’re there.

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8. If Someone Messes With Your Sister, They Have To Answer To You

You feel protective towards your sister like she is your child, and she feels the same way about you. This spells trouble for anyone who messes with either of you, because they will have to deal with the both of you.

9. You Don’t Need To Use Words To Communicate

You and your sister can have an entire conversation with facial movements. At this point, you’re basically telepathic.

10. She Always Knows When You’re Upset

You only have to say “Hi” for her to know when you’re upset or angry, and you love that she can almost read your mood. You never have to pretend with her. You are free to rant to her for as long as you want.

11. You Both “Like” Everything The Other Posts Online

If you post a picture on Instagram or a status update on Facebook, you can guarantee your sister will like it. She supports you, and one of the easiest ways to show that is to make you look popular online.

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12. You Have The Same Values

As you were raised together, you have pretty similar beliefs on the importance of family, animals, and how to treat other people. Even though you are totally different people, you follow the same moral code.

13. You Need Each Other’s Approval

You need your sister’s approval for everything, from outfits to future dates. What can you say — your sister knows you better than anyone else, so she is the perfect person to check with.

14. You’re Silly When You’re Together

You both bring out each other’s silly sides, and sometimes when you are together, you revert to a child-like state of humor — and it is always totally hilarious.

15. You Don’t Have To Make An Effort When You Hang Out Together

You don’t have to go places to have fun together — you have just as much fun sat inside on the sofa, watching funny kids movies while pigging out.

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16. She Brings Out Your Maternal Instinct

If your place is cold and moldy, it’s fine — you’re an adult and you can deal with it. But, if you found out your sister’s home was horrible, you would help her financially so she could get a nicer place. It may seem strange, but it is more important to you that your sister has a nice life, rather than yourself.

17. You Love To Reminisce Together

You regularly spend hours together reminiscing on your childhood together — after all, who could forget the trip your family took to Spain when you were 10?

18. You Like To Judge Other People Together

It may be mean, but your sister is the only person who will understand your struggles with your lazy coworker.

19. But, You Would Never Judge Each Other

After all, how could you? She may make mistakes, but you know she is a great person – you’ve known it for decades.

20. Your Love Is Unconditional

There is nothing your sister could or would ever do that would make you stop loving her. You experienced life together, and no one could ever match that bond.

What did you think of this list? Share it with your sister to see what she thinks!

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Amy is a writer who blogs about relationships and lifestyle advice.

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Last Updated on February 11, 2021

Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

How often have you said something simple, only to have the person who you said this to misunderstand it or twist the meaning completely around? Nodding your head in affirmative? Then this means that you are being unclear in your communication.

Communication should be simple, right? It’s all about two people or more talking and explaining something to the other. The problem lies in the talking itself, somehow we end up being unclear, and our words, attitude or even the way of talking becomes a barrier in communication, most of the times unknowingly. We give you six common barriers to communication, and how to get past them; for you to actually say what you mean, and or the other person to understand it as well…

The 6 Walls You Need to Break Down to Make Communication Effective

Think about it this way, a simple phrase like “what do you mean” can be said in many different ways and each different way would end up “communicating” something else entirely. Scream it at the other person, and the perception would be anger. Whisper this is someone’s ear and others may take it as if you were plotting something. Say it in another language, and no one gets what you mean at all, if they don’t speak it… This is what we mean when we say that talking or saying something that’s clear in your head, many not mean that you have successfully communicated it across to your intended audience – thus what you say and how, where and why you said it – at times become barriers to communication.[1]

Perceptual Barrier

The moment you say something in a confrontational, sarcastic, angry or emotional tone, you have set up perceptual barriers to communication. The other person or people to whom you are trying to communicate your point get the message that you are disinterested in what you are saying and sort of turn a deaf ear. In effect, you are yelling your point across to person who might as well be deaf![2]

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The problem: When you have a tone that’s not particularly positive, a body language that denotes your own disinterest in the situation and let your own stereotypes and misgivings enter the conversation via the way you talk and gesture, the other person perceives what you saying an entirely different manner than say if you said the same while smiling and catching their gaze.

