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20 Signs Your Sister Is Your Real Keeper

20 Signs Your Sister Is Your Real Keeper

Is your sister your real keeper? Having a sister who you are close with is like having a lifelong supporter who is also your best friend. From liking each other’s posts on social media to speaking in facial expressions, check out 20 signs that your sister is your true keeper.

1. You Mainly Fight About Clothes

Generally, your sister doesn’t annoy you and you always end up laughing until it hurts when you hang out. The only thing you really fight about is borrowing each other’s clothes — and when you do, it’s like World War 3.

2. You Are Incredibly Proud Of Each Other

You’re so proud of everything your sister has achieved, and sometimes you are blown away by just how smart, funny, and beautiful she is.

3. You Know Each Other’s Deepest, Darkest Secrets

She knows all of your shameful secrets and all about your gross habits. Luckily, she would never tell a soul. That’s mainly because you know all of her shameful secrets too.

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4. You Bond With Each Other Over Your Annoying Family

Only she understands how annoying it is when your dad talks about golf for hours, or how funny it is when your mom gets tipsy.

5. You Are Totally Honest With Each Other

She will tell you straight away if she doesn’t like your outfit/boyfriend/hairstyle, and you do the same for her. That’s because you both know that true friendship is built on honesty.

6. You Embrace The Differences In Your Personalities

One of you is tidy, one of you is messy. You both like to dress differently and you hate the taste of her favorite food. None of this actually matters though, because she understands you more than anyone else you know.

7. You Drunk Text Each Other On Nights Out

If her favorite song comes on while you’re at a club, you will always send her a drunken text. It works both ways — she always sends you pictures of her cocktails so you can pretend you’re there.

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8. If Someone Messes With Your Sister, They Have To Answer To You

You feel protective towards your sister like she is your child, and she feels the same way about you. This spells trouble for anyone who messes with either of you, because they will have to deal with the both of you.

9. You Don’t Need To Use Words To Communicate

You and your sister can have an entire conversation with facial movements. At this point, you’re basically telepathic.

10. She Always Knows When You’re Upset

You only have to say “Hi” for her to know when you’re upset or angry, and you love that she can almost read your mood. You never have to pretend with her. You are free to rant to her for as long as you want.

11. You Both “Like” Everything The Other Posts Online

If you post a picture on Instagram or a status update on Facebook, you can guarantee your sister will like it. She supports you, and one of the easiest ways to show that is to make you look popular online.

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12. You Have The Same Values

As you were raised together, you have pretty similar beliefs on the importance of family, animals, and how to treat other people. Even though you are totally different people, you follow the same moral code.

13. You Need Each Other’s Approval

You need your sister’s approval for everything, from outfits to future dates. What can you say — your sister knows you better than anyone else, so she is the perfect person to check with.

14. You’re Silly When You’re Together

You both bring out each other’s silly sides, and sometimes when you are together, you revert to a child-like state of humor — and it is always totally hilarious.

15. You Don’t Have To Make An Effort When You Hang Out Together

You don’t have to go places to have fun together — you have just as much fun sat inside on the sofa, watching funny kids movies while pigging out.

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16. She Brings Out Your Maternal Instinct

If your place is cold and moldy, it’s fine — you’re an adult and you can deal with it. But, if you found out your sister’s home was horrible, you would help her financially so she could get a nicer place. It may seem strange, but it is more important to you that your sister has a nice life, rather than yourself.

17. You Love To Reminisce Together

You regularly spend hours together reminiscing on your childhood together — after all, who could forget the trip your family took to Spain when you were 10?

18. You Like To Judge Other People Together

It may be mean, but your sister is the only person who will understand your struggles with your lazy coworker.

19. But, You Would Never Judge Each Other

After all, how could you? She may make mistakes, but you know she is a great person – you’ve known it for decades.

20. Your Love Is Unconditional

There is nothing your sister could or would ever do that would make you stop loving her. You experienced life together, and no one could ever match that bond.

What did you think of this list? Share it with your sister to see what she thinks!

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Amy is a writer who blogs about relationships and lifestyle advice.

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Published on May 4, 2021

How To Spot Fake People (And Ways To Deal With Them)

How To Spot Fake People (And Ways To Deal With Them)

They say we are the average of the five persons we spend the most time with. For a minute, consider the people around you. Are they truly who your “tribe” should be or who you aspire to become in the future? Are they really genuine people who want to see you succeed? Or are they fake people who don’t really want to see you happy?

In this article, I’ll review why it is important to surround yourself with genuine individuals—the ones who care, bring something to our table, and first and foremost, who leave all fakeness behind.

How to Spot Fake People?

When you’ve been working in the helping professions for a while, spotting fake people gets a bit easier. There are some very clear signs that the person you are looking at is hiding something, acting somehow, or simply wanting to get somewhere. Most often, there is a secondary gain—perhaps attention, sympathy, or even a promotion.

Whatever it is, you’re better off working their true agenda and staying the hell away. Here are some things you should look out for to help spot fake people.

1. Full of Themselves

Fake people like to show off. They love looking at themselves in the mirror. They collect photos and videos of every single achievement they had and every part of their body and claim to be the “best at what they do.”

Most of these people are actually not that good in real life. But they act like they are and ensure that they appear better than the next person. The issue for you is that you may find yourself always feeling “beneath” them and irritated at their constant need to be in the spotlight.

2. Murky in Expressing Their Emotions

Have you ever tried having a deep and meaningful conversation with a fake person? It’s almost impossible. It’s because they have limited emotional intelligence and don’t know how they truly feel deep down—and partly because they don’t want to have their true emotions exposed, no matter how normal these might be.

