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Five Friends You Should Keep In Your Life

Five Friends You Should Keep In Your Life

Growing up, your parents always asked if you made any new friends at school and anywhere you went, they usually encouraged you to form new friendships. As expected, over the years many of these relationships have fizzled but for some of us, these relationships have stood through many years and even decades. In some cases, you no longer even consider these people as friends, but they have rather become members of your family. They are a constant presence in your life and are on your emergency contact list. While the word friend can be used lightly at times, as you become an adult, you quickly realize that it is not the amount of friends you have in your life that matters, but rather the quality of friends you keep around. There are five friends that you should definitely strive to have in your life:

1. The Fun One

This is your typical “life of the party” friend. It does not necessarily mean that this friend is always at the club but it simply means that this person is the one that will always be sure to lighten your mood when you are having a hard time and always ensure that you are able to relax and enjoy life. They have a positive outlook on life and will always be able to pick up your mood when you’re going through a tough time.

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2. The Wise One

This friend is the keeper of all of your secrets and all of your troubles, insecurities, and mistakes. They are non-judgmental and are able to provide you with sound advice and also give you reassurance when you are uncertain and are in the middle of making hard decisions.

3. The Cheerleader

This one is the friend that will help you dream and will never make you feel like you are living on another planet, no matter what your goals are in life! You are going through medical school? She will be the one to stop by and check on you in the library or stop by your home and bring you a warm meal. And even if your dream is to make it into professional sports, he will willingly spend countless hours with you on the court or in the gym to help you sharpen your skills and will continue to be your loudest cheerleader through the ups and downs.

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4. The Driven One

While that friend may intimidate those who are not used to them, to you, they are a life saver on many occasions! They are the one who will help you get better grades by voluntarily staying in the library to help you study for the final. When you seem to want to settle, they are the one who will continually push you to be and do better. They will not use their intelligence to belittle you, but rather to help you and always will reach out a hand to  pull you up right alongside them.

5. The Reliable One

This friend is there through it all: the good, the bad, and the ugly. Whether it has been a couple of days since you’ve last spoken or a few months since you’ve last seen each other: this friend will drop everything to be by your side in your time of need. They are your first call in an emergency and you know that no matter how impossible the task, they will be there and if they are unable to be there, they will find you the necessary help.

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Sometimes you may have one friend who luckily has a combination of those traits, and that is equivalent to winning the lottery especially since true friendships are becoming a thing of the past. However, if you are fortunate enough to even have one of these types of friends, hold on to them dearly and be sure to be as great of a friend to them as they have been to you. Friendships come and go, but when you have found the right ones, they simply make going through life much easier.

Featured photo credit: Lourika Reinders via flickr.com

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

An Inspirational Story…

For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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