The solution: Start the conversation on a positive note, and don’t let what you think color your tone, gestures of body language. Maintain eye contact with your audience, and smile openly and wholeheartedly…

Attitudinal Barrier

Some people, if you would excuse the language, are simply badass and in general are unable to form relationships or even a common point of communication with others, due to their habit of thinking to highly or too lowly of them. They basically have an attitude problem – since they hold themselves in high esteem, they are unable to form genuine lines of communication with anyone. The same is true if they think too little of themselves as well.[3]

The problem: If anyone at work, or even in your family, tends to roam around with a superior air – anything they say is likely to be taken by you and the others with a pinch, or even a bag of salt. Simply because whenever they talk, the first thing to come out of it is their condescending attitude. And in case there’s someone with an inferiority complex, their incessant self-pity forms barriers to communication.

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The solution: Use simple words and an encouraging smile to communicate effectively – and stick to constructive criticism, and not criticism because you are a perfectionist. If you see someone doing a good job, let them know, and disregard the thought that you could have done it better. It’s their job so measure them by industry standards and not your own.

Language Barrier

This is perhaps the commonest and the most inadvertent of barriers to communication. Using big words, too much of technical jargon or even using just the wrong language at the incorrect or inopportune time can lead to a loss or misinterpretation of communication. It may have sounded right in your head and to your ears as well, but if sounded gobbledygook to the others, the purpose is lost.

The problem: Say you are trying to explain a process to the newbies and end up using every technical word and industry jargon that you knew – your communication has failed if the newbie understood zilch. You have to, without sounding patronizing, explain things to someone in the simplest language they understand instead of the most complex that you do.

The solution: Simplify things for the other person to understand you, and understand it well. Think about it this way: if you are trying to explain something scientific to a child, you tone it down to their thinking capacity, without “dumbing” anything down in the process.[4]

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Emotional Barrier

Sometimes, we hesitate in opening our mouths, for fear of putting our foot in it! Other times, our emotional state is so fragile that we keep it and our lips zipped tightly together lest we explode. This is the time that our emotions become barriers to communication.[5]

The problem: Say you had a fight at home and are on a slow boil, muttering, in your head, about the injustice of it all. At this time, you have to give someone a dressing down over their work performance. You are likely to transfer at least part of your angst to the conversation then, and talk about unfairness in general, leaving the other person stymied about what you actually meant!

The solution: Remove your emotions and feelings to a personal space, and talk to the other person as you normally would. Treat any phobias or fears that you have and nip them in the bud so that they don’t become a problem. And remember, no one is perfect.

Cultural Barrier

Sometimes, being in an ever-shrinking world means that inadvertently, rules can make cultures clash and cultural clashes can turn into barriers to communication. The idea is to make your point across without hurting anyone’s cultural or religious sentiments.

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The problem: There are so many ways culture clashes can happen during communication and with cultural clashes; it’s not always about ethnicity. A non-smoker may have problems with smokers taking breaks; an older boss may have issues with younger staff using the Internet too much.

The solution: Communicate only what is necessary to get the point across – and eave your personal sentiments or feelings out of it. Try to be accommodative of the other’s viewpoint, and in case you still need to work it out, do it one to one, to avoid making a spectacle of the other person’s beliefs.[6]

Gender Barrier

Finally, it’s about Men from Mars and Women from Venus. Sometimes, men don’t understand women and women don’t get men – and this gender gap throws barriers in communication. Women tend to take conflict to their graves, literally, while men can move on instantly. Women rely on intuition, men on logic – so inherently, gender becomes a big block in successful communication.[7]

The problem: A male boss may inadvertently rub his female subordinates the wrong way with anti-feminism innuendoes, or even have problems with women taking too many family leaves. Similarly, women sometimes let their emotions get the better of them, something a male audience can’t relate to.

The solution: Talk to people like people – don’t think or classify them into genders and then talk accordingly. Don’t make comments or innuendos that are gender biased – you don’t have to come across as an MCP or as a bra-burning feminist either. Keep gender out of it.

And remember, the key to successful communication is simply being open, making eye contact and smiling intermittently. The battle is usually half won when you say what you mean in simple, straightforward words and keep your emotions out of it.

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