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It’s much harder to say “I’m the best at what I do” while simultaneously sharing “average” emotions with “equal” people.

3. Zero Self-Reflection

To grow, we must accept feedback from others. We must be open to our strengths and to our weaknesses. We must accept that we all come in different shapes and can always improve.

Self-reflection requires us to think, forgive, admit fault, and learn from our mistakes. But to do that, we have to be able to adopt a level of genuineness and depth that fake people don’t routinely have. A fake person generally never apologizes, but when they do, it is often followed with a “but” in the next breath.

4. Unrealistic Perceptions

Fake people most often have an unrealistic perception of the world—things that they want to portray to others (pseudo achievements, materialistic gains, or a made-up sense of happiness) or simply how they genuinely regard life outside themselves.

A lot of fake people hide pain, shame, and other underlying reasons in their behavior. This could explain why they can’t be authentic and/or have difficulties seeing their environment for the way it objectively is (both good and bad).

5. Love Attention

As I mentioned earlier, the biggest sign that something isn’t quite right with someone’s behavior can be established by how much they love attention. Are you being interrupted every time you speak by someone who wants to make sure that the spotlight gets reverted back to them? Is the focus always on them, no matter the topic? If yes, you’re probably dealing with a fake person.

6. People Pleaser

Appreciation feels nice but having everyone like you is even better. While it is completely unrealistic for most people to please everyone all the time, fake people seem to always say yes in pursuit of constant approval.

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Now, this is a problem for two reasons. Firstly, these people are simply saying yes to things for their own satisfaction. Secondly, they often end up changing their minds or retracting their offer for one reason or another (“I would have loved to, but my grandmother suddenly fell ill.”), leaving you in the lurch for the 100th time this year.

7. Sarcasm and Cynicism

Behind the chronic pasted smile, fake people are well known for brewing resentment, jealousy, or anger. This is because, behind the postcard life, they are often unhappy. Sarcasm and cynicism are well known to act as a defense mechanism, sometimes even a diversion—anything so they can remain feeling on top of the world, whether it is through boosting themselves or bringing people down.

8. Crappy friend

Fake people are bad friends. They don’t listen to you, your feelings, and whatever news you might have to share. In fact, you might find yourself migrating away from them when you have exciting or bad news to share, knowing that it will always end up one way—their way. In addition, you might find that they’re not available when you truly need them or worse, cancel plans at the last minute.

It’s not unusual to hear that a fake person talks constantly behind people’s backs. Let’s be honest, if they do it to others, they’re doing it to you too. If your “friend” makes you feel bad constantly, trust me, they’re not achieving their purpose, and they’re simply not a good person to have around.

The sooner you learn to spot these fake people, the sooner you can meet meaningful individuals again.

How to Cope With Fake People Moving Forward?

It is important to remind yourself that you deserve more than what you’re getting. You are worthy, valuable, precious, and just as important as the next person.

There are many ways to manage fake people. Here are some tips on how to deal with them.

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1. Boundaries

Keep your boundaries very clear. As explained in the book Unlock Your Resilience, boundaries are what keep you sane when the world tries to suffocate you. When fake people become emotional vampires, make sure to keep your distances, limit contact, and simply replace them with more valuable interactions.

2. Don’t Take Their Behavior Personally

Sadly, they most likely have behaved this way before they knew you and will continue much longer after you have moved on. It isn’t about you. It is about their inner need to meet a void that you are not responsible for. And in all honesty, unless you are a trained professional, you are unlikely to improve it anyway.

3. Be Upfront and Honest About How You Feel

If your “friend” has been hurtful or engaged in behaviors you struggle with, let them know—nicely, firmly, however you want, but let them know that they are affecting you. If it works, great. If it doesn’t, you’ll feel better and when you’re ready to move on, you’ll know you tried to reach out. Your conscience is clear.

4. Ask for Advice

If you’re unsure about what you’re seeing or feeling, ask for advice. Perhaps a relative, a good friend, or a colleague might have some input as to whether you are overreacting or seeing some genuine concerns.

Now, don’t confuse asking for advice with gossiping behind the fake person’s back because, in the end, you don’t want to stoop down to their level. However, a little reminder as to how to stay on your own wellness track can never hurt.

5. Dig Deeper

Now, this one, I offer with caution. If you are emotionally strong, up to it, guaranteed you won’t get sucked into it, and have the skills to manage, perhaps you could dig into the reasons a fake person is acting the way they do.

Have they suffered recent trauma? Have they been rejected all their lives? Is their self-esteem so low that they must resort to making themselves feel good in any way they can? Sometimes, having an understanding of a person’s behavior can help in processing it.

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6. Practice Self-Care!

Clearly, putting some distance between the fake person and yourself is probably the way to go. However, sometimes, it takes time to get there. In the meantime, make sure to practice self-care, be gentle with yourself, and compensate with lots of positives!

Self-care can be as simple as taking a hot shower after talking to them or declining an invitation when you’re not feeling up to the challenge.

Spotting fake people isn’t too hard. They generally glow with wanna-be vibes. However, most often, there are reasons as to why they are like this. Calling their behavior might be the first step. Providing them with support might be the second. But if these don’t work, it’s time to stay away and surround yourself with the positivity that you deserve.

Final Thoughts

Remember that life is a rollercoaster. It has good moments, tough moments, and moments you wouldn’t change for the world. So, look around and make sure that you take the time to choose the right people to share it all with.

We are the average of the five people we spend the most time with, so take a good look around and choose wisely!